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[Draginon he/him]

Not quite bad but I’m getting worried a bit about my job hunting. I’ve only gotten one call back, Barnes & Noble in Arlington, about 3 weeks back and haven’t heard back regarding coming in for an interview. Everything else is in the ‘we got it but haven’t reviewed it yet’ stage. I really want to have a safe and transferable job so that when I move I can look for a location near where I want to live.

In regards to this my mother keeps bugging me to do ones I’m either not interested in or not comfortable doing. Ones she keeps suggesting are warehouse jobs, school related and even Walmart. She even ‘suggested’ today that if I do get something that I should enroll in some online classes, something involving computers and coding which isn’t my thing at all, to get a BA but I’m just not interested in getting a bachelors degree nor do I want to waste 4 years of my life or get myself into student debt just to get a slightly better paycheck. There was even one suggestion she gave me a couple weeks back that just sounded like pure torture: work at a school Monday through Friday and do Barnes & Noble on the weekends. I can’t do a 7 day work week without breaks! 5 days is too much for me so a 4/3 split is much better than the 5/2 split in the long run unless the job is enjoyable enough to do a 5/2 split.

[Guest]

The last time ı posted anything on the forum was January 31st so it feels a little bit weird. 

The problem is my country on fire. Not a single fire. Last time ı checked there were 20 fires and all of theme started suddenly last week. There are so many speculations about the cause of these fires that spread all over the country and I cannot stand any of them. Some say it is because of terorists, others say the government started all this fires so as to start an internal war.  The only thing I know an area larger than the area of the İstanbul on the Asian continent burned in the south of Turkey and we all learned that Turkey government has only three fire fighting plane while our president have 8 private plane. 

I have stopped watching the news because of it is pissed me of. I was so angry first but now I am just sad that it is all I can do.

Edited August 7, 2021 by caranise

[Draginon he/him]

Power washed part of the driveway on Saturday and now I’m sunburned on the back of my neck, upper back and calves with a little on my forearms and feet. The sun wasn’t out much but it was enough. The burns on my legs were bad enough it stung badly when I had any pant leg on so I tried rolling up my pjs but it got annoying being all bunched up so I ended up just lounging in underwear since I had nothing else short to wear as loungewear.

[Hoid the Former Drifter he/him]

HUGS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[Spren of Kindness she/her]

I'm friends with a lot of people slightly older than me, which means that a lot of my friends are graduating high school and heading off to other places, and it's been making me feel really lonely.

And I'm worried about school because I've never had to spend multiple hours, five days a week, around hundreds of people.  Not about the classes or how well I'll do, but just... people.  I'm kind of nervous that it's going to drain me and I won't have as much energy to be with my friends.

[Draginon he/him]

Feeling really discouraged job hunting. I’ve been applying since May and I either get rejected or get no contact at all. I’ve only had the one call back a month ago and no follow up to set an interview date at all. It’s really getting me to the point that I’m trying to figure out what I’m doing wrong and why no one wants to hire me even though I meet their qualifications and for ones that require experience I apply for the entry level and still getting rejected.

I’m at the point where it might be better to look for jobs in other states and move. I’m even thinking of the Provo area if Dragonsteel is hiring.

[Marukka]

6 hours ago, Draginon said:

Feeling really discouraged job hunting. I’ve been applying since May and I either get rejected or get no contact at all. I’ve only had the one call back a month ago and no follow up to set an interview date at all. It’s really getting me to the point that I’m trying to figure out what I’m doing wrong and why no one wants to hire me even though I meet their qualifications and for ones that require experience I apply for the entry level and still getting rejected.

I’m at the point where it might be better to look for jobs in other states and move. I’m even thinking of the Provo area if Dragonsteel is hiring.

Yes, it can be really tough getting a new job. A friend of mine was jobhunting for several years before she found one out of sheer luck (being a regular customer in the shop and friendly with the sellers who were overworked and looking for someone with experience to help out).

