The Official Thread of Relationships

[Kaymyth she/her]

9 hours ago, bleeder said:

Elementary school is Kindergarten through 5th 

Middle school is 6th through 8th 

High school is 9th through 12th (though most people say freshman, sophomore, junior, senior) 

Though it can vary. My school put 6th in elementary, and had 7th & 8th as junior high.  Some other schools will put 7-9 in junior high or middle school, and only have a 3-year high school.  There is no perfect standardization.

[Erunion he/him]

 

42 minutes ago, Kaymyth said:

Though it can vary. My school put 6th in elementary, and had 7th & 8th as junior high.  Some other schools will put 7-9 in junior high or middle school, and only have a 3-year high school.  There is no perfect standardization.

Similar in BC, Canada  

You get junior high (7-8 or 7-9), or you just go from elementary (k-7) to high school (8-12). 

I've never heard any locals calling it 'freshman - sophomore - junior - senior'. Just grades 8, 9, 10, 11, and 12. 

 

Sometimes we use freshman to refer to first year university students, but often we'll just call 'em first years. 

I've never heard of a local calling any university or college age people sophomore, junior or senior. The only one that ever gets used is freshman. 

[Quiver he/him]

... So despite saying that I've been considering online dating, I haven't really been able to summon the courage to take the plunge into the dating pool.

Staying on dry, single island forever isn't so bad, right...?

[Kaymyth she/her]

4 minutes ago, Quiver said:

... So despite saying that I've been considering online dating, I haven't really been able to summon the courage to take the plunge into the dating pool.

Staying on dry, single island forever isn't so bad, right...?

Go sign up!  DO EET!

(I wouldn't have been happy staying there. I enjoy...er...certain, um, things...too much.)

[Quiver he/him]

Just now, Kaymyth said:

Go sign up!  DO EET!

(I wouldn't have been happy staying there. I enjoy...er...certain, um, things...too much.)

But! But!

I have issues regarding my appearance and my personality. I just...can't see anyone putting up with me?

[Zathoth]

I quite like the single island, but I never liked water, so dont listen to me.

Oh hey that works both in the literal sense and the metaphorical sense, cool.

[TwiLyghtSansSparkles she/her]

6 minutes ago, Quiver said:

But! But!

I have issues regarding my appearance and my personality. I just...can't see anyone putting up with me?

Make a profile, put yourself out there, and prove yourself wrong! 

[Silverblade5 he/him]

7 minutes ago, Quiver said:

But! But!

I have issues regarding my appearance and my personality. I just...can't see anyone putting up with me?

Quiver, not only have we been putting up with you for over two years, we've been enjoying you. You'll be fine.

[Kaymyth she/her]

7 minutes ago, Quiver said:

But! But!

I have issues regarding my appearance and my personality. I just...can't see anyone putting up with me?

You mean you don't look exactly like Nightmare Moon? 

Seriously, man, appearance is an entirely subjective thing. I think that Brad Pitt is one of the ugliest human beings to ever walk the planet.

I know you're worried about the OCD. But you are also a brilliant nerd-person, and there is some geek girl out there who will decide that you're the best thing ever, and she will be kind and understanding about your mental health issues. But you're never going to find her if you don't look.

[Silverblade5 he/him]

18 minutes ago, Quiver said:

But! But!

I have issues regarding my appearance and my personality. I just...can't see anyone putting up with me?

 

5 minutes ago, Kaymyth said:

You mean you don't look exactly like Nightmare Moon? 

Seriously, man, appearance is an entirely subjective thing. I think that Brad Pitt is one of the ugliest human beings to ever walk the planet.

I know you're worried about the OCD. But you are also a brilliant nerd-person, and there is some geek girl out there who will decide that you're the best thing ever, and she will be kind and understanding about your mental health issues. But you're never going to find her if you don't look.

Plus, by not looking, you're also denying whoever it is a very enjoyable personality that might belong to the only one who ever gets her, making it a double tragedy if you don't look. By looking, not only are you helping yourself, you're helping someone else as well.

