Having a Bad Day?: Get 'yer Hugs here!!

[Immortal Platypus]

On 12/22/2022 at 8:49 PM, The Halcyon Girl said:

I’m scared for a friend. I live far away, so I can only text, and I know she’s struggling and suicidal, and I’m trying to help, but I don’t think it’s working and I’m so scared for her. I don’t know if anything I can say will help her. I’m afraid it’s only a matter of time, and I feel so helpless.

Do you want me to pray for them and put them on the temple prayer roll next time I go?

On 1/9/2023 at 8:02 AM, CalanoCorvus said:

okay i know it's been a while since this was posted, but i know exactly how you feel.

this happened to me last july.

i had a very very dear friend who was struggling and suicidal, and I did my best and nothing worked. she attempted, then I didn't hear from her for over a month. then she got back in contact again. i was overjoyed.

then she vanished again in mid september.

i haven't heard from her since. I'm scared, like you. Helpless, like you. Please, PM me if you feel the need.

 

and on that note;

it's happening again. one of my closest friends, my absolute best friend, was hit by a massive panic attack on saturday right before i was about to leave to go home after hanging out with them.

my dad texted me at 9:18 PM to come home, and they started having the attack at 9:20.

i didn't leave to go home until 10:20 PM. my parents were very understanding. I fasted and prayed the next day (fast sunday bc new year) for them, and they seem to be doing better.

could y'all also please pray for them? at one point, they said they wished they weren't here, that they were a burden, that no one cared.

my heart has never ached so heavily.

please keep them in your prayers. i'm not losing them like I almost lost River.

Not again.

same offer as I gave Haly. I'll put them on the prayer roll.

 

 

I hope that both of your friends feel loved and wanted. I will pray and fast for both of them. I hope you guys feel better too. *hugs*

[Edema Rue she/her]

6 hours ago, Tani said:

I don't know how problematic this is but

in the past couple days I've been having trouble wanting to eat

I still eat, I just don't want to

and I don't know what/if I should do something about this

As long as you’re still eating, it’s probably ok…I’m not an expert. If things get worse, talk to someone.

Everyone else: Life stinks sometimes for everyone. The important thing is not to get too fixated on it; if you focus too much on the bad things, if you let yourself get angry or depressed…if the emotions take hold, even the best things can’t make life seem worth living. It isn’t easy to make them go away, especially when they seem justified, and especially when it’s so easy to blame everyone else. 
In the end, we just have to remember what matters most. You can’t see a painting from an inch away, and you can’t find the soul of a book by reading a chapter. This life hurts, and all we can do is trust that someday it’ll be ok.

On 1/9/2023 at 8:02 AM, CalanoCorvus said:

okay i know it's been a while since this was posted, but i know exactly how you feel.

this happened to me last july.

i had a very very dear friend who was struggling and suicidal, and I did my best and nothing worked. she attempted, then I didn't hear from her for over a month. then she got back in contact again. i was overjoyed.

then she vanished again in mid september.

i haven't heard from her since. I'm scared, like you. Helpless, like you. Please, PM me if you feel the need.

 

and on that note;

it's happening again. one of my closest friends, my absolute best friend, was hit by a massive panic attack on saturday right before i was about to leave to go home after hanging out with them.

my dad texted me at 9:18 PM to come home, and they started having the attack at 9:20.

i didn't leave to go home until 10:20 PM. my parents were very understanding. I fasted and prayed the next day (fast sunday bc new year) for them, and they seem to be doing better.

could y'all also please pray for them? at one point, they said they wished they weren't here, that they were a burden, that no one cared.

my heart has never ached so heavily.

please keep them in your prayers. i'm not losing them like I almost lost River.

Not again.

Feeling helpless? Why else do we read? Don’t we all dream about being someone who could change things, someone who matters? It’s awful. It seems that no matter how hard we work, no matter how much we want to help, nothing happens. I’m so sorry that you and they have to go through this. I’ll pray for them, and sometimes that’s all we can do. 
 

 

On 1/9/2023 at 4:57 AM, Elf said:

so today nothing is going as it was supposed to 

sorry idk if this even makes sense, i just needed to rant

I’m sorry, those days are awful. Barfing on paper is one of the best ways to deal with it. Again, I have no perfect solution to fix everything; no one does. But in my experience, letting it out, crying, and then taking a break from everything is one of the ways to survive it. You’re awesome, and you can do it, even if it takes a long time, even if it isn’t perfect, and even if you have to sacrifice things. There are people who can and will help you when you need it.

