Having a Bad Day?: Get 'yer Hugs here!!

[Going_North_cal]

I'm not having a bad day, but my music just put me in a mood.

It's a saddish song, and I'm in that one mood that's sad and reflective, if you know what I mean.

Basically, I'd like to say that I'm super glad this community exists. I'm super glad that you are all amazing people, who have created threads like this, who's signatures are chock-full of inspiring quotes, who have created worlds, stories, characters, life. I'm super glad that you guys have found friends here, and that you feel safe and appreciated here.

I, like most people, have made dumb mistakes in my life. Like, giving-my-pain-to-Odium level mistakes. This place helps me a lot, and so do my friends not on this site.

I love you all so much (platonically) and think you all deserve the best of this world.

-Sincerely yours, Doomslug.

[Ink he/him]

My grandma passed last Thursday after a 13 month battle with brain cancer, and her funeral was today. She was one of the kindest, most upbeat, spiritual, and thoughtful people I’ve ever known, and she’s left a hole in my whole family’s hearts. The In-laws were her children too, she never passed a moment to spend with us grandchildren, and selflessly gave to help neighbors and friends through everything. I was really close (as were my 10 and 7 year old cousins), and I’m going to miss her for a long time…

edit: I was looking through her scriptures and found a note dated a few months before her diagnosis saying

Things to do before I go:

1: make sure grandchildren know they’re loved

2: help each grandchild to love the gospel

3: love [her husband] more and more each day

4: love my in-laws like my children

5: do things to build the Kingdom of Zion.

and that just was what set me off… she was never thinking of herself, always other people and what she could do for them.

Edited March 10, 2022 by Ink

[Robin Sedai she/her]

That's terrible. I'm so sorry for your loss; she sounds like an amazing woman.

[Nathrangking he/him]

2 hours ago, Ink said:

My grandma passed last Thursday after a 13 month battle with brain cancer, and her funeral was today. She was one of the kindest, most upbeat, spiritual, and thoughtful people I’ve ever known, and she’s left a hole in my whole family’s hearts. The In-laws were her children too, she never passed a moment to spend with us grandchildren, and selflessly gave to help neighbors and friends through everything. I was really close (as were my 10 and 7 year old cousins), and I’m going to miss her for a long time…

edit: I was looking through her scriptures and found a note dated a few months before her diagnosis saying

Things to do before I go:

1: make sure grandchildren know they’re loved

2: help each grandchild to love the gospel

3: love [her husband] more and more each day

4: love my in-laws like my children

5: do things to build the Kingdom of Zion.

and that just was what set me off… she was never thinking of herself, always other people and what she could do for them.

*Hugs.*

[Marukka]

2 hours ago, Ink said:

My grandma passed last Thursday after a 13 month battle with brain cancer, and her funeral was today. She was one of the kindest, most upbeat, spiritual, and thoughtful people I’ve ever known, and she’s left a hole in my whole family’s hearts. The In-laws were her children too, she never passed a moment to spend with us grandchildren, and selflessly gave to help neighbors and friends through everything. I was really close (as were my 10 and 7 year old cousins), and I’m going to miss her for a long time…

edit: I was looking through her scriptures and found a note dated a few months before her diagnosis saying

Things to do before I go:

1: make sure grandchildren know they’re loved

2: help each grandchild to love the gospel

3: love [her husband] more and more each day

4: love my in-laws like my children

5: do things to build the Kingdom of Zion.

and that just was what set me off… she was never thinking of herself, always other people and what she could do for them.

My heartfelt condolences. *hug*

[Mistbornwithakitty she/her]

I have this online friend.  We've been friends for years now, as we met through a video game.  When we're together, we get along like a house on fire...until we don't.  He shuts down whenever things get weird or one of us gets mad and blocks me out (sometimes literally).  I've told him over and over over this hurts my feelings and makes me just feel like dirt, as he'll work through hard things with others.  He says it's just different with me.  I'm not sure why, as I'm familiar with his history with others and they do him far dirtier and he still finds a way to make up.

I just don't understand and when I ask, he won't explain. It's a struggle to understand each other when he's like this, as he blocks me out.  I don't want to end the friendship, but it's been years of this off-on again bond that goes from us being inseparable to being ghosted if we argue/hurt each other's feelings.  I'm just tired of it and it really stings.

 

P.S. He knows about everything I've said.  This is all stuff I've said to him personally quite a few times.  Just looking for an outward perspective and hugs.     

[Nathrangking he/him]

@Mistbornwithakitty *hugs.* It's hard to advise on this sort of thing. However, I will say this. Is he really your friend if he so easily and constantly shuts you down when you have a disagreement? It may be that you put a higher value to your friendship than he does which is something serious to consider. If there can be no dialogue the question truly becomes is this friendship worth it? Remember your well being matters and if your feelings are being ignored it might be time to cut this "friend" out of your life because they don't really seem to care much for your feelings.

