Having a Bad Day?: Get 'yer Hugs here!!

[Erandeni he/him]

3 hours ago, Bearer of all agonies said:

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I’m so sorry that happened.  

Can I offer a hug? I’m here if you need me. 

Thank you, I really need one

that's very nice of you

[Bearer of all agonies he/him]

3 hours ago, Erandeni said:

Thank you, I really need one

that's very nice of you

*hugs*

[The Windrunner Supreme he/him]

On 11/20/2020 at 9:10 PM, Draginon said:

My dad had talked to me earlier and he talked to me about something that really hurt me inside and broke some of the trust we had.

Pretty much it was the discussion on me moving out because I’m to the point I can’t stay with my mother anymore and he talked about him and her moving to The Villages in Florida, it’s a retirement community north of Orlando, when they both retire and he wants me to move with them. His solution to getting me to live there is to use the “he can’t live on his own” excuse because he pretty much told me he believes I’m physically capable of living on my own but not mentally. You have no idea how much it hurt to hear him say that last bit to me. Now I wouldn’t mind living in Florida, Orlando itself is more my speed, but I’d prefer living back home in California than continuing living under their roof, which for him was more a master bedroom to myself when I would rather have my own place and not an attached living situation.

 

On 11/22/2020 at 3:00 AM, Erandeni said:

I am having a really bad week

So I have been talking for some time with this girl and we really connected and were really supportive with each other, I felt we were building something special, until this week.

We usually talked almost everyday, but she was having a rough time and didn't want to talk, so I just send her some messages wishing her good luck with her day and all that, just the typical stuff I do when someone I care about is not well. Well, then she answer me at the beginning of this week telling me that she had many people on her life and couldn't indulge all of us and she couldn't give all their relationships her all, then stopped talking to me for the whole week.

Then today she talked to me again, I told her I was hurt by how she told me that and leave, because it made me feel expendable to her, like she don't care for me really, and told her that I was sorry if I was a pest and that I understood if she wanted to talk less often with me.She told me everyone has expendable really and that she didn't know but she preferred that I stopped talking to her, that she will talk to me when she feels like it and need me.

The saddest thing is I was kinda expecting it, since she begun talking to a guy she likes she has been less entusiasthic with me, and now she does this while been all happy and fun and enthusiastic with him on social media makes me think that I simply wasn't worth enough to try and work to mantain this friendship, all her talk about how much she cherished our relationship and how important I was for her didn't matter at the end.

This has happended to me time and time again, I connect with someone and everything is great until i am feeling more confident and then they just meet someone better and stop caring about me, suddenly I am just a burden for them.

I am sorry for the rant, but I really needed to tell this and vent a little.

Im sorry to hear that

*hugs*

[Emi she/her]

I... I don’t know what to say. I have really REALLY rough moments in my life now, mostly because the quarantine and stuff. Like I couldn’t cry at all and now crying is something so basic... literally every day. Even now, I’m crying. I just feel like a total trash without almost any purpose to life, except the Shard and having hope that future will be better. I... just have no idea what to do and there is no one to make me happy now, when my cat is gone. 

[The Windrunner Supreme he/him]

13 minutes ago, EmiTheNinja said:

I... I don’t know what to say. I have really REALLY rough moments in my life now, mostly because the quarantine and stuff. Like I couldn’t cry at all and now crying is something so basic... literally every day. Even now, I’m crying. I just feel like a total trash without almost any purpose to life, except the Shard and having hope that future will be better. I... just have no idea what to do and there is no one to make me happy now, when my cat is gone. 

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Im so sorry to hear this. Hope you feel better 

[Zephrun’s Imperium they/he]

13 minutes ago, EmiTheNinja said:

I... I don’t know what to say. I have really REALLY rough moments in my life now, mostly because the quarantine and stuff. Like I couldn’t cry at all and now crying is something so basic... literally every day. Even now, I’m crying. I just feel like a total trash without almost any purpose to life, except the Shard and having hope that future will be better. I... just have no idea what to do and there is no one to make me happy now, when my cat is gone. 

Aww, honey, I've felt that. Honestly, I think everyone has felt that, quarantine sucks big time. All the *hugs* Emi, all of them.  I'm glad the Shard has been a good place for you, this really is a gem of a website and I'm so glad this thread exists. You'll get through this, my girl, we're all here for you. 

[The Windrunner Supreme he/him]

3 minutes ago, Shard of Thought said:

Aww, honey, I've felt that. Honestly, I think everyone has felt that, quarantine sucks big time. All the *hugs* Emi, all of them.  I'm glad the Shard has been a good place for you, this really is a gem of a website and I'm so glad this thread exists. You'll get through this, my girl, we're all here for you. 

Yep! You got this  

[Emi she/her]

6 minutes ago, The Windrunner Supreme said:

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Im so sorry to hear this. Hope you feel better 

Thank you!

[Orlion Blight he/him]

Here's a relevant graphic for folks feeling under the weather: it helps to identify what your problem is (mine is that these graphics always load sideways for me on the Shared, codsarnit!)

This was made in reference to Covid- created isolation, but I think can be adapted for broader scenarios. 

[Lunamor she/her]

47 minutes ago, EmiTheNinja said:

I... I don’t know what to say. I have really REALLY rough moments in my life now, mostly because the quarantine and stuff. Like I couldn’t cry at all and now crying is something so basic... literally every day. Even now, I’m crying. I just feel like a total trash without almost any purpose to life, except the Shard and having hope that future will be better. I... just have no idea what to do and there is no one to make me happy now, when my cat is gone. 

Emi, I know that feeling, and it absolutely stinks. Know that you brighten my day every time I see one of your posts. I hope that you feel better soon, and if you need someone to talk to you can always pm me.

