Having a Bad Day?: Get 'yer Hugs here!!

[Edema Rue she/her]

6 hours ago, InfiniteInsanity said:

I have been an almost constant state of anxiety for over 24 hours now. I've tried everything that I know to do and nothing works. I get short breaks and then it's back and it's stronger. I've lost my words and can't see to find them so I'm just sort of lost and I don't know what to do. I'm exhausted because this means I don't get much sleep.

*hugs*

I’m sorry. I wish I knew a solution, but sometimes there’s nothing to be done. I can’t remember if you’re religious or not, but have you heard the song ‘My Kindness Shall Not Depart From Thee’? Sometimes good church music can help put you in a better frame of mind, just like Shortcake said. Hold On from the secret garden also helps me sometimes. <3 good luck!!

[Cinnamon]

11 hours ago, InfiniteInsanity said:

I have been an almost constant state of anxiety for over 24 hours now. I've tried everything that I know to do and nothing works. I get short breaks and then it's back and it's stronger. I've lost my words and can't see to find them so I'm just sort of lost and I don't know what to do. I'm exhausted because this means I don't get much sleep.

I’m sorry *hugs*

[Telrao she/her]

15 hours ago, InfiniteInsanity said:

I have been an almost constant state of anxiety for over 24 hours now. I've tried everything that I know to do and nothing works. I get short breaks and then it's back and it's stronger. I've lost my words and can't see to find them so I'm just sort of lost and I don't know what to do. I'm exhausted because this means I don't get much sleep.

*hugs* I'm sorry you have to go through this Insa. Hold on! You've got this, amiga. Just remember that God's there for you - you only have to reach out and pray. 

*more hugs* I hope you feel better today!

[Shadowed they/them]

may I request some hugs?

i had a panic attack today. i’ve never had one before. i’ve had spikes of anxiety and panic, but i thought that was normal. i thought everyone had it. 

i’ve been talking to some of my friends who have diagnosed anxiety disorders and turns out i’m experiencing most of the things that they are, and more. and i thought that was just how i was?? i thought i just had a slightly weird personality and that’s all??

our society is messed up that it let me think that for so long.

i fell down a youtube/internet rabbit hole about mental health conditions/mental disorders and i also discovered i have literally all the symptoms of ocd. so that’s fun.

so all of that has been unfolding for the past week or so, and the advice from my friend has been to talk to someone about it and get therapy or counselling of some sort,

but what if you’re an introverted, socially phobic mess that physically can’t articulate their emotions, ever? like i swear there’s something wrong with me, i can’t even start to put into words how i’m feeling, even with someone i absolutely trust. like, me and my mother sat down because she wanted to ‘discuss my mental health’ and the most i managed was ‘sometimes i get sad’. that’s it. (i also realised i’m experiencing most of the symptoms of depression but this post is too long already and y’all probably don’t want to read me going on about my problems when you have enough of your own and okay i’m gonna shut up now because this is stressful and i’ve been trying to write this for weeks now)

so, uhm, yeah. hugs would be appreciated.

 

p.s. please don’t feel like you have to reply to this. i know therapists need therapy too, and i know it can be stressful to feel like you have to help all the time so please please don’t feel obliged to do anything you don’t feel comfortable doing <3

[InfiniteInsanity she/her]

27 minutes ago, Shadowed said:

may I request some hugs?

i had a panic attack today. i’ve never had one before. i’ve had spikes of anxiety and panic, but i thought that was normal. i thought everyone had it. 

i’ve been talking to some of my friends who have diagnosed anxiety disorders and turns out i’m experiencing most of the things that they are, and more. and i thought that was just how i was?? i thought i just had a slightly weird personality and that’s all??

our society is messed up that it let me think that for so long.

i fell down a youtube/internet rabbit hole about mental health conditions/mental disorders and i also discovered i have literally all the symptoms of ocd. so that’s fun.

so all of that has been unfolding for the past week or so, and the advice from my friend has been to talk to someone about it and get therapy or counselling of some sort,

but what if you’re an introverted, socially phobic mess that physically can’t articulate their emotions, ever? like i swear there’s something wrong with me, i can’t even start to put into words how i’m feeling, even with someone i absolutely trust. like, me and my mother sat down because she wanted to ‘discuss my mental health’ and the most i managed was ‘sometimes i get sad’. that’s it. (i also realised i’m experiencing most of the symptoms of depression but this post is too long already and y’all probably don’t want to read me going on about my problems when you have enough of your own and okay i’m gonna shut up now because this is stressful and i’ve been trying to write this for weeks now)

so, uhm, yeah. hugs would be appreciated.

