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[Wittles he/him]

1 hour ago, Lightweaver2 said:

*many many hugs*
I know it’s hard to talk about, especially with someone you don’t know like a doctor, but something one of my friends does (he also has a really hard time falling asleep at night) is take prescribed medication that is very strong. I don’t know if you have tried that already, but it might be something to consider.

26 minutes ago, Just a Silvereye said:

*more hugs*

I second Lightweaver2 here. If this is a health issue -and one that massively affects your daily life at that- then you should see a doctor. 

I hope for you that you find a solution somehow to your problems. You really deserve it.

Completely off topic: I just saw what your profile pic was. Great choice! 

I've tried talking to my parents about it but they just...don't care or see it as a big enough issue to get me to a doctor. I've asked about it a bunch but they never seem to listen. 

Also off topic: Thanks!

 

[Weaver of Shadows he/him]

24 minutes ago, Wittles of Shinovar said:

I've tried talking to my parents about it but they just...don't care or see it as a big enough issue to get me to a doctor. I've asked about it a bunch but they never seem to listen. 

*more hugs*
I don’t really know what to do then. If your parents won’t help you get help, then that makes it significantly harder. I’m so sorry Wittles.

*extra hugss*

[Throw TheLiving Silverware he/him/il/lui]

1 hour ago, Wittles of Shinovar said:

I've tried talking to my parents about it but they just...don't care or see it as a big enough issue to get me to a doctor. I've asked about it a bunch but they never seem to listen. 

Also off topic: Thanks!

 

To let me sum it up: your parents make you trouble because you have trouble going to sleep at a decent hour. And then, when you need them to solve it, they tell you no because apparently never sleeping a full night is not a big problem?

The only suggestion I have here would be to try to go through your school doctor if you have one. Your parents might listen more to a trained professional. 

[Just-A-Stick she/her]

Hi everyone.

I'm in need of hugs and caring people. Today was rough. :((

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I won't be going into details, sorry. 

 

[The Wandering Wizard he/him]

Just now, Just-A-Stick said:

Hi everyone.

I'm in need of hugs and caring people. Today was rough. :((

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I won't be going into details, sorry. 

 

*squishes in hug*

[Wittles he/him]

3 minutes ago, Just a Silvereye said:

To let me sum it up: your parents make you trouble because you have trouble going to sleep at a decent hour. And then, when you need them to solve it, they tell you no because apparently never sleeping a full night is not a big problem?

The only suggestion I have here would be to try to go through your school doctor if you have one. Your parents might listen more to a trained professional. 

I don't think my school has a doctor sadly.

I might be exaggerating about how little they listen, but I have a really hard time asking for things for myself. I think I'm gonna try to be more up front about asking them. 

[Weaver of Shadows he/him]

23 minutes ago, Wittles of Shinovar said:

I don't think my school has a doctor sadly.

I might be exaggerating about how little they listen, but I have a really hard time asking for things for myself. I think I'm gonna try to be more up front about asking them. 

I understand that, talking to people can be really hard. Good luck, I hope you can do it and get the help you need!

*more hugs*

[The Aspiring Archivist any pronouns]

4 hours ago, Wittles of Shinovar said:

I am so sick and tired of being tired. There is almost no way I don't have some sort of sleep disorder, whether it be insomnia or something else. I can never get a full night's sleep unless I've gotten less than 2 hours of sleep in a 24 hour time period. This has been going on for pretty much my whole life but in the past few years, it's really starting to break me. I've tried to joke it off to everyone who mentions sleep while being mad at myself for not just going to sleep, but it's to the point where I can't joke about it anymore. As if that wasn't bad enough, I frequently get in trouble with my parents for not waking up on time and not going to sleep on time and it used to really hurt but I'm just completely numb by now. I've tried just about everything people have recommended to me, but none of it works. I can't just go to sleep and I get in trouble for staying awake, and when I finally get to sleep, it's only a few hours before I get in trouble for not waking up on time. It's just really messing me up and I don't know how to fix it. 

 

34 minutes ago, Just-A-Stick said:

Hi everyone.

I'm in need of hugs and caring people. Today was rough. :((

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I won't be going into details, sorry. 

 

*hugs*

[Weaver of Shadows he/him]

40 minutes ago, Just-A-Stick said:

Hi everyone.

I'm in need of hugs and caring people. Today was rough. :((

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I won't be going into details, sorry. 

 

*massive hugs*

[Just-A-Stick she/her]

*gratefully accepts all hugs and gives some to whoever needs some* 

[Edema Rue she/her]

Ack sorry I’m late!!

6 hours ago, Wittles of Shinovar said:

I am so sick and tired of being tired. There is almost no way I don't have some sort of sleep disorder, whether it be insomnia or something else. I can never get a full night's sleep unless I've gotten less than 2 hours of sleep in a 24 hour time period. This has been going on for pretty much my whole life but in the past few years, it's really starting to break me. I've tried to joke it off to everyone who mentions sleep while being mad at myself for not just going to sleep, but it's to the point where I can't joke about it anymore. As if that wasn't bad enough, I frequently get in trouble with my parents for not waking up on time and not going to sleep on time and it used to really hurt but I'm just completely numb by now. I've tried just about everything people have recommended to me, but none of it works. I can't just go to sleep and I get in trouble for staying awake, and when I finally get to sleep, it's only a few hours before I get in trouble for not waking up on time. It's just really messing me up and I don't know how to fix it. 

