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[Immortal Platypus]

52 minutes ago, The Wandering Wizard said:

Is the respected person a teacher or a student? 

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please don't bang your head against the wall

The respected person was a student, the teacher usually just pokes his head in every once in a while, we mostly run ourselves in the "advanced" group.

Don't worry, it wasn't hard, it was just me somewhat faking and somewhat trying to get them to actually do stuff. It didn't hurt.

[The Wandering Wizard he/him]

7 minutes ago, ImportantQuestions said:

The respected person was a student, the teacher usually just pokes his head in every once in a while, we mostly run ourselves in the "advanced" group.

 

That seems very odd, since I know my teacher leads us and we're the advanced group. Sometimes he'll let us start it and run it on our own, but that's only when we've gotten really good at the piece, or it's a friday. 

[Immortal Platypus]

37 minutes ago, The Wandering Wizard said:

That seems very odd, since I know my teacher leads us and we're the advanced group. Sometimes he'll let us start it and run it on our own, but that's only when we've gotten really good at the piece, or it's a friday. 

He's just busy instructing the normal group and the catch-up group. Plus, we're usually really good, and he doesn't have much time for us.

 

[Lego Mistborn he/him]

15 hours ago, Odiumiumium said:

Recently(ish), a member of our friend group felt really uncomfortable in our group, mostly due to teasing and the occasional careless act. We lost a lot of their trust, and it was a relational nightmare. They've decided to stay with us, but honestly they've been acting really self-centered and rude now. They've moved on somewhat, but their in-between-friend-group status has made it super awkward for me to interact with them. They go back on promises and act completely rude and apathetic sometimes, but then act like nothing's changed other times. None of us really know what to do. We all feel bad and really confused. The fact that they switch between hostility and friendliness really doesn't help. I'm mostly just ignoring them now as that seems the best option. I'm not really sure what I'm asking for, but anything to help sort out the mess I've gotten myself into is appreciated. 

I'm sorry, that sucks. What I'd say is stop teasing, don't get upset with them if you can help it, while obviously not letting them beat up on you, and just try to show that you're willing to work everything out.

[Quivil]

8 hours ago, ImportantQuestions said:

I just had another of the most trying experiences in my life. I now hate a lot of violins and a cello. (Not quite hate, but I'm definitely not happy with them.) I was in the "advanced" group in my school orchestra but apparently, people only respect one person in the group, who was gone today. I spent most of the period banging my head against a wall. Literally. Not even joking. I would try to play and then the rest of the group would be like, "Everybody stop playing and talking, we're going to play together." So we would all stop and then we would play the first three measures, someone would mess up, and they would go back to talking. Over and over and over and over and over and over again.

The only good part was that I'm really good at the first couple measures of Scheherazade.  

In a situation like this, I think that if you act like you're in charge and nobody else really wants to be in charge, the others will probably do what you tell them to (as long as it's in the area of what-we-would-normally-do-and-what-we're-technically-supposed-to-be-doing.) Sometimes even when someone else wants to be in charge, they still follow you because they might as well and you're getting the right stuff done.

I've seen this happen.

Though this might not always work.

[Immortal Platypus]

3 minutes ago, Tani said:

In a situation like this, I think that if you act like you're in charge and nobody else really wants to be in charge, the others will probably do what you tell them to

I wish. Believe me, I tried. Almost worked a couple times, but never actually worked, plus I hate being in charge. I prefer to be the "power behind the throne" if you will.

[Quivil]

2 minutes ago, ImportantQuestions said:

I wish. Believe me, I tried. Almost worked a couple times, but never actually worked, plus I hate being in charge. I prefer to be the "power behind the throne" if you will.

sorry for my bad advice

[Immortal Platypus]

3 hours ago, Tani said:

sorry for my bad advice

No, it was good advice, it has worked in a couple other scenarios, just not this one. Nothing to be sorry about. It could have worked, I think everyone just kept distracting each other and so it didn't. I hope the respected person gets back tomorrow.

[Shining Silhouette he/him]

I asked out my best friend who I've been crushing on for almost a year.

She let me down very gently and very kindly.

My emotions are in shambles and I'm crushed

[Immortal Platypus]

1 hour ago, Shining Silhouette said:

I asked out my best friend who I've been crushing on for almost a year.

She let me down very gently and very kindly.

My emotions are in shambles and I'm crushed

*hugs* I'm so sorry. I've never had that experience, but it sounds horrible. I hope you have an amazing rest of the day/week/month/year to make up for it. Please remember that there are people who love you!!!

[Going_North_cal]

1 hour ago, Shining Silhouette said:

I asked out my best friend who I've been crushing on for almost a year.

She let me down very gently and very kindly.

My emotions are in shambles and I'm crushed

*hugs* that's what would have happened to me, and is what I feared would happen when I asked out my girlfriend.

I'm sorry you had to experience that, it sucks to be let down like that, I know. We're here for you, we love you.

Are y'all still friends? And kudos to her for being kind about it  We love that, even if it wasn't what you wanted.

[Shining Silhouette he/him]

3 minutes ago, CalanoCorvus said:

*hugs* that's what would have happened to me, and is what I feared would happen when I asked out my girlfriend.

I'm sorry you had to experience that, it sucks to be let down like that, I know. We're here for you, we love you.

Are y'all still friends? And kudos to her for being kind about it  We love that, even if it wasn't what you wanted.

Thanks, Calano

Yeah we're still friends

I'm very sad

[The Wandering Wizard he/him]

25 minutes ago, Shining Silhouette said:

I asked out my best friend who I've been crushing on for almost a year.