[Mist she/her]

1 hour ago, EmiTheNinja said:

I... I don’t know what to say. I have really REALLY rough moments in my life now, mostly because the quarantine and stuff. Like I couldn’t cry at all and now crying is something so basic... literally every day. Even now, I’m crying. I just feel like a total trash without almost any purpose to life, except the Shard and having hope that future will be better. I... just have no idea what to do and there is no one to make me happy now, when my cat is gone. 

*hugs* I'm really sorry you're feeling this way. I'm always happy to listen. *hugs again*

[Emi she/her]

25 minutes ago, Lunamor said:

Emi, I know that feeling, and it absolutely stinks. Know that you brighten my day every time I see one of your posts. I hope that you feel better soon, and if you need someone to talk to you can always pm me.

Luna, you make me soooo much happier every time you post too. Like really, I’m smiling. I have no idea how the whole Shard is that good at enlightening our days... 

 

12 minutes ago, Mist said:

*hugs* I'm really sorry you're feeling this way. I'm always happy to listen. *hugs again*

Thank you! 

[Draginon he/him]

On 11/25/2020 at 0:21 PM, Ooklara said:

Here's a relevant graphic for folks feeling under the weather: it helps to identify what your problem is (mine is that these graphics always load sideways for me on the Shared, codsarnit!)

This was made in reference to Covid- created isolation, but I think can be adapted for broader scenarios. 

I think I’m straddling between Surviving and Struggling. I hit a bit of a mental wall yesterday at work and it took me a couple hours today to get something simple done. I don’t know if I can make it to the end of my work contract at this rate.

 

In minor badness some people on YouTube keep arguing with me on a genealogy related video for using the geographic term British Islands/The Islands, this was me just saying it in reference to my heritage of my family coming from England, Scotland and Ireland making me a child of the British Isles, and they are now acting like I’m putting Ireland down and all but saying I’m not worthy of my heritage for using a common geographic name that’s even defined by Merriam Webster to refer to those islands by that name.

[Rushu42 she/her]

*hugs* to everyone else in this thread.

My day hasn't been a terrible one, but I'm pretty swamped with homework at the moment, and I'm supposed to clean the kitchen today, not to mention study for a Quizbowl tournament on Saturday. I'm feeling a little overwhelmed - maybe posting on here will make me feel better.

[Orlion Blight he/him]

@Draginon Identity and its associated politics can be...a trip... add to that the looming spectre of British imperialism and I can see where such conversations, started in the spirit of rationality, can turn into another battleground against historic injustice. 

I guess what I'm trying to say is: do your best to not let those comments get you down. They are not really about your identity or genealogical history. They are an opportunity for them to engage in a conversation that you were not even having. 

[Condensation she/her]

Can I have a hug? I finished rereading Les Miserables today and the end always gets me.

[Nathrangking he/him]

7 hours ago, Ookla the Grammatical said:

Can I have a hug? I finished rereading Les Miserables today and the end always gets me.

*Hugs.* Javert and his one mindedness frustrates me to no end. He and Nale should go on a buddy trip across Roshar and chill.

[Condensation she/her]

5 hours ago, Nathrangking said:

*Hugs.* Javert and his one mindedness frustrates me to no end. He and Nale should go on a buddy trip across Roshar and chill.

It's so true, and then he can't change when he thinks he should so... yeah. Thanks.

[Lunamor she/her]

4 minutes ago, More Cynical Than Funny said:

Can I get a hug? I need one.

*hugs*

I don’t know what you are going through, but I do know that you are an incredible person and are strong enough to get through whatever it is.

[Zephrun’s Imperium they/he]

19 minutes ago, More Cynical Than Funny said:

Can I get a hug? I need one. I'm having a bad mental health day. Like a really bad one.

[Nathrangking he/him]

2 hours ago, More Cynical Than Funny said:

Can I get a hug? I need one. I'm having a bad mental health day. Like a really bad one.

*Hugs.* We are here for you. As @Ookla the Yay said you are strong enough to overcome anything that comes your way.

[The Windrunner Supreme he/him]

Hugs all around

[+Slowswift]

*mails hugbot*

[Nathrangking he/him]

It has been 5 minutes and so I'm back to vent. I just had one of the singularly most stressful moments of my professional career. In my line of work I help college students of many backgrounds improve their writing. This means that there are times when care and patience a needed because for some the English language is unfamiliar. I do my best to move slowly and clearly through the work at hand so that the students will get the maximum benefit from the sessions. I am always respectful of the students and never lose my temper with them. Any frustration that I may feel is never vented at the students. I have never been accused of being anything other than professional. This afternoon a student for whom English was a second language came for help and well things did not go well. There was a time limit on the session as I had another an hour after this one (that is the standard length of a session.) The student's paper required work so we went through it step by step. However, the more that I explained the more frustrated and confused the student became. I calmly kept reexplaining what I was saying to ensure that there was no misunderstanding. No matter what I said the student insisted that this is what they had done. I never lost my temper. I stayed calm and collected throughout despite my rising annoyance. Things boiled over when the student lost their temper at me. They accused me of not being professional and not caring about their work. I was almost speechless as I have never been called to task like that ever!! I didn't know what to say. Time ran out and I even gave them more to try and explain things again, but it was hopeless. I ended up apologizing for not being helpful and then I ended the session. I'm just so drained. There is little more that I could have done, but the whole thing rattled me.

Now ya'll can go back to your regularly scheduled programming which I rudely interrupted.

[Zephrun’s Imperium they/he]

Oh, @Nathrangking that sounds so frustrating!  Good on you for not getting frustrated, that's impressive. I think you did the best you could have done. *hugs*