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[Draginon he/him]

10 hours ago, Bejardin1250 said:

I mean we have lots of water skiing down here

that might be what it’s talking about

I think it was referring to winter sport skiing. Water skiing I think was part of the marina category. If it was including the water version I would think Florida would’ve ranked a lot higher then.

[Spren of Kindness she/her]

There are sentences that you never want to hear your parents say.  One of them is 'we need to have a talk.'

We have to take our dog back to the shelter.  She's got aggressive tendencies, and we've done everything we can, everything, and nothing has worked.  So for safety, she has to go.  There are people who can help with this, but not while she's in a big family.

I feel like I'm half an inch behind myself, and a little up and to the left.

[Draginon he/him]

18 hours ago, Spren of Kindness said:

There are sentences that you never want to hear your parents say.  One of them is 'we need to have a talk.'

We have to take our dog back to the shelter.  She's got aggressive tendencies, and we've done everything we can, everything, and nothing has worked.  So for safety, she has to go.  There are people who can help with this, but not while she's in a big family.

I feel like I'm half an inch behind myself, and a little up and to the left.

It’s a shame when you try everything you can think of and still can’t make it work. I can’t imagine getting a dog and having to come to the conclusion of taking it to a shelter.

Have you tried any of the techniques from It’s Me Or The Dog? Victoria Stilwell, the host/trainer, has done a few episodes where dogs had aggressive tendencies and showed the owners how to mitigate or get rid of them. Sometimes it required hours just for one part before she moved onto the nest step.

[Marukka]

21 hours ago, Spren of Kindness said:

There are sentences that you never want to hear your parents say.  One of them is 'we need to have a talk.'

We have to take our dog back to the shelter.  She's got aggressive tendencies, and we've done everything we can, everything, and nothing has worked.  So for safety, she has to go.  There are people who can help with this, but not while she's in a big family.

I feel like I'm half an inch behind myself, and a little up and to the left.

That's heartbreaking. Friends of mine had similar problems with a cat they adopted from a shelter. After a few month the little guy had gotten over his shyness and became real aressiv when playing. Nothing they tried worked and they also couldn't find a home for him that was more suitable. They also had to give him back to the shelter and were in tears because of it. It is really hard to make such a decision and they still worry if they didn't try enough. But in the end it was also the best for the animal. If it is out of control it needs help. And it is better to realize that you can't provide that help than to act as if nothing is wrong. 

Still, it's hard to let go of someone who has become a family member. *hug*

[Spren of Kindness she/her]

2 hours ago, Draginon said:

It’s a shame when you try everything you can think of and still can’t make it work. I can’t imagine getting a dog and having to come to the conclusion of taking it to a shelter.

Have you tried any of the techniques from It’s Me Or The Dog? Victoria Stilwell, the host/trainer, has done a few episodes where dogs had aggressive tendencies and showed the owners how to mitigate or get rid of them. Sometimes it required hours just for one part before she moved onto the nest step.

I think my parents did, but the trouble is, our family is big enough that there isn't enough time to focus on training, not with our age range.

[Draginon he/him]

Not me but my mother is having one. Yesterday she was called into a meeting at work and for this school year they are transferring her to the high school campus. Whenever someone gets transferred to a campus like that it usually means they are on the way out. Pretty much they’re telling her they want her gone without telling her that’s what they want.

When she had follow up questions, all involving me like if I’m being transferred or not, it was met with “good question, we’ll get back with you”. They also didn’t want her to tell me but she was livid with them.

If I get pulled into a meeting and they want me at a campus I’ll tell them that I’m not interested in being at the campuses full time and if they force me then this will be my notice to find a replacement.

[TheCruelSadist he/him]

I haven't even read past the thread title yet, but I'm glad this thread exists.

On 6/17/2021 at 9:30 AM, Spren of Kindness said:

There are sentences that you never want to hear your parents say.  One of them is 'we need to have a talk.'

We have to take our dog back to the shelter.  She's got aggressive tendencies, and we've done everything we can, everything, and nothing has worked.  So for safety, she has to go.  There are people who can help with this, but not while she's in a big family.

I feel like I'm half an inch behind myself, and a little up and to the left.

I'm sorry.  I can't imagine what you're going through.  Typically, death is what takes our loved ones from us, and it sucks, but we accept there's nothing we can do about it.  But this... geez.  Hopefully enough hugs will get you back in place *hug*

Have you considered looking for a local who takes in aggressive dogs?  At least then you may have chances to visit.

