The Official Thread of Relationships

[Delightful]

4 hours ago, Cognizantastic said:

Hmm. That definitely seems applicable. I'll try that!

Thanks, Delightful. You offer excellent advice, as always.  

 

4 hours ago, bleeder said:

Ah.

Follow Del's advice, then. She's very wise. 

[Darkness Ascendant he/him]

Can I be wise too?

[marsoupial they/them]

Just now, Darkness Ascendant said:

Can I be wise too?

If you truly are wise, then you already know the answer to that question.

[Darkness Ascendant he/him]

4 minutes ago, bleeder said:

If you truly are wise, then you already know the answer to that question.

Yay! I'm wise, and also feeling exceedingly childish today!

[Mark IV he/him]

13 hours ago, Delightful said:

Just let it be?

ive been trying this meditation thing, one of the ideas is if you violently try force yourself to think of something else, it's unlikely to work. If you acknowledge  a thought and kind of watch it from a distance, it'll just be there and it'll stop bothering you. COuld the same principle work Here?

I should probably try that sometime, because discussing it with my crush (who also happened to be my good friend) sort of freaked him out. So, yeah, talking to the person isn't always an option. (And this happened twice with two different people.)  

But yeah, I think I up already have experienced this on some level. Delightful, do you refer to observing the thought coldly from a distance or just seeing how you behave and studying that, or something else? Because watch it from a distance has a few different interpretaions for me. 

[Darkness Ascendant he/him]

6 hours ago, Mark IV said:

I should probably try that sometime, because discussing it with my crush (who also happened to be my good friend) sort of freaked him out. So, yeah, talking to the person isn't always an option. (And this happened twice with two different people.)  

But yeah, I think I up already have experienced this on some level. Delightful, do you refer to observing the thought coldly from a distance or just seeing how you behave and studying that, or something else? Because watch it from a distance has a few different interpretaions for me. 

I would say watching impassively as an interested third party, no coldness needed. Seeing how you behave and studying it would make sense.

[Mark IV he/him]

In that case, mission accomplished.

[Orlion Blight he/him]

Random Orlion commentary: don't become risk averse. Taking risks is how you grow with new experiences and develop. Being smart about when to take risks is not the same as not taking any risks at all.

[Mistrunner]

59 minutes ago, Orlion Determined said:

Random Orlion commentary: don't become risk averse. Taking risks is how you grow with new experiences and develop. Being smart about when to take risks is not the same as not taking any risks at all.

Thanks, Orlion! I will eat that extra muffin.

[Orlion Blight he/him]

Just now, Mistrunner said:

Thanks, Orlion! I will eat that extra muffin.

See? Calculated risk is great! 

[Darkness Ascendant he/him]

I have a friend who really want's a gf but he's way to terrified to approach the girls he likes.

To cheer him up we say

"Don't worry _____ , at least when you do get  girlfriend, your relationship will last longer than Taylor Swift's"

[Assassin in Burgundy he/him]

Ok, I've successfully asked out the Navani of middle school, who I've liked since 2nd grade. The only reason I considered it is because one of my friends said she likes me back and urged me to do it.

What do I do. 

What do I do. 

[Darkness Ascendant he/him]

Just now, Assassin in Burgundy said:

Ok, I've successfully asked out the Navani of middle school, who I've liked since 2nd grade. The only reason I considered it is because one of my friends said she likes me back and urged me to do it.

What do I do. 

What do I do. 

What do u mean "what do I do", you've asked her out. That's the hard part over. Did she respond (Well)?

[Mestiv he/him]

@Assassin in Burgundy you go on a date as Darkness said, the hardest part is over, now just spend some good time together

[Assassin in Burgundy he/him]

It's like 9 where I live, so I think a date right now is out of question. However, I got her talking about her favorite books via texting, and hopefully I can get her into Brandon so we have something easy to talk about. 

[Delightful]

7 minutes ago, Assassin in Burgundy said:

It's like 9 where I live, so I think a date right now is out of question. However, I got her talking about her favorite books via texting, and hopefully I can get her into Brandon so we have something easy to talk about. 

Ok. You obviously like each other. What do you have in common? What can you talk about? What's something fun you can do together?

btw I love your description 'the navani of middle school'. 

[Assassin in Burgundy he/him]

5 minutes ago, Delightful said:

Ok. You obviously like each other. What do you have in common? What can you talk about? What's something fun you can do together?

btw I love your description 'the navani of middle school'. 

Here's the thing. We don't have very much in common as of now that I know of. I'm thinking of taking her to Starbucks later this week, though. 

Edited September 27, 2016 by Assassin in Burgundy

[Orlion Blight he/him]

Common things can be found to talk about...movies, sports, weather, means to communicate with the Deep Ones. Don't worry about that. Try to relax as much as you can (You will probably still be a little nervous, and that is fine!) And in conversation, if she is talkative, engage her by asking questions about what she is talking about.

