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[Rabbit Unmade she/her]

On 11/3/2022 at 0:08 AM, Szeth's Facepalm said:

I am so sick right now, it's miserable  my immune system is very hardy and i usually never get sick but it's 1 AM and i can't sleep cause of how congested i am, i had cough drops and nyquill and everything but i can't breath through my nose and swallowing feels like my throat is being stabbed with needles. and whenever i sneeze it feels like my nose is gonna launch across the room (very painfully).

Sorry for the rant, i know getting sick is normal and i'm being a crybaby but it's just so miserable ahhh

Aaaaaaaaaaah! You‘ve injured me! Aaaaaaaaaaah! *Hugs* I Hope you get better soon. *Hugs*

[+Slowswift]

On 11/5/2022 at 10:04 PM, ImportantQuestions said:

I'm eating ice cream and reading a book right now. Slowly but surely, the day is getting better. Plus, I can almost go to bed!!!

EDIT: I thought I could almost go to bed instead, there was something else I was supposed to do, that I blew off so I could cuddle with my puppy. Totally worth it!!!

Happy to hear it!

[Going_North_cal]

Hey all:

Allow me to share something.

Since February 2018, my digestive system has actively been trying to kill me. Nightly pain, for 4 years.

This past saturday, after getting dinner, my stomach decided to give me some of the worst pain I've experienced in all 4 years. Now, it's my own fault, because I had avocado and bacon, which are both fatty foods, and my galbladder is probably failing which means fatty foods are bad.

But;

I've been in pain for 4 years, and this was the worst out of those 4 years. I was genuinely suicidal. I considered, when I got in the shower, just ending it all to free myself from this pain.

I've never been suicidal before. It was honestly terrifying and I've been slightly depressed since then.

Just thought I'd let y'all know.

[The Wandering Wizard he/him]

5 minutes ago, CalanoCorvus said:

Hey all:

Allow me to share something.

Since February 2018, my digestive system has actively been trying to kill me. Nightly pain, for 4 years.

This past saturday, after getting dinner, my stomach decided to give me some of the worst pain I've experienced in all 4 years. Now, it's my own fault, because I had avocado and bacon, which are both fatty foods, and my galbladder is probably failing which means fatty foods are bad.

But;

I've been in pain for 4 years, and this was the worst out of those 4 years. I was genuinely suicidal. I considered, when I got in the shower, just ending it all to free myself from this pain.

I've never been suicidal before. It was honestly terrifying and I've been slightly depressed since then.

Just thought I'd let y'all know.

It sucks to feel like that and suicidal thoughts are terrifying. For me the best thing is to go be with a friend, even though I don't want to, because I feel better after talking to someone. It brightens my day and helps me to feel that there is at least one person who cares for me. Eventhough I know that my parents love me, when I'm depressed it is nearly impossible to feel that love.

Have you gotten any help or told anyone about this that can help you?

If you need someone to listen to you or to talk to, my PMs are always open.

[Going_North_cal]

I've texted three of my friends, but one of them is in Utah, and the other 2 are in Houston so.

I told my gf this morning, she was sympathetic, and I'm hanging out with her tomorrow a bit, so maybe we'll discuss more then, idk.

[Immortal Platypus]

1 hour ago, CalanoCorvus said:

I've texted three of my friends, but one of them is in Utah, and the other 2 are in Houston so.

Do they live there, or are they on vacation, or what? If they live there, I might know the one in Utah, depending on how old he is. I also probably shouldn't be writing this in the middle of AP human geography, but who really cares?  Oh well.

[InfiniteInsanity she/her]

First of all I agree with Wizard even if I don't do that very well myself when I'm in similar situations.

But also I just had a panic attack and I have no idea why and that scares me. And now I'm on the verge of a mental breakdown because of it. And I know I should tell my parents when I get home but they have a tendency to downplay what I'm going through a bit and expect me to be a bit stronger than I am when it comes to these kind of things. And I'm still freaking out a bit and I don't know what to do.

[Going_North_cal]

2 minutes ago, ImportantQuestions said:

Do they live there, or are they on vacation, or what? If they live there, I might know the one in Utah, depending on how old he is. I also probably shouldn't be writing this in the middle of AP human geography, but who really cares?  Oh well.

She* lives in Utah, not gon say where, the other two live in Houston and I met them at FSY.

[Edema Rue she/her]

I know this doesn't work for everyone, but since you're on here you're likely a reader and typically readers don't hate to write. For me, it helps to write everything down on a paper, then tear it into as many pieces as are physically possible and throw it in a fire. 

