Having a Bad Day?: Get 'yer Hugs here!!

[Immortal Platypus]

14 minutes ago, InfiniteInsanity said:

I want to cry but um... I have no reason.

Nothing's really truly gone wrong.

But I also don't feel like I'm doing anything right, which I mean maybe that's a reason but... its all just in  my head I think. No ones told me that.

I don't know.

Musical went well last night. 

Honestly truly I have no real reason to feel this way. And I don't know what to do.

I had another nightmare last night but it wasn't a real bad one and that causes more paranoia than sadness. No reason to cry.

And pretty sure its my fault that happened.

I don't know.

Wanting to cry is a totally legitimate reason for wanting to cry. Something doesn't need to be terrible for something to go how you didn't want it to. You'll get through it  

*hugs*

[Grubfriend He/Him]

*Large group hup for everyone in this thread*

I am here for the comfort of all, Root anyone?

[Throw TheLiving Silverware he/him/il/lui]

19 hours ago, InfiniteInsanity said:

I want to cry but um... I have no reason.

Nothing's really truly gone wrong.

But I also don't feel like I'm doing anything right, which I mean maybe that's a reason but... its all just in  my head I think. No ones told me that.

I don't know.

Musical went well last night. 

Honestly truly I have no real reason to feel this way. And I don't know what to do.

I had another nightmare last night but it wasn't a real bad one and that causes more paranoia than sadness. No reason to cry.

And pretty sure its my fault that happened.

I don't know.

*lots of hugs*

Don't worry, it's perfectly valid for you to feel like this.

There are days like that when you feel like everything seems wrong, that little thing that you didn't 100% perfectly landed suddenly becomes a critical flaw. Even though there are no objective reasons to cry, you just feel the need to.

And that's okay.

Just let it pass. It's just a bad day, you can't really do much about it. 

Just cry. You feel the need to cry, better let it out than bottle it up until it explodes. Cry one good time. Let the emotions out. 

 

Most importantly, remember that you are a great person. Never accept that you deserved any of this. Always keep in mind that you are awesome. And that you can get through those bad days.

*more hugs*

[Wittles he/him]

I feel so awful. Every day I wake up and there's a chance that I might be able to think clearly, and then there's a chance that I won't hurt as soon as I'm not sleeping, and then there's a chance that I might sit up and it won't hurt. It's so painful just to wake up, let alone actually get something, anything, done. But most of the time, I can get up. I can force myself into doing what I need to that day. It takes time, but I can get up. If I can get up, I might not feel good, but I feel accomplished and I feel like there might be hope for today, and maybe the next, and maybe even the next; but more often than not, I take too long to wake up and get up so my parents yell at me. They start telling me how I should just get up because it's not that complicated. They tell me I should just listen and my life would be happy. They never actually say it, but all I can hear is them confirming everything I think they think about me and what I tell myself. That I'm weak, that I'm disrespectful, lazy, useless, selfish, etc. It makes everything so much harder than it needs to be and the whole day is overshadowed by the fact that I have to go home after school. My parents almost never apologize, and they act like everything's okay. I know it's not, but they're acting like nothing happened, so it shouldn't really matter right? I'm just complaining and being obnoxious. I'm making a big deal out of it and making myself feel awful for something that shouldn't even matter. But it does matter and it hurts. It hurts so much to be hurt by them and they don't even realize it. I try to talk to them and they just start using the "parents know better" excuse and then I just feel worse because they're probably right and I'm not listening to them by not getting up on time. So many days I go through school barely able to function because my mind is stuck in the morning all day, and I'm just repeating so many negative thoughts. I don't think my parents realize how much this is hurting me every day. I wish I could talk to them. I wish I could say something. 

