The Official Thread of Relationships

[Zathoth]

Im both trying to find an opening for a "Pretty tied up" joke and I am dreading the moment when I find it.

About the bondage thing, there isnt anything wrong with it

If you are above 16 and know what you are doing, which I doubt this guy does.

[Mestiv he/him]

26 minutes ago, Morzathoth said:

If you are above 16 and know what you are doing, which I doubt this guy does.

18 in some countries  Anyway, it would be wiser to start with more traditional approach I guess...

[Zathoth]

Just now, Mestiv said:

18 in some countries  Anyway, it would be wiser to start with more traditional approach I guess...

Yes, then you can figure out the kinks. Pun very much intended.

[TwiLyghtSansSparkles she/her]

42 minutes ago, Morzathoth said:

Im both trying to find an opening for a "Pretty tied up" joke and I am dreading the moment when I find it.

About the bondage thing, there isnt anything wrong with it

If you are above 16 and know what you are doing, which I doubt this guy does.

 

14 minutes ago, Mestiv said:

18 in some countries  Anyway, it would be wiser to start with more traditional approach I guess...

It's not the bondage thing itself that adds to the creep factor; if you're both consenting adults and, like Morzathoth said, know what you're doing, there's nothing wrong with it. It's more the fact that this 16 year old kid began with "Do you want to see my whips and handcuffs?" as if expecting it to be a major selling point for a 14 year old. Then, when the 14 year old said "Yeah, no thanks, not into that" the 16 year old continued to insinuate himself into the 14 year old's group of friends, despite the fact that it makes the 14 year old uncomfortable. It's the stalking-like behavior that makes the bondage thing creepy, not the bondage itself. 

[marsoupial they/them]

3 hours ago, Mistrunner said:

I just have to wonder- what do his parents think of this? Do they know their son has an extensive collection of whips and handcuffs? Also, why do they let their son have an extensive collection of whips and handcuffs? I'm so confused.

They don't even know he's bisexual,  another big "oh no"  for me. 

[Mestiv he/him]

Too much 50 shades of grey I guess...

[Darkness Ascendant he/him]

I hear there's a sequel being made. 50 Shades Darker.

guess it will be a darker world for us

[Delightful]

13 minutes ago, Darkness Ascendant said:

I hear there's a sequel being made. 50 Shades Darker.

guess it will be a darker world for us

There are three books so.....

[Yata he/him]

Little Relationship problem:

My girlfriend is just back from a month long summer holidays but soon She will have a university exam and She need to study a lot of it.

I understand that the exam is important and I don't get angry or something like that because I can see her for a little longer.... But I fear she will feel neglected for this.

Therefore, visit her and disturb her study or wait and probably made her angry with me ?

[Darkness Ascendant he/him]

37 minutes ago, Delightful said:

There are three books so.....

I meant movie-wise soz

@Yata, I guess you could help her with her studies. And assuming she lives alone, you could also help her out in different ways, bring her food, help clean up etc etc

Edited September 5, 2016 by Darkness Ascendant

[Yata he/him]

16 minutes ago, Darkness Ascendant said:

I meant movie-wise soz

@Yata, I guess you could help her with her studies. And assuming she lives alone, you could also help her out in different ways, bring her food, help clean up etc etc

She have to do technical drawning (needed for an History exam, She still doesn't understand the reason) therefore I can't help her. About be with her while she studies... We tried this, a couple of time...and this didn't end well XD (for the scholarship-side at least )

Edited September 5, 2016 by Yata

[Mestiv he/him]

55 minutes ago, Yata said:

Little Relationship problem:

My girlfriend is just back from a month long summer holidays but soon She will have a university exam and She need to study a lot of it.

I understand that the exam is important and I don't get angry or something like that because I can see her for a little longer.... But I fear she will feel neglected for this.

Therefore, visit her and disturb her study or wait and probably made her angry with me ?

Maybe just ask her how would she like to handle this situation?

[Yata he/him]

Yeah probably it's better.

I wanted to avoid it because she often reacts to something like that as if I accuse her of the situation.... But I will try to be more more diplomatic and charming (to soft her) as possible.

If I will post again, it mean I survived the experience.