It won't actually solve your problems; there's no simple phrase or event that can fix everything, but it does help to put things in perspective. Life always has it's highs and lows. Hold on! If you've read SA, try to remember a certain story Wit told Kaladin. 

I know that it may not be today, it may not be tomorrow, but there will be spots of light. Remember the good and hold on through the bad. I know that sometimes it seems much easier to slay a dragon than it does to fight your own mind the way many people in our day and age have to. Maybe it is, I'm not sure. But hold on. When there's nothing left to try, hold on until you physically cannot keep going.

[Going_North_cal]

Ah yes, the Dog who wanted to be a Dragon.

Aes, you are a legend. And I see you're quite new, welcome to the shard. You are very wise.

[Nathrangking he/him]

3 hours ago, CalanoCorvus said:

Hey all:

Allow me to share something.

Since February 2018, my digestive system has actively been trying to kill me. Nightly pain, for 4 years.

This past saturday, after getting dinner, my stomach decided to give me some of the worst pain I've experienced in all 4 years. Now, it's my own fault, because I had avocado and bacon, which are both fatty foods, and my galbladder is probably failing which means fatty foods are bad.

But;

I've been in pain for 4 years, and this was the worst out of those 4 years. I was genuinely suicidal. I considered, when I got in the shower, just ending it all to free myself from this pain.

I've never been suicidal before. It was honestly terrifying and I've been slightly depressed since then.

Just thought I'd let y'all know.

*hugs.* Writing can be a powerful tool for coping it has helped me with things in the past. I know well what sits in the dark. That being said Aes is so right that light will come. If you ever need to talk you know where to find me. My DM's are always open.

[Lego Mistborn he/him]

4 hours ago, CalanoCorvus said:

Hey all:

Allow me to share something.

Since February 2018, my digestive system has actively been trying to kill me. Nightly pain, for 4 years.

This past saturday, after getting dinner, my stomach decided to give me some of the worst pain I've experienced in all 4 years. Now, it's my own fault, because I had avocado and bacon, which are both fatty foods, and my galbladder is probably failing which means fatty foods are bad.

But;

I've been in pain for 4 years, and this was the worst out of those 4 years. I was genuinely suicidal. I considered, when I got in the shower, just ending it all to free myself from this pain.

I've never been suicidal before. It was honestly terrifying and I've been slightly depressed since then.

Just thought I'd let y'all know.

I'm so sorry. It might not mean anything, but we're here for you, and I think there are more people on here than understand from your perspective. Two things. It doesn't seem like your pain is related to loneliness, but still don't forget about your family and friends. They're there for you. Also, if you haven't already, you need to see a doctor about your stomach. Keep yourself safe.

We love you @CalanoCorvus

Edited November 7, 2022 by Ta'veren Kaladin

[Going_North_cal]

2 minutes ago, Ta'veren Kaladin said:

Also, if you haven't already, you need to see a doctor about your stomach. Keep yourself safe.

We finally saw a doctor a couple weeks ago who ordered actually helpful tests. Those were done by last thursday, and they were bloodwork for 4 things, a HIDA scan, and an ultrasound.

This wednesday we go back to that doctor, and he tells me what's wrong.

Me and my family are 99% certain it's my gallbladder and it's failing and if that's the case, we remove it.

[The Wandering Wizard he/him]

2 hours ago, InfiniteInsanity said:

But also I just had a panic attack and I have no idea why and that scares me. And now I'm on the verge of a mental breakdown because of it. And I know I should tell my parents when I get home but they have a tendency to downplay what I'm going through a bit and expect me to be a bit stronger than I am when it comes to these kind of things. And I'm still freaking out a bit and I don't know what to do.

That sucks a lot. It sucks because those that should help you the most can't quite see what is happening to you. And they hopefully will come to understand, but you have friends who know and care about you. Trust in them and lean on them when you don't have the strength to go on.

[Edema Rue she/her]

3 hours ago, CalanoCorvus said:

Ah yes, the Dog who wanted to be a Dragon.

Aes, you are a legend. And I see you're quite new, welcome to the shard. You are very wise.

Thanks! I hope things get better, and if they don’t, there are so many amazing people on here who are always willing to listen and help in any way possible. (Myself included).

[The Bookwyrm he/him]

I don't think I've ever posted on this thread.