Edited April 3, 2022 by Nathrangking

[Robin Sedai she/her]

5 hours ago, Mistbornwithakitty said:

I have this online friend.  We've been friends for years now, as we met through a video game.  When we're together, we get along like a house on fire...until we don't.  He shuts down whenever things get weird or one of us gets mad and blocks me out (sometimes literally).  I've told him over and over over this hurts my feelings and makes me just feel like dirt, as he'll work through hard things with others.  He says it's just different with me.  I'm not sure why, as I'm familiar with his history with others and they do him far dirtier and he still finds a way to make up.

I just don't understand and when I ask, he won't explain. It's a struggle to understand each other when he's like this, as he blocks me out.  I don't want to end the friendship, but it's been years of this off-on again bond that goes from us being inseparable to being ghosted if we argue/hurt each other's feelings.  I'm just tired of it and it really stings.

P.S. He knows about everything I've said.  This is all stuff I've said to him personally quite a few times.  Just looking for an outward perspective and hugs.     

*hugs* I've got no advice, but I'm sorry mate. That really sucks.

[Spren of Kindness she/her]

14 hours ago, Mistbornwithakitty said:

I have this online friend.  We've been friends for years now, as we met through a video game.  When we're together, we get along like a house on fire...until we don't.  He shuts down whenever things get weird or one of us gets mad and blocks me out (sometimes literally).  I've told him over and over over this hurts my feelings and makes me just feel like dirt, as he'll work through hard things with others.  He says it's just different with me.  I'm not sure why, as I'm familiar with his history with others and they do him far dirtier and he still finds a way to make up.

I just don't understand and when I ask, he won't explain. It's a struggle to understand each other when he's like this, as he blocks me out.  I don't want to end the friendship, but it's been years of this off-on again bond that goes from us being inseparable to being ghosted if we argue/hurt each other's feelings.  I'm just tired of it and it really stings.

 

P.S. He knows about everything I've said.  This is all stuff I've said to him personally quite a few times.  Just looking for an outward perspective and hugs.     

That sucks.  *hugs*

I was going to give some advice, but I'll just second Nath.

[Mistbornwithakitty she/her]

16 hours ago, Nathrangking said:

@Mistbornwithakitty *hugs.* It's hard to advise on this sort of thing. However, I will say this. Is he really your friend if he so easily and constantly shuts you down when you have a disagreement? It may be that you put a higher value to your friendship than he does which is something serious to consider. If there can be no dialogue the question truly becomes is this friendship worth it? Remember your well being matters and if your feelings are being ignored it might be time to cut this "friend" out of your life because they don't really seem to care much for your feelings.

Thank you so much for the solid advice.  I was just really sad last night, but today has brought some clarity.  I'm not going to make any rash decisions, but this definitely is a pattern of behavior that I've accepted for fear of being alone (as I live a weird transient life and don't really have many people I can call my friends).  Thank you all for the hugs and encouragement.  It means a lot!  

[Draginon he/him]

This happened earlier in the week and is more an outrage thing than just a bad day thing.

To preface I was scheduled to work in the employee grill area but instead was sent to the front of house order pickup.

It was time for my break, around 4PM, and I had just clocked out when this one team leader told me I had to relieve the cashier at the employee grill. He walked away before I could tell him I was on break and the time clock is right next to the manager office and I told the one manager I had already clocked out for my break and she told me to take my break and she’ll tell him what to do. She also told me to get my meal voucher from him and he tried to refuse giving me one until I said that the manager said to give me one. As I was walking to the grill to get myself something to eat I could hear him arguing with the manager in question.

When I got to the grill and was deciding what I wanted to get that same team leader showed up and told the cashier to go home since apparently his shift ended at 4PM and the other person working the grill area was getting the tenders and fries cooked up meaning there was no one manning the area and other employees were arriving for their break so I had no choice but to take over for the moment. By the time it had calmed down enough the other employee had showed up in the meantime and I could finally find a moment to let them know I was technically on my break and they couldn’t believe the team leader put me in that position and when I checked when I had clocked out it was almost the end of my break.

Then two of the managers, including the one I mentioned earlier, and both of us explained what happened and they couldn’t believe he went that far and adjusted the time schedule for me so I could get my break.

I almost had the same type of problem with the same team leader the previous Friday, April 1st, since I was on the clock for an event and I was sent to our icee cart with someone else. One manager, we have 5 or 6 to make things clear, an hour into our shift told us to relieve each other for our breaks and we checked with each other when the other leaves after the manager left. Since my shift ended first she told me to take the break first. When that time came I went to the grill as normal and after clocking back in I was heading back to the cart to relieve her when the team leader I mentioned calls out to me to drop everything and help on front of line pickup. I tried to explain what the break for us was like from the manager but he didn’t want to hear it but luckily the same manager was working at the burger station and reiterated what the break was for the carts and I needed to give the other person their break.

When I got back I told her what almost happened and boy was she surprised and mad at the team leader.

I don’t know what this guys deal is but in one situation he almost went over a manager and in another he outright defied one. In terms of company hierarchy it’s the worker at the bottom, team leaders and then the manager at the top so yes he pulled rank to the wrong people. And yes everyone knows who’s in which position since the workers have their area uniform, team leaders all wear blue shirts and managers wear regular clothes. Even if you don’t know their names you just mention they wear street clothes and they’ll instantly know how in the wrong he was. 

