The Official Thread of Relationships

[Delightful]

9 hours ago, Darkness Ascendant said:

I hate feeling lonely when I know I'm not alone, at least in my head.

Being lonely, and not being in the same physical space as others people aren't the same thing at all. 

[Darkness Ascendant he/him]

14 hours ago, Delightful said:

Being lonely, and not being in the same physical space as others people aren't the same thing at all. 

hehehehehehehehehehheheheheh

[marsoupial they/them]

18 hours ago, Delightful said:

Being lonely, and not being in the same physical space as others people aren't the same thing at all. 

Being lonely and being alone are two very different things.

[Darkness Ascendant he/him]

*yeesh*

I was trying to imply I was insane, and had many voices in my head.

[Delightful]

2 hours ago, Darkness Ascendant said:

*yeesh*

I was trying to imply I was insane, and had many voices in my head.

Oh. Fail. I thought you were saying you can tell yourself you're not alone but you feel lonely anyway. Sorry. 

[Mistrunner]

I THINK A GUY IS TRYING TO TELL ME HE LIKES ME OVER FACEBOOK CHAT AND I DON'T KNOW WHAT TO DO AND I'M WATCHING THE BEE MOVIE BUT EVERY TIME IT SAYS BEE IT GETS FASTER IN ANOTHER TAB AND NOTHING IN MY LIFE MAKES SENSE HELP

[Ammanas]

9 minutes ago, Mistrunner said:

I THINK A GUY IS TRYING TO TELL ME HE LIKES ME OVER FACEBOOK CHAT AND I DON'T KNOW WHAT TO DO AND I'M WATCHING THE BEE MOVIE BUT EVERY TIME IT SAYS BEE IT GETS FASTER IN ANOTHER TAB AND NOTHING IN MY LIFE MAKES SENSE HELP

The good news is that the Bee movie should be over in about 7 minutes. I know what you're talking about I saw the link on io9. A guy who will not ask you out on by phone call or in person most likely has real socializing issues and probably isn't worth romantic interest. My two cents at least.

[Mistrunner]

8 minutes ago, Ammanas said:

The good news is that the Bee movie should be over in about 7 minutes. I know what you're talking about I saw the link on io9. A guy who will not ask you out on by phone call or in person most likely has real socializing issues and probably isn't worth romantic interest. My two cents at least.

This is true. He's gone through quite a few crushes in the past couple months so I'm expecting it will quickly pass.

I asked my brother what to do and now he's sending me ways girls have rejected him. Thanks, bro.

Edited November 23, 2016 by Mistrunner

[Mestiv he/him]

2 hours ago, Ammanas said:

The good news is that the Bee movie should be over in about 7 minutes. I know what you're talking about I saw the link on io9. A guy who will not ask you out on by phone call or in person most likely has real socializing issues and probably isn't worth romantic interest. My two cents at least.

I don't agree that having socializing issues is disqualifying as boyfriend  material. not everyone has to like phones or have the guts to ask girl out in person.

[Erunion he/him]

There's also a difference between asking someone out and testing the waters. He could be fishing to see if you like him, instead of just putting you on the spot in person. 

It's also possible that online is the only way he has to communicate to you  privately. He may not have your number, and likely you met in a group setting (school/etc) where he has no confidence of getting you one on one without arranging to beforehand. 

 

Still, your response is simple: are you interested in him romantically? If yes, make it obvious.

Are you not interested in him romantically? If yes, make it obvious.  

[Mestiv he/him]

11 minutes ago, Erunion said:

Still, your response is simple: are you interested in him romantically? If yes, make it obvious.

Are you not interested in him romantically? If yes, make it obvious.  

And remember that "obvious for boys" is soooo much different than "obvious for girls" 

[Erunion he/him]

Just now, Mestiv said:

And remember that "obvious for boys" is soooo much different than "obvious for girls" 

Oh heavens yes. We gentlemen are intelligent, thoughtful, caring creatures. 

