The Official Thread of Relationships

[Kaymyth she/her]

4 minutes ago, Quiver said:

...see, I don't. Um.

I kind of don't have any friends these days. Fell out of touch thanks to work...

Okay...

And...what's the etiquette? Talk online, meet up for drinks?

If you find someone that you hit it off well with, yeah.  eHarmony starts you off with a personality test, and tries to match you with people who have compatible traits.  You go through guided communication, then once you hit open communication you kind of take it from there.

1 minute ago, bleeder said:

Well, I'm a bit of an ambivert, so I love people. 

But I'm also in high school, so my knowledge of bars consists of secondhand accounts, books and TV. 

Heh, yeah, none of that is remotely accurate.  Add on music loud enough you have to shout a bit for the people right next to you to hear what you're saying.  It's annoying as hell.  I much prefer sci-fi/fantasy conventions for actually meeting people. 

[Oversleep]

4 minutes ago, bleeder said:

But I'm also in high school, so my knowledge of bars consists of secondhand accounts, books and TV.

Popculture lies. That is not to say there is no truth in it, but it never is as described.
EDIT:

1 minute ago, Kaymyth said:

Heh, yeah, none of that is remotely accurate.

Ninja'd by Kaymyth.

1 minute ago, Kaymyth said:

I much prefer sci-fi/fantasy conventions for actually meeting people. 

If there are bars or places where you can play board games or card games, you know the drill, it's easier to meet people when somebody is looking for another person to play and stuff like that. Or if you're sitting with a group, you can always invite somebody who is not playing at the

Edited September 17, 2016 by Oversleep

[marsoupial they/them]

5 minutes ago, Oversleep said:

Popculture lies. That is not to say there is no truth in it, but it never is as described.

Ah, OK. Thanks. I'll find out in 7 years, anyway. But yeah, I do love to meet new people, and am not opposed to, like, parties, with lots of people, so I don't know if my advice is best to follow if you're an introvert 

[Orlion Blight he/him]

Bars vary. There are bars where things are more relaxed and bars where it's essentially a packed dancing club. There are bars that focus on live music and bars that focus on sports. One could find the bar right for you.

[Darkness Ascendant he/him]

Online dating doesn't seem very natural to me. I mean, having a computer pick your "matches" is weird enough, but then going out to meet that match must be incredibly awkward.

[TwiLyghtSansSparkles she/her]

13 minutes ago, Darkness Ascendant said:

Online dating doesn't seem very natural to me. I mean, having a computer pick your "matches" is weird enough, but then going out to meet that match must be incredibly awkward.

It's actually more like being set up by a mutual friend, especially if you go with a site that has a more detailed matrix, like eharmony. Most of their signup process is just you filling out a series of tests, telling the computer how important different factors are to you, what kind of people you find attractive, what you look for in a partner, that sort of thing. Then, once you're done with that and you have some matches pre-selected for you, you can go through and read their profiles to see if you and the computer agree that they seem nice. Then you can send them some icebreaker questions, and if that goes well, you can move on to emailing each other until you're ready to talk on the phone, meet in person, or both. If at any point you decide that this person isn't what you're looking for, you can stop talking and move on to another match, of which there will be plenty. So, by the time you meet in person, you've already done a good deal of talking online and at least have some conversation starters in mind. 

[Kaymyth she/her]

46 minutes ago, Darkness Ascendant said:

Online dating doesn't seem very natural to me. I mean, having a computer pick your "matches" is weird enough, but then going out to meet that match must be incredibly awkward.

It really wasn't awkward at all.  And like Twi said, there were a lot of matches to sift through (though generally women have more to go through, as a lot more men sign up for such sites than women).  James and I hit it off right away.  Our first physical date was the day after Halloween in 2008.  He joined up with me and a bunch of my friends for reverse trick-or-treating, and then back to my friends' house for Pumpkin Katana Baseball.

Yeah.  My husband's memory of our first date is of me, wearing a fairy costume and corset, swinging swords at flying pumpkins.  (Because what else are you gonna do with your jack-o-lanterns after Halloween is done but chop them into mulch with medieval weaponry?)

[Darkness Ascendant he/him]

Huh, fair enough, I guess I'm more of the sort to go out and find someone. Eh, whatever floats your boat I say.

2 minutes ago, Kaymyth said:

Pumpkin Katana Baseball

And here I was, thinkin' you 'Mericans couldn't get no weirder.

Sorry I'm still typing as if I am my role-play character XD

 

[Kaymyth she/her]

9 minutes ago, Darkness Ascendant said:

Huh, fair enough, I guess I'm more of the sort to go out and find someone. Eh, whatever floats your boat I say.

And here I was, thinkin' you 'Mericans couldn't get no weirder.

Sorry I'm still typing as if I am my role-play character XD

 

This isn't so much an American thing as a Crazy Pagan Thing. 

 

And for the record, I never would have met James if not for the internets.  He's kind of a hermit.

