Having a Bad Day?: Get 'yer Hugs here!!

[DreamEternal]

So... this may not exactly be bad news. Actually, this may be good news and that is the problem because I can't shake of the feeling that I made a terrible mistake, when I think I was supposed to feel the exactly opposite.

What happened? Well, I just... I can't believe I am writing this...

I just told my family I (think I) am bisexual. And I feel horrible about it because I feel I have accomplished nothing but making life harder in the near future.

And I am feeling so anxious, and I know they are talking about me but I don't know what they are saying, and I need a hug and I probably shouldn't be talking about this here, but I don't have anyone to talk with about this, and I just can't get calm on my own.

[Briar King]

Cream cheese donuts are so good so why does my stomach have to ache 15 mins later? Yummy. Ugh...

[TwiLyghtSansSparkles she/her]

2 minutes ago, Briar King said:

Cream cheese donuts are so good so why does my stomach have to ache 15 mins later? Yummy. Ugh...

Lactose intolerance?

[Briar King]

1 minute ago, TwiLyghtSansSparkles said:

Lactose intolerance?

 

Lol nah it was just super rich and caught up with me a few mins later. It's like I got a batter ball in my stomach now

[Ecthelion III he/him]

2 hours ago, DreamEternal said:

So... this may not exactly be bad news. Actually, this may be good news and that is the problem because I can't shake of the feeling that I made a terrible mistake, when I think I was supposed to feel the exactly opposite.

What happened? Well, I just... I can't believe I am writing this...

I just told my family I (think I) am bisexual. And I feel horrible about it because I feel I have accomplished nothing but making life harder in the near future.

And I am feeling so anxious, and I know they are talking about me but I don't know what they are saying, and I need a hug and I probably shouldn't be talking about this here, but I don't have anyone to talk with about this, and I just can't get calm on my own.

[hug]

You're still a wonderful person no matter what sexuality you are or believe you are.

[Mestiv he/him]

2 hours ago, DreamEternal said:

So... this may not exactly be bad news. Actually, this may be good news and that is the problem because I can't shake of the feeling that I made a terrible mistake, when I think I was supposed to feel the exactly opposite.

What happened? Well, I just... I can't believe I am writing this...

I just told my family I (think I) am bisexual. And I feel horrible about it because I feel I have accomplished nothing but making life harder in the near future.

And I am feeling so anxious, and I know they are talking about me but I don't know what they are saying, and I need a hug and I probably shouldn't be talking about this here, but I don't have anyone to talk with about this, and I just can't get calm on my own.

*hugs*

I don't know your family, but whatever they say, there's nothing wrong with you and you shouldn't be ashamed or anything

[Briar King]

Be yourself

[Quiver he/him]

11 hours ago, DreamEternal said:

And I am feeling so anxious, and I know they are talking about me but I don't know what they are saying, and I need a hug and I probably shouldn't be talking about this here, but I don't have anyone to talk with about this, and I just can't get calm on my own.

Never apologize for this kind of thought. Getting stuff off your chest is always betetr than bottling it up, especially if it's worrying you.

(For the record, if you ever want to "vent" and don't want to do it on open forums, my PM box is always open)

As for your family...

To chime in with everyone else, I don't know anything about your family, so hopefully they aren't having a bad reaction to this. If they are, then... you have my sympathies, and I hope everything is okay. 

[Delightful]

11 hours ago, DreamEternal said:

So... this may not exactly be bad news. Actually, this may be good news and that is the problem because I can't shake of the feeling that I made a terrible mistake, when I think I was supposed to feel the exactly opposite.

What happened? Well, I just... I can't believe I am writing this...

I just told my family I (think I) am bisexual. And I feel horrible about it because I feel I have accomplished nothing but making life harder in the near future.

And I am feeling so anxious, and I know they are talking about me but I don't know what they are saying, and I need a hug and I probably shouldn't be talking about this here, but I don't have anyone to talk with about this, and I just can't get calm on my own.

This thread is literally made for when you're anxious and need a hug from someone. 

*hugs* 

the only advice I can think to offer is that you should know that you're life is your life, not your parents life, or your siblings or anyone else's. You have a right to be whoever you are, and really, it doesn't matter what other people say because this isn't about them. It's about you. 

I hope that helps. 

*more hugs*

my PM box is also open for venting if you need somewhere relatively anonymous to express  

[DreamEternal]

Thank you all. Kind words were what I needed the most.

[Kaymyth she/her]

16 hours ago, DreamEternal said:

So... this may not exactly be bad news. Actually, this may be good news and that is the problem because I can't shake of the feeling that I made a terrible mistake, when I think I was supposed to feel the exactly opposite.

What happened? Well, I just... I can't believe I am writing this...

I just told my family I (think I) am bisexual. And I feel horrible about it because I feel I have accomplished nothing but making life harder in the near future.

And I am feeling so anxious, and I know they are talking about me but I don't know what they are saying, and I need a hug and I probably shouldn't be talking about this here, but I don't have anyone to talk with about this, and I just can't get calm on my own.

Adding my voice to the rest:  you are who you are.  Telling them didn't change anything, it just made them aware of who you are.  If they can't take that gracefully, then it reflects on them, not you.  And in the end, the only folks who should have any real stake in your sexuality are whatever partner(s) you wind up having relationships with.

[TwiLyghtSansSparkles she/her]

This goes out to everyone. Especially any teenagers on this thread. 

Spoiler

 

 

[Briar King]

My big mutt is limping on his bum leg. I hate when the big fella is hurting from it.

