Having a Bad Day?: Get 'yer Hugs here!!

[The Wandering Wizard he/him]

7 minutes ago, InfiniteInsanity said:

 

 

 

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Thank you. I really needed it today.

Yah, you are an incredible person! And I'm glad to have gotten to know you, even if my goal was to kill you that one game.

[Wittles he/him]

On 2/4/2023 at 4:45 AM, Szeth's Facepalm said:

Thank you guys so much. I really appreciate you.

also it was late and i was upset and i kind of overshared ;-; sorry ;-; gunna just maybe hide that post ahaha

That's really hard. I'm a bit late to this, but Imma send hugs anyway *sends hugs*

 

[Morningtide she/her]

On 2/4/2023 at 6:45 AM, Szeth's Facepalm said:

Thank you guys so much. I really appreciate you.

also it was late and i was upset and i kind of overshared ;-; sorry ;-; gunna just maybe hide that post ahaha

I was late and I didn't see your original post but whatever it was *hugs* You are amazing!

[The Aspiring Archivist any pronouns]

@InfiniteInsanity I haven't interacted with you all that much, but you seem like a great person and a great roleplayer! I hope you feel better soon. *hugs*

[Wittles he/him]

52 minutes ago, The Aspiring Archivist said:

@InfiniteInsanity I haven't interacted with you all that much, but you seem like a great person and a great roleplayer! I hope you feel better soon. *hugs*

This is basically the same opinion I have of you @InfiniteInsanity. Here's some hugs *hugs*

[NerdyAarakocra They/Them]

I've been having a rough time of it lately. I can't focus, I always feel tired, and I have trouble with motivation. I'm unable to focus on work that I should be able to do easily (ADHD is fun), and I keep falling behind, losing my footing on easy things. That in turn makes me feel even worse about myself, leading to more stress, until I feel like a wrung-out husk unable to make it through the day.

Bleugh. I know that I need help, but I can't get any! The few people whom I trust enough to talk to are all people who I can't go to. I keep on trying to take it easy, do things that I enjoy, but I don't have time, and I don't know if I can make it out.

Thank you for reading this.

[The Aspiring Archivist any pronouns]

8 minutes ago, NerdyAarakocra said:

I've been having a rough time of it lately. I can't focus, I always feel tired, and I have trouble with motivation. I'm unable to focus on work that I should be able to do easily (ADHD is fun), and I keep falling behind, losing my footing on easy things. That in turn makes me feel even worse about myself, leading to more stress, until I feel like a wrung-out husk unable to make it through the day.

Bleugh. I know that I need help, but I can't get any! The few people whom I trust enough to talk to are all people who I can't go to. I keep on trying to take it easy, do things that I enjoy, but I don't have time, and I don't know if I can make it out.

Thank you for reading this.

*hugs*

I think I have an idea of what you feel. I could very well have ADHD, but I could never ask to try and get diagnosed.

I wish I had much advice for you. It's especially tough that you are unable to reach out to the people you trust. Keep trying, if you can. Remember that we are all here to support you. I hope you can start to improve soon.

[PyroPhile]

20 hours ago, InfiniteInsanity said:

hug

*hugs back*

[Edema Rue she/her]

1 hour ago, NerdyAarakocra said:

I've been having a rough time of it lately. I can't focus, I always feel tired, and I have trouble with motivation. I'm unable to focus on work that I should be able to do easily (ADHD is fun), and I keep falling behind, losing my footing on easy things. That in turn makes me feel even worse about myself, leading to more stress, until I feel like a wrung-out husk unable to make it through the day.

Bleugh. I know that I need help, but I can't get any! The few people whom I trust enough to talk to are all people who I can't go to. I keep on trying to take it easy, do things that I enjoy, but I don't have time, and I don't know if I can make it out.

Thank you for reading this.

You could literally be describing my life. It's terrible; that feeling of having failed is always there, as is the knowledge that there are things you should be doing. And just like you said, that only makes it more stressful. Even when things seem to be okay, they aren't, because you know that there are so many things you're doing wrong. 