Edited September 18, 2016 by Kaymyth

[Delightful]

40 minutes ago, Kaymyth said:

It really wasn't awkward at all.  And like Twi said, there were a lot of matches to sift through (though generally women have more to go through, as a lot more men sign up for such sites than women).  James and I hit it off right away.  Our first physical date was the day after Halloween in 2008.  He joined up with me and a bunch of my friends for reverse trick-or-treating, and then back to my friends' house for Pumpkin Katana Baseball.

Yeah.  My husband's memory of our first date is of me, wearing a fairy costume and corset, swinging swords at flying pumpkins.  (Because what else are you gonna do with your jack-o-lanterns after Halloween is done but chop them into mulch with medieval weaponry?)

What's reverse trick-or-treat? 

[Kaymyth she/her]

22 minutes ago, Delightful said:

What's reverse trick-or-treat? 

We dressed up into costumes and wandered around the Plaza handing out candy to random strangers.

[Mistrunner]

3 hours ago, Kaymyth said:

We dressed up into costumes and wandered around the Plaza handing out candy to random strangers.

Speaking of such, I love how the cardinal rule of childhood ("don't take candy from strangers") is just completely ignored by everyone for one day a year.

[Darkness Ascendant he/him]

I got a kilo of wizzfizz in the back of my van. Want some?

[Orlion Blight he/him]

6 hours ago, Kaymyth said:

(Because what else are you gonna do with your jack-o-lanterns after Halloween is done but chop them into mulch with medieval weaponry?)

Shoot them with a World War II era Russian sniper rifle after filling them with gasoline. Makes a very satisfying fireball.

[Oversleep]

1 hour ago, Orlion Determined said:

Shoot them with a World War II era Russian sniper rifle after filling them with gasoline. Makes a very satisfying fireball.

Note to self: never carry gasoline around @Orlion Determined.

Also, I'm pretty sure you'd need trace or ignition ammunition to actually make anything explode by shooting it.

Edited September 18, 2016 by Oversleep

[TwiLyghtSansSparkles she/her]

8 hours ago, Delightful said:

What's reverse trick-or-treat? 

 

7 hours ago, Kaymyth said:

We dressed up into costumes and wandered around the Plaza handing out candy to random strangers.

My brother and his friend did a variant of that one year. Here's the comic it inspired (and the second I read that comic, I knew who it was about  ). 

 

[Orlion Blight he/him]

2 hours ago, Oversleep said:

Note to self: never carry gasoline around @Orlion Determined.

Also, I'm pretty sure you'd need trace or ignition ammunition to actually make anything explode by shooting it.

It wasn't my idea!

And we used regular bullets. I'm not sure how they exploded, because we really weren't expecting them to...seems like the bullets were hot enough!

[marsoupial they/them]

11 hours ago, Kaymyth said:

It really wasn't awkward at all.  And like Twi said, there were a lot of matches to sift through (though generally women have more to go through, as a lot more men sign up for such sites than women).  James and I hit it off right away.  Our first physical date was the day after Halloween in 2008.  He joined up with me and a bunch of my friends for reverse trick-or-treating, and then back to my friends' house for Pumpkin Katana Baseball.

Yeah.  My husband's memory of our first date is of me, wearing a fairy costume and corset, swinging swords at flying pumpkins.  (Because what else are you gonna do with your jack-o-lanterns after Halloween is done but chop them into mulch with medieval weaponry?)

That sounds epic.

[Kaymyth she/her]

7 hours ago, Orlion Determined said:

Shoot them with a World War II era Russian sniper rifle after filling them with gasoline. Makes a very satisfying fireball.

That would be highly illegal.

2 hours ago, bleeder said:

That sounds epic.

It was.  I figured after all that, if he wasn't scared off, he'd be a keeper.  I was right. 

[marsoupial they/them]

6 minutes ago, Kaymyth said:

That would be highly illegal.

It was.  I figured after all that, if he wasn't scared off, he'd be a keeper.  I was right. 

Aww

[Zathoth]

1 hour ago, Kaymyth said:

That would be highly illegal.

Remember kids: It's only illegal/immoral/cheating if you get caught.

[Oversleep]

1 hour ago, Morzathoth said:

Remember kids: It's only illegal/immoral/cheating/Hemalurgy if you get caught.

Fixed.

[TwiLyghtSansSparkles she/her]

1 hour ago, Morzathoth said:

Remember kids: It's only illegal/immoral/cheating/Hemalurgy if you get caught.

 

2 minutes ago, Oversleep said:

Fixed.

Hemalurgy: the only known magic system able to morph into a different magic system when local law enforcement isn't looking.  

[Zathoth]

17 minutes ago, TwiLyghtSansSparkles said:

 

Hemalurgy: the only known magic system able to morph into a different magic system when local law enforcement isn't looking.  

You know that is a very interesting idea XD

 

[Orlion Blight he/him]

2 hours ago, Morzathoth said:

Remember kids: It's only illegal/immoral/cheating if you get caught.

Precisely! Or, more specifically-laws vary state by state