I know I shouldn't be letting the past affect me so much every day, but I don't know how to get it out of my head. I just need to get away from my parents. I love them, I really do, but I just can't keep doing this day in and day out. I'm working on doing better, and I am improving at getting up, but it's not fast enough. It's bitterly discouraging to see progress in myself, but then to get in trouble almost right away for not changing fast enough or regressing just a tiny bit. To them my problem with waking up is just me not acting how I should be, but for me It's a battle every morning to convince myself that it's worth it to stay alive. I'm trying so hard, and I wish they could see that and acknowledge it more than just hollow words and empty promises that they'll try to do better. 

There's a bit more to it that just adds to the problems, but I don't really want to get into it right now. I'm just so confused and hurting all the time and I wish I could get some actual support rather than criticism.

[The Wandering Wizard he/him]

4 minutes ago, Wittles of Shinovar said:

I feel so awful. Every day I wake up and there's a chance that I might be able to think clearly, and then there's a chance that I won't hurt as soon as I'm not sleeping, and then there's a chance that I might sit up and it won't hurt. It's so painful just to wake up, let alone actually get something, anything, done. But most of the time, I can get up. I can force myself into doing what I need to that day. It takes time, but I can get up. If I can get up, I might not feel good, but I feel accomplished and I feel like there might be hope for today, and maybe the next, and maybe even the next; but more often than not, I take too long to wake up and get up so my parents yell at me. They start telling me how I should just get up because it's not that complicated. They tell me I should just listen and my life would be happy. They never actually say it, but all I can hear is them confirming everything I think they think about me and what I tell myself. That I'm weak, that I'm disrespectful, lazy, useless, selfish, etc. It makes everything so much harder than it needs to be and the whole day is overshadowed by the fact that I have to go home after school. My parents almost never apologize, and they act like everything's okay. I know it's not, but they're acting like nothing happened, so it shouldn't really matter right? I'm just complaining and being obnoxious. I'm making a big deal out of it and making myself feel awful for something that shouldn't even matter. But it does matter and it hurts. It hurts so much to be hurt by them and they don't even realize it. I try to talk to them and they just start using the "parents know better" excuse and then I just feel worse because they're probably right and I'm not listening to them by not getting up on time. So many days I go through school barely able to function because my mind is stuck in the morning all day, and I'm just repeating so many negative thoughts. I don't think my parents realize how much this is hurting me every day. I wish I could talk to them. I wish I could say something. 

I know I shouldn't be letting the past affect me so much every day, but I don't know how to get it out of my head. I just need to get away from my parents. I love them, I really do, but I just can't keep doing this day in and day out. I'm working on doing better, and I am improving at getting up, but it's not fast enough. It's bitterly discouraging to see progress in myself, but then to get in trouble almost right away for not changing fast enough or regressing just a tiny bit. To them my problem with waking up is just me not acting how I should be, but for me It's a battle every morning to convince myself that it's worth it to stay alive. I'm trying so hard, and I wish they could see that and acknowledge it more than just hollow words and empty promises that they'll try to do better. 

There's a bit more to it that just adds to the problems, but I don't really want to get into it right now. I'm just so confused and hurting all the time and I wish I could get some actual support rather than criticism.

*hugs many many*

I wish you could too

Edited October 30, 2023 by The Wandering Wizard

[Throw TheLiving Silverware he/him/il/lui]

I'm really sorry you have to feel that way, and that your family is... as little supportive as it is.

But when you start repeating this all those negative thoughts, remember: you are not lasy, selfish or anything just because of a couple minutes in bed. Instead of focusing on what you don't feel you are doing right, think about what you did succeed recently: that math test you did last month, that delicious meal you cooked the other week... anything. Don't let your getting-up time define you, you are so much more than this.

 

 

Spoiler

Also, apologies if you already tried this, but I found it much easier to get up to some high-energy music. The kind that makes you want to move and dance.

The more brutal approach would be to put your alarm somewhere you have to physically get out of bed to stop it. Not really enjoyable, nor that great in the long term (messes up your sleep cycles, etc...) but if all else fails there's that.

