TwiLyghtSansSparkles she/her Posted February 14, 2015 Posted February 14, 2015 Sales guys who have never done my job and think they're qualified to lecture me on it. That is all.
Kobold King he/him Posted February 14, 2015 Posted February 14, 2015 Sales guys who have never done my job and think they're qualified to lecture me on it. That is all. That also sounds like it sucks. I'd give all you guys upvotes as a symbol of sympathy... but my quota is exhausted by your collective awesomeness over the rest of the forum.
Kaymyth she/her Posted February 14, 2015 Posted February 14, 2015 (edited) What's been driving me nuts lately (i.e., for about the last year) is a particular corporate client who is now also a competitor. We're dumping them as a client as soon as we can, but it's to the point where I want to decorate the end date on the calendar with shiny stars and sparklies and things and throw a gorramed office party when the day finally comes. But the really awesome thing about all of it is that they keep doing these weird things, and we are constantly having moments of, "Wait, are they attempting more shenanigans? Or is this just them being incompetent again?" I keep my spirits up by imagining them in their office building, trundling along in little clown bumper cars and bouncing off of each other while Yakity Sax plays in the background. Edited February 14, 2015 by Kaymyth 2
Queen Elsa Steelheart she/her Posted February 14, 2015 Posted February 14, 2015 Sorry to hear that. Hope things start getting a little less stressful on you. Thanks I hope so too.
Delightful Posted February 16, 2015 Posted February 16, 2015 So I get anxiety about talking to strangers. And my iPod is broken. There is no Apple store nearby. So I went on a wild goose chase yesterday trying to find someone to fix it under warranty, which involved talking to lots of strangers in lots of different shops. Which I was mostly ok with. Except today I'm residually anxious and am basically staying in bed doing nothing, even though there are places I need to be and things I need to do and organise (including other ways of getting it fixed.) And I don't even have my iPod to listen to music to help with my mood. Hooray. And Internet too slow for YouTube. So I'm having a pretty stressful useless day, wishing a fairy godmother would come wave a wand and make everything ok. *sigh* 3
Queen Elsa Steelheart she/her Posted February 16, 2015 Posted February 16, 2015 *hugs* I'm sorry to hear that 1
Delightful Posted February 16, 2015 Posted February 16, 2015 *hugs* I'm sorry to hear that *hugs*. Thanks.
Kaymyth she/her Posted February 17, 2015 Posted February 17, 2015 Ow. Today is just...not going well. First off, apparently Kansas Citians forget about snow every year, so when it finally comes, they all panic. This morning, we had some flakes coming down. The roads were fine; better than yesterday, actually, and yet the drivers were worse. I think perhaps the phenomenon of snowfall and blue sky at the same time caused a lot of brains to seize up. And then, there was 1" slush on the stairs down from above the parking garage. Guess what I did? If you guessed, "slipped and fell on her rear end mid-staircase" you win a wooden nickel. So now my backside is sore. And my back is getting there. And somehow I smacked my shoulder pretty hard, too. And at 2PM my pants are finally almost dry. I think I'm going to make an executive decision and say that today is fired. 1
Briar King Posted February 17, 2015 Posted February 17, 2015 Wait so your shut down just thinking about talking to people the day after you talked? My sis and bnlaw are becoming reclusive and it's baffling us but it fascinating to me. Wish I could help them.