And remember: relationships just happen. Don't stress, dawg! If there is something to click it will click.

[marsoupial they/them]

7 hours ago, Assassin in Burgundy said:

Ok, I've successfully asked out the Navani of middle school, who I've liked since 2nd grade. The only reason I considered it is because one of my friends said she likes me back and urged me to do it.

What do I do. 

What do I do. 

Well, if she's Navani, let's hope you're Dalinar and not Gavilar!

But, seriously, though. 

If she says yes, the best thing to do is start small. Ask her to go out for coffee, or to a movie if you have mutual interests. Don't force things to happen that won't, because you'll just make things uncomfortable. 

And, no offense, AiB, you're a great dude. But try not to think too much about middle school relationships. High school is when you really have the freedom to do and go where you please. 

Just take your time. Let it happen on its own.

[PantsForSquares he/him]

42 minutes ago, bleeder said:

And, no offense, AiB, you're a great dude. But try not to think too much about middle school relationships. High school is when you really have the freedom to do and go where you please. 

Just take your time. Let it happen on its own.

It's even better in college. High school still requires you to be at school during a given time, and college has a bigger pond, so to speak.

I'd be wary about getting into a relationship in middle school. High school is fine, but none of the couples I know have been dating since middle school. A couple of them met in high school, but they either didn't start a relationship then, or they have a really strong relationship.

You've got a lot of time to carefully do this, and relationships are a fickle thing.

[Delightful]

9 minutes ago, PantsForSquares said:

It's even better in college. High school still requires you to be at school during a given time, and college has a bigger pond, so to speak.

I'd be wary about getting into a relationship in middle school. High school is fine, but none of the couples I know have been dating since middle school. A couple of them met in high school, but they either didn't start a relationship then, or they have a really strong relationship.

You've got a lot of time to carefully do this, and relationships are a fickle thing.

Or rather I might suggest, don't expect a middle school relationship to last for ages. As far as I'm aware that really doesn't happen, outside of y'know the movies where the couple have been in love since they were babies and are *perfect* for each other *ahem* *ahem*.  

 See how it goes, enjoy it and learn from it while it lasts. Try not to freak out overly much.   

[TwiLyghtSansSparkles she/her]

47 minutes ago, Delightful said:

Or rather I might suggest, don't expect a middle school relationship to last for ages. As far as I'm aware that really doesn't happen, outside of y'know the movies where the couple have been in love since they were babies and are *perfect* for each other *ahem* *ahem*.  

 See how it goes, enjoy it and learn from it while it lasts. Try not to freak out overly much.   

There was a wonderful show a few years ago called Ned's Declassified School Survival Guide. The whole thing was a parody, so it was super over-the-top, but there was one episode on middle school relationships, where one character read aloud from an article saying that most middle school relationships don't even last twenty-four hours. 

So much truth in that statement. 

[marsoupial they/them]

17 minutes ago, TwiLyghtSansSparkles said:

There was a wonderful show a few years ago called Ned's Declassified School Survival Guide. The whole thing was a parody, so it was super over-the-top, but there was one episode on middle school relationships, where one character read aloud from an article saying that most middle school relationships don't even last twenty-four hours. 

So much truth in that statement. 

I remember Ned's!

Such a good show. 

And, it's true. As a recently ex-middle schooler, I can tell you that a lot of middle school relationships barely last a week. Most, in fact. I have true stories, as I have had experience with this.

[Darkness Ascendant he/him]

On 27 September 2016 at 8:49 PM, bleeder said:

And, no offense, AiB, you're a great dude. But try not to think too much about middle school relationships. High school is when you really have the freedom to do and go where you please. 

Just take your time. Let it happen on its own.

Yeah, I'm not sure hat years middle school gores (lol auto correct)for. But I never bothered getting a gf during primary and a but of secondary, a littleness because of religion, but mostly because everyone always made such a big deal about it. For example, in Yr 6, a girl I know went into "depression"(she knows not that word!) because her bf broke up with her :/ Imma wait till university before I start any relationship.

i swear my iPad as Teresa because I've had to fix up so many random autocorrects? (Teresa=terets)

[marsoupial they/them]

2 hours ago, Darkness Ascendant said:

Yeah, I'm not sure hat years middle school gores (lol auto correct)for. But I never bothered getting a gf during primary and a but of secondary, a littleness because of religion, but mostly because everyone always made such a big deal about it. For example, in Yr 6, a girl I know went into "depression"(she knows not that word!) because her bf broke up with her :/ Imma wait till university before I start any relationship.

i swear my iPad as Teresa because I've had to fix up so many random autocorrects? (Teresa=terets)

Elementary school is Kindergarten through 5th 

Middle school is 6th through 8th 

High school is 9th through 12th (though most people say freshman, sophomore, junior, senior)