 

[InfiniteInsanity she/her]

I feel rather alone all the sudden.

But I don't want to bother people cause its around dinner time here.

 

 

Communication is hard.

I wish it was easier.

[The Wandering Wizard he/him]

47 minutes ago, InfiniteInsanity said:

I feel rather alone all the sudden.

But I don't want to bother people cause its around dinner time here.

 

 

Communication is hard.

I wish it was easier.

*hugs*

Me too Insa, me too

[Edema Rue she/her]

2 hours ago, InfiniteInsanity said:

I feel rather alone all the sudden.

But I don't want to bother people cause its around dinner time here.

 

 

Communication is hard.

I wish it was easier.

*more hugs*

It’s such a lonely world…

I wish it were, too.

[The Sibling she/her]

The amount of forced smiles and fake laughter today..

I just need to say it to someone. I'm feeling sad. I'm feeling stressed. Maybe I just need to sleep, but at the moment I am not feeling okay. 

[Edema Rue she/her]

33 minutes ago, The Sibling said:

The amount of forced smiles and fake laughter today..

I just need to say it to someone. I'm feeling sad. I'm feeling stressed. Maybe I just need to sleep, but at the moment I am not feeling okay. 

It's okay to not be okay. It's okay to hurt. It's okay to feel all the emotions, even the ones that hurt, even when everything on the surface feels completely fake. We're all here if you need anything *hugs*.

[Cash67]

19 hours ago, InfiniteInsanity said:

I feel rather alone all the sudden.

But I don't want to bother people cause its around dinner time here.

 

 

Communication is hard.

I wish it was easier.

 

14 hours ago, The Sibling said:

The amount of forced smiles and fake laughter today..

I just need to say it to someone. I'm feeling sad. I'm feeling stressed. Maybe I just need to sleep, but at the moment I am not feeling okay. 

I feel both of these. Don't want to be a burden to others so you are always paranoid and place a burden on yourself. It's ok to simply take time to destress and be alone. It's also ok to talk to others about it. We is here for y'all. 

[Weaver of Shadows he/him]

I’ve been thinking about a lot of stuff lately and I feel like I need to talk about it…but the one person I usually feel comfortable talking too is also a big part of what I’ve been thinking about and a conversation about it would be very awkward to say the least. And I can’t understand my own brain or emotions so I shouldn’t expect anyone to be able to help me. To add to that, I have Covid and have missed the last three days of school, so I’m stressed about that too. There’s a lot more too, but I couldn’t explain it if I tried. I’m just so confused right now.

[+Slowswift]

1 hour ago, Lightweaver2 said:

I’ve been thinking about a lot of stuff lately and I feel like I need to talk about it…but the one person I usually feel comfortable talking too is also a big part of what I’ve been thinking about and a conversation about it would be very awkward to say the least. And I can’t understand my own brain or emotions so I shouldn’t expect anyone to be able to help me. To add to that, I have Covid and have missed the last three days of school, so I’m stressed about that too. There’s a lot more too, but I couldn’t explain it if I tried. I’m just so confused right now.

*mails hugbot*

Rest up and make sure you're getting enough water. Pray, if that's your jam. Listen to a good song. I don't presume to assume that these will automatically fix your problem, but they've helped me in the past. Hope you feel better, both physically and mentally, soon.

[Edema Rue she/her]

11 hours ago, Lightweaver2 said:

I’ve been thinking about a lot of stuff lately and I feel like I need to talk about it…but the one person I usually feel comfortable talking too is also a big part of what I’ve been thinking about and a conversation about it would be very awkward to say the least. And I can’t understand my own brain or emotions so I shouldn’t expect anyone to be able to help me. To add to that, I have Covid and have missed the last three days of school, so I’m stressed about that too. There’s a lot more too, but I couldn’t explain it if I tried. I’m just so confused right now.