 

p.s. please don’t feel like you have to reply to this. i know therapists need therapy too, and i know it can be stressful to feel like you have to help all the time so please please don’t feel obliged to do anything you don’t feel comfortable doing <3

*hugs* 

Most of the time for me at least the easiest way for me to communicate with people is not by talking. It might be a good idea to write it out or type it and send it or show it to people that way. 

*more hugs*

[Immortal Platypus]

1 hour ago, Shadowed said:

may I request some hugs?

i had a panic attack today. i’ve never had one before. i’ve had spikes of anxiety and panic, but i thought that was normal. i thought everyone had it. 

i’ve been talking to some of my friends who have diagnosed anxiety disorders and turns out i’m experiencing most of the things that they are, and more. and i thought that was just how i was?? i thought i just had a slightly weird personality and that’s all??

our society is messed up that it let me think that for so long.

i fell down a youtube/internet rabbit hole about mental health conditions/mental disorders and i also discovered i have literally all the symptoms of ocd. so that’s fun.

so all of that has been unfolding for the past week or so, and the advice from my friend has been to talk to someone about it and get therapy or counselling of some sort,

but what if you’re an introverted, socially phobic mess that physically can’t articulate their emotions, ever? like i swear there’s something wrong with me, i can’t even start to put into words how i’m feeling, even with someone i absolutely trust. like, me and my mother sat down because she wanted to ‘discuss my mental health’ and the most i managed was ‘sometimes i get sad’. that’s it. (i also realised i’m experiencing most of the symptoms of depression but this post is too long already and y’all probably don’t want to read me going on about my problems when you have enough of your own and okay i’m gonna shut up now because this is stressful and i’ve been trying to write this for weeks now)

so, uhm, yeah. hugs would be appreciated.

 

p.s. please don’t feel like you have to reply to this. i know therapists need therapy too, and i know it can be stressful to feel like you have to help all the time so please please don’t feel obliged to do anything you don’t feel comfortable doing <3

*hugs*

I'm not very good at advice, but if you find something that works, keep doing it. I hope you find something and feel  better!

*hugs again*

[Wittles he/him]

1 hour ago, Shadowed said:

may I request some hugs?

i had a panic attack today. i’ve never had one before. i’ve had spikes of anxiety and panic, but i thought that was normal. i thought everyone had it. 

i’ve been talking to some of my friends who have diagnosed anxiety disorders and turns out i’m experiencing most of the things that they are, and more. and i thought that was just how i was?? i thought i just had a slightly weird personality and that’s all??

our society is messed up that it let me think that for so long.

i fell down a youtube/internet rabbit hole about mental health conditions/mental disorders and i also discovered i have literally all the symptoms of ocd. so that’s fun.

so all of that has been unfolding for the past week or so, and the advice from my friend has been to talk to someone about it and get therapy or counselling of some sort,

but what if you’re an introverted, socially phobic mess that physically can’t articulate their emotions, ever? like i swear there’s something wrong with me, i can’t even start to put into words how i’m feeling, even with someone i absolutely trust. like, me and my mother sat down because she wanted to ‘discuss my mental health’ and the most i managed was ‘sometimes i get sad’. that’s it. (i also realised i’m experiencing most of the symptoms of depression but this post is too long already and y’all probably don’t want to read me going on about my problems when you have enough of your own and okay i’m gonna shut up now because this is stressful and i’ve been trying to write this for weeks now)

so, uhm, yeah. hugs would be appreciated.