I get it. It's rough. I've been supposed to be doing homework for the last 2 hours and I haven't written a single word. Breathe. Get on YouTube and find one of those cheesy 10 minute meditations and take it seriously. Murder someone. Write. Plan what needs to be done and exactly when you need to do it. Be specific. Get off the shard and make yourself some bacon. I know that things don't always work, because in the end, you just need to grit your teeth and do it, and sometimes it just doesn't work. I can only say things that have, occasionally, helped me, but there's no real solution that I'm aware of. What I do know is that you will make it out. If you're anything like me, it comes in waves. If you can hold on through this one, it'll recede. Do what you can, but even if you fail and have all F's, beating yourself up and stressing will only make it worse. 

Whatever happens, you got this. There are people here for you.

[The Aspiring Archivist any pronouns]

I feel pretty awful. I'm sick and home, but I have a final essay due tomorrow. I enjoy actually being in my classes, and my interactions with other people are usually fine. It's just when I'm home, everything is awful. I can never get anything done, I'm pretty sure there is something wrong with my brain but I feel like I can't tell anyone. I don't feel like I can talk to my counselor either because maybe I'm wrong and I don't want him to tell my parents or anything. I hold myself to high standards with school, but I know that I'm going to lose my footing soon enough. When I do, I'm probably just going to get even more stressed and depressed. I don't talk to my friends enough, and I don't feel like they care. Sometimes I just want to stop having to do life.

[The Wandering Wizard he/him]

1 minute ago, The Aspiring Archivist said:

I feel pretty awful. I'm sick and home, but I have a final essay due tomorrow. I enjoy actually being in my classes, and my interactions with other people are usually fine. It's just when I'm home, everything is awful. I can never get anything done, I'm pretty sure there is something wrong with my brain but I feel like I can't tell anyone. I don't feel like I can talk to my counselor either because maybe I'm wrong and I don't want him to tell my parents or anything. I hold myself to high standards with school, but I know that I'm going to lose my footing soon enough. When I do, I'm probably just going to get even more stressed and depressed. I don't talk to my friends enough, and I don't feel like they care. Sometimes I just want to stop having to do life.

Try taking that first step. Tell someone and if they don't listen, don't get discouraged, keep going until you find someone who will listen to you. It is incredibly hard, nearly impossible feeling to tell someone about your personal struggles, but when you do and they listen. It will feel incredible to have that weight off and someone who can help you get help.

You are an incredible person with a bright future ahead of you and I'm glad that I've gotten to know you through here and your writing. You may not believe me and that is just fine. But I know that there is a savior out there who loves you and I have felt his love for me and I want to pass it on. You are loved and it is okay to not feel okay.

*Hugs*

[That1Cellist he/him]

20 minutes ago, The Aspiring Archivist said:

I feel pretty awful. I'm sick and home, but I have a final essay due tomorrow. I enjoy actually being in my classes, and my interactions with other people are usually fine. It's just when I'm home, everything is awful. I can never get anything done, I'm pretty sure there is something wrong with my brain but I feel like I can't tell anyone. I don't feel like I can talk to my counselor either because maybe I'm wrong and I don't want him to tell my parents or anything. I hold myself to high standards with school, but I know that I'm going to lose my footing soon enough. When I do, I'm probably just going to get even more stressed and depressed. I don't talk to my friends enough, and I don't feel like they care. Sometimes I just want to stop having to do life.

I know what it's like to not want to have a life anymore. I don't particularly want to either. It is not going to be kind to me.

You know, Haly once said to me that life is a balancing act. We all have to help each other stay up. It's honestly very wise for someone I'm 99% certain is younger than me.

Sometimes you will feel like people don't care. I do all the time. Sometimes you will feel that everything is falling. Nobody else can see it, but you're slipping. You feel it in every breath you take, every step that you move with. You feel it as you lay in your bed trying to fall asleep, wanting sleep to come so that you can pretend, for a few precious hours, that you aren't real and don't exist. I know these feelings. They accompany me almost daily now.

