The Official Thread of Relationships

[TwiLyghtSansSparkles she/her]

12 minutes ago, StrikerEZ said:

Yeah, I was thinking along those lines. It's just...I can't imagine my life without him being a major role in it. Well, no, I can. I just don't like the idea of it. At the same time, we're still young. 

You are still young. And while losing this relationship will definitely hurt, there will be others—relationships that are just as good, if not better, than this one. And who knows? Maybe, once you're on your own or have a greater measure of independence under your parents' roof, you and he will be able to reconnect. 

That being said….I know this is going to suck, so…hugs in advance?  

[Shqueeves]

@StrikerEZ have yourself a pre-hug *puts hug in time capsule to be opened at a later date*

[StrikerEZ he/him]

@TwiLyghtSansSparkles and @Shqueeves, thanks for the hugs guys. I know I need to, but I'm not sure if I'll be able to end it any time soon...I've become too...attached isn't the word, but it's close. 

[marsoupial they/them]

9 hours ago, Mistrunner said:

I really want a partner. Someone who will go for long walks with me and always be there and love me unconditionally.

A dog, is what I mean. I really want a dog.

I feel ya.

[Delightful]

On 31 January 2017 at 4:52 AM, TwiLyghtSansSparkles said:

Because the monster called Puberty is going full-on Joker on their brains—blow up a hospital here, threaten a newspaper reporter there, burn a pile of cash just for funsies. It takes them a while to adjust, but when they do, they'll be the hero you need.   

This is hilarious and scary accurate  

[Kaymyth she/her]

14 hours ago, Silverblade5 said:

Dogs will love you unconditionally and can actually be helpful.  Cats only love your resources 

It really does depend on the cat.  I've met cats who disdain humans.  I've had a cat who could sense when I was experiencing menstrual cramps and would turn herself into a purring kittycat heating pad to make me feel better.  (She was not a lap cat any other time.)

I have even met a cat who hated all humans with a fiery burning passion, save her one chosen human, who would hiss at and attempt to bite anyone who got too near who wasn't the Chosen One.  ...until the day I wandered in with a bamboo flute and started playing and she decided that my offering was worthy enough for her to rub up against my ankles and purr.  (You should have seen the Chosen One's wife. She had to pick her jaw up off the floor.)

The point is, cats are very much individual personalities and it's disingenuous to try to throw them all in a box together.

[Oversleep]

3 hours ago, Kaymyth said:

The point is, cats are very much individual personalities and it's disingenuous to try to throw them all in a box together.

They probably would claw out of it anyway. Also, throwing cats is not something you should do.

[Mistrunner]

22 hours ago, Shqueeves said:

*cat

I quite like cats as well, don't get me wrong. It's just more likely that I will be able to get a dog, as my mother is allergic to cats (and just doesn't like them) whereas she is a bit more indifferent towards dogs.

...Also, how do I convince my mother to allow me to have a dog?

22 hours ago, TwiLyghtSansSparkles said:

I wholeheartedly approve of this. Get one with a smushy face, if you can.

I shall do my best. 

[marsoupial they/them]

7 hours ago, Kaymyth said:

It really does depend on the cat.  I've met cats who disdain humans.  I've had a cat who could sense when I was experiencing menstrual cramps and would turn herself into a purring kittycat heating pad to make me feel better.  (She was not a lap cat any other time.)

I have even met a cat who hated all humans with a fiery burning passion, save her one chosen human, who would hiss at and attempt to bite anyone who got too near who wasn't the Chosen One.  ...until the day I wandered in with a bamboo flute and started playing and she decided that my offering was worthy enough for her to rub up against my ankles and purr.  (You should have seen the Chosen One's wife. She had to pick her jaw up off the floor.)

The point is, cats are very much individual personalities and it's disingenuous to try to throw them all in a box together.

Speaking of, we're getting a kitten.

[+Slowswift]

4 minutes ago, bleeder said:

Speaking of, we're getting a kitten.

Kitten!

What kind, gender?

Edited February 2, 2017 by Slowswift

[marsoupial they/them]

5 minutes ago, Slowswift said:

Kitten!

What kind, gender?

Not sure, but we're on the market for one.

[+Slowswift]

Just now, bleeder said:

Not sure, but we're on the market for one.

We expect pics if/when you get one, you know.  

[Mestiv he/him]

1 hour ago, bleeder said:

Not sure, but we're on the market for one.

On the market? Don't you want to adopt one for free from the shelter? You'd save a cat from potential years of misery. Also, please consider getting a companion for the cat if it's going to be left alone in the house for most of the days. It would be good for his mental wellbeing. Cats can get lonely too, and having 2 cats isn't that much more expensive than having one. 