Anyway, there really might be some things "wrong" with your applications. Years ago, I was sent to some training seminar for applications and there were a lot of little things I simply overlooked in style and content for my cv. I do not know if the requirements in this are the same in the US, but you might find something in the internet that could give you new insights. And you should also just ask when you're rejected. People can be nice and helpful when they don't feel pressured and really knowing what the factor was for not choosing you or why another person made a better impression would be really helpful. Otherwise, I don't know what esle to say other than keep your head up and don't lose hope. *hug*

[Draginon he/him]

On 8/18/2021 at 2:21 AM, Marukka said:

Yes, it can be really tough getting a new job. A friend of mine was jobhunting for several years before she found one out of sheer luck (being a regular customer in the shop and friendly with the sellers who were overworked and looking for someone with experience to help out).

Anyway, there really might be some things "wrong" with your applications. Years ago, I was sent to some training seminar for applications and there were a lot of little things I simply overlooked in style and content for my cv. I do not know if the requirements in this are the same in the US, but you might find something in the internet that could give you new insights. And you should also just ask when you're rejected. People can be nice and helpful when they don't feel pressured and really knowing what the factor was for not choosing you or why another person made a better impression would be really helpful. Otherwise, I don't know what esle to say other than keep your head up and don't lose hope. *hug*

That is kind of my problem, most job positions require work experience in the field you’re seeking, anywhere from 1-5 years, so I’m having to do the entry level jobs just to get the experience but I keep getting rejected, one rejected me in less than 24 hours with no explanation, or they are stuck in received limbo. I also have the problem of having the skills necessary for the job because of my current job, the problem being it wasn’t in the field I’m trying to move to and the only skills I need are being able to use a register and dealing with customers.

The part I’m worried is ‘wrong’ is the demographics. In the US so many companies prefer diversity at the expense of finding a good candidate, IE getting someone who is toxic or lazy just because they happen to be POC or disabled, to the point that they reject you because you’re too white, too male and not disabled enough to look diverse. It’s technically discrimination but it’s extremely hard to prove they rejected based on your demo.

One thing I’ve read that makes it hard to switch jobs is when you go from admin to working class. I’m in a grey area where that is concerned since my current job is at the admin office but it’s not an admin job and I’m trying to get into bookseller retail because my current job isn’t something I’ve ever been comfortable doing and the pace kills me so I’m trying for something I like and feel comfortable being at.

[Marukka]

12 minutes ago, Draginon said:

One thing I’ve read that makes it hard to switch jobs is when you go from admin to working class. I’m in a grey area where that is concerned since my current job is at the admin office but it’s not an admin job and I’m trying to get into bookseller retail because my current job isn’t something I’ve ever been comfortable doing and the pace kills me so I’m trying for something I like and feel comfortable being at.

First of all, that reason is a very good one but something you really should not mention in an application or an interview. It might be interpreted as "I'm looking for something easy to relax". You should probably give reasons such as "lifelong dream" or such. But I guess that's something you already do. Another thing that might be worth trying is offering to do some sort of unpaid test week. Sort of like an unpaid intership, you'll need to be able to afford that of course but this way, even if nothing comes of it, you'll be able to list it as job experience in the next application. And you might be able to just ask the intended boss if this would be something to he/she'd like to better see your qualifications.

Again there is not much I can do to help other than listening. The job market is tough, even more so in the US than in Germany where it's mostly easy to get testwork. I'm keeping my fingers crossed for you to get the job you wish for! 

[Draginon he/him]

On 8/19/2021 at 7:38 AM, Marukka said:

First of all, that reason is a very good one but something you really should not mention in an application or an interview. It might be interpreted as "I'm looking for something easy to relax". You should probably give reasons such as "lifelong dream" or such. But I guess that's something you already do. Another thing that might be worth trying is offering to do some sort of unpaid test week. Sort of like an unpaid intership, you'll need to be able to afford that of course but this way, even if nothing comes of it, you'll be able to list it as job experience in the next application. And you might be able to just ask the intended boss if this would be something to he/she'd like to better see your qualifications.

Again there is not much I can do to help other than listening. The job market is tough, even more so in the US than in Germany where it's mostly easy to get testwork. I'm keeping my fingers crossed for you to get the job you wish for! 