Sometimes, people will tell you that we live hard lives to enjoy the happy moments. I see how this could be true, but that doesn't really help when you just about want to die, does it? I don't know the answers. If I had them, I would gladly share them. So, instead, I want you to know that we are here for you, and in your in person life there are people who want the best for you too. If you start to wobble, even when falling feels inevitable, so much so that you almost feel that sense of vertigo. Some sense of falling. But those people will help steady you. We will help steady you.

*Hugs* Good luck out there, Mr. Archivist.

Edited February 7, 2023 by That1Cellist

[The Aspiring Archivist any pronouns]

10 minutes ago, The Wandering Wizard said:

Try taking that first step. Tell someone and if they don't listen, don't get discouraged, keep going until you find someone who will listen to you. It is incredibly hard, nearly impossible feeling to tell someone about your personal struggles, but when you do and they listen. It will feel incredible to have that weight off and someone who can help you get help.

You are an incredible person with a bright future ahead of you and I'm glad that I've gotten to know you through here and your writing. You may not believe me and that is just fine. But I know that there is a savior out there who loves you and I have felt his love for me and I want to pass it on. You are loved and it is okay to not feel okay.

*Hugs*

Thank you.

It just makes makes me incredibly anxious to try and tell someone. I feel like I could be wrong, or that it's not worth their time. I'm super non-confrontational for a few reasons, so it's really hard for me. I can't even convince myself to start doing my homework most of the time, so I don't know how I'm going to convince myself to be open and honest about stuff like this to my family.

It feels sort of like my brain is broken.

13 minutes ago, That1Cellist said:

I know what it's like to not want to have a life anymore. I don't particularly want to either. It is not going to be kind to me.

You know, Haly once said to me that life is a balancing act. We all have to help each other stay up. It's honestly very wise for someone I'm 99% certain is younger than me.

Sometimes you will feel like people don't care. I do all the time. Sometimes you will feel that everything is falling. Nobody else can see it, but you're slipping. You feel it in every breath you take, every step that you move with. You feel it as you lay in your bed trying to fall asleep, wanting sleep to come so that you can pretend, for a few precious hours, that you aren't real and don't exist. I know these feelings. They accompany me almost daily now.

Sometimes, people will tell you that we live hard lives to enjoy the happy moments. I see how this could be true, but that doesn't really help when you just about want to die, doesn't it? I don't know the answers. If I had them, I would gladly share them. So, instead, I want you to know that we are here for you, and in your in person life there are people who want the best for you too. If you start to wobble, even when falling feels inevitable, so much so that you almost feel that sense of vertigo. Some sense of falling. But those people will help steady you. We will help steady you.

*Hugs* Good luck out there, Mr. Archivist.

Thanks, Cellist. I'm sorry that you are struggling with similar things. It's really hard. I do very much appreciate this.

[The Wandering Wizard he/him]

Just now, The Aspiring Archivist said:

It just makes makes me incredibly anxious to try and tell someone. I feel like I could be wrong, or that it's not worth their time. I'm super non-confrontational for a few reasons, so it's really hard for me. I can't even convince myself to start doing my homework most of the time, so I don't know how I'm going to convince myself to be open and honest about stuff like this to my family.

 

Yeah, that stuff is always hard and the anxiety will probably be there until you try it. I didn't particularly want to tell my family about my suicidal thoughts, but it went better than I thought. It really helped me to get out of the slump that I was feeling. Well I decided to go to the activity at the lake and being around people helped. But before hand I talked to my dad and mom about my thoughts and they understood. This might not work for you since I don't know what your parents are like. I know that mine are rarer that what I've seen/heard about other people's parents. That they refuse to see the mental health needs of their children and won't help them get help.