[Shqueeves]

7 minutes ago, Mestiv said:

On the market? Don't you want to adopt one for free from the shelter? You'd save a cat from potential years of misery. Also, please consider getting a companion for the cat if it's going to be left alone in the house for most of the days. It would be good for his mental wellbeing. Cats can get lonely too, and having 2 cats isn't that much more expensive than having one. 

"On the market" just means that they're looking for one

[Erunion he/him]

Dogs are the best. No hesitation. 

Cats are good and all, but Dogs? Dogs are wunderbark. It's like Wunderbar, but bark. So it's better. 

(Also - as cute as smooshy faces can be, they're super unhealthy for the poor animal so I don't recommend smushy faced dogs). 

[marsoupial they/them]

9 hours ago, Slowswift said:

We expect pics if/when you get one, you know.  

I'm well aware of this. 

@Mestiv I use "on the market" in a figurative sense, as in, we're looking for a kitten. 

[TwiLyghtSansSparkles she/her]

6 hours ago, Erunion said:

Dogs are the best. No hesitation. 

Cats are good and all, but Dogs? Dogs are wunderbark. It's like Wunderbar, but bark. So it's better. 

(Also - as cute as smooshy faces can be, they're super unhealthy for the poor animal so I don't recommend smushy faced dogs). 

The ones that are out there still need good homes, though...

[Erunion he/him]

4 hours ago, TwiLyghtSansSparkles said:

The ones that are out there still need good homes, though...

Totally agree with that

[Left he/him]

So I'm in kind of an interesting situation right now. Since going through a break up late last summer I've been trying to expand my friend base and my number of acquaintances. It's been going okay, a bit slower than I'd like because of people dropping classes and changing jobs, but still okay.

The thing is, most of my friends do not get along well with each other. Some almost hate each other, others just get on each others nerves, etc. I haven't ever really been in a situation like this before. I've stayed well away from trying to force them to get along with each other because that feels like a really good way for them to get frustrated with me and nothing else. I'm not really sure what I can do though, and it makes it hard for me if I want to get a group together to do something.

Thoughts? 

[Silverblade5 he/him]

Ok, so there's more going on than I thought. She doesn't necessarily want to end our relationship. She just wants to change the way it's thought of. She believes that when it inevitably ends do to college, it'll be easier to deal with if I'm just thought of as a close friend instead of as a Boyfriend. My forgetfulness merely provided an excuse for this frame shift. The relationship itself hasn't really changed. Just the way it's identified. 

[Shqueeves]

1 hour ago, Silverblade5 said:

Ok, so there's more going on than I thought. She doesn't necessarily want to end our relationship. She just wants to change the way it's thought of. She believes that when it inevitably ends do to college, it'll be easier to deal with if I'm just thought of as a close friend instead of as a Boyfriend. My forgetfulness merely provided an excuse for this frame shift. The relationship itself hasn't really changed. Just the way it's identified. 

The relationship has changed how it views itself? 

 

6 hours ago, LeftVash said:

So I'm in kind of an interesting situation right now. Since going through a break up late last summer I've been trying to expand my friend base and my number of acquaintances. It's been going okay, a bit slower than I'd like because of people dropping classes and changing jobs, but still okay.

The thing is, most of my friends do not get along well with each other. Some almost hate each other, others just get on each others nerves, etc. I haven't ever really been in a situation like this before. I've stayed well away from trying to force them to get along with each other because that feels like a really good way for them to get frustrated with me and nothing else. I'm not really sure what I can do though, and it makes it hard for me if I want to get a group together to do something.

Thoughts? 

That's awful. While I don't have any specific advice, have you tried to befriend some of your friends' friends?

[Silverblade5 he/him]

21 minutes ago, Shqueeves said:

The relationship has changed how it views itself? 

 

That's awful. While I don't have any specific advice, have you tried to befriend some of your friends' friends?

Pretty much. Still very active though. She was holding my hand in the hallway and asked for a hug after lunch before leaving for a class  

[Nashan’Elin he/him]

22 minutes ago, Silverblade5 said:

Pretty much. Still very active though. She was holding my hand in the hallway and asked for a hug after lunch before leaving for a class  

So wait- are you friends or are you dating? 

[Silverblade5 he/him]

17 minutes ago, Nashan'Elin said:

So wait- are you friends or are you dating? 

Effectively, we're dating. We're just not calling it that or going on formal dates. We still behave the same way around each other.

[Kestrel she/her]

Ah yes. Something I will never have. I love relationships.