The Official Thread of Relationships

[PantsForSquares he/him]

Okay, confession time.

So I'm normally a fairly calm person, but I've met someone recently (about a month and change ago, really) who I really like. I've been sort of biding my time to ask her out, just to make sure that I'm not being deceived by first impressions.

Here's where things get good. The more time I spend around her, the more I realize how much we have in common, and how much I really enjoy being around her. I'm not normally the sort of person to get sentimental (I've had bad experiences in the past where that's backfired horribly), so finding someone like her is amazing.

I'm supposed to meet up with her on Sunday to get some studying done, and I'm probably going to ask her out to lunch/dinner then.

But holy carp, am I nervous.

[Darkness Ascendant he/him]

12 minutes ago, PantsForSquares said:

Okay, confession time.

So I'm normally a fairly calm person, but I've met someone recently (about a month and change ago, really) who I really like. I've been sort of biding my time to ask her out, just to make sure that I'm not being deceived by first impressions.

Here's where things get good. The more time I spend around her, the more I realize how much we have in common, and how much I really enjoy being around her. I'm not normally the sort of person to get sentimental (I've had bad experiences in the past where that's backfired horribly), so finding someone like her is amazing.

I'm supposed to meet up with her on Sunday to get some studying done, and I'm probably going to ask her out to lunch/dinner then.

But holy carp, am I nervous.

Heeey!! That's great! Glad to see you found someone similar to you. 

Your nervous. That's to be expected.But I do find that eating holy carp can ease your nerves a little bit, nice choice.

[Delightful]

13 hours ago, PantsForSquares said:

Okay, confession time.

So I'm normally a fairly calm person, but I've met someone recently (about a month and change ago, really) who I really like. I've been sort of biding my time to ask her out, just to make sure that I'm not being deceived by first impressions.

Here's where things get good. The more time I spend around her, the more I realize how much we have in common, and how much I really enjoy being around her. I'm not normally the sort of person to get sentimental (I've had bad experiences in the past where that's backfired horribly), so finding someone like her is amazing.

I'm supposed to meet up with her on Sunday to get some studying done, and I'm probably going to ask her out to lunch/dinner then.

But holy carp, am I nervous.

Nerves are totally normal. Deep breaths. Good luck!  

[Mistbornwithakitty she/her]

19 hours ago, PantsForSquares said:

Okay, confession time.

So I'm normally a fairly calm person, but I've met someone recently (about a month and change ago, really) who I really like. I've been sort of biding my time to ask her out, just to make sure that I'm not being deceived by first impressions.

Here's where things get good. The more time I spend around her, the more I realize how much we have in common, and how much I really enjoy being around her. I'm not normally the sort of person to get sentimental (I've had bad experiences in the past where that's backfired horribly), so finding someone like her is amazing.

I'm supposed to meet up with her on Sunday to get some studying done, and I'm probably going to ask her out to lunch/dinner then.

But holy carp, am I nervous.

You can do it!    I'm sure it will turn out great. 

As for nervousness, I always ask myself what I'm so afraid of.  What's the worst she can say?  If she says no, then it's her loss. ;)  Either that or I take my mind off things with a comfort book (kind of like comfort food, but better).  Best of luck to you!!  

[PantsForSquares he/him]

So while I'm still set on asking her out, I've decided to postpone it by about a week. It's not that things are weird, but times might coincide better if I ask her out next week.

[Darkness Ascendant he/him]

14 hours ago, PantsForSquares said:

So while I'm still set on asking her out, I've decided to postpone it by about a week. It's not that things are weird, but times might coincide better if I ask her out next week.

Hmm. As a hard-earned Procrastinator, something smells fishy.

[Mestiv he/him]

1 hour ago, Dankness Ascendant said:

Hmm. As a hard-earned Procrastinator, something smells fishy.

I agree, it looks like unnecessary delay. Ask her out today for a date that will take place on a week or so if you're going to have more time then. Ask her fast, or the fear of asking will only grow!

[PantsForSquares he/him]

6 hours ago, Mestiv said:

I agree, it looks like unnecessary delay. Ask her out today for a date that will take place on a week or so if you're going to have more time then. Ask her fast, or the fear of asking will only grow!

Well, it's not that I'm afraid of asking her, it's just that the next few days, as well as the first part of the upcoming week are going to be pretty stressful for her, so I don't want to put her under any more pressure, nor do I want to distract her from exams and other important matters. I'll probably ask her out on Friday for a date after Wednesday next week.