[The Sibling she/her]

Hi. I was supposed to see my grandparents and cousins over winter break, but canceled bc of covid. Then we were going to meet on family day, but my step cousins got covid, so canceled. Then on easter, we finally get to my grandparents cottage. The power goes out. There's a fire on the next door neighbor's lawn. Then my brother gets covid and we have to leave. We didn't even get to see most of my cousins.

[Robin Sedai she/her]

7 hours ago, The Sibling said:

Hi. I was supposed to see my grandparents and cousins over winter break, but canceled bc of covid. Then we were going to meet on family day, but my step cousins got covid, so canceled. Then on easter, we finally get to my grandparents cottage. The power goes out. There's a fire on the next door neighbor's lawn. Then my brother gets covid and we have to leave. We didn't even get to see most of my cousins.

That's awful. *hugs*

[Draginon he/him]

Not about me but this whole situation between the governor of Florida and Disney is getting ridiculous and scary. After Disney stopped endorsing him after the backlash of the “Don’t Say Gay” bill he quickly threw together a bill to dissolve the Reedy Creek Improvement District making Disney World officially part of Orange and Osceola counties. To show how reckless this is the bill was passed without any discussion nor any financial reports made to see how it’ll impact everyone in the two counties. In one report it’s being estimated that property taxes will increase by 25% for everyone in Orange County and even higher in Osceola county. The mayor of Orlando is even saying that to include Disney in their budget will wreck havoc since they would have to figure out where to get that additional money from since the budget was already set when the news dropped.

This shows how much damage this one bill is causing to everyone in just two counties  and will most likely spread to the rest of the state all because of one man having a feud with a company.

[Going_North_cal]

just found out the tickets for the Alan Walker concert I was planning to go to with two of my bestest friends in November are actuall 18+ so I can't actually go and now I'm about to shoot someone in the face

[Nathrangking he/him]

25 minutes ago, CalanoCorvus said:

just found out the tickets for the Alan Walker concert I was planning to go to with two of my bestest friends in November are actuall 18+ so I can't actually go and now I'm about to shoot someone in the face

That sucks ! 

[The Wandering Wizard he/him]

That does suck. I hope you can find something else to do with your friends on that day.

[Robin Sedai she/her]

5 hours ago, CalanoCorvus said:

just found out the tickets for the Alan Walker concert I was planning to go to with two of my bestest friends in November are actuall 18+ so I can't actually go and now I'm about to shoot someone in the face

That's a shame :(.

[The Wandering Wizard he/him]

Here you go @CalanoCorvus hope this helps you day go better

[Going_North_cal]

that DOES help

[The Wandering Wizard he/him]

Glad I could help 

[Nathrangking he/him]

Why do I do it? Once every couple of months I ask myself this question. I feel like I'm a charlatan and an imposter. Why do I write? Why not quit and delete my work. It would be so simple to remove all traces and stop acting as though I have any skill whatsoever. As usual rejection is what brought this on. I had a real chance to break out into the world with my work. Last night it was slapped aside as not good enough. My heart and soul once again rent and torn. Is the pain worth it? Why subject myself to constantly being told what I have long suspected? All I have to do is stop and hit delete. The world will never know what it is going to miss. I doubt that it would even miss it in any case. If I'm truly as incapable as it seems then the world will never know my work anyway. The knife just carves out my heart. I want to believe that I'm capable, but its so hard. One friend called me the most creative person he knows. For all the good it does me. 

I apologize for my rant as usual. This last rejection really got under my skin and hurt.

[Szeth's Facepalm]

My entire family except me and my sister got covid

It's so friking unfair because this was right before a vacation that i was really, really, really, really looking forward to, and for this entire pandemic but especially now we have been more careful than literally anyone i know, we wear n-95 masks in spaces that do not require any masks and we mostly keep big gatherings outdoors and we are so careful, even to the point that some people made fun of us, and then we let our friends stay with us for a night and they weren't careful and now we have covid.

And now our three week vacation that i was awaiting desperately is probably gonna be canceled. i think i'm gonna cry

Anyway, covid is still out there guys, be careful

Edited May 16, 2022 by Szeth's Facepalm

[Going_North_cal]

11 hours ago, Szeth's Facepalm said:

Anyway, covid is still out there guys, be careful

being careful *hugs*

free hugs for everyone who feels dumb. *hugs everyone*

[Robin Sedai she/her]

23 hours ago, Szeth's Facepalm said:

My entire family except me and my sister got covid

It's so friking unfair because this was right before a vacation that i was really, really, really, really looking forward to, and for this entire pandemic but especially now we have been more careful than literally anyone i know, we wear n-95 masks in spaces that do not require any masks and we mostly keep big gatherings outdoors and we are so careful, even to the point that some people made fun of us, and then we let our friends stay with us for a night and they weren't careful and now we have covid.

And now our three week vacation that i was awaiting desperately is probably gonna be canceled. i think i'm gonna cry

Anyway, covid is still out there guys, be careful

Aw, that's horrible. *hugs*