That stinks. I’m so sorry. I feel it too, I get up at 5 every morning and can never fall asleep, and I know that it really makes everything seem worse. I wish I knew a way to help, but…yeah. Ugh. *hugs*

2 hours ago, Just-A-Stick said:

Hi everyone.

I'm in need of hugs and caring people. Today was rough. :((

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I won't be going into details, sorry. 

 

*hugs hugs*

We love you, MP!! You’re incredible, and funny and talented. You deserve more than this world will ever give you. Don’t let it or your mind ever tell you otherwise.

[Just-A-Stick she/her]

Just now, Edema Rue said:

Ack sorry I’m late!!

That stinks. I’m so sorry. I feel it too, I get up at 5 every morning and can never fall asleep, and I know that it really makes everything seem worse. I wish I knew a way to help, but…yeah. Ugh. *hugs*

*hugs hugs*

We love you, MP!! You’re incredible, and funny and talented. You deserve more than this world will ever give you. Don’t let it or your mind ever tell you otherwise.

Thank you, Eddie  

[Guest]

14 hours ago, Wittles of Shinovar said:

I don't think my school has a doctor sadly.

I might be exaggerating about how little they listen, but I have a really hard time asking for things for myself. I think I'm gonna try to be more up front about asking them. 

Oh no! Anything I can do??

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A mix between a husky and a pug is called a HUG <333

 

[InfiniteInsanity she/her]

I am dying.

It's finals week.

And of course my stomach is having issues.

I sat through it all today. Barely. 

I don't want to do it again.

And of course instead of getting better or even just staying the same it's gotten worse. Instead of an ache its like someone's poking my insides. Not stabbing just poking. Hard.

And there are things I am no where near prepared for because last week I had something going on everyday and so the time I was gonna use was instead spent trying to sleep and rest this all away which did not work at all. 

So now I don't know what to do.

[The Wandering Wizard he/him]

14 minutes ago, InfiniteInsanity said:

I am dying.

It's finals week.

And of course my stomach is having issues.

I sat through it all today. Barely. 

I don't want to do it again.

And of course instead of getting better or even just staying the same it's gotten worse. Instead of an ache its like someone's poking my insides. Not stabbing just poking. Hard.

And there are things I am no where near prepared for because last week I had something going on everyday and so the time I was gonna use was instead spent trying to sleep and rest this all away which did not work at all. 

So now I don't know what to do.

*hugs hugs hugs*

[Weaver of Shadows he/him]

37 minutes ago, InfiniteInsanity said:

I am dying.

It's finals week.

And of course my stomach is having issues.

I sat through it all today. Barely. 

I don't want to do it again.

And of course instead of getting better or even just staying the same it's gotten worse. Instead of an ache its like someone's poking my insides. Not stabbing just poking. Hard.

And there are things I am no where near prepared for because last week I had something going on everyday and so the time I was gonna use was instead spent trying to sleep and rest this all away which did not work at all. 

So now I don't know what to do.

*more hugs*

[The Aspiring Archivist any pronouns]

44 minutes ago, InfiniteInsanity said:

I am dying.

It's finals week.

And of course my stomach is having issues.

I sat through it all today. Barely. 

I don't want to do it again.

And of course instead of getting better or even just staying the same it's gotten worse. Instead of an ache its like someone's poking my insides. Not stabbing just poking. Hard.

And there are things I am no where near prepared for because last week I had something going on everyday and so the time I was gonna use was instead spent trying to sleep and rest this all away which did not work at all. 

So now I don't know what to do.

*hugs*

[Edema Rue she/her]

*pops in*

*hugs all the people*

To those who are hurting, I'm sorry. Keep pushing. You're stronger than the pain, no matter how it feels right now. It won't last forever. I swear.

*pops out*

[Just-A-Stick she/her]

1 minute ago, Edema Rue said:

*pops in*

*hugs all the people*

To those who are hurting, I'm sorry. Keep pushing. You're stronger than the pain, no matter how it feels right now. It won't last forever. I swear.

*pops out*

[Throw TheLiving Silverware he/him/il/lui]

So uh 

Remember this? 

On 11/19/2023 at 12:22 PM, Just a Silvereye said:

warning: long and completely insane rant incoming

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So basically I have been addicted to video games (or rather a specific game) for like a year now and it's been completely ruining my life

i just uninstalled for like the fifth time in two months, i set up several of those parental control things so that they block me from reinstalling steam and then they block each other, but i know one day or another i'll find a way around like all the previous times "come on just an hour each day, this time you'll be able to limit yourself" and then i start playing and never stop

 

Well, guess what happened these last couple days.

Back to the start, everyone. Again.

I hate myself so much.