We're also incredibly thick about hints. Especially romantic hints. Especially if we're shy or introverted. Especially if we're interested in the girl. It's painful, really. 

 

(Interestingly enough, I can almost always tell if a girl who I'm NOT interested in is interested in me, but I can never tell if a girl I AM interested in is interested in me. It's really quite odd). 

[marsoupial they/them]

11 hours ago, Mistrunner said:

I THINK A GUY IS TRYING TO TELL ME HE LIKES ME OVER FACEBOOK CHAT AND I DON'T KNOW WHAT TO DO AND I'M WATCHING THE BEE MOVIE BUT EVERY TIME IT SAYS BEE IT GETS FASTER IN ANOTHER TAB AND NOTHING IN MY LIFE MAKES SENSE HELP

Bee movie thing is good plan. Keep it up.

[Darkness Ascendant he/him]

None of you guys know the amount of messed up shizzle is in that movie do u all?

[Mistrunner]

12 hours ago, Mestiv said:

I don't agree that having socializing issues is disqualifying as boyfriend material. not everyone has to like phones or have the guts to ask girl out in person.

12 hours ago, Erunion said:

There's also a difference between asking someone out and testing the waters. He could be fishing to see if you like him, instead of just putting you on the spot in person. 

It's also possible that online is the only way he has to communicate to you  privately. He may not have your number, and likely you met in a group setting (school/etc) where he has no confidence of getting you one on one without arranging to beforehand. 

 

Still, your response is simple: are you interested in him romantically? If yes, make it obvious.

Are you not interested in him romantically? If yes, make it obvious.  

12 hours ago, Mestiv said:

And remember that "obvious for boys" is soooo much different than "obvious for girls" 

11 hours ago, Erunion said:

Oh heavens yes. We gentlemen are intelligent, thoughtful, caring creatures. 

We're also incredibly thick about hints. Especially romantic hints. Especially if we're shy or introverted. Especially if we're interested in the girl. It's painful, really. 

 

(Interestingly enough, I can almost always tell if a girl who I'm NOT interested in is interested in me, but I can never tell if a girl I AM interested in is interested in me. It's really quite odd). 

Well, see, this particular guy was one I sort of knew from where I lived before moving where I am now, meaning I haven't seen him in over a year and never really talked to him before I moved. So it's a little weird. Besides, I'm not interested in anyone romantically, at least for now- and I'm especially not interested in a long-distance relationship. 

Ah, you must also remember that I myself am the most oblivious person imaginable and probably wouldn't notice if someone was flirting with me if they hit me over the head with a sign that said "I'M FLIRTING WITH YOU." I understand obvious.

I'm hoping it's just a passing crush. He's had about five of those in the past three months, so that's probably what it is.

4 hours ago, bleeder said:

Bee movie thing is good plan. Keep it up.

Okay, good. That strategy's worked so far.

[Darkness Ascendant he/him]

They have no idea.

[Spoolofwhool]

Three months ago I started cuddling with someone I had been friends with for awhile (most of my life) while watching horror game playthroughs. It was kind of weird and nice and we haven't actually talked about it at all yet. 

On 11/23/2016 at 0:00 PM, Darkness Ascendant said:

None of you guys know the amount of messed up shizzle is in that movie do u all?

No. Please explain.

[Darkness Ascendant he/him]

The movie promoted Bestiality for one part.

sorry

Beestiality.

[Spoolofwhool]

2 hours ago, Mesa the Ookla said:

The movie promoted Bestiality for one part.

sorry

Beestiality.

I see. I'm not going to ask how the mechanics of that work.

[Bugsy he/him]

On 11/25/2016 at 10:06 PM, Spoolofwhool said:

Three months ago I started cuddling with someone I had been friends with for awhile (most of my life) while watching horror game playthroughs. It was kind of weird and nice and we haven't actually talked about it at all yet. 