Tai'shar Cosmere!

[Mestiv he/him]

13 minutes ago, Yata said:

Yeah probably it's better.

I wanted to avoid it because she often reacts to something like that as if I accuse her of the situation.... But I will try to be more more diplomatic and charming (to soft her) as possible.

If I will post again, it mean I survived the experience.

Tai'shar Cosmere!

If you're going to ask her in person, bring flowers! Flowers make everything easier

[Delightful]

1 hour ago, Mestiv said:

Maybe just ask her how would she like to handle this situation?

Yes  

1 hour ago, Mestiv said:

If you're going to ask her in person, bring flowers! Flowers make everything easier

Or chocolate. Or dinner. Bringing her food while she's studying sounds like an excellent idea to me. And, if she agrees, you could like do the laundry and do boring housework so she can focus on studying. I bet that would be highly appreciated. 

Also maybe you can hang out in short spurts when she takes breaks from studying?

[Darkness Ascendant he/him]

Good luck @Yata!!

[Yata he/him]

@Delightful I offered to her a dinner the day she returned in our country (she was too tired after 18 hours of car to study) and then we went to a festival...Then I (letteraly) carried her in arms at home because she fall asleep when we stopped on a bench (just to define the level of tiredness).

I can't be with her while she studies, She finds me...a distraction to the study (her words and I don't know if consider it a praise or not).

Anyway I talked to her, and with a but twisted reasoning (Pattern would love it) she said thath "I have to ask her to go out and something like that, also if the answer is 99% no. Because in this way she feels no neglected or alone".

In the end: The case is solved!

Edited September 5, 2016 by Yata

[Orlion Blight he/him]

"A guy that will hold me" and "social needs" are kinda two different desires, the latter being far less intimate than the previous. As a result, any friend that fulfils social needs will invariably fall short in the intimate needs.

[marsoupial they/them]

1 hour ago, Orlion Determined said:

"A guy that will hold me" and "social needs" are kinda two different desires, the latter being far less intimate than the previous. As a result, any friend that fulfils social needs will invariably fall short in the intimate needs.

Yeah,  that's more what I'm aiming at.  

I love my friends and all,  but I want someone (guy or girl) not because it's some platonic thing, but because I long for something... Closer, I guess is the right word.  

To quote Dawes, 

"If I wanted someone to clean me up, I'd find myself a maid

If I wanted someone to spend my money, I wouldn't need to get paid 

If I wanted someone to understand me, I'd have so much more to say 

I want you to make the days move easy."

[marsoupial they/them]

Just now, Cognizantastic said:

 

Ah, I see where you're coming from. That actually changed how I think about things.

Best wishes in all your endeavors for that closeness, @bleeder.

My thanks. I'll keep you posted.

[Mistrunner]

This thread can also pertain to friendships, right? Because I have a bit of a predicament I have no idea how to get out of.

[Orlion Blight he/him]

55 minutes ago, Mistrunner said:

This thread can also pertain to friendships, right? Because I have a bit of a predicament I have no idea how to get out of.

Only if you frame it as a dialog between Beaker and Dr Honeycutt.

[Delightful]

3 hours ago, Mistrunner said:

This thread can also pertain to friendships, right? Because I have a bit of a predicament I have no idea how to get out of.

Of course! Post away!  

[marsoupial they/them]

6 hours ago, Mistrunner said:

This thread can also pertain to friendships, right? Because I have a bit of a predicament I have no idea how to get out of.

If we can talk about my same-sex high school relationship problems (which are somehow both plentiful and scarce at the same time), any problems are welcome, and we'll try and help out as much as possible. 

[Darkness Ascendant he/him]

24 minutes ago, bleeder said:

If we can talk about my same-sex high school relationship problems (which are somehow both plentiful and scarce at the same time), any problems are welcome, and we'll try and help out as much as possible. 

What he sai-

“I am proud to be gay. I am proud to be a Republican. But most of all I am proud to be an American,” Thiel said Thursday, drawing Republicans to their feet in cheers of “USA, USA” on the final night of their nominating convention.

FATHER NO!

Edited September 6, 2016 by Darkness Ascendant