[Mistbornwithakitty she/her]

Ok, so get this.  Many socially awkward people gets the idea the they are unlovable in a romantic way because of their different looks/ unique personality.  They count these things as a failing instead of a plus.  I don't know where we got these ideas, why we seem to cling to them so, or tell ourselves it's truth.  Because it's not.   It is one of the biggest lies you can believe.  

Your looks are not important.  It's what inside that counts.  I know that's like the cheesiest line ever, but it's true.  You probably feel pressured to look a certain way.  But I'll let you in on a secret.....hardly anybody looks like this model of beauty we all seem to be chasing.  We all see faults in our appearance.   I know this because I'm not the most "normal" looking gal myself.  So take comfort in that you are in no way alone in this feeling, and that you should count yourself as handsome in your own unique way.  You are you, there's no changing that; might as well love yourself, ya know?  The right girl won't care two figs how attractive you are compared to the next guy.  She will always choose you.

As for your personality, everybody has failings.  You have 'em, your future girl's going to have them, and Lord knows I have my fair share.   All we can do/ask is to be constantly working toward being a better version of ourselves.  Never giving up.  The right girl will understand that and accept you for who you are.  She will see the best in you and help you conquer your demons at the same time. 

My boyfriend is a socially awkward geek and so am I (as you can see. lol).  We both don't look like we marched off a cat walk and have our fair share of faults, but we still seem to like each other. XD  My point is, it's totally possible @Quiver.  You don't even have to belong on a dating site to find her.  I happen to believe that love finds people.  She'll come!

Sorry if this response was way more than what you asked for.  XD  I happened to scroll by this and thought I'd comment.  Kind of got out of hand.  Anyhow....best of luck!!  I know you'll find her. 

  

Edited September 30, 2016 by Mistbornwithakitty

[Eccentric Hero he/him]

On 9/29/2016 at 7:23 AM, Darkness Ascendant said:

Yeah, I'm not sure hat years middle school gores (lol auto correct)for. But I never bothered getting a gf during primary and a but of secondary, a littleness because of religion, but mostly because everyone always made such a big deal about it. For example, in Yr 6, a girl I know went into "depression"(she knows not that word!) because her bf broke up with her :/ Imma wait till university before I start any relationship.

i swear my iPad as Teresa because I've had to fix up so many random autocorrects? (Teresa=terets)

I am in uni and single. It's easy for me, being 2 years younger than everyone else. Also, I am surrounded by some Muslim friends and my twin. And I'm very shy around new people. So I should easily become a wizard.

Also, who needs a gf, when you have 17thShard?

[Silverblade5 he/him]

32 minutes ago, Eccentric Hero said:

I am in uni and single. It's easy for me, being 2 years younger than everyone else. Also, I am surrounded by some Muslim friends and my twin. And I'm very shy around new people. So I should easily become a wizard.

Also, who needs a gf, when you have 17thShard?

17th Shard is universal gf/bg

Edited October 1, 2016 by Silverblade5

[Mestiv he/him]

2 hours ago, Eccentric Hero said:

Also, who needs a gf, when you have 17thShard?

 

2 hours ago, Silverblade5 said:

17th Shard is universal gf/bg

Well, there are certain activities that you won't be able to do with the Shard

[TwiLyghtSansSparkles she/her]

8 minutes ago, Mestiv said:

 

Well, there are certain activities that you won't be able to do with the Shard

I know, right? Ask the Shard to run to the grocery store for some last-minute dinner ingredient, and it'll just sit there all lazy and stuff.

[PantsForSquares he/him]

3 hours ago, Eccentric Hero said:

I am in uni and single. It's easy for me, being 2 years younger than everyone else. Also, I am surrounded by some Muslim friends and my twin. And I'm very shy around new people. So I should easily become a wizard.

Also, who needs a gf, when you have 17thShard?