[Darkness Ascendant he/him]

15 hours ago, PantsForSquares said:

Well, it's not that I'm afraid of asking her, it's just that the next few days, as well as the first part of the upcoming week are going to be pretty stressful for her, so I don't want to put her under any more pressure, nor do I want to distract her from exams and other important matters. I'll probably ask her out on Friday for a date after Wednesday next week.

Eh, fair enough. As long as you do ask her out. We'll come around to ask next friday....

[marsoupial they/them]

We could all escort you. Just give us a call and pay for our plane tickets and we can all be your wingmen-wingwomen-wingpersons.

[PantsForSquares he/him]

6 hours ago, bleeder said:

We could all escort you. Just give us a call and pay for our plane tickets and we can all be your wingmen-wingwomen-wingpersons.

Nah, it's cool. I'm definitely going to have asked her out by next Friday.

[marsoupial they/them]

1 hour ago, Cognizantastic said:

On a day when I thought like a sappy dork, I described a crush like hot chocolate on a cold day. It fills the heart and mind with warmth, bringing nigh-unmatched depths of euphoria to the lovestruck.

If this crush is hot chocolate, it burnt the tongue of my soul.

That last metaphor didn’t make sense. How annoying.

JUST LIKE THIS SPARKING CRUSH.

Man, you got it rough. Wanna tell more? Maybe venting will help. 

[marsoupial they/them]

11 minutes ago, Cognizantastic said:

Oh, she's a lovely human being. That's not just something I'm saying because of the dopamine-brew; I've been close friends with her for a while.

The problem is the distraction, and how I feel like it was so much easier and simpler when I only wanted to be her friend. Like today we were talking politics in the library after school, them when we turned to our laptops and started working, I couldn't focus on mock trial because I was distracted. I kept on thinking about how cute her style was -- she was wearing the collar of her shirt over this nice white sweater, and I thought that was adorable. Not staring or anything... just something I noticed, and kept thinking about as I tried to type.

I kind of feel bubbly inside when I hear her laugh or she smiles at something I do or say. 

And I don't like it. On an intellectual level, I just want to be her friend and focus on other things, so this is very vexing to me.

Emotions are weird, man. 

[Delightful]

On 19/10/2016 at 4:15 PM, bleeder said:

We could all escort you. Just give us a call and pay for our plane tickets and we can all be your wingmen-wingwomen-wingpersons.

Wingspren! That's a thing, right?  

[marsoupial they/them]

6 hours ago, Delightful said:

Wingspren! That's a thing, right?  

If it isn't, it should be...

[PantsForSquares he/him]

So I finally decided to ask her out. She said she wasn't sure what her schedule was like next week, and that she'd get back to me on it.

And now I just feel like I monumentally screwed up.

Edit: Honestly, I have faith in her actually getting back to me, but I'm still really, really nervous because of it. Advice?

Edited October 21, 2016 by PantsForSquares

[marsoupial they/them]

7 hours ago, PantsForSquares said:

So I finally decided to ask her out. She said she wasn't sure what her schedule was like next week, and that she'd get back to me on it.

And now I just feel like I monumentally screwed up.

Edit: Honestly, I have faith in her actually getting back to me, but I'm still really, really nervous because of it. Advice?

Give it time, my man. People are fickle. Don't provoke her to tell you. Patience is a virtue, no matter how inconvenient. 

[Darkness Ascendant he/him]

12 hours ago, PantsForSquares said:

So I finally decided to ask her out. She said she wasn't sure what her schedule was like next week, and that she'd get back to me on it.

And now I just feel like I monumentally screwed up.

Edit: Honestly, I have faith in her actually getting back to me, but I'm still really, really nervous because of it. Advice?

That was unexpected, but I guess it was smart on her part, to give some time to the thought (Not implying anything on your part). Dw about it, you didn't screw up.

4 hours ago, bleeder said:

Patience is a virtue

Seldom in a woman

Never in a man XD (Besides, that chic who said that was seriously biased)

[Delightful]

21 hours ago, PantsForSquares said:

So I finally decided to ask her out. She said she wasn't sure what her schedule was like next week, and that she'd get back to me on it.

And now I just feel like I monumentally screwed up.