[The Aspiring Archivist any pronouns]

1 minute ago, The Wandering Wizard said:

Yeah, that stuff is always hard and the anxiety will probably be there until you try it. I didn't particularly want to tell my family about my suicidal thoughts, but it went better than I thought. It really helped me to get out of the slump that I was feeling. Well I decided to go to the activity at the lake and being around people helped. But before hand I talked to my dad and mom about my thoughts and they understood. This might not work for you since I don't know what your parents are like. I know that mine are rarer that what I've seen/heard about other people's parents. That they refuse to see the mental health needs of their children and won't help them get help.

My parents really care about mental health. There have been several occasions where they've asked me about it, and they've spent a lot of time helping my brother with is. I think it comes from the fact that my whole family deals with mental health issues and various neurodivergences. But I'm worried I'm wrong about what I'm feeling, and that it would just be a hassle to bring it up.

[The Wandering Wizard he/him]

5 minutes ago, The Aspiring Archivist said:

My parents really care about mental health. There have been several occasions where they've asked me about it, and they've spent a lot of time helping my brother with is. I think it comes from the fact that my whole family deals with mental health issues and various neurodivergences. But I'm worried I'm wrong about what I'm feeling, and that it would just be a hassle to bring it up.

If you are wrong, what happens? Why do you fear telling them?

[The Aspiring Archivist any pronouns]

5 minutes ago, The Wandering Wizard said:

If you are wrong, what happens? Why do you fear telling them?

I guess I'm worried I'll be wrong, and they'll overreact and waste time and energy on me.

[Wittles he/him]

1 hour ago, The Aspiring Archivist said:

I feel pretty awful. I'm sick and home, but I have a final essay due tomorrow. I enjoy actually being in my classes, and my interactions with other people are usually fine. It's just when I'm home, everything is awful. I can never get anything done, I'm pretty sure there is something wrong with my brain but I feel like I can't tell anyone. I don't feel like I can talk to my counselor either because maybe I'm wrong and I don't want him to tell my parents or anything. I hold myself to high standards with school, but I know that I'm going to lose my footing soon enough. When I do, I'm probably just going to get even more stressed and depressed. I don't talk to my friends enough, and I don't feel like they care. Sometimes I just want to stop having to do life.

1 hour ago, That1Cellist said:

I know what it's like to not want to have a life anymore. I don't particularly want to either. It is not going to be kind to me.

You know, Haly once said to me that life is a balancing act. We all have to help each other stay up. It's honestly very wise for someone I'm 99% certain is younger than me.

Sometimes you will feel like people don't care. I do all the time. Sometimes you will feel that everything is falling. Nobody else can see it, but you're slipping. You feel it in every breath you take, every step that you move with. You feel it as you lay in your bed trying to fall asleep, wanting sleep to come so that you can pretend, for a few precious hours, that you aren't real and don't exist. I know these feelings. They accompany me almost daily now.

Sometimes, people will tell you that we live hard lives to enjoy the happy moments. I see how this could be true, but that doesn't really help when you just about want to die, does it? I don't know the answers. If I had them, I would gladly share them. So, instead, I want you to know that we are here for you, and in your in person life there are people who want the best for you too. If you start to wobble, even when falling feels inevitable, so much so that you almost feel that sense of vertigo. Some sense of falling. But those people will help steady you. We will help steady you.

*Hugs* Good luck out there, Mr. Archivist.

34 minutes ago, The Wandering Wizard said:

Yeah, that stuff is always hard and the anxiety will probably be there until you try it. I didn't particularly want to tell my family about my suicidal thoughts, but it went better than I thought. It really helped me to get out of the slump that I was feeling. Well I decided to go to the activity at the lake and being around people helped. But before hand I talked to my dad and mom about my thoughts and they understood. This might not work for you since I don't know what your parents are like. I know that mine are rarer that what I've seen/heard about other people's parents. That they refuse to see the mental health needs of their children and won't help them get help.

wow. This describes what I've been feeling really well. 

I don't really know how to help in this situation, but here's a big group hug for all of ya' *Hugs*

[The Wandering Wizard he/him]

9 hours ago, The Aspiring Archivist said:

I guess I'm worried I'll be wrong, and they'll overreact and waste time and energy on me.