[InfiniteInsanity she/her]

7 hours ago, Tani said:

I don't know how problematic this is but

in the past couple days I've been having trouble wanting to eat

I still eat, I just don't want to

and I don't know what/if I should do something about this

Is it like just having no appetite or more like this look good smells good I want to eat it but I don't? 

That's probably confusing but if you can figure out what I mean then answering would help me give you advice but if you can't just ignore this.

[Bird Furious she/her/un/important]

7 hours ago, Being of Cacophony said:

Do you want me to pray for them and put them on the temple prayer roll next time I go?

same offer as I gave Haly. I'll put them on the prayer roll.

 

 

I hope that both of your friends feel loved and wanted. I will pray and fast for both of them. I hope you guys feel better too. *hugs*

Please do, yes. Thank you so much.

[Immortal Platypus]

14 hours ago, The Halcyon Girl said:

Please do, yes. Thank you so much.

of course! I'll try to go to the temple ASAP. Is there a specific name I should put on it or just something about praying for your friend?

[Quivil]

18 hours ago, InfiniteInsanity said:

Is it like just having no appetite or more like this look good smells good I want to eat it but I don't? 

That's probably confusing but if you can figure out what I mean then answering would help me give you advice but if you can't just ignore this.

It's more like this looks good smells good I should want to eat it but I don't.

[Shadowed they/them]

So. Um. how do I start???

There’s this boy. For the purposes of this, I’m calling him Jamie.

I’ve known him for about two years, and about a year ago we became really really close and I was really happy because I’d never had a proper best friend before. He was struggling because he has a very traumatic past, and I was helping him. And it was all great, up until recently, when Jamie started texting his bf (who I’m also friends with) with suicide notes and saying things like ‘I know you don’t love me and you’re breaking my heart but I don’t care because I love you too much to force our relationship on you’ even though his bf literally never showed any signs of wanting to break up. and then they did break up, and Jamie got really sad and no one knew what to do because we were all terrified that he was going to hurt himself. 

Fast forward to like a week ago, and Jamie and his ex got into loads and loads of trouble for drinking beer in the school bathrooms. (They’re most definitely underage.) But the thing is, after that, ex finally felt comfortable to tell us how horrible and controlling and abusive Jamie had been in their relationship, and when Jamie asked him whether he wanted to drink with him, he was too scared to say no (I’m pretty sure there was also a lot of pressuring into it since ex is sensible and wouldn’t do a thing like that under normal circumstances).

Meanwhile, all Jamie’s friends deserted him for the things he did when he was dating his ex, but I didn’t because I’m too nice for my own good sometimes and plus I’m scared of him. So now I’m one of the only ones left and I really don’t want to be friends with him for the things he’s done but I’m so worried that if I leave him he’ll do something to himself and I really don’t want that to be on me…

Oh my gosh, that’s looong and way more rant-y than I intended. But if anyone cares, there you are. 

[Immortal Platypus]

*hugs*

the most important thing (I think) is to know that it wouldn't be on you. It isn't your fault. I don't really know how to handle that, the only thing I suggest is telling someone so you don't have to be scared of him and so he can get the help he needs.

[Bird Furious she/her/un/important]

9 hours ago, Being of Cacophony said:

of course! I'll try to go to the temple ASAP. Is there a specific name I should put on it or just something about praying for your friend?

Thanks. I’ll dm you. 

[Immortal Platypus]

okay.

[kajsa ㅇㅅㅇ she/her]

Hi.

New in this thread, but I definitely need to get 'ma hugs.

I've had... a ROUGH time lately. I'm constantly stressed and overwhelmed even when I have no homework or tests or show choir competitions or friend issues.

I sprained my ankle late August last year (the 29th) and I'm still having issues; saw four different doctors, three physical therapists, got a ton of x-rays and MRIs... nothing. But somehow it still manages to feel like there's a thorny dagger stuck in my ankle/foot/shin region. This has caused me to have to sit out of show choir rehearsal a LOT. I was sitting out all of show choir again today (as in sitting out the whole time, hadn't danced AT ALL) and I heard someone say my name, so I looked up, thinking it was one of my friends come to check on me. Turns out it was Annabelle's little brother who said, "Hey, your dancing's been awesome today!" He meant it as a joke, but I still nearly cried. I managed to force a smile and then I went back to drawing on my music.