On 6/19/2021 at 10:10 AM, Draginon said:

Not me but my mother is having one. Yesterday she was called into a meeting at work and for this school year they are transferring her to the high school campus. Whenever someone gets transferred to a campus like that it usually means they are on the way out. Pretty much they’re telling her they want her gone without telling her that’s what they want.

When she had follow up questions, all involving me like if I’m being transferred or not, it was met with “good question, we’ll get back with you”. They also didn’t want her to tell me but she was livid with them.

If I get pulled into a meeting and they want me at a campus I’ll tell them that I’m not interested in being at the campuses full time and if they force me then this will be my notice to find a replacement.

Oof.  My mom retired early this year from teaching elementary school because the district she worked for is basically dumping aaaaall of the additional work and stress of adapting to online teaching on the teachers.  And so my 58 year-old, mentally-unwell mother is going to try to work some low-wage job for the next year or two until she can draw on her retirement.  I hope things go smoother for you and your mom than I expect they'll go for me and mine *hug*

 

What that means for me is that she'll likely expect the children she abused until well after adulthood to take care of her if she can't find a job, and I guarantee my siblings aren't going to be any help.  I was preparing myself to burn a bridge or two this year, but now it just feels too cruel.  Blood complicates things, that's for sure  I'm good, there's nothing I can do about it now beyond what I know is right, but I needed to vent

[Nathrangking he/him]

I'm in agony. For two months I have had rather annoying nosebleeds. In recent weeks they have gotten worse. It has left me practically an invalid. Anything might be a trigger and so I was and am unable to do much. Cauterization did nothing to help. Meanwhile the less extreme solution worked too little to be truly effective. Today my doctor pulled the trigger on the nuclear option packing my nose. There is 95% that it works. If it does not then more severe measures have to be taken. Meanwhile the pain is debilitating. When it was put in even when anesthetic was used my eyes watered and I started to hyperventilate. Currently I'm miserable, but I just have to bear it.  This has been my rant. Thank you for listening!

[Draginon he/him]

22 hours ago, TheCruelSadist said:

 

Oof.  My mom retired early this year from teaching elementary school because the district she worked for is basically dumping aaaaall of the additional work and stress of adapting to online teaching on the teachers.  And so my 58 year-old, mentally-unwell mother is going to try to work some low-wage job for the next year or two until she can draw on her retirement.  I hope things go smoother for you and your mom than I expect they'll go for me and mine *hug*

 

What that means for me is that she'll likely expect the children she abused until well after adulthood to take care of her if she can't find a job, and I guarantee my siblings aren't going to be any help.  I was preparing myself to burn a bridge or two this year, but now it just feels too cruel.  Blood complicates things, that's for sure  I'm good, there's nothing I can do about it now beyond what I know is right, but I needed to vent

We’re both looking elsewhere for work. All I know is I don’t want to be in a warehouse, admin work at a school or be in the food industry. I don’t know about what she wants but she’s the type where if she has a week off and nowhere to go she gets cabin fever pretty fast so unemployment is not something she will look forward to. Mine is pretty much at retirement already, she just prefers working over relaxing.

Well there’s a saying for what you’re experiencing: The blood of the covenant is thicker than the water of the womb. People change it to blood is thicker than water and use it to explain why family is important but the saying is actually saying that the family you choose is more important than the family you grew up with. Also there’s always sending her to a senior living center.

[Hoid the Former Drifter he/him]

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That's enough. i'm tired

[Kasimir he/him]

I don't know why. It's easy enough to think you've moved on and then something catches you right where it hurts and the pain is still there, still fresh as the day it first happened.

Was listening to YouTube and getting work done this weekend when a song I'd never heard before came on shuffle and it dragged me back to the day I realised my ex ghosted me and left and then the pain comes flooding back again as if it's not been over a year.

[Hoid the Former Drifter he/him]

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[FriarFritz]

7 hours ago, Kasimir said:

I don't know why. It's easy enough to think you've moved on and then something catches you right where it hurts and the pain is still there, still fresh as the day it first happened.

Was listening to YouTube and getting work done this weekend when a song I'd never heard before came on shuffle and it dragged me back to the day I realised my ex ghosted me and left and then the pain comes flooding back again as if it's not been over a year.