Worried that they care about you? Because oftentimes that is why people overreact, they care about someone and don't want anything to happen to them.

[Ranryu she/her]

A girl I really looked up to passed away recently. Other people who knew her better are suffering a lot more right now, but it still hurts. This is the third person our school has lost in as many months. What kind of world do we live in, where death is so willingly embraced? Why is this allowed to happen?

I'm sad and angry and confused.

[Wittles he/him]

8 minutes ago, Ranryu said:

A girl I really looked up to passed away recently. Other people who knew her better are suffering a lot more right now, but it still hurts. This is the third person our school has lost in as many months. What kind of world do we live in, where death is so willingly embraced? Why is this allowed to happen?

I'm sad and angry and confused.

That just really sucks. Death can be hard to come to terms with. *hugs*

[InfiniteInsanity she/her]

14 minutes ago, Ranryu said:

A girl I really looked up to passed away recently. Other people who knew her better are suffering a lot more right now, but it still hurts. This is the third person our school has lost in as many months. What kind of world do we live in, where death is so willingly embraced? Why is this allowed to happen?

I'm sad and angry and confused.

I knew her too. I didn't know her too well. But this is so hard and rough. I'm sorry. 

[The Aspiring Archivist any pronouns]

2 hours ago, The Wandering Wizard said:

Worried that they care about you? Because oftentimes that is why people overreact, they care about someone and don't want anything to happen to them.

It sounds stupid when you put it that way...

24 minutes ago, Ranryu said:

A girl I really looked up to passed away recently. Other people who knew her better are suffering a lot more right now, but it still hurts. This is the third person our school has lost in as many months. What kind of world do we live in, where death is so willingly embraced? Why is this allowed to happen?

I'm sad and angry and confused.

I'm so sorry. Death is often difficult to acknowledge fully, or to talk about, or sometimes even think about. It is a very hard thing, filled with a lot of the hardest questions. It's okay to feel all of those things, in fact, it's pretty normal. Don't feel pressured to try to "move on," grief moves at it's own pace for each person and each situation. If you find that it's affecting you a lot, for a long time, try to talk to someone in your life about how you feel.

*hugs*

Edited February 7, 2023 by The Aspiring Archivist

[The Wandering Wizard he/him]

46 minutes ago, The Aspiring Archivist said:

It sounds stupid when you put it that way...

1 hour ago, Ranryu said:

I'm sorry. I didn't mean to. But please work up the courage to tell them what you are going through. It will help.

3 minutes ago, Ranryu said:

A girl I really looked up to passed away recently. Other people who knew her better are suffering a lot more right now, but it still hurts. This is the third person our school has lost in as many months. What kind of world do we live in, where death is so willingly embraced? Why is this allowed to happen?

I'm sad and angry and confused.

Death is always going to hurt. And it's accepted because it is seen as a way out. It is allowed to happen because people have the ability to do anything that they want, but they must accept the consequence of their actions. And it hurts when you know them, because their light is gone from the world. Take your time and if your thoughts start to trend downward, we are all here for you. *Hugs*

[That1Cellist he/him]

1 hour ago, Ranryu said:

A girl I really looked up to passed away recently. Other people who knew her better are suffering a lot more right now, but it still hurts. This is the third person our school has lost in as many months. What kind of world do we live in, where death is so willingly embraced? Why is this allowed to happen?

I'm sad and angry and confused.

*hugs*

We can't make decisions for other people. Nobody wants other people to kill themselves. (If they do they're awful humans) It isn't that it's allowed to happen, but that sometimes people feel like life isn't worth living, nobody cares about them, people would be better off without them, or all sorts of reasons. We don't embrace death. This sort of thing is only allowed to happen as far as we cannot chose for other people.

These things are very angering, saddening, and confusing. I am sorry that we don't have the answers.

We're here for you. We feel with you. Not for you or because of you, but with you.