Meg Posted January 11, 2015 Posted January 11, 2015 My Grandma passed away today. Cancer sucks. I send you a virtual hug, too. Cancer took my Dad in 2001 and last year my Mum passed away, too. I was raised with the "imprinted" knowledge that my Mum was suffering from a heart condition and that I was not to upset her as for she could die if she was too excited. That didn't happen, nonetheless I lived with a permanent fear of her possible death everyday. My Mum died from old age, but both of them managed to bind me, especially my mum after my dad died. So I never really looked for myself and now I'm kind of lost. 1
traceria she/her Posted January 12, 2015 Author Posted January 12, 2015 That's the worst. *hugs* My dad was a total jerk, and honestly I'm much happier without him in my life. When people just cause stupid conflict, I genuinely believe that you should do the thing that makes you happier, and that generally means not tolerating their crap anymore. But you may not be in a place to do that. Maybe eventually. In total agreement with this. *points up* To Twi: Happy 25th! And also, don't put yourself down if you can help it. Your mom irrationally does that too much for yours or anyone's good. You are totally a catch from my impressions of you! To ArthurDent or anyone else despairing of finding a the right significant other: Take the words of maxal and Ashiok to heart. Also, be patient, love yourself and realize that your desired timing isn't always the right timing. I didn't even meet my husband until I was 28 (and I'd never had a serious boyfriend prior) and we married when I was 29 and he 30. Similarly, a friend of mine who I considered a total catch didn't meet and marry her husband until she was 35. Both she and I are glad we waited for the right person to come along. It's totally worth it even if you deal with some struggles beforehand. To Voidus: *hugs* to you. Cancer stinks and doubly so when it takes someone you love. I lost two grandparents and a very close aunt to to it years ago now, and it's always tough. It's tougher when the more you care about them, too. *repeat hugs* 3
Guest Posted January 12, 2015 Posted January 12, 2015 To ArthurDent or anyone else despairing of finding a the right significant other: Take the words of maxal and Ashiok to heart. Also, be patient, love yourself and realize that your desired timing isn't always the right timing. I didn't even meet my husband until I was 28 (and I'd never had a serious boyfriend prior) and we married when I was 29 and he 30. Similarly, a friend of mine who I considered a total catch didn't meet and marry her husband until she was 35. Both she and I are glad we waited for the right person to come along. It's totally worth it even if you deal with some struggles beforehand. A friend of mine did not meet the right one until he was in his late thirties. Now, in his mid-forties, he is the happy father of three young children. He found the special someone in the daughter of a neighbor. Another friend of mine remained single for nearly all of her twenties, never finding the right one, until she stumbled on the perfect guy, by happenstance, at a conference. She was in her early thirties. They are now married and the happy parents of a tiny baby. Another friend of mine was not considered a catch by most men: to put it kindly, nature has not gratified her with the most pleasant features and yet she has been with her husband for the past 14 years. They have three children and are very happy. He is much more handsome than she is and no, he does not care one bit about her physical appearance as she has many other very valuable qualities. We are often told we should meet a given milestone at a given age, but everyone's path is different. Too often I see young people feeling as if the train left the stations while they were still on the dock (I sure felt the same when I was in my early twenties). Little do they know the train comes back every once in a while.