I’m not wording it that way when they ask for the reason you want to leave. I’m wording it simply as ‘Looking for better opportunities’ since that is a very neutral way to say it without getting into the topic of the place I’m trying to leave being toxic and practically a cult.

Most places just have HR contact you and I’ve only had one phone call and didn’t get a follow up to schedule an interview. I also can’t do it through email since individual stores don’t tend to have an email and only list a corporate/head office email.

I’m just doing the strategy right now of applying for all positions within an hour’s drive from me just on the off chance they want me.

[Draginon he/him]

In other news my dad is a moron. He’s only letting the people at his job that we have a cruise in November. He’s had since January to tell them that we’ve got one and he keeps putting it off. His excuse? “What if they cancel it because of COVID spikes?”

Now he’s going to have to figure out if they’ll assign him to be in the Orlando area so we can pick him up otherwise it’s going to be $314 to fly him round trip from O’Hare to Orlando. The final option is them not allowing this this ‘last minute’ vacation be approved meaning we’ll have to cancel his fare.

My question now is when the bloody storms was he planning on telling them? He’s had the whole year to tell them and now they’ll be wondering what kind of flake he is for ghosting them on this endeavor.

[Briar King]

1 year anniversary of Hurricane Laura today and what am I doing…moving things to shelter for Hurricane Ida. Just lovely.

[Spren of Kindness she/her]

1 hour ago, Briar King said:

1 year anniversary of Hurricane Laura today and what am I doing…moving things to shelter for Hurricane Ida. Just lovely.

Oh dear!  I hope you stay safe.

[Nathrangking he/him]

I'm trying to figure out what it is, but the older that I get the less that my art is able to act as a distraction or outlet when I get hit with one problem or another. I moved overseas a month ago into what I knew to be less than the most ideal situation. However, the nature of this predicament that I find myself in becomes worse by the day. It seems that rather important facts were simply left out of what was told to me by my landlord and my roommate. I came in and agreed to things with incomplete information. Now I am struggling to find a way out of the worst of it while minimizing the damage. In the past poetry would have allowed me to vent. The worry is blocking my attempts at that. It is consuming my focus to the point where my art is suffering or at the very least my ability to wield the written word effectively. If not for the shard I may not have an appropriate medium to vent. Thank you all for being you never stop!!

[+Hoiditthroughthegrapevine he/him]

On 9/25/2021 at 0:18 PM, Nathrangking said:

I'm trying to figure out what it is, but the older that I get the less that my art is able to act as a distraction or outlet when I get hit with one problem or another.

Poetry requires life experience, if you feel blocked take a walk. Then maybe sit on a bench and just experience. If no inspiration comes, that's OK too. Life is a series of moments. Give yourself the oppurtunity to experience them and enjoy them. You were born with a sensitive soul, but sensitivity implies sensation. Get out, the rest will follow.

I know this feeling, it's the coefficient of static friction. It's the ability of a body at rest to resist motion.

But the silver lining is that the coefficient of kinetic friction is always less. Things in motion tend to stay in motion. You got this brother. There is beauty yet undescribed, and the arc of a life is a discontinuous thing, but the arrow of time moves ever forward.

[Draginon he/him]

I had one prospective job search that looked like it would go through and it didn’t. I went during a job fair and was the only person who showed up in job interview clothes. Got called in for a follow up and they were very impressed with me during the interview and praised me for figuring out the coinage in the cashier ‘math’ test which meant I was a shoe in for the job.

Then I got a generic rejection email a couple days later. You know that generic one where they just can’t think of any reason not to hire you? That’s the one I got.

This was the only one I got where I actually got to go in person, everything else has been either email, their career website system or phone interview.

It’s kind of annoying getting all these rejections but every time I go to a store just as a customer hearing employees complaining about there not being enough people hired or they’re desperate for new hires or a few people quit that week putting more strain on them.