Edit: Honestly, I have faith in her actually getting back to me, but I'm still really, really nervous because of it. Advice?

Take some deep breaths and give her time to get back to you. You said she was busy, she says she's busy, chances are she's busy. Better she suggests a time that works rather than you guys like rush around because she has to be somewhere in half an hour. 

Plus, she's going out of her way to find time for you. She could have said "I'm busy nope nope" but she said "I'm busy let's find time". 

So, relax as much as you can. It'll be alright. 

Edited October 22, 2016 by Delightful

[PantsForSquares he/him]

So it turns out I was freaking out over nothing. While I haven't brought up the subject of when we're having the first date, I did spend about forty minutes texting back and forth - which is something that would have just ended awkwardly if she had decided to silently decline.

[PantsForSquares he/him]

So, this is awkward.

I'm 90% sure she forgot about getting back to me. I don't particularly blame her, given that she's got a bunch of stuff going on today, but I'll ask her about it.

[Delightful]

5 hours ago, PantsForSquares said:

So, this is awkward.

I'm 90% sure she forgot about getting back to me. I don't particularly blame her, given that she's got a bunch of stuff going on today, but I'll ask her about it.

See if you can find a way of bringing it up that subtler than "hey did you forget" and if she says "omg I forgot" you say "oh that's ok, whenever you have time no hurry". 

 

[marsoupial they/them]

I think I'm falling for one of my close friends. 

I've known her for about 6 years. She's funny, and smart, and doesn't care what people think about her. In fact, she only really cares about three things: the Potterverse, the current state of her favorite bands (she was never the same after the MCR breakup), and her friends. 

She's a lot like me, and has seen some crem.

Basically, if any of you have ever read/seen (I personally prefer the book) Chbosky's The Perks of Being a Wallflower, she's Sam. In all aspects.

Apparently, according to my best friend, there is something ("sexual tension", I believe is how he put it) between she and I. No matter how much I deny it, I can't stop thinking about her, and about she and I together. 

I'm not sure whether or not to talk to her about it. I'm not sure whether I want to risk our friendship for something like this. 

I decided to just wait and see what happens, but it's kind of been eating away at me. 

Any advice? Please?

[Darkness Ascendant he/him]

5 hours ago, bleeder said:

Any advice? Please?

Hmmm

Hmmmmmmm

Hmmmmmmmmm

Do you really want to be in a relationship right now? Do you think you'll be able to keep up those responsibilities as well as other aspects. How well do you think she knows you? 

I suggest waiting, but seeing as it's

5 hours ago, bleeder said:

kind of been eating away at me. 

Then maybe you should go for it, ask her how she feels in regards to you. If you two really respect each other, then your friendship shouldn't be in turmoil if she turns you down. Besides, we wouldn't want you regretting not asking her later, now do we?

[Mistbornwithakitty she/her]

On ‎10‎/‎29‎/‎2016 at 10:14 PM, bleeder said:

I think I'm falling for one of my close friends. 

I've known her for about 6 years. She's funny, and smart, and doesn't care what people think about her. In fact, she only really cares about three things: the Potterverse, the current state of her favorite bands (she was never the same after the MCR breakup), and her friends. 

She's a lot like me, and has seen some crem.

Basically, if any of you have ever read/seen (I personally prefer the book) Chbosky's The Perks of Being a Wallflower, she's Sam. In all aspects.

Apparently, according to my best friend, there is something ("sexual tension", I believe is how he put it) between she and I. No matter how much I deny it, I can't stop thinking about her, and about she and I together. 

I'm not sure whether or not to talk to her about it. I'm not sure whether I want to risk our friendship for something like this. 

I decided to just wait and see what happens, but it's kind of been eating away at me. 

Any advice? Please?

Oh boy, the friendzone.  My old nemesis.  XD 

This was me for four years.  I was crushing on my best guy friend who I'd known since I was eleven.  So I relate man, I really do.  It can be torture, but it can also be a good thing.

It all depends on what you want to do.  If you want to wait, then I can give you pep talks and advice on that (because that's what I did for four years). If you want to go for it, then I can give you advice on that (because that's what I did, in the end). 

I personally waited until I was out of highschool until I did anything.  It's better that way, in my opinion (also, he was three years older than me. lol).  But having a crush on your best friend is in no way an anomaly or bad, you just have to be carful how you deal with it.

Let me know and I wish you the best!