traceria she/her Posted January 13, 2015 Author Posted January 13, 2015 My rant for the day: I really wish I did not have weird-driver magnetism. My husband tells me that when I'm in the car with him, people do crazy driving things with a much higher frequency than when he's driving by himself. (For the record, he's usually still the one driving when I'm in the car with him.) So today, I'm thanking God that the lane for oncoming traffic was clear, because not only did a driver make a very wide turn on a red light into flowing traffic (i.e. my car) but the guy in the right lane mostly next to me (half of his/her car was overlapping with mine in parallel fashion) decided to merge into my lane without using a turn signal. So, I had two cars nearly simultaneously heading for mine, either heading for the back corner of my car (guy who turned) or the right side of my car (the one merging without a signal). If it had not been for the clear lane where oncoming traffic usually is, I would have likely been hit by two different cars. I had to swerve over the yellow center lines. Nice way to start the day! 2
Voidus Posted January 13, 2015 Posted January 13, 2015 My rant for the day: I really wish I did not have weird-driver magnetism. My husband tells me that when I'm in the car with him, people do crazy driving things with a much higher frequency than when he's driving by himself. (For the record, he's usually still the one driving when I'm in the car with him.) So today, I'm thanking God that the lane for oncoming traffic was clear, because not only did a driver make a very wide turn on a red light into flowing traffic (i.e. my car) but the guy in the right lane mostly next to me (half of his/her car was overlapping with mine in parallel fashion) decided to merge into my lane without using a turn signal. So, I had two cars nearly simultaneously heading for mine, either heading for the back corner of my car (guy who turned) or the right side of my car (the one merging without a signal). If it had not been for the clear lane where oncoming traffic usually is, I would have likely been hit by two different cars. I had to swerve over the yellow center lines. Nice way to start the day! Kudos to you on keeping control regardless, I don't deal well with aggressive/idiot drivers like that at all, I'd probably just panic and break and then still get hit by both.
TwiLyghtSansSparkles she/her Posted January 13, 2015 Posted January 13, 2015 My rant for the day: I really wish I did not have weird-driver magnetism. My husband tells me that when I'm in the car with him, people do crazy driving things with a much higher frequency than when he's driving by himself. (For the record, he's usually still the one driving when I'm in the car with him.) So today, I'm thanking God that the lane for oncoming traffic was clear, because not only did a driver make a very wide turn on a red light into flowing traffic (i.e. my car) but the guy in the right lane mostly next to me (half of his/her car was overlapping with mine in parallel fashion) decided to merge into my lane without using a turn signal. So, I had two cars nearly simultaneously heading for mine, either heading for the back corner of my car (guy who turned) or the right side of my car (the one merging without a signal). If it had not been for the clear lane where oncoming traffic usually is, I would have likely been hit by two different cars. I had to swerve over the yellow center lines. Nice way to start the day! I know what you mean. We get a lot of snowbirds in the winter, meaning I'll usually drive to work surrounded by drivers who don't believe in turn signals or exceeding speeds of 40 mph. And they're the competitive sort of old people, too, so if you try to pass them, they'll speed up just enough to keep you from ducking in front of them, then slow down once you get behind them again.
little wilson she/her Posted January 13, 2015 Posted January 13, 2015 I know what you mean. We get a lot of snowbirds in the winter, meaning I'll usually drive to work surrounded by drivers who don't believe in turn signals or exceeding speeds of 40 mph. And they're the competitive sort of old people, too, so if you try to pass them, they'll speed up just enough to keep you from ducking in front of them, then slow down once you get behind them again. Ugh. That sounds terrible. It's pretty bad here too. When I went home for Christmas (I'm from southern Idaho and I live in Utah), it was snowing/raining as I was coming into Salt Lake on my drive back. 90% of the drivers in Utah tailgate horribly in the summer. They don't lighten up in the winter. I had 5-6 seconds between me and the car in front me fairly consistently, and the person behind me was typically less than a second back, but sometimes as far as two seconds back. Why people could ever consider that a safe following distance with enough reaction time is beyond me. Although, I used to tailgate too. Until I spun out on the freeway last year. That terrified me suitably that I learned exactly how to drive in the winter and I don't do that anymore. Nor will I ever again. It was interesting to feel the effects of adrenaline that much though. I'd never had an adrenaline rush quite like one gets when they're facing the wrong direction in the express lane on the interstate....
traceria she/her Posted January 13, 2015 Author Posted January 13, 2015 You all should drive in New Jersey sometime... Not only do we get Delaware drivers (often ranked in the top ten of states with the worst drivers) frequently in South Jersey, we're by Philly, which I've also seen in the top ten cities for worst drivers. Not that I don't totally empathize, 'cuz I do.