She let me down very gently and very kindly.

My emotions are in shambles and I'm crushed

They'll be that way for a bit.

And I had a similar experience this year.

I would have tried to stay friends with her but her family left.

I'd say don't repeat my mistake and stay friends with her, because she seems a great friend to have. 

[Going_North_cal]

1 minute ago, Shining Silhouette said:

Thanks, Calano

Yeah we're still friends

I'm very sad

I know you are. My PMs are open if you need to talk, but other than that, I'll leave you alone to process it.

You'll be alright. Love you, bro. And, what Wizard said. Even if you can't date her, she seems like a really good friend.

[That1Cellist he/him]

2 hours ago, Shining Silhouette said:

I asked out my best friend who I've been crushing on for almost a year.

She let me down very gently and very kindly.

My emotions are in shambles and I'm crushed

*Hugs* You're amazing Silhouette. I love seeing you on the shard. You really helped me to feel at home here, even though I was a little scared at first.

I don't really know what to say to comfort you with this specific situation. I worry that most of the things I could say have the potential to make you feel worse. I'll just reiterate the first point I made.

You are amazing!

[Shining Silhouette he/him]

1 hour ago, The Wandering Wizard said:

They'll be that way for a bit.

And I had a similar experience this year.

I would have tried to stay friends with her but her family left.

I'd say don't repeat my mistake and stay friends with her, because she seems a great friend to have. 

She is.

She's so incredible I'm genuinely worried I'll never find another person like her.

We're going to stay friends. I'll make that happen for sure. But I can only wonder what if, you know?

1 hour ago, CalanoCorvus said:

I know you are. My PMs are open if you need to talk, but other than that, I'll leave you alone to process it.

You'll be alright. Love you, bro. And, what Wizard said. Even if you can't date her, she seems like a really good friend.

Thanks Calano, love you too :D.

Sometimes we just gotta cry for a bit while

54 minutes ago, That1Cellist said:

*Hugs* You're amazing Silhouette. I love seeing you on the shard. You really helped me to feel at home here, even though I was a little scared at first.

I don't really know what to say to comfort you with this specific situation. I worry that most of the things I could say have the potential to make you feel worse. I'll just reiterate the first point I made.

You are amazing!

Thanks, Cellist. I love seeing you too- makes me feel great to hear that

I appreciate you and your thoughts!

[That1Cellist he/him]

4 minutes ago, Shining Silhouette said:

She is.

She's so incredible I'm genuinely worried I'll never find another person like her.

We're going to stay friends. I'll make that happen for sure. But I can only wonder what if, you know?

Thanks Calano, love you too :D.

Sometimes we just gotta cry for a bit while

Thanks, Cellist. I love seeing you too- makes me feel great to hear that

I appreciate you and your thoughts!

Good luck to you, Silhouette.

Go cry it out if you need to. I know I do sometimes.

[Going_North_cal]

man i wish i could cry :')

[The Wandering Wizard he/him]

1 minute ago, CalanoCorvus said:

man i wish i could cry :')

Read all of the wheel of time

12 minutes ago, Shining Silhouette said:

She is.

She's so incredible I'm genuinely worried I'll never find another person like her.

We're going to stay friends. I'll make that happen for sure. But I can only wonder what if, you know?

I know how you feel.

I wonder that about my friend all the time and even though I don't have a way to talk to her. I still wish her the best.

And I also wonder what would it have been like if she had said yes.

[Going_North_cal]

Just now, The Wandering Wizard said:

Read all of the wheel of time

14 minutes ago, Shining Silhouette said:

that's not why and i have a loooong list of books before i could fit in Wheel of Time. i'm also just depressed and have been for like a week :3

[The Wandering Wizard he/him]

2 minutes ago, CalanoCorvus said:

that's not why and i have a loooong list of books before i could fit in Wheel of Time. i'm also just depressed and have been for like a week :3

I'll try to get a response in the clinic soon, but I've set a task for catching up in homework since I've been sick first. I hope that you'll find something to break you out of being depressed. It's not fun and we're here for you.

[Going_North_cal]

Just now, The Wandering Wizard said:

I'll try to get a response in the clinic soon, but I've set a task for catching up in homework since I've been sick first. I hope that you'll find something to break you out of being depressed. It's not fun and we're here for you.

im just waiting until someone says something and i start sobbing.

either that or i continue to bottle it up and just suffer :]

[The Wandering Wizard he/him]

2 minutes ago, CalanoCorvus said:

either that or i continue to bottle it up and just suffer :]

Don't bottle it up, that never works, never. At least from my experience it just leads to more problems and never helps anything.

2 minutes ago, CalanoCorvus said:

im just waiting until someone says something and i start sobbing.

 

Have you ever listened to A poor wayfarring man of grief?

I found the video, but if you don't want to cry at school, don't watch it while your at school

Spoiler

 

 

Edited November 11, 2022 by The Wandering Wizard

[Going_North_cal]

1 minute ago, The Wandering Wizard said:

Don't bottle it up, that never works, never. At least from my experience it just leads to more problems and never helps anything.

2 minutes ago, CalanoCorvus said:

:]

1 minute ago, The Wandering Wizard said:

Don't bottle it up, that never works, never. At least from my experience it just leads to more problems and never helps anything.

Have you ever listened to A poor wayfarring man of grief?

no should i?

[The Wandering Wizard he/him]

Just now, CalanoCorvus said:

no should i?

YES! It is a church him though, just letting you know.