*Hugssssssssssssss*

[Kasimir he/him]

6 hours ago, Hoid the Drifter said:

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1 minute ago, FriarFritz said:

*Hugssssssssssssss*

Thanks, both of you :'D

[TheCruelSadist he/him]

On 6/21/2021 at 5:01 PM, Nathrangking said:

I'm in agony. For two months I have had rather annoying nosebleeds. In recent weeks they have gotten worse. It has left me practically an invalid. Anything might be a trigger and so I was and am unable to do much. Cauterization did nothing to help. Meanwhile the less extreme solution worked too little to be truly effective. Today my doctor pulled the trigger on the nuclear option packing my nose. There is 95% that it works. If it does not then more severe measures have to be taken. Meanwhile the pain is debilitating. When it was put in even when anesthetic was used my eyes watered and I started to hyperventilate. Currently I'm miserable, but I just have to bear it.  This has been my rant. Thank you for listening!

Chronic conditions in a nutshell.  How are you doing now?  Still need a hug, or is a high-five in order?

On 6/27/2021 at 0:40 PM, Kasimir said:

I don't know why. It's easy enough to think you've moved on and then something catches you right where it hurts and the pain is still there, still fresh as the day it first happened.

Was listening to YouTube and getting work done this weekend when a song I'd never heard before came on shuffle and it dragged me back to the day I realised my ex ghosted me and left and then the pain comes flooding back again as if it's not been over a year.

Ouch  *hug*

Edited June 28, 2021 by TheCruelSadist

[Thaidakar the Ghostblood he/him]

I have to live life, like a normal person 

[Hoid the Former Drifter he/him]

HUG!

[Bejarden he/him]

1 hour ago, Thaidakar the Ghostblood said:

I have to live life, like a normal person 

Haven’t done this yet but you got my sympathy 

[Orlion Blight he/him]

2 hours ago, Thaidakar the Ghostblood said:

I have to live life, like a normal person 

"..it was good that God kept the truths of life from the young as they were starting out or else they'd have no heart to start at all."

-from All the Pretty Horses by Cormac McCarthy 

Not implying anything about your age, just read this and seemed suitably melancholic for this occasion 

[+CallsignZen she/her]

i had a rough day, lots of huge changes going on in my life currently. 

3 hours ago, Thaidakar the Ghostblood said:

I have to live life, like a normal person 

h u g s

[Thaidakar the Ghostblood he/him]

27 minutes ago, CallsignZen said:

i had a rough day, lots of huge changes going on in my life currently. 

h u g s

HUGS

[Draginon he/him]

Not really bad but just more disheartening and worrisome.

My mother just can’t understand the worry one of our coworkers has whenever her son goes somewhere. For context this coworker is black. Pretty much she worries that something will happen and he’ll be shot by a cop for no reason. I understand why she feels that way because of events over the last few years but my mother just doesn’t see the problem or even acknowledge the problem. She keeps looking at life through a white woman’s experience and doesn’t see any problem with the way black relations with cops is.

My mother views this as racist and needless worrying and just will not see the problem at hand. While I’m not black I know about the issues blacks have had to deal with where the police and the government are concerned. I understand how our coworker feels because I don’t fully trust the cops myself. As a kid I was told to respect them and if they are around you or coming towards you then it means you’ve done something wrong and because of that my body tenses up whenever I see a cop or guard and they’re walking in the opposite direction towards me but not at me. I know it’s not the same but it’s that feeling of ‘is that cop coming towards me? What could I have done wrong?’ that connects both and shows some mistrust.

This feeling also extends towards the military for me, mostly because in my mind I can’t trust a group that is legally authorized to kill people for any reason. Part of this has more to do with my grandpa who was a veteran but I never felt safe around him. There was always something about him I didn’t like and I get that same feeling around war stuff so there’s a link there for me.

My mother though has never had any reason to distrust this stuff and part of it is because one of her brothers was a cop so she doesn’t see the side everyone else does, which is the victim side of things. In her mind it seems like if someone is getting arrested or shot at then there’s always a good reason from the cop side. Me I grew up with the stories of cops shooting the wrongs people, breaking into the wrong homes, refusing to pay for any broken property they caused, discrimination profiling and extreme measures for holding detainees who aren’t even resisting.

I just can’t understand how someone can look a problem in the face, refuse to see it and think someone is overreacting to nothing.

[Hoid the Former Drifter he/him]

HUGS!

HUGS!

[Guest]

Is this thread still active or is it dead?

[+Slowswift]

2 minutes ago, Elf_at_heart said:

Is this thread still active or is it dead?

Comes and goes. I'd say it's still alive and kicking, though.