I'm three years older than the rest of my peers, and it's a bit strange being older than everyone else. It's hella easy being single, but I'm trying to change that. It's a bit weird, though, how my three year gap makes me view a lot of things differently than people straight out of high school.

[Arraenae]

I don't know if this is a relationship problem, but I think this is the most-related thread.

Today, Person A told me that Person B snapchatted them a video of Person C putting freshmen into a trash can. Person A wasn't able to to record the video in any way. They don't know if anybody besides Person B has seen the video, and feel like they have no way to report the incident because they have no evidence beyond their own word.

Person C is the captain of the JV football team, and the freshman are also on the football team. This isn't the only incident -- last year someone on the football team was reported that they were being bullied, and afterwords, they were just treated worse by their teammates. I don't think that's the only other incident either.

I think Person C should at least be booted from their position as captain. The problem is, I don't think a second-hand report of something someone else saw will be very effective. Thoughts?

[Silverblade5 he/him]

9 minutes ago, Arraenae said:

I don't know if this is a relationship problem, but I think this is the most-related thread.

Today, Person A told me that Person B snapchatted them a video of Person C putting freshmen into a trash can. Person A wasn't able to to record the video in any way. They don't know if anybody besides Person B has seen the video, and feel like they have no way to report the incident because they have no evidence beyond their own word.

Person C is the captain of the JV football team, and the freshman are also on the football team. This isn't the only incident -- last year someone on the football team was reported that they were being bullied, and afterwords, they were just treated worse by their teammates. I don't think that's the only other incident either.

I think Person C should at least be booted from their position as captain. The problem is, I don't think a second-hand report of something someone else saw will be very effective. Thoughts?

Do you know what the location of said can is?

[Arraenae]

4 minutes ago, Silverblade5 said:

Do you know what the location of said can is?

No. I don't know if it was in school or outside of it.

[marsoupial they/them]

9 hours ago, Arraenae said:

No. I don't know if it was in school or outside of it.

Have you asked Person C about the incident?

[Delightful]

Can you contact the freshmen?

[Arraenae]

I don't know who the freshman are or who Person B is, though I might be able to get that from Person A. I might be able to recognize Person C, but I'm not so sure about being able to contact them.

[Silverblade5 he/him]

4 hours ago, Arraenae said:

I don't know who the freshman are or who Person B is, though I might be able to get that from Person A. I might be able to recognize Person C, but I'm not so sure about being able to contact them.

If we can figure out the location of the incident, that greatly improves the chances of finding a camera near the area. It would also improve the credibility of a report. Have you tried leaving an anonymous tip with a relevant counselor or administrator?

[marsoupial they/them]

39 minutes ago, Silverblade5 said:

If we can figure out the location of the incident, that greatly improves the chances of finding a camera near the area. It would also improve the credibility of a report. Have you tried leaving an anonymous tip with a relevant counselor or administrator?

I am now headcanoning a theory that Silverblade is an international spy sent to watch us all. 

[Arraenae]

41 minutes ago, Silverblade5 said:

If we can figure out the location of the incident, that greatly improves the chances of finding a camera near the area. It would also improve the credibility of a report. Have you tried leaving an anonymous tip with a relevant counselor or administrator?

Not yet. Person A is one of my classes, so I have easy access to them to ask for more info, if they still remember/are willing to tell me. I also might be able to learn who Person B was -- they already told me but I forgot.

Depending on how Snapchat works, the original video might still be on the original recorder's phone. That's an obvious piece of evidence. I've also found an online roster of the JV team (don't know how accurate it is, though) that shows who on the team is a freshman.

The online roster has a sophomore with a name that might be of Person C, but I'm not sure because it doesn't have a photo. The online roster of last year also had someone with the same first name, but different last name. Again, no photo. If I send in an anonymous tip, it has to be in writing and needs to have the right name on it. Shouldn't be too hard to find the spelling of Person C's name if I ask at school, though.