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[Orlion Blight he/him]

2 hours ago, Briar King said:

I hate shaving. I put it off a few days every time and then wind up with a burning face/chest. Seriously though shaving is annoying and Id love a laser treatment everywhere except my head, pits,& legs. Everything else I'd happily singe off for the rest of my life if I could.

Preach!

[Kaymyth she/her]

On 7/23/2016 at 7:46 AM, Quiver said:

According to my co-worker, I am "stroppy" and a "drama queen".

Excuse me for taking our job seriously. 

Standard deflection technique.  The alternative for your coworker is that they aren't taking the job seriously enough, and people are not good at acknowledging that they are lazy/inattentive.

17 hours ago, Oversleep said:

This is rather long; tldr: My family is constantly arguing and today it was about the chores which I do majority of.

Another fight broke out today. One of the traditional topics, "household chores".

It started off because the shower drain wasn't cleaned. My dad did say in my presence that "It needs cleaning", but I'm currently trying to force a new policy called "I ain't a storming telepath - tell me what to do" so I went with "Aha" and went about my own business. (I really hate when it turns out that I didn't do something that was obvious to my parents, but not to me. So right now I'm not reacting even to those vague "something needs to be done" because in 99% cases it turns out that I'm doing it and I'm replying with "Aha" or "something needs to be done" or "truly, it is the way you speak it is" (OK, not that one)) (And yes, I multiple times over had explained to them that I do not read their minds, so they need to tell me what to do. I had too many situations that I went ahead and did what I thought was sensible only to turn out it was completely unnecessary or even counter-productive)

The thing is, when we clean the whole house (once every two weeks), I already have the worst part: my sister dusts off things (about 15-20 minutes), my dad takes care of the bathrooms (half an hour? 45 minutes?), I vacuum the whole house (about one and half hour). So the shower is technically dad's jurisdiction, although if he went and asked me to do it (because he was tired or anything) I would have done that.

I take out the trash (daily), I unload the dishwasher (daily or more often), I load the dishwasher (at least three times a day), I clean dishes (few times a day. because apparently everyone else thinks that if they leave dirty things near the dishwasher, they magically clean themselves - I'm talking about things that can't go into dishwasher and I seem to be the only one not picking the glasses and plates that can't go in it ), I have the biggest part in the house cleaning, lately I help with preparing the meal (with increasing frequency), I mow the lawn (and it's a pretty big one), I help with the garden work...

While my sister is supposed to hang the laundry and iron it (once a week? Once every two weeks?) and do her small part in house cleaning... Yeah, supposed to. Usually the laundry waits for ironing for weeks and if she's told to do it, a fight breaks out. She thinks I should iron my clothes. The thing is, I already am taking over the 'hanging the laundry' thing. So why should I do iron my clothes, if I am already doing the majority of the chores?

My sister seems to think that she does far more than I do and constantly brings up in arguments how she would switch the places with me. Maybe ironing does take more time than taking out the trash, but I take out the trash far more often than she does ironing. And I don't argue about that every time I do it. Unlike her.
I'm fed up with all those arguments, shouting, screaming... I just want some peace.

Eugh.  It sounds like there's some definite passive-aggression going on there.  I'm right there with you - you want me to do something?  ASK me!  (Of course, my mom would, but she'd phrase it as, "Do you want to <do thing for me>?"  And "no" was not an acceptable answer.

I say call your sister's bluff.  Switch chores with her.  See how she handles it.

[TwiLyghtSansSparkles she/her]

49 minutes ago, Queen Elsa Steelheart said:

So I had a bullying situation today with a few of my friends.

Here is my rant:

I don't mind a lot of things, but there is one thing I can't stand, and that are bullies. Like why the heck do people even do it?! It's one of the main cause of depression and anxiety and yet people still do it. People have died from bullying! Seriously, I do not get it at all. Why the heck would someone want to be so mean instead of being nice?!

Key and Peele have a theory.  

Language and content warning. Definitely a PG-13. 

Spoiler

 

Sorry you have to deal with that, Elsa.  

