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    It is interesting yeah. And as a reminder: while I think this forum is better than many out there, it’s still fully visible to everyone with an internet connection, and that’s a good thing to keep in mind. While maybe less than some forums, there are unfortunately still some trolls and assholes that show up from time to time. They just get banned swiftly
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    Sounds like you’re spot on, this would be my guess as well. Good on you for being that self aware to know this about yourself. It’s kinda what I’ve mentioned to you before about self verification therapy. Your brain sees the depression as the norm and wants to find ways to cling on. But eventually your unconscious identity can and will change. You’re allowed to be happy, and it’s good to consciously affirm that fact At least in my mind, that kinda is how depression works in a way. Or at least, how the brain works if you believe self verification theory, which then applies to depression But psychologists disagree on a lot of stuff xD
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    I thought about stopping yall at a few points but I like to let yall have your fun
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    Heyyyy how's everyone doing
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    Yeah a few weeks might be rough, though if you do want to get back into it, you can make your daily max review limit lower on anki so you don’t have as many per day
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    I’ve moved this to Forum Games, since it’s more of a game than actual book discussion
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    Welcome to the Shard! Which is your favorite Brandon book, and what's your favorite non-Brandon book/series? I'm going to have to ask that you change it then, as well as your profile banner if that's AI as well. AI generated content of any kind is not allowed on the Shard per our Forum Policies.
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    You called? I've hung out with him in person and I can confirm that he is indeed funny and fun to be around xD But there's some bias in that if he's posting on here, there's a good chance it's moderation related. And if that's your only interactions with him, then he's bound to somewhat come across as scary, even tho he's not.
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    I’ll do us all a favor and stop it here @Fizz9
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    This is indeed the problem. While listening to others is good, and offering advice can be helpful, ultimately people do have to takes steps, as I've stressed before. If you just talk about your problems, that does tend to alleviate some of the emotional burden, but that won't fix the problems. Sometimes you can't change your environment and stressors. But you can always change how you respond to them. And the stressors you can change, try to change them. Preparation is also key. If you've been eating a healthy balanced diet, been getting quality 8 hours of sleep, and get exercise/sunlight, you'll be better equipped to handle things sent your way. While those aren't always feasible for everyone, it's often more feasible than you think if you prioritize them. All of those are proven to have mental health benefits. Even if it doesn't completely erase your mental health struggles, they'll at least lessen the symptoms somewhat, even if you don't always notice it. It's very easy to get trapped in the mindset of "This is just what I struggle with, it's a part of who I am". But it can be dangerous to think that way, as it's easy to give up trying to improve your mental health. There's tons and tons of resources out there, whether through therapy (the best one, since it's tailored to you), or through books or online. But eventually you have to take steps to seek them out and apply them. Oftentimes we actually know what we need to do, whether that's open up to IRL friends or prioritize sleep, but we end up not doing them anyway @Denissimo Also quick mod note, pls edit your previous post in the future instead of double posting (You can put stuff in spoiler boxes for length too if need be) (And another note, please remember to put SH stuff in a labeled spoiler box)
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    This is indeed 100% accurate
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    How's everyone doing this week? @Fizz9
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    Tehe back to 0, now someone else gets a chance @Fizz9
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    Friendly reminder to not get behind on flashcards lol. Had almost 300 cards today after skipping 3 days on my vocab
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    This is probably relevant for a lot of folks in here, so I wanted to share a book rec that I just finished today and really loved. It's called Revealing, by Leslie John, and it talks about the various ways that oversharing is underrated, though also ways to gauge when and how to share info, and when not to share. Also some great insights on disclosure dilemmas(when you can't figure out if you should share or not share something with someone). Also has a really good chapter on how sharing is used to form deep friendships and relationships. (Spoiler alert: It's essential) Very good book. https://www.amazon.com/Revealing-Underrated-Oversharing-Leslie-John/dp/0593545389
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    Journey before Destination, Radiant Well you see, summoning me doesn't matter, since I'm always watching. Summon or no summon, there is no stopping my stopping of the count
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    Dw, I’m here Figured I’d let yall get a new record, since it’s been a while @Fizz9
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    That is part of the point I'm afraid. Having a person IRL who knows and can help is gonna have way more potential benefit than someone online. Is there a strong reason you need the knife? If it's not super essential, better to lose a knife forever than to keep hurting yourself
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    Is there a specific reason why not? (If you’re willing to share) or is it just not wanting to tell parents and have that convo? (Which is very fair)
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    It’s something that’ll somewhat ease with time, but it’s kind of a natural part of the process of a romantic relationship. I’d say to just try to regulate those emotions and to share them with her/communicate (and that it’s not the fault of something she’s doing, if that’s the case). It shows you care, and it’s likely she feels some of the same
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    Not a great answer, but to some extent it's just gonna be hard, since opening up in person is hard. My recc is to think in the moment, "why am I here?". As I've said before, if you're not opening up fully in therapy, there's only so much they can do. So to some extent you kinda just have to go for it. One option is you can try writing it on a note or letter beforehand. I think that writing it out and then handing it to someone is often easier than formulating the words in the moment, so you could try that? Sorry if that isn't the most helpful advice
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    I can help with that! @Fizz9
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    Yep that's great, and it's important step in helping battle the self verification stuff. That's part of why in the field of mental health, we use specific language that emphasizes that. E.g. "Person with autism" rather than "Autistic person", or "Person with depression" rather than "depressed person". I'd say in some cases it's even better to say "Right now I feel sad/depressed", rather than "I have depression"/"I struggle with depression", because it emphasizes that you can improve and overcome those struggles
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    Not making stupid decisions is a great step, and harder than it sounds sometimes xD And not dragging people down with you is a good goal, as long as you're not accomplishing it by not telling any close friends about your thoughts and struggles. Real friends want to know if you're struggling, and we tend to overestimate how much we're actually burdening others Not saying this to invalidate your feelings at all (as someone who's only a few months into his 20's and is still developing), but a lot of mental health struggles are somewhat attributed to just being under 25 and not having a fully developed brain, which sucks xD Our brains are bad at figuring out healthy coping mechanisms, we constantly compare ourselves to peers and try to figure out our place in the world, and we're trying to figure out our identity. All while battling through school and academic stress, plus hormones. Tis a perfect recipe for mental struggles, unfortunately
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