I don't have anything specific that I am troubled with at the moment. What I do want to say is how storming amazing it is that a thread like this exists.

I've lurked here occasionally. It's so impressive to me how willing people are to share their troubles with people they've most likely never met, and maybe never will meet, in person. And then it's also so inspiring to see the responses; the hope and support that people are so freely willing to give, and how powerful those messages are.

I'm not someone who really goes and asks for emotional support when I have problems.

I also don't have many of the mental troubles that I think are so prevalent among today's society. I think that's really unfair. Why should all these amazing and wonderful people have to suffer, while I seem to be able to avoid the brunt of it?

Perhaps that's why I don't go and ask for help, even when I maybe should.

...Even so. This place is amazing. I'm thankful for those willing to share hope and light, and for those willing to be vulnerable enough to seek it. I support all of you. And I should and probably will post here more often.

[That1Cellist he/him]

28 minutes ago, The Bookwyrm said:

I don't think I've ever posted on this thread.

I don't have anything specific that I am troubled with at the moment. What I do want to say is how storming amazing it is that a thread like this exists.

I've lurked here occasionally. It's so impressive to me how willing people are to share their troubles with people they've most likely never met, and maybe never will meet, in person. And then it's also so inspiring to see the responses; the hope and support that people are so freely willing to give, and how powerful those messages are.

I'm not someone who really goes and asks for emotional support when I have problems.

I also don't have many of the mental troubles that I think are so prevalent among today's society. I think that's really unfair. Why should all these amazing and wonderful people have to suffer, while I seem to be able to avoid the brunt of it?

Perhaps that's why I don't go and ask for help, even when I maybe should.

...Even so. This place is amazing. I'm thankful for those willing to share hope and light, and for those willing to be vulnerable enough to seek it. I support all of you. And I should and probably will post here more often.

If I'm using slang, you know something is off, so...

Yo, dude, if you need help, let us know, okay? We want to help out.

We all have our own problems. Don't find your mental state unfair to others, please. Thinking like that does no good. I think like that all the time. Trust me.

Also, if you're feeling sane, that means you're a great help to the rest of us! We all really appreciate slightly more stable people such as yourself.

I agree. This thread is awesome.

[Edema Rue she/her]

As has been mentioned, I’m relatively new here, but one of the first threads I found was this one. I think it’s really awesome to see kind, caring people from everywhere with similar interests to you. 

[Immortal Platypus]

7 hours ago, CalanoCorvus said:

She* lives in Utah, not gon say where, the other two live in Houston and I met them at FSY.

Oh yeah, sorry, I mostly hang out with guys and so I just assumed, if I knew the person, they would be a he. Thanks for the correction. I haven't been to FSY, but I hope to eventually. I probably don't know her anyway. Utah is kinda big  Oh well.  

[Odiumiumium he/him]

Recently(ish), a member of our friend group felt really uncomfortable in our group, mostly due to teasing and the occasional careless act. We lost a lot of their trust, and it was a relational nightmare. They've decided to stay with us, but honestly they've been acting really self-centered and rude now. They've moved on somewhat, but their in-between-friend-group status has made it super awkward for me to interact with them. They go back on promises and act completely rude and apathetic sometimes, but then act like nothing's changed other times. None of us really know what to do. We all feel bad and really confused. The fact that they switch between hostility and friendliness really doesn't help. I'm mostly just ignoring them now as that seems the best option. I'm not really sure what I'm asking for, but anything to help sort out the mess I've gotten myself into is appreciated. 

[Immortal Platypus]

I just had another of the most trying experiences in my life. I now hate a lot of violins and a cello. (Not quite hate, but I'm definitely not happy with them.) I was in the "advanced" group in my school orchestra but apparently, people only respect one person in the group, who was gone today. I spent most of the period banging my head against a wall. Literally. Not even joking. I would try to play and then the rest of the group would be like, "Everybody stop playing and talking, we're going to play together." So we would all stop and then we would play the first three measures, someone would mess up, and they would go back to talking. Over and over and over and over and over and over again.

The only good part was that I'm really good at the first couple measures of Scheherazade.  

[The Wandering Wizard he/him]

1 minute ago, ImportantQuestions said:

I just had another of the most trying experiences in my life. I now hate a lot of violins and a cello. (Not quite hate, but I'm definitely not happy with them.) I was in the "advanced" group in my school orchestra but apparently, people only respect one person in the group, who was gone today. I spent most of the period banging my head against a wall. Literally. Not even joking. I would try to play and then the rest of the group would be like, "Everybody stop playing and talking, we're going to play together." So we would all stop and then we would play the first three measures, someone would mess up, and they would go back to talking. Over and over and over and over and over and over again.