[Oversleep]

I interacted with a wasp nest. Accidentialy. I wish I hadn't.

[Elsecaller3414 she/her]

1 hour ago, Oversleep said:

I interacted with a wasp nest. Accidentialy. I wish I hadn't.

Ouch. That sounds awful and very painful. At least it wasn't on purpose...  :/

I got a sunburn on my shoulders yesterday, which is probably the worst place I have had a sunburn.

I also got a random survey that I am technically not eligible for, which is kind of frustrating.

[Quiver he/him]

Preemptive bad day warning.

Couldn't sleep last night. I'm about to start a 12 hour shift, with a coworker I dislike, on two hours of rest.

The fact I already have a headache, and I'll be dealing with alarms all day, is just the icing on the cake at this point...

[TwiLyghtSansSparkles she/her]

1 minute ago, Quiver said:

Preemptive bad day warning.

Couldn't sleep last night. I'm about to start a 12 hour shift, with a coworker I dislike, on two hours of rest.

The fact I already have a headache, and I'll be dealing with alarms all day, is just the icing on the cake at this point...

Oooh, that won't be fun.  

[Sunbird she/her]

That sounds like a nightmare, @Quiver. I'm so sorry you have to deal with that. I hope you can at least sleep it off when your shift is over?

[Mestiv he/him]

I had a technical phone interview with Google, I did one question OK, but screwed up the other one :/ I guess that would be my chances for working for Google saying bye bye, for the next year or so...

[TwiLyghtSansSparkles she/her]

Spoiler

 

Well, today didn't quite suck, but something kind of nerve-wracking happened. Basically, a patron brought a complaint to my supervisor, saying their family member had asked for my help and I had refused. This patron complained for a good while, some of it within earshot of me, while I wondered what was going on. 

Why? Because I don't remember helping this person. 

There's a better-than-average chance this patron is making the whole thing up, or exaggerating, or confusing me with someone else. This complaint was never brought to me at all; the patron went straight to my supervisor, who hasn't mentioned the incident to me. I expected to be called into his office, but I haven't been. Maybe it'll happen tomorrow, maybe not. 

I know that if there was a problem, it'd be addressed quickly. And I do my best to be friendly and polite to everyone. If I did "refuse" to help a patron, it was because I misunderstood the request and instead of clarifying what they meant, the patron decided to make a complaint. I have never once refused to help a patron. I've turned down requests that go against policy, but I've never refused to help someone. My supervisor knows this, and I know that if there was a problem, he'd say something to me. 

Yet I can't shake the feeling that this is all a massive head game, and it's going on my record, and at the end of my probationary period, I'll be jobless. I have to keep telling myself that not everyone plays head games, and I don't know if I'm believing it yet.  

 

 

[Sunbird she/her]

@TwiLyghtSansSparkles My bet is that the patron is thinking of a different employee and is confused. It sounds like your supervisor is a reasonable person, so I'm inclined to think that whatever the patron's problem is and whatever really happened, he'll make sure and get your side of the story. Since you don't remember interacting with the complainer, I don't see how anyone could logically blame you if they're unhappy. Given what you've told us about your family life at home, your worries are 100% understandable, but I think in this case it's the brain weasels trying to undermine you. Don't let them win! *hugs*

[Renoux she/her]

At what point in the day did this happen? Unless it happened right near the end of the day, and your supervisor didn't have time to talk to you about it, then it probably won't be a serious problem, otherwise you would have been talked to, (or e-mailed), already. I don't think you would really end up jobless from a simple complaint. I'm sure it'll turn out all right.  There is no reassuring emoticon on here, but if there was, I would use it.

Edited August 9, 2016 by Renoux
Just saw Sunbird's post. He's probably right about the brain weasels.

[TwiLyghtSansSparkles she/her]

9 minutes ago, Sunbird said:

@TwiLyghtSansSparkles My bet is that the patron is thinking of a different employee and is confused. It sounds like your supervisor is a reasonable person, so I'm inclined to think that whatever the patron's problem is and whatever really happened, he'll make sure and get your side of the story. Since you don't remember interacting with the complainer, I don't see how anyone could logically blame you if they're unhappy. Given what you've told us about your family life at home, your worries are 100% understandable, but I think in this case it's the brain weasels trying to undermine you. Don't let them win! *hugs*

Thanks.  He hasn't asked for my side so far, so I keep telling myself that it's because he got the patron to calm down and doesn't think it's worth pursuing further. 

9 minutes ago, Renoux said:

At what point in the day did this happen? Unless it happened right near the end of the day, and your supervisor didn't have time to talk to you about it, then it probably won't be a serious problem, otherwise you would have been talked to, (or e-mailed), already. I don't think you would really end up jobless from a simple complaint. I'm sure it'll turn out all right.  There is no reassuring emoticon on here, but if there was, I would use it.

It happened this morning. Even if it had been a busy day—which it wasn't—there's a whole hour where I'm off the desk, shelving books or doing other tasks. So he could've talked to me then, or even as I was leaving for the day. I haven't gotten an email, either, so like you said, it seems like he doesn't seem to think it's serious. 

Still. Growing up with head games makes you expect them at every turn.  

[Orlion Blight he/him]

As a former supervisor, sometimes patrons are Jack arses. Also, if you are always calm and helpful, supervisors tend to view you as such. They're on your side, they want to supervise useful people!

[Sunbird she/her]

30 minutes ago, Orlion Determined said:

sometimes patrons are Jack arses.

Need proof? Check out notalwaysright.com or the Facebook page "EXCUSE ME This is a Pharmacy NOT a Fast Food Restaurant!"