traceria she/her Posted February 17, 2015 Author Posted February 17, 2015 (edited) Wait so your shut down just thinking about talking to people the day after you talked? My sis and bnlaw are becoming reclusive and it's baffling us but it fascinating to me. Wish I could help them. I can relate to this both directly and in observing my husband (he and I are two of a kind in this regard), Delightful. *hugs * to you! Just the end of last week, I kind of dealt with it myself. I had an interview on Thursday, a doctor's appointment on Friday, had to deal with weirdos due to work, and then had to make all sorts of phone calls trying to get prescriptions and utterly failing to make that happen. As a result, I didn't have any social energy left to even put together a "hey, here's how my good interview went" email to my family. They still haven't heard anything because all weekend I just didn't want to talk to anyone let alone someone on the phone (I HATE phones and all they represent, enough that I probably have phone aversion if not worse). Anyhow, anxiety issues aside, when you are also very introverted, phone calls and dealing with people can zap more energy from you than you have in reserve, thus making it much more likely to duck your head back into your shell. (Edit to add: This is probably why I've been absent from 17th Shard, too.) Quiver, you get some *hugs* for all you're going through now, too. Edited February 17, 2015 by traceria
Briar King Posted February 17, 2015 Posted February 17, 2015 Fascinating. In another life I'd commit to studying the brain and social disorders people seem to be developeing as the world gets more advanced.
SmurfAquamarineBodies he/him Posted February 17, 2015 Posted February 17, 2015 I can relate to this both directly and in observing my husband (he and I are two of a kind in this regard), Delightful. *hugs * to you! Just the end of last week, I kind of dealt with it myself. I had an interview on Thursday, a doctor's appointment on Friday, had to deal with weirdos due to work, and then had to make all sorts of phone calls trying to get prescriptions and utterly failing to make that happen. As a result, I didn't have any social energy left to even put together a "hey, here's how my good interview went" email to my family. They still haven't heard anything because all weekend I just didn't want to talk to anyone let alone someone on the phone (I HATE phones and all they represent, enough that I probably have phone aversion if not worse). Anyhow, anxiety issues aside, when you are also very introverted, phone calls and dealing with people can zap more energy from you than you have in reserve, thus making it much more likely to duck your head back into your shell. (Edit to add: This is probably why I've been absent from 17th Shard, too.) Quiver, you get some *hugs* for all you're going through now, too. Aww and you are talking to us.
Queen Elsa Steelheart she/her Posted February 18, 2015 Posted February 18, 2015 (edited) Just a terrible,stressful, irritating day. *sigh* Edited February 18, 2015 by Queen Elsa Steelheart
Delightful Posted February 19, 2015 Posted February 19, 2015 (edited) Wait so your shut down just thinking about talking to people the day after you talked? My sis and bnlaw are becoming reclusive and it's baffling us but it fascinating to me. Wish I could help them. I think it was built-up anxiety that I wasn't aware of how bad it was and so couldn't deal with, and then the next day when I wasn't distracted by my goal (which totally happens) then it all came crashing down. As best I understand it anyway. Human psychology is definitely fascinating, and I think in the world at large there is so much pressure on, like, *everything* that even small things can overload your stress saturation point. Anyway, I'm working on it. And thank G-D for good friends who got me outside and out of my misery for a while. In general there's also the introvert/extrovert thing - I have a friend who loves talking to people and gains energy by being loud and outgoing. Some people like me find that tiring, and after a while have to sit down alone and read a book or something to recharge because being social takes up energy. And there's a spectrum there. Hugs to everyone. I love how this topic has turned into a 17th Shard support group. Edited February 19, 2015 by Delightful 3
Guest Posted February 19, 2015 Posted February 19, 2015 Well, I have been having a bad month in general. I'm currently having a lot of disagreements with my parents. When I argue, I try to come at the argument from a coldly rational and logical standpoint, so as not to offend anyone through emotional outbursts. But even so, it seems like every time I say something, my parents either hit me with the "you have a bad attitude" bomb or the "you're too young to understand the right way to do things" bomb. I can't win, even if I know that I'm right! It's like my viewpoint is just discounted because I haven't hit the magical age of adulthood.