I get home at night sometimes and I just fall apart. There are spells where I can't handle any social interaction, and I get frustrated at people when they try to talk to me. Some days I get messages and I open them and stare at them and then even though I love the person who sent it to me, I turn off my phone and just... don't respond. I don't know. I've just been struggling a lot.

There's more but this is already a plenty long rant ;P

Hewp. 

[The Wandering Wizard he/him]

43 minutes ago, Kajsa said:

Hi.

New in this thread, but I definitely need to get 'ma hugs.

I've had... a ROUGH time lately. I'm constantly stressed and overwhelmed even when I have no homework or tests or show choir competitions or friend issues.

I sprained my ankle late August last year (the 29th) and I'm still having issues; saw four different doctors, three physical therapists, got a ton of x-rays and MRIs... nothing. But somehow it still manages to feel like there's a thorny dagger stuck in my ankle/foot/shin region. This has caused me to have to sit out of show choir rehearsal a LOT. I was sitting out all of show choir again today (as in sitting out the whole time, hadn't danced AT ALL) and I heard someone say my name, so I looked up, thinking it was one of my friends come to check on me. Turns out it was Annabelle's little brother who said, "Hey, your dancing's been awesome today!" He meant it as a joke, but I still nearly cried. I managed to force a smile and then I went back to drawing on my music.

I get home at night sometimes and I just fall apart. There are spells where I can't handle any social interaction, and I get frustrated at people when they try to talk to me. Some days I get messages and I open them and stare at them and then even though I love the person who sent it to me, I turn off my phone and just... don't respond. I don't know. I've just been struggling a lot.

There's more but this is already a plenty long rant ;P

Hewp. 

*Hugs*

That sounds terrible, I only know what a few of those things feel like. But to have them all together must be really rough. I can't know all of your pain, but I am here to let you know that you aren't alone.

[Robin Sedai she/her]

10 hours ago, Kajsa said:

Hi.

New in this thread, but I definitely need to get 'ma hugs.

I've had... a ROUGH time lately. I'm constantly stressed and overwhelmed even when I have no homework or tests or show choir competitions or friend issues.

I sprained my ankle late August last year (the 29th) and I'm still having issues; saw four different doctors, three physical therapists, got a ton of x-rays and MRIs... nothing. But somehow it still manages to feel like there's a thorny dagger stuck in my ankle/foot/shin region. This has caused me to have to sit out of show choir rehearsal a LOT. I was sitting out all of show choir again today (as in sitting out the whole time, hadn't danced AT ALL) and I heard someone say my name, so I looked up, thinking it was one of my friends come to check on me. Turns out it was Annabelle's little brother who said, "Hey, your dancing's been awesome today!" He meant it as a joke, but I still nearly cried. I managed to force a smile and then I went back to drawing on my music.

I get home at night sometimes and I just fall apart. There are spells where I can't handle any social interaction, and I get frustrated at people when they try to talk to me. Some days I get messages and I open them and stare at them and then even though I love the person who sent it to me, I turn off my phone and just... don't respond. I don't know. I've just been struggling a lot.

There's more but this is already a plenty long rant ;P

Hewp. 

*hugs*

That sounds really difficult and frustrating. I don't feel qualified to give any advice, but I hope you get though it okay. Wish you all the best.

[kajsa ㅇㅅㅇ she/her]

Thank you guys. <3

[Edema Rue she/her]

17 hours ago, Kajsa said:

Hi.

New in this thread, but I definitely need to get 'ma hugs.

I've had... a ROUGH time lately. I'm constantly stressed and overwhelmed even when I have no homework or tests or show choir competitions or friend issues.

I sprained my ankle late August last year (the 29th) and I'm still having issues; saw four different doctors, three physical therapists, got a ton of x-rays and MRIs... nothing. But somehow it still manages to feel like there's a thorny dagger stuck in my ankle/foot/shin region. This has caused me to have to sit out of show choir rehearsal a LOT. I was sitting out all of show choir again today (as in sitting out the whole time, hadn't danced AT ALL) and I heard someone say my name, so I looked up, thinking it was one of my friends come to check on me. Turns out it was Annabelle's little brother who said, "Hey, your dancing's been awesome today!" He meant it as a joke, but I still nearly cried. I managed to force a smile and then I went back to drawing on my music.