 

That sucks.

I have a friend who has the same problem with the middle school orchestra he is in. Is the respected person a teacher or a student? Sometimes that happens that you have to go over and over it again. But we don't have a talking problem. And I'm sorry, but please don't bang your head against the wall. You are an incredible person and you don't need to harm yourself.

[InfiniteInsanity she/her]

10 hours ago, Odiumiumium said:

Recently(ish), a member of our friend group felt really uncomfortable in our group, mostly due to teasing and the occasional careless act. We lost a lot of their trust, and it was a relational nightmare. They've decided to stay with us, but honestly they've been acting really self-centered and rude now. They've moved on somewhat, but their in-between-friend-group status has made it super awkward for me to interact with them. They go back on promises and act completely rude and apathetic sometimes, but then act like nothing's changed other times. None of us really know what to do. We all feel bad and really confused. The fact that they switch between hostility and friendliness really doesn't help. I'm mostly just ignoring them now as that seems the best option. I'm not really sure what I'm asking for, but anything to help sort out the mess I've gotten myself into is appreciated. 

I know what this is like and it really sucks. I'm afraid that I don't have anything helpful to tell you because I just kind of ignored the problem. Which looking back wasn't the best idea. I would say just keep being nice to them. I'm really sorry this is happening to you and I'm sorry that I don't have any helpful advice. 

[Edema Rue she/her]

35 minutes ago, ImportantQuestions said:

I just had another of the most trying experiences in my life. I now hate a lot of violins and a cello. (Not quite hate, but I'm definitely not happy with them.) I was in the "advanced" group in my school orchestra but apparently, people only respect one person in the group, who was gone today. I spent most of the period banging my head against a wall. Literally. Not even joking. I would try to play and then the rest of the group would be like, "Everybody stop playing and talking, we're going to play together." So we would all stop and then we would play the first three measures, someone would mess up, and they would go back to talking. Over and over and over and over and over and over again.

The only good part was that I'm really good at the first couple measures of Scheherazade.  

That’s so annoying. It’s awful to want, well, anything, and have people not only not care but hinder you as well. A lot of the time, it seems like it would be so much easier to just move to a tiny cabin in Alaska away from all people and not have to deal with them. They don’t listen to logic, which would be fine if it wasn’t always against your favor. 
 

10 hours ago, Odiumiumium said:

Recently(ish), a member of our friend group felt really uncomfortable in our group, mostly due to teasing and the occasional careless act. We lost a lot of their trust, and it was a relational nightmare. They've decided to stay with us, but honestly they've been acting really self-centered and rude now. They've moved on somewhat, but their in-between-friend-group status has made it super awkward for me to interact with them. They go back on promises and act completely rude and apathetic sometimes, but then act like nothing's changed other times. None of us really know what to do. We all feel bad and really confused. The fact that they switch between hostility and friendliness really doesn't help. I'm mostly just ignoring them now as that seems the best option. I'm not really sure what I'm asking for, but anything to help sort out the mess I've gotten myself into is appreciated. 

That’s also awful. I probably don’t have a lot of advice for this either; if I knew how to solve that problem, my life would be very different than it is. It feels like such pointless drama…but if that’s the case, then why does it hurt so much? People usually say to have empathy and imagine what they feel like. That’s great and all, but sometimes it just feels like “why should I? What does it matter?” Sometimes the hard work pays off, and sometimes it doesn’t. I guess that’s just how life goes. Not that I like it, but it’s the way it seems to be. If people would just care, so many of these problems would be solved! Why don’t we care?

[Robin Sedai she/her]

59 minutes ago, ImportantQuestions said:

I just had another of the most trying experiences in my life. I now hate a lot of violins and a cello. (Not quite hate, but I'm definitely not happy with them.) I was in the "advanced" group in my school orchestra but apparently, people only respect one person in the group, who was gone today. I spent most of the period banging my head against a wall. Literally. Not even joking. I would try to play and then the rest of the group would be like, "Everybody stop playing and talking, we're going to play together." So we would all stop and then we would play the first three measures, someone would mess up, and they would go back to talking. Over and over and over and over and over and over again.

The only good part was that I'm really good at the first couple measures of Scheherazade.  

Agh, that sounds so frustrating. My sympathies.