TwiLyghtSansSparkles she/her Posted February 19, 2015 Posted February 19, 2015 Well, I have been having a bad month in general. I'm currently having a lot of disagreements with my parents. When I argue, I try to come at the argument from a coldly rational and logical standpoint, so as not to offend anyone through emotional outbursts. But even so, it seems like every time I say something, my parents either hit me with the "you have a bad attitude" bomb or the "you're too young to understand the right way to do things" bomb. I can't win, even if I know that I'm right! It's like my viewpoint is just discounted because I haven't hit the magical age of adulthood. I'm sorry you're going through that. Believe me, I know what it's like. I had to endure many such counter "arguments" as a teen, and even as an adult, my mom likes to use things like my tone of voice (which she mimics in a snotty way to make me sound more disrespectful than I was) and my word choice (no matter which words I use) to force me to admit that she's right and I'm wrong. Even when she's making something into a bigger deal than it is. I don't know what to say except...one day you'll be able to set your own rules and answer to yourself. And in the meantime, e-hug? 1
Surgebound Rainspren he/him Posted February 19, 2015 Posted February 19, 2015 oh lovely week..but if you'll pardon my sarcasm i'll tell you why. whilst eating raspberry muffins (delicious by the way) the news came on the radio telling me that the berry company I buy from was recalling their products because the products are giving people hepatitis A. One of those products, in case you where wondering, were the berries in the muffins I was eating. 3
Kaymyth she/her Posted February 19, 2015 Posted February 19, 2015 Well, I have been having a bad month in general. I'm currently having a lot of disagreements with my parents. When I argue, I try to come at the argument from a coldly rational and logical standpoint, so as not to offend anyone through emotional outbursts. But even so, it seems like every time I say something, my parents either hit me with the "you have a bad attitude" bomb or the "you're too young to understand the right way to do things" bomb. I can't win, even if I know that I'm right! It's like my viewpoint is just discounted because I haven't hit the magical age of adulthood. I'm sorry you're going through that. Believe me, I know what it's like. I had to endure many such counter "arguments" as a teen, and even as an adult, my mom likes to use things like my tone of voice (which she mimics in a snotty way to make me sound more disrespectful than I was) and my word choice (no matter which words I use) to force me to admit that she's right and I'm wrong. Even when she's making something into a bigger deal than it is. I don't know what to say except...one day you'll be able to set your own rules and answer to yourself. And in the meantime, e-hug? The fun thing about parents: they know exactly which buttons to push on you, 'cause they're the ones that programmed them. And there's no "magic age" so much as there's a point, several years after you've grown up and moved out, that they finally start noticing that you're an adult and doing adult things and somehow haven't managed to blow yourself up yet. And then they (mostly, depending on the individual) start treating you like an adult. But they do backslide now and then. Not that you can't give them reason to on purpose now and then. I'm in my mid-thirties, and my mother is still in the "lalala I'm not listening and you'll grow out of it" phase of me wandering off on my own spiritual path. And I think she's still secretly aghast at the fact that I had chunks of purple in my hair at my wedding. Which just goes to show that we're never too old to enjoy tormenting our parents. But for now...sometimes the only way to win is to drop the rope. It's not always possible, I know, but when you can pull it off, it does leave them rather confused. 3
traceria she/her Posted February 19, 2015 Author Posted February 19, 2015 And I think she's still secretly aghast at the fact that I had chunks of purple in my hair at my wedding. Which just goes to show that we're never too old to enjoy tormenting our parents. If I was your mother or now-wife, the only thing I'd be concerned with is whether or not your hair clashed with the color scheme for the wedding. Purple goes with a lot, so it was probably fine. By the way, when I was in college a long time ago (I'm also mid-thirties), my grandmother found out I'd died a portion of my hair light purple and threatened to stop sending me $20 in the mail every now and then. Instead of not doing it again, I just made sure I didn't do it anytime I knew I'd see someone from home. It was wash-out stuff anyway that disappeared after a few weeks. Also, hugs to all those dealing with parents who like to push buttons. *HUGS * 1