I get home at night sometimes and I just fall apart. There are spells where I can't handle any social interaction, and I get frustrated at people when they try to talk to me. Some days I get messages and I open them and stare at them and then even though I love the person who sent it to me, I turn off my phone and just... don't respond. I don't know. I've just been struggling a lot.

There's more but this is already a plenty long rant ;P

Hewp. 

I know I'm late, but that's terrible. I'm sorry things are going so rough, especially since there's nothing to do about it. Everyone has those days, and you don't need to feel bad for struggling with it. Keep trying! You're awesome.

[kajsa ㅇㅅㅇ she/her]

4 hours ago, Aes Sedai said:

I know I'm late, but that's terrible. I'm sorry things are going so rough, especially since there's nothing to do about it. Everyone has those days, and you don't need to feel bad for struggling with it. Keep trying! You're awesome.

Thank you <333

You guys are so kind  

[That1Cellist he/him]

I am paranoid.

I really want people to make sense. I want to understand. I want to know what to say and do. I don't.

I'm scared.

I don't even know anymore.

And the language fails me.

[The Wandering Wizard he/him]

21 minutes ago, That1Cellist said:

I am paranoid.

I really want people to make sense. I want to understand. I want to know what to say and do. I don't.

I'm scared.

I don't even know anymore.

And the language fails me.

I don't know really how to act around large groups of people. If I don't know a person, I am uncomfortable around them til I get to know them. 

People are spontaneous and weird and hardly seem to make sense. I don't know how to really act around people. I find myself molding to the group if it is a group of friends or I don't and I feel left out and alone.

I don't quite know how to describe it either Cellist, but I know the feeling that you are trying to describe. And it is hard to describe and to deal with. Hard to live with always feeling alone when not with family or friends.

[solarcat she/her]

1 hour ago, The Wandering Wizard said:

I don't know really how to act around large groups of people. If I don't know a person, I am uncomfortable around them til I get to know them. 

People are spontaneous and weird and hardly seem to make sense. I don't know how to really act around people. I find myself molding to the group if it is a group of friends or I don't and I feel left out and alone.

I don't quite know how to describe it either Cellist, but I know the feeling that you are trying to describe. And it is hard to describe and to deal with. Hard to live with always feeling alone when not with family or friends.

A bit of a tangent: Yup, and when you don't know how to make friends and other people talk to you, but then you realize they have a much larger friend group beyond you and very close friendships. Mind you I really appreciate them, but it's hard to fit into large groups once you are introduced to them, and I don't know how to make close friends with people, especially in high school :/. Frankly the only person I can talk to ends up being the person who introduced me to their friend group. Anyhow just thought I'd share my greif over high school friendships lel

[Bird Furious she/her/un/important]

23 hours ago, That1Cellist said:

I am paranoid.

I really want people to make sense. I want to understand. I want to know what to say and do. I don't.

I'm scared.

I don't even know anymore.

And the language fails me.

Sometimes I think people are just comfortable in their social circles, and sometimes I wrongly think that they’re new and somehow became part of that group. I’m clueless too. 

But people usually give you benefit of the doubt. I do, but I don’t know, because people are hard, except for the ones I talk to. 

*hugs*

[InfiniteInsanity she/her]

So on Friday at lunch I was sitting with my friends and they started talking about religion and forgot I was there. None of them are religious. In fact most of them are entirely against religion. So they're talking about religion mainly about how much they hate it and they go so far as to say things like ''is not even a you do you and I'll do what I want, its none of them should get to be religious" and "all religions are just cults". And then they remembered I was there and they tried to tell me that I wasn't a part of this group of people they were talking about. But that doesn't really work. So as much as I could on Friday and Saturday I avoided them. Now one of my friends who wasn't a part of this noticed. He happens to also be the boyfriend of one of those friends, he talked to me about what was going on and then we started talking about their relationship. She has been avoiding him because she claims to have lost feelings but he doesn't know that. He is also worried about fully committing to their relations because he says he has feelings for me too. So now I need to convince her to talk to him so they can figure this out. Which will likely end in them breaking up which means I will be busy comforting at least one of them. And I have to do all of this without yelling at any of them because they have a tendency to forget I have feelings other than happy and that its okay for me to be upset every once in a while. 