[Claincy he/him]

From my knowledge/experience a lot of bullies act that way because they have self-esteem issues or other issues they are (failing) to deal with. Making someone else's life worse can make them feel superior or better about their own life in some way. That doesn't excuse bullying, though it can explain it.

I have no idea if knowing that helps you or not, but I like to understand why someone is behaving negatively when I can.

(I also really don't like bullying )

Edited July 25, 2016 by Claincy

[Briar King]

I made the mistake of tuning into the DNC when I knew it would grate on my nerves! Why do you punish yourself Tanner?! I should prob change channel before it wrecks what's left of my night lol

[Pinnacle-Ferring he/him]

22 hours ago, TwiLyghtSansSparkles said:

Key and Peele have a theory.  

Language and content warning. Definitely a PG-13. 

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Sorry you have to deal with that, Elsa.  

I'm not sure if that video is hilarious or extremely tragic...

[Delightful]

22 hours ago, TwiLyghtSansSparkles said:

Key and Peele have a theory.  

Language and content warning. Definitely a PG-13. 

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Sorry you have to deal with that, Elsa.  

 

42 minutes ago, Pinnacle-Ferring said:

I'm not sure if that video is hilarious or extremely tragic...

I.....didn't find that funny. A little absurd but  

[TwiLyghtSansSparkles she/her]

I've had a kind of frustrating morning so far. Aside from concerns I'm coming down with something, I had to deal with an uncooperative computer resulting into an equally frustrating call to IT and a few rude patrons. And when I texted one of those situations to my siblings, I was roundly ignored, my sister texting something entirely different an hour later. I'm noting that this is a trend with my family....almost like being restricted to text and phone calls didn't change the "ignore Twi until we want to remember she exists" dynamic at all.

Bah. I'm going to ignore my siblings for a few days. Same goes for Twimom and Twidad. See how long it takes them to pipe up with the "We miss you, why aren't you responding?" texts. 

[Kaymyth she/her]

37 minutes ago, TwiLyghtSansSparkles said:

I've had a kind of frustrating morning so far. Aside from concerns I'm coming down with something, I had to deal with an uncooperative computer resulting into an equally frustrating call to IT and a few rude patrons. And when I texted one of those situations to my siblings, I was roundly ignored, my sister texting something entirely different an hour later. I'm noting that this is a trend with my family....almost like being restricted to text and phone calls didn't change the "ignore Twi until we want to remember she exists" dynamic at all.

Bah. I'm going to ignore my siblings for a few days. Same goes for Twimom and Twidad. See how long it takes them to pipe up with the "We miss you, why aren't you responding?" texts. 

Your mom's blog keeps popping across my Facebook feed.  That woman scares me. 

[TwiLyghtSansSparkles she/her]

16 minutes ago, Kaymyth said:

Your mom's blog keeps popping across my Facebook feed.  That woman scares me. 

You have no idea how relieved I am that she no longer asks me to edit it, or expects me to share it. (I do have to admit feeling a perverse satisfaction at the number of typos I find each week, though.  )

[Silverblade5 he/him]

45 minutes too late, I've realized I may have left my nook on the ground when loading the rental

[TwiLyghtSansSparkles she/her]

2 hours ago, Silverblade5 said:

45 minutes too late, I've realized I may have left my nook on the ground when loading the rental

Oh no!  

[Silverblade5 he/him]

10 minutes ago, TwiLyghtSansSparkles said:

Oh no!  

Over 1000 books on the floor of a parking garage 

[Elenion he/him]

Just now, Silverblade5 said:

Over 1000 books on the floor of a parking garage 

Just think if that was literal. What would you think if you saw that? (bar pyro answers)

[Sunbird she/her]

13 minutes ago, Elenion said:

Just think if that was literal. What would you think if you saw that? (bar pyro answers)

"Did the Amazon truck with my book shipment crash in here, spill its cargo, and then evaporate??"

[Delightful]

My brother ended up with an extra Tracer bobblehead.

I asked him for it. He didn't reply, the conversation moved on.

Today he gave it to a work friend whom he'd had in mind for it. 

I am very sad. 