[Draginon he/him]

Vacation coming up next month and things are getting weird. We had booked activities on our cruise and now they’re canceling some for some reason. A couple are drink seminars and one was restaurant related but they’ve got the restaurant and bar crew so it can’t be a staffing issue and it can’t be a capacity issue since they only cancel if there’s too few but that only happens once you’re on board.

Going to call tomorrow to see what the deal is since this was stuff we booked only because we had $4000 worth of credit and this is going to make it harder to use all that credit by the end.

[Queen Elsa Steelheart she/her]

Been sick all week and it's been sore and exhausting. 

[+Slowswift]

13 hours ago, Queen Elsa Steelheart said:

Been sick all week and it's been sore and exhausting. 

This was my sister last month. It really sucks, doesn't it? Hope you feel better soon!

[Queen Elsa Steelheart she/her]

On 02/11/2021 at 2:21 PM, Slowswift said:

This was my sister last month. It really sucks, doesn't it? Hope you feel better soon!

Agreed. Thank you

[Briar King]

Been having some jaw movement past few years that has now left me with difficulty biting into food. Had to get braces at 41 years old 2 days ago and omg it SUCKS! Hurts to even have air move across my teeth. Big adjustments I’m having to make.

And the McRib is back and I want 5 or 6 of them and can’t. 
 

Im so hungry but even macaroni makes me scream right now.

[#1 Taln Fan he/him]

I have a severe cold and runny nose, and feel like crem. My room is filled with wadded tissues and I don’t feel like doing anything. I’m taking family pictures in two days, and I look like a zombie and my red is super red and raw. I’m 4K words behind on NaNoWriMo, and I’m stacked up on homework this weekend, and have 4 essays to work on. Plus I just lost my writing notebook, which had tons of notes on characters and worldbuilding. I wanna stay up late to write or do homework, but I’m already behind on sleep. Blargedorf. Just Blargedorf. 

Edited November 6, 2021 by #1_Taln_Fan

[Draginon he/him]

I’ll be so glad to leave this place in January. I only have two weeks left after this week ends but technically it’s two months because of how vacation time worked out.

Anyway what’s got me bothered now is this free crem pilot program these two storming people ordered and have no idea what they ordered and didn’t bother telling us how much is coming. We’re on the third or fourth shipment of this stuff and the company making this has no idea how to pack stuff up. A pallet could have 30 boxes but when it’s all unloaded it could’ve been 5-10 boxes instead. What they do is put five pamphlet booklets in a box that could fit 10 college textbooks snuggly and fill the rest with brown packing paper. So much is sent that it fills up the dumpster we have, which is a problem when it’s filled on Monday but trash isn’t picked up until Thursday.

In other news getting ready for vacation and my mother hasn’t even started packing yet. I’ve got about half the clothes I’m going to wear picked out but she hasn’t even started picking her clothes. She claimed to want to do that the weekend before so she wasn’t up til 3/4AM the night before like last time but instead of doing any packing she instead decided it was very important I get sandals from Skechers. I don’t even wear that brand because I don’t find it very comfortable and the sizes run small but because she loves that brand she’s determined to have me get stuff from there as well. I just know she’ll wait until the night before again because last night she just sat and watched her shows instead of getting something picked out.

[Draginon he/him]

I was helping my mother take the decorations off the year round Christmas trees we have and on the first one she had me bring the small table we had the tree on over to where we were undoing the trees and as she sets the tree on the table she bonks her head on the tree but decided to claim I set the table on her toe. Instead of being the bigger person and realizing her mistake she wanted me to once again give her a no hearted apology that I’m storming tired of giving so she turned the lights off and started watching tv while I took all the decorations off, packed the ones to keep and undid another tree all in the dark. She refused to even help sort through the decorations and see what she wanted to keep and help pack until I give her that no hearted apology which I won’t do.

The craziest thing about apologies with her is when I give a genuine, heart felt apology she doesn’t accept but when I give half hearted and no hearted she does and wonders why I ‘never’ apologize for anything. When you only want crem apologies why should I oblige at that point?

[Robin Sedai she/her]

I'm sorry you're having a bad day, Draginon. *hugs*