Yay. Drama.

[Spren of Kindness she/her]

8 minutes ago, InfiniteInsanity said:

So on Friday at lunch I was sitting with my friends and they started talking about religion and forgot I was there. None of them are religious. In fact most of them are entirely against religion. So they're talking about religion mainly about how much they hate it and they go so far as to say things like ''is not even a you do you and I'll do what I want, its none of them should get to be religious" and "all religions are just cults". And then they remembered I was there and they tried to tell me that I wasn't a part of this group of people they were talking about. But that doesn't really work. So as much as I could on Friday and Saturday I avoided them. Now one of my friends who wasn't a part of this noticed. He happens to also be the boyfriend of one of those friends, he talked to me about what was going on and then we started talking about their relationship. She has been avoiding him because she claims to have lost feelings but he doesn't know that. He is also worried about fully committing to their relations because he says he has feelings for me too. So now I need to convince her to talk to him so they can figure this out. Which will likely end in them breaking up which means I will be busy comforting at least one of them. And I have to do all of this without yelling at any of them because they have a tendency to forget I have feelings other than happy and that its okay for me to be upset every once in a while. 

Yay. Drama.

I'm sorry.  (Sending you hugs)  I know how some of those things feel, and they suck.

[That1Cellist he/him]

8 hours ago, InfiniteInsanity said:

So on Friday at lunch I was sitting with my friends and they started talking about religion and forgot I was there. None of them are religious. In fact most of them are entirely against religion. So they're talking about religion mainly about how much they hate it and they go so far as to say things like ''is not even a you do you and I'll do what I want, its none of them should get to be religious" and "all religions are just cults". And then they remembered I was there and they tried to tell me that I wasn't a part of this group of people they were talking about. But that doesn't really work. So as much as I could on Friday and Saturday I avoided them. Now one of my friends who wasn't a part of this noticed. He happens to also be the boyfriend of one of those friends, he talked to me about what was going on and then we started talking about their relationship. She has been avoiding him because she claims to have lost feelings but he doesn't know that. He is also worried about fully committing to their relations because he says he has feelings for me too. So now I need to convince her to talk to him so they can figure this out. Which will likely end in them breaking up which means I will be busy comforting at least one of them. And I have to do all of this without yelling at any of them because they have a tendency to forget I have feelings other than happy and that its okay for me to be upset every once in a while. 

Yay. Drama.

*Hugs* This is an unfortunate thing. Hopefully you will be able to figure this out.

Spoiler

On another note, I'm totally going to bring this up next time I need to talk about why girls are scary. Communication, people.

I mean, I guess I'm bad at talking too.

Sorry of that's insensitive.

 

[Edema Rue she/her]

9 hours ago, InfiniteInsanity said:

So on Friday at lunch I was sitting with my friends and they started talking about religion and forgot I was there. None of them are religious. In fact most of them are entirely against religion. So they're talking about religion mainly about how much they hate it and they go so far as to say things like ''is not even a you do you and I'll do what I want, its none of them should get to be religious" and "all religions are just cults". And then they remembered I was there and they tried to tell me that I wasn't a part of this group of people they were talking about. But that doesn't really work. So as much as I could on Friday and Saturday I avoided them. Now one of my friends who wasn't a part of this noticed. He happens to also be the boyfriend of one of those friends, he talked to me about what was going on and then we started talking about their relationship. She has been avoiding him because she claims to have lost feelings but he doesn't know that. He is also worried about fully committing to their relations because he says he has feelings for me too. So now I need to convince her to talk to him so they can figure this out. Which will likely end in them breaking up which means I will be busy comforting at least one of them. And I have to do all of this without yelling at any of them because they have a tendency to forget I have feelings other than happy and that its okay for me to be upset every once in a while. 

Yay. Drama.

Humans are the best, and also the worst. I get the feeling of friends bad mouthing religion, it stinks. You got this.

[The Sibling she/her]

I just did a science test and it was three pages. The first two pages I think i got everything right, and then the last page had a question which I'd never seen before and I was so confused. I pretty much wrote down nonsense as my answer and I'm just sad because it was going so well and then my brain sort of crash landed right at the end.