Quiver he/him Posted January 27, 2015 Posted January 27, 2015 So... here's the thing. There's nothing wrong with me, in terms of something bad happening triggering things, or whatever. This is entirely just a mood-swing situation, and maybe a little self-pitying, so I'm sorry, in advance, for posting thing. But storms, I'm just not feeling it today. There's no reason for it, but I just feel kind of... down today. I'm lethargic, I can't concentrate, I'm finding it hard to get enthusiastic about posting and stuff (which I normally am), I'm just...off, or something. It's annoying, and I'm kind of hoping that taking the time to post this might give me some kind of burst towards cheering up, but... Yeah. I feel kind of... bleh. 5
Voidus Posted January 27, 2015 Posted January 27, 2015 *hugs*I've been there before, nothing to beat yourself up about. If you can find the energy I usually find a good book is absorbing enough to take your mind off of it for a while. 1
traceria she/her Posted January 27, 2015 Author Posted January 27, 2015 *hugs* I've been there before, nothing to beat yourself up about. If you can find the energy I usually find a good book is absorbing enough to take your mind off of it for a while. In agreement with Voidus here. We all have these funk days from time to time, and usually, at least for me and others I know (talking about such days with friends/family), it's a matter of bearing it as best as possible and letting it pass naturally on its own. Try not to be hard on yourself and just find something to do that's most appealing. Often times on days like that, not a lot stands out as something you'd like to do or feel capable of doing, so just pick the one or two things that are least burdensome or most appealing, however you'd like to phrase that. Also, an upvote can't hurt. Hang in there! 1
TwiLyghtSansSparkles she/her Posted January 29, 2015 Posted January 29, 2015 Jolly Ranchers will be the bane of my sanity. I know it sounds like a small thing to get to me, but it really bugs when when people smack their lips on hard candy. So of course my work has a big bowl of Jolly Ranchers out in the open, which of course everyone likes. Add to this the fact that I haven't been feeling well and everything seems ten times more annoying than it actually is....and I have a day where I just want to hide in the bathroom until all the Jolly Ranchers are gone. I've tried to just get over this before. I can't. No matter how long I spend trying to desensitize myself to the sound of smacking lips, it always just bugs me even more than it did before. Why must my brain hate me? 2
traceria she/her Posted January 30, 2015 Author Posted January 30, 2015 TwiLyght, would it make you feel better to think that this has potential to be your Epic weakness? I know what you mean, though. There used to be something like that that really bugged me years ago, but I don't think I'm in an environment now where people tend to do it anymore, so have forgotten what it was. I do remember the feeling, though. You kind of turn into one of those caricatures from TV/movies/cartoons with the bulging vein and the hands wringing the empty air. Here, have some chocolate, which you do not have to smack to enjoy! *hands chocolate * 1
Voidus Posted January 30, 2015 Posted January 30, 2015 Jolly Ranchers will be the bane of my sanity. I know it sounds like a small thing to get to me, but it really bugs when when people smack their lips on hard candy. So of course my work has a big bowl of Jolly Ranchers out in the open, which of course everyone likes. Add to this the fact that I haven't been feeling well and everything seems ten times more annoying than it actually is....and I have a day where I just want to hide in the bathroom until all the Jolly Ranchers are gone. I've tried to just get over this before. I can't. No matter how long I spend trying to desensitize myself to the sound of smacking lips, it always just bugs me even more than it did before. Why must my brain hate me? If it helps that's an actual condition that even has its own name: Misophonia Apparently mimicry is supposed to help some people, but then for other people it's even worse when they make the noise so it may or may not be worth it 1