Kaymyth she/her Posted February 19, 2015 Posted February 19, 2015 If I was your mother or now-wife, the only thing I'd be concerned with is whether or not your hair clashed with the color scheme for the wedding. Purple goes with a lot, so it was probably fine. The color scheme itself was purple and gold. My dress was even a lovely shade of dusty purple, just a few shades too dark for lavendar. That was another thing that my mother couldn't quite wrap her head around....but seriously. I am a pale, freckled redhead. White makes me look like death. In purple, I look fabulous. It was a no-brainer. 1
traceria she/her Posted February 19, 2015 Author Posted February 19, 2015 (edited) The color scheme itself was purple and gold. My dress was even a lovely shade of dusty purple, just a few shades too dark for lavendar. That was another thing that my mother couldn't quite wrap her head around....but seriously. I am a pale, freckled redhead. White makes me look like death. In purple, I look fabulous. It was a no-brainer. Oh, nice! My husband is also a redhead. He doesn't care, but I try to encourage specific colors for him to wear, too. (He's not the best with colors and matching anyway. He's not technically color blind, but he does have trouble with mixing up different colors that are of similar shade.) For almost anyone so pale, white is a terrible idea. (Sorry for the assumption you were a guy... I'm not sure what made me think that! Edit to add: After thinking about this more, I think my brain was making connections between names that begin with K and Brandon characters, because he's got some main characters who are male with K names. On this site, it's no wonder... ) Edited February 19, 2015 by traceria
Kaymyth she/her Posted February 19, 2015 Posted February 19, 2015 Oh, nice! My husband is also a redhead. He doesn't care, but I try to encourage specific colors for him to wear, too. (He's not the best with colors and matching anyway. He's not technically color blind, but he does have trouble with mixing up different colors that are of similar shade.) For almost anyone so pale, white is a terrible idea. (Sorry for the assumption you were a guy... I'm not sure what made me think that! Edit to add: After thinking about this more, I think my brain was making connections between names that begin with K and Brandon characters, because he's got some main characters who are male with K names. On this site, it's no wonder... ) What? You mean you couldn't correctly discern my gender based on a completely neutral user icon and a not-obviously-gendered screen name? For shame! I probably oughta bite the bullet and finish my pony pic. It's not like there is any point of reference for anyone here to understand what the heck is going on with my current pic anyway. 2
traceria she/her Posted February 20, 2015 Author Posted February 20, 2015 I probably oughta bite the bullet and finish my pony pic. It's not like there is any point of reference for anyone here to understand what the heck is going on with my current pic anyway. Ooooo, you're working on a pony pic?! Do join the crowd Herd!
Guest Posted February 21, 2015 Posted February 21, 2015 The fun thing about parents: they know exactly which buttons to push on you, 'cause they're the ones that programmed them. And there's no "magic age" so much as there's a point, several years after you've grown up and moved out, that they finally start noticing that you're an adult and doing adult things and somehow haven't managed to blow yourself up yet. And then they (mostly, depending on the individual) start treating you like an adult. But they do backslide now and then. I think to come to realize your child no longer is a child is a very difficult thing to do, for most parents. I recalled how frustrated I was, in my early twenties, to see my parents stubbornly refuse to acknowledge me as an adult. Blissfully, they grew out of if as I left the parental house somewhere near my mid-twenties. However, I do think parents never really stop seeing their children as... children... even when they reach their thirties, even when they end up having their own kids, it never really goes away completely. And I understand. I have kids of my own now and yeah, it is sometimes hard to see them grow as you keep remembering them when they were tiny little babies It is very hard to explain... It must have to do with hormones.... On the day you become a mother, your body chemical content must suddenly change, but you do get the huge need to protect, shelter those kids. I keep calling my son "baby" or "mommy's little baby boy" :ph34r: Alright. He's two. He does not mind yet and I promise I won't be doing it in front of his friends later on but I may end up calling him "baby" for years.... Who knows... And I am pretty sure when he'll reach his twenties, I will still see him as.... my tiny little baby