 

p.s. please don’t feel like you have to reply to this. i know therapists need therapy too, and i know it can be stressful to feel like you have to help all the time so please please don’t feel obliged to do anything you don’t feel comfortable doing <3

*hugs*

I've been having a similar thing happen recently. Almost exactly the same thing. It's really hard. I'm so sorry that you have to experience it too.

Don't feel bad asking for help, you are absolutely worth way more than the extra bit of effort it takes to type this out.

[Shadowed they/them]

1 hour ago, InfiniteInsanity said:

*hugs* 

Most of the time for me at least the easiest way for me to communicate with people is not by talking. It might be a good idea to write it out or type it and send it or show it to people that way. 

*more hugs*

yeah, i find writing much easier than talking. like i would never have been able to say that post out loud. i guess we all have our ways of coping, and they’re all equally valid.

30 minutes ago, Being of Cacophony said:

*hugs*

I'm not very good at advice, but if you find something that works, keep doing it. I hope you find something and feel  better!

*hugs again*

thank you :] i have music, which is basically the only thing holding me together, and yeah, it is helping. sort of.

28 minutes ago, Wittles of Shinovar said:

*hugs*

I've been having a similar thing happen recently. Almost exactly the same thing. It's really hard. I'm so sorry that you have to experience it too.

Don't feel bad asking for help, you are absolutely worth way more than the extra bit of effort it takes to type this out.

hey, i’m really sorry you have to go through that :/ and thank you for the advice, the ‘feeling bad about asking for help’ thing basically nailed the thing i’ve been lying to myself about and trying to avoid.

thank you all again for the hugs :))

[+Slowswift]

Seeing all the wholesomeness in this thread is a kind of therapeutic on its own. To everyone who has come here with problems and to everyone who's offered what help they can give, you. are. the. best. and I love you.

Carry on.

[solarcat she/her]

On 4/21/2023 at 0:21 AM, Slowswift said:

Seeing all the wholesomeness in this thread is a kind of therapeutic on its own. To everyone who has come here with problems and to everyone who's offered what help they can give, you. are. the. best. and I love you.

Carry on.

ty ❤

[Queen Elsa Steelheart she/her]

I just feel like I'll never amount to anything. I have too many medical issues thanks to post covid issues and I'm autistic and ADHD and burnt out. 

[Robin Sedai she/her]

8 hours ago, Queen Elsa Steelheart said:

I just feel like I'll never amount to anything. I have too many medical issues thanks to post covid issues and I'm autistic and ADHD and burnt out. 

*hugs* amounting to anything is overrated. I get what you mean though - hope things get better for you.

*more hugs*

[Queen Elsa Steelheart she/her]

44 minutes ago, Robin Sedai said:

*hugs* amounting to anything is overrated. I get what you mean though - hope things get better for you.

*more hugs*

Thank you

[Edema Rue she/her]

*extra big hugs*

I think it depends on how you define "amount to anything", y'know? If you think of it as changing the world, then it'll be a lot harder for you to feel like you're doing anything. But I think that if you can make just one person smile, even if that person is you, then you're doing great. I'm sorry though, it's a terrible feeling.

[Hollow Graves]

On 4/25/2023 at 0:53 AM, Queen Elsa Steelheart said:

I just feel like I'll never amount to anything. I have too many medical issues thanks to post covid issues and I'm autistic and ADHD and burnt out. 

*hugs*

I may not be the best to say this. Since I am crashing and burning. But just keep going. In the end, you will be able to look back and see all of the amazing things you were able to do. And if you ever need someone to talk to I am always here. And my DMs are always open. *though I am usually one only every other day.*

[kajsa ㅇㅅㅇ she/her]

Spoiler

I have a friend, a best friend, who is considering suicide. They're very very sad and unhappy with life and they want to leave. Every time they talk about it my hands shake. I can't imagine life without them, and I just need them to be okay. I don't know really what I'm asking for, just... help and support. I guess I need prayers. I'm not very religious anymore, and I don't really know if praying even works, but this is really really important, so I think it's worth a shot, especially if there's a lot of people doing it, right? Anyways, please please help if you can. If you can't that's okay, but... you know. Love you guys.