*added hugs*

[Through the Living Elan He/Him]

21 hours ago, Lightweaver2 said:

I’ve been thinking about a lot of stuff lately and I feel like I need to talk about it…but the one person I usually feel comfortable talking too is also a big part of what I’ve been thinking about and a conversation about it would be very awkward to say the least. And I can’t understand my own brain or emotions so I shouldn’t expect anyone to be able to help me. To add to that, I have Covid and have missed the last three days of school, so I’m stressed about that too. There’s a lot more too, but I couldn’t explain it if I tried. I’m just so confused right now.

*hugs so hard*

If I could have any superpower right now, it would be the ability to crawl through this computer and give you a REAL big hug.

 

Edited November 17, 2023 by Ancient Elantrian

[The Wandering Wizard he/him]

21 hours ago, Lightweaver2 said:

I’ve been thinking about a lot of stuff lately and I feel like I need to talk about it…but the one person I usually feel comfortable talking too is also a big part of what I’ve been thinking about and a conversation about it would be very awkward to say the least. And I can’t understand my own brain or emotions so I shouldn’t expect anyone to be able to help me. To add to that, I have Covid and have missed the last three days of school, so I’m stressed about that too. There’s a lot more too, but I couldn’t explain it if I tried. I’m just so confused right now.

*hugs just hugs massively sending love and peace and comfort hopefully*

1 minute ago, Ancient Elantrian said:

*hugs so hard*

If I could have any superpower right now, it would be the ability to crawl through this computer and give you a REAL big hug.

 

 

Disney Love

That is the superpower I want so so badly

[Through the Living Elan He/Him]

1 minute ago, The Wandering Wizard said:

*hugs just hugs massively sending love and peace and comfort hopefully*

That is the superpower I want so so badly

Saaaaaaame.

I wish everyone had that, because when I post on this I wish people could actually hug me.

Real hugs are so much better than just envisioning it.

[The Wandering Wizard he/him]

4 minutes ago, Ancient Elantrian said:

Saaaaaaame.

I wish everyone had that, because when I post on this I wish people could actually hug me.

Real hugs are so much better than just envisioning it.

Real hugs are indeed so so much better and I hope to be able to hug a lot of people I care deeply about

[Through the Living Elan He/Him]

Just now, The Wandering Wizard said:

Real hugs are indeed so so much better and I hope to be able to hug a lot of people I care deeply about

Yeeeez

Are ya goin to Dragonsteel?

[The Wandering Wizard he/him]

1 minute ago, Ancient Elantrian said:

Yeeeez

Are ya goin to Dragonsteel?

Not this year sadly

and not for a few cuz I'll be gone on a mission hopefully soon. 

But I plan on being in Utah for a few years so we'll see. And maybe I'll end up staying or staying somewhere close. 

[Through the Living Elan He/Him]

Just now, The Wandering Wizard said:

Not this year sadly

and not for a few cuz I'll be gone on a mission hopefully soon. 

But I plan on being in Utah for a few years so we'll see. And maybe I'll end up staying or staying somewhere close. 

Yayyyy!!!

[shortcake thr/eat ka/boom]

9 minutes ago, The Wandering Wizard said:

But I plan on being in Utah for a few years so we'll see. And maybe I'll end up staying or staying somewhere close. 

*screams* WIZZY DONT LEAVE MEEEEE

[Through the Living Elan He/Him]

Just now, shortcake said:

*screams* WIZZY DONT LEAVE MEEEEE

Wait... 

You live near Wizzy?

Or... in Utah?

Or are you just going to dragonsteel?

[The Wandering Wizard he/him]

6 minutes ago, Ancient Elantrian said:

Wait... 

You live near Wizzy?

Or... in Utah?

Or are you just going to dragonsteel?

She lives in the same state and city as me

8 minutes ago, shortcake said:

*screams* WIZZY DONT LEAVE MEEEEE

You can come too!! And I'll always remind in touch with my friends, always