[Ookla de los Cuervos he/him]

11 hours ago, Just a Silvereye said:

So uh 

Remember this? 

Well, guess what happened these last couple days.

Back to the start, everyone. Again.

I hate myself so much.

*ahems* Sir. Completely incorrect. why do you think you keep going back to video games? do you not have anything else to fill your life with?

[Throw TheLiving Silverware he/him/il/lui]

50 minutes ago, TheRavenHasLanded said:

*ahems* Sir. Completely incorrect. why do you think you keep going back to video games? do you not have anything else to fill your life with?

 

Spoilered for length. But it needed to get out in some way.

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Well, I played so much I am just used to play all the time now. That's why I keep coming back - just by habit. And because of the dopamine rush when I play, sometimes. And I have plenty of other things to fill my life, indeed, but after a while I just tell myself "Wish I could play just a little bit". 

The thing is, this game has been the only thing I have been dealing with everything else for a while now. Basically I had a complete breakdown about two years ago. I was in a very stressful environment and things went so wrong, in so many ways. It's in the aftermath of all that, when I was trying to forget all of that, that I started playing that game. Lots of stuff were turning in my head, and I was trying to make them shut up in some way.

But then I started playing so much it actually affected my life too. I know now that if I start playing, I'm not doing anything else that day. I need to move on. What happened then is far behind now - I can let it behind me and go on with my life. I no longer have to deal with so much stress - unless I neglect my work for so long that it becomes unbearable.

So yeah. Basically I keep coming back to that game because it was the main (terrible) coping mechanism to fight against feelings that are no longer relevant now. In fact, I realized a while ago that the feelings I was trying to silence by gaming was the shame from gaming so much and ruining my life. I tick every box for an addiction and them some. I know there are ways to game responsibly, but I can't. Not right now, and not for a while. I just need to put that old weight down before it drags me through the ground, and go on with my life.

Edit: I know the issue is deeper than gaming. But it makes everything so much worse, it can't stay. When I say "I came back to gaming" I do not mean an hour I mean 6+ hours per day 3-4 days in a row, while disabling the software I had installed specifically to block me from playing so much. It's that bad.

 

Edited January 15, 2024 by Just a Silvereye

[Edema Rue she/her]

12 hours ago, Just a Silvereye said:

So uh 

Remember this? 

Well, guess what happened these last couple days.

Back to the start, everyone. Again.

I hate myself so much.

*many, many hugs*

I know that feeling of going back to the beginning. It's awful; how can you have tried so hard and gone absolutely nowhere? But I promise you now, everyone moves back. Everyone falls down. Sometimes seeing no progress after some of the hardest you've ever worked can make you stop trying. But it's when you keep trying anyway that things finally, finally start to change. Things like this...they don't change in a day, or a week, or a month, or even a couple years. Some things take a lifetime to see even the tiniest bit of progress. And I know that that can seem really down, but...well, no matter how many times you fight this same battle, it doesn't mean that you'll always lose. 

If you have parents or friends or siblings or anyone who's willing to help, use them! And no matter what happens, today and forever, we're here and we care. Don't stop trying, okay? There's hope, even in the darkest of moments.

[Ookla de los Cuervos he/him]

11 minutes ago, Just a Silvereye said:

 

Spoilered for length. But it needed to get out in some way.

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Well, I played so much I am just used to play all the time now. That's why I keep coming back - just by habit. And because of the dopamine rush when I play, sometimes. And I have plenty of other things to fill my life, indeed, but after a while I just tell myself "Wish I could play just a little bit". 

The thing is, this game has been the only thing I have been dealing with everything else for a while now. Basically I had a complete breakdown about two years ago. I was in a very stressful environment and things went so wrong, in so many ways. It's in the aftermath of all that, when I was trying to forget all of that, that I started playing that game. Lots of stuff were turning in my head, and I was trying to make them shut up in some way.

But then I started playing so much it actually affected my life too. I know now that if I start playing, I'm not doing anything else that day. I need to move on. What happened then is far behind now - I can let it behind me and go on with my life. I no longer have to deal with so much stress - unless I neglect my work for so long that it becomes unbearable.

So yeah. Basically I keep coming back to that game because it was the main (terrible) coping mechanism to fight against feelings that are no longer relevant now. In fact, I realized a while ago that the feelings I was trying to silence by gaming was the shame from gaming so much and ruining my life. I tick every box for an addiction and them some. I know there are ways to game responsibly, but I can't. Not right now, and not for a while. I just need to put that old weight down before it drags me through the ground, and go on with my life.

Edit: I know the issue is deeper than gaming. But it makes everything so much worse, it can't stay. When I say "I came back to gaming" I do not mean an hour I mean 6+ hours per day 3-4 days in a row, while disabling the software I had installed specifically to block me from playing so much. It's that bad.

 

... wow. im so sorry. weird question, but are you christian or lds? 

[Edema Rue she/her]

2 minutes ago, TheRavenHasLanded said:

... wow. im so sorry. weird question, but are you christian or lds? 

(Not contradicting you, but just so you know: LDS is a form of Christian :))