 

 

[The Wandering Wizard he/him]

1 minute ago, Kajsa said:

Spoiler

I have a friend, a best friend, who is considering suicide. They're very very sad and unhappy with life and they want to leave. Every time they talk about it my hands shake. I can't imagine life without them, and I just need them to be okay. I don't know really what I'm asking for, just... help and support. I guess I need prayers. I'm not very religious anymore, and I don't really know if praying even works, but this is really really important, so I think it's worth a shot, especially if there's a lot of people doing it, right? Anyways, please please help if you can. If you can't that's okay, but... you know. Love you guys.

 

Always. I'm always praying for them. I couldn't imagine life without them either.

[That1Cellist he/him]

1 hour ago, Kajsa said:

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I have a friend, a best friend, who is considering suicide. They're very very sad and unhappy with life and they want to leave. Every time they talk about it my hands shake. I can't imagine life without them, and I just need them to be okay. I don't know really what I'm asking for, just... help and support. I guess I need prayers. I'm not very religious anymore, and I don't really know if praying even works, but this is really really important, so I think it's worth a shot, especially if there's a lot of people doing it, right? Anyways, please please help if you can. If you can't that's okay, but... you know. Love you guys.

 

 

I will do that. I’m so sorry. These things are utterly terrifying. Let us know if there’s something else we can do also.

[Shining Silhouette he/him]

sometimes i hate living

i don't like being controlled

and i don't like irrational people

why is this the way things are

Edited May 2, 2023 by Shining Silhouette

[The Wandering Wizard he/him]

Just now, Shining Silhouette said:

sometimes i hate living

i don't like being controlled

and i don't like irrational people

why is this the way things are

Because the people in charge don't see. They don't care.

I'm sorry that it's like this right now.

But it will get better, it doesn't seem so now, but it will.

*Hugs*

[kajsa ㅇㅅㅇ she/her]

10 minutes ago, Shining Silhouette said:

sometimes i hate living

i don't like being controlled

and i don't like irrational people

why is this the way things are

I don't really know what to say, so I'll give you some hugs instead because I care about you a lot. Sometimes living does suck and being controlled is the worst.

*hugshugshugs*

We love you.

[That1Cellist he/him]

10 hours ago, Shining Silhouette said:

sometimes i hate living

i don't like being controlled

and i don't like irrational people

why is this the way things are

I'm sorry Silho. I agree with you. I don't know what to do about it either. *hugs*

Also, can we get some hugs for @The Halcyon Girl? She's been having a difficult time, and I think she would appreciate the nice words of you people.

[The Wandering Wizard he/him]

6 minutes ago, That1Cellist said:

Also, can we get some hugs for @The Halcyon Girl? She's been having a difficult time, and I think she would appreciate the nice words of you people.

What a wonderful idea. Yes, she would appreciate it a lot.

[InfiniteInsanity she/her]

I can't just stop. Nothing I do will ever be able to stop. I can't stop being sad, or anxious, or nice, or worried, or scared. I can't just stop doing those things or being the way I am suddenly. I won't be able to say things without hurting someone. I can't always be in control or know everything. My body will never be perfect. I can't stop the numbness it just comes back. And letting people help hurts them but not letting them help hurts them too. I'm terrified of telling people things because they'll stress over it. Its better just to not say anything than to hurt people. Inevitably I'm going to hurt everyone I interact with. I can't help it. Because... I don't know. It's just what happens. And whenever I think I'm doing better and actually doing something right for once its not good enough. It's not the right thing apparently and then I get told over and over how disappointed and mad I made people.

I'm supposed to be the nice, happy person who knows what she's doing.

But I'm not. I'm not all that nice, I'm not happy, I have no idea what I'm doing. 

And I can't just give up or stop trying because then people will be disappointed and mad.

I'm trying I really really am. But it's never enough so what does it matter.

[The Wandering Wizard he/him]

Then please just keep trying. It's hard to see the good that you have done. But you have done much good even though it doesn't feel like it. You do do a good job. Thank you for what you have given, sister. <3