[TwiLyghtSansSparkles she/her]

My internal monologue, when working on my WIP: Argh, this sounded so much better in my head. What if it was a good idea, but the execution is all….Twilighty? You need to do more research, which you can't do until the people in Spokane get back to you….and they could just choose to ignore you. You won't be stuck, exactly, but it'll be a lot easier if someone in Spokane actually communicates what they know. And—oh, crud, what if they do get back to you, and you use that information, and the book still sucks? You'll have let them all down!

My internal monologue, when working on my Potterfic: You have no plot. You are spinning your wheels. Nothing is happening. You have all of these cool ideas, but in the meantime? What do you have? Nothing, that's what. 

I hate writing frustrations. 

[Quiver he/him]

6 hours ago, TwiLyghtSansSparkles said:

My internal monologue, when working on my WIP: Argh, this sounded so much better in my head. What if it was a good idea, but the execution is all….Twilighty? You need to do more research, which you can't do until the people in Spokane get back to you….and they could just choose to ignore you. You won't be stuck, exactly, but it'll be a lot easier if someone in Spokane actually communicates what they know. And—oh, crud, what if they do get back to you, and you use that information, and the book still sucks? You'll have let them all down!

My internal monologue, when working on my Potterfic: You have no plot. You are spinning your wheels. Nothing is happening. You have all of these cool ideas, but in the meantime? What do you have? Nothing, that's what. 

I hate writing frustrations. 

Just spent four hours trying to get something -anything!- on a age, and failed spectacularly.

I feel your pain.

[ThirdGen]

7 hours ago, TwiLyghtSansSparkles said:

My internal monologue, when working on my WIP: Argh, this sounded so much better in my head. What if it was a good idea, but the execution is all….Twilighty? You need to do more research, which you can't do until the people in Spokane get back to you….and they could just choose to ignore you. You won't be stuck, exactly, but it'll be a lot easier if someone in Spokane actually communicates what they know. And—oh, crud, what if they do get back to you, and you use that information, and the book still sucks? You'll have let them all down!

My internal monologue, when working on my Potterfic: You have no plot. You are spinning your wheels. Nothing is happening. You have all of these cool ideas, but in the meantime? What do you have? Nothing, that's what. 

I hate writing frustrations. 

 

I think you could use this.

 

[TwiLyghtSansSparkles she/her]

12 hours ago, ThirdGen said:

 

I think you could use this.

 

I could. Thank you.

[Sunbird she/her]

I don't understand why some people are so cruel. Today in church a guy (I'll call him Bob) started calling me a fattie kind of half under his breath (but loud enough that everyone on our side of the room could hear him) after he apparently took offense at the fact that he had cleared his throat and then I had too shortly afterwards. I guess he thought I was making fun of him? One of the other men in the room managed to get Bob to shut up until the end of the lesson, at which point I left silently and quickly.

Those of you who've met me in person will know that I am visibly overweight, but still, what kind of cremhole throws that in a girl's face in the middle of church? 

[Briar King]

One that's still not a fully grown man is my guess

[Delightful]

11 minutes ago, Sunbird said:

I don't understand why some people are so cruel. Today in church a guy (I'll call him Bob) started calling me a fattie kind of half under his breath (but loud enough that everyone on our side of the room could hear him) after he apparently took offense at the fact that he had cleared his throat and then I had too shortly afterwards. I guess he thought I was making fun of him? One of the other men in the room managed to get Bob to shut up until the end of the lesson, at which point I left silently and quickly.

Those of you who've met me in person will know that I am visibly overweight, but still, what kind of cremhole throws that in a girl's face in the middle of church? 

1. Your size is absolutely none of his business. 

2.  Rude. Just plain rude. 

3. Isn't church specifically for like, being spiritual and loving other people? Well done man, well done. 

[Orlion Blight he/him]

1 minute ago, Delightful said:

Isn't church specifically for like, being spiritual and loving other people? Well done man, well done. 

To quote Tina Turner: What's love got to do with it?

I hope he leaves you alone Sunbird. Ugly people like him are so often enabled, is disheartening.

[Sunbird she/her]

Thanks for the kind words, everyone. I really needed to hear that.