When you say 'started', do you mean it has become a regular thing, or that it was a one time occurrence and you 'started' doing it once? If it's the former, you should probably talk about it. It's a good indication that they're either interested in you or very comfortable with you. Since you have all the context clues, it's up to you to figure out which  

If it's the latter, it's probably a bit too late to bring it up. 3 months is probably too long of a time to comment on something like that without it becoming awkward. Then again, (s)he could possibly be stuck in the same situation. Has (s)he indicated any interest in you outside of that?

Edit: I just realized you didn't mention if you were interested in them. It seems like you're unsure. That somewhat complicates the situation  

Edited November 27, 2016 by Bugsy6912

[marsoupial they/them]

15 hours ago, Mesa the Ookla said:

The movie promoted Bestiality for one part.

sorry

Beestiality.

Oh ye tiny gods, that was wretched. 

 

So, guys. There's this guy I go to school with. He's a senior (three years my elder) and he's incredibly musically talented and he's very very gay. 

And I think he and I are a thing now. Like, a thing. 

It started three(ish) days ago when we started texting. But we had known each other for a while, and spending a weekend together at All East last weekend was probably helpful to this development. 

So we started talking, and talking. 

Turns out, he's quite into me, and just is bad with words. So we're gonna go out sometime. 

[Spoolofwhool]

8 hours ago, Bugsy6912 said:

When you say 'started', do you mean it has become a regular thing, or that it was a one time occurrence and you 'started' doing it once? If it's the former, you should probably talk about it. It's a good indication that they're either interested in you or very comfortable with you. Since you have all the context clues, it's up to you to figure out which  

If it's the latter, it's probably a bit too late to bring it up. 3 months is probably too long of a time to comment on something like that without it becoming awkward. Then again, (s)he could possibly be stuck in the same situation. Has (s)he indicated any interest in you outside of that?

Edit: I just realized you didn't mention if you were interested in them. It seems like you're unsure. That somewhat complicates the situation  

"Started" as in, we were hanging out it at some point we were cuddling. It hasn't happened since because I'm at university which is half-way across the country (Canada).

Neither of us has brought it up, but... we're also introverted people who are terrible at making decisions when we're together so I'm not surprised. I'm also bad at reading people so I don't really know. I considered bringing it up soon after, but wasn't sure if it would be weird or anything so I ended up not.

It's pretty awkward overall since I've known her for most of my life. I'm 18, and I've known her for at least 12 years. There's also the fact that her brother, who was over as well, ships us to some degree. Plus, I don't know how I feel romantically. I'm not a very emotional person, so I can't really tell. Overall, like I said, it's a pretty weird situation, one which I haven't been in before, so I don't really know what to do.

Any suggestions anyone? We have agreed to hangout when I'm back for the holidays.

[Erunion he/him]

@Spoolofwhool
Consider your romantic feelings seriously, and as objectively as possible. Are you romantically interested in this person?

When you guys hang out again, examine your own heart. How do you feel? How do you feel when you see this person? What's it like to talk to them? 

Be careful, be sober and be vigilant, not to hurt your own heart, to hurt their heart, or to let an opportunity that you would regret missing pass you by. 

Ultimately, when considering a relationship you need to think of this: 'Could I happily spend the rest of my life with this person?' If the answer is yes, then that's a good sign (not the only thing, but a major thing.) If the answer is no, then you shouldn't even consider a relationship. 
(Also, if you're in a relationship and you realize that you don't want to spend the rest of your life with that person, then you should end the relationship). 

Edited November 28, 2016 by Ookla the Incorrigible
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[Darkness Ascendant he/him]

Mesa happy for yousa @Ookla the Atypical or 

Mesa happy for yousa Bleeda

Guess what's going in my signature guys

[Kaymyth she/her]

7 hours ago, Mesa the Ookla said:

Mesa happy for yousa @Ookla the Atypical or 

Mesa happy for yousa Bleeda

Guess what's going in my signature guys

 

That would break the forum rules on signature size.