Meg Posted January 31, 2015 Posted January 31, 2015 There's no reason for it, but I just feel kind of... down today. I'm lethargic, I can't concentrate, I'm finding it hard to get enthusiastic about posting and stuff (which I normally am), I'm just...off, or something. It's annoying, and I'm kind of hoping that taking the time to post this might give me some kind of burst towards cheering up, but... Yeah. I feel kind of... bleh. Hopefully you feel better again. Take a hug from me, too. You're describing a feeling -- or not-feeling -- I'm in far to often. Sometimes it's even worse, then I kind of feel like Shallan was described, staring at some distant point and trying to blank my brain, not to think. Then neither books help and reading or writing here is not possible. 2
Surgebound Rainspren he/him Posted February 6, 2015 Posted February 6, 2015 Um....so this is probably a sad-rant on the behalf to most of the Rooster teeth community...as one of the greatest artistic visionaries on animators passed away recently....So yeah, a lot of people are going to miss Monty Oum. 3
TwiLyghtSansSparkles she/her Posted February 7, 2015 Posted February 7, 2015 If you don't know the name of the person you were going to meet, and you ask a question that doesn't make sense to me because of faulty intel, please don't giggle at me like I'm a moron when I don't know how to help you. Please. 1
Briar King Posted February 10, 2015 Posted February 10, 2015 Oh NOOOOOOOO!! Red Eagle sucks for this. https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=cvNYIEN1vIg 2
Briar King Posted February 10, 2015 Posted February 10, 2015 What's bad is this was purely done so Red Eagle could retain rights for WoT... Their contract was over 2/11/15 if nothing made it to air. Now the contract has been fulfilled and they retain rights. So so so Rant worthy I think.
Voidus Posted February 14, 2015 Posted February 14, 2015 Um....so this is probably a sad-rant on the behalf to most of the Rooster teeth community...as one of the greatest artistic visionaries on animators passed away recently....So yeah, a lot of people are going to miss Monty Oum. Wait what? :'(
Queen Elsa Steelheart she/her Posted February 14, 2015 Posted February 14, 2015 Just a stressful week :/
Quiver he/him Posted February 14, 2015 Posted February 14, 2015 So... I kind of... had a little bit of a breakdown. I've mentioned it before- in this thread and elsewhere, I think- that I have a bit of OCD. I was taking medication for it, but I've been off it for a while now, which is good. Except that lately stuff has been getting me, and the things I thought I was over sort of... came back. Which, as you can imagine, is bad. I've been dealing with it, in part because I've had sites like this as a place to relax. But... Well, yesterday, I had a bit of technical difficulties. I got stuff sorted in the end, but it sort-of ended up being the straw that broke the camels back, I feel a little better now- partly due to ranting about this to someone else- but I'm probably going to be MIA or at least inactive for a bit. Sorry to anyone I was speaking to yesterday; falling off the wagon (so to speak) did not exactly put me ina good place, mentally speaking, so sorry if I seemed (or seem) a bit off. 1
Kobold King he/him Posted February 14, 2015 Posted February 14, 2015 Just a stressful week :/ Sorry to hear that. Hope things start getting a little less stressful on you. So... I kind of... had a little bit of a breakdown. I've mentioned it before- in this thread and elsewhere, I think- that I have a bit of OCD. I was taking medication for it, but I've been off it for a while now, which is good. Except that lately stuff has been getting me, and the things I thought I was over sort of... came back. Which, as you can imagine, is bad. I've been dealing with it, in part because I've had sites like this as a place to relax. But... Well, yesterday, I had a bit of technical difficulties. I got stuff sorted in the end, but it sort-of ended up being the straw that broke the camels back, I feel a little better now- partly due to ranting about this to someone else- but I'm probably going to be MIA or at least inactive for a bit. Sorry to anyone I was speaking to yesterday; falling off the wagon (so to speak) did not exactly put me ina good place, mentally speaking, so sorry if I seemed (or seem) a bit off. Yikes. I don't know much about your specific difficulties or situation, so there's little I can say in terms of advice. Here's hoping you avoid breakdowns in the future--I wish you a delightful existence and a peaceful frame of mind, and if you need to vent or rant or talk to achieve either of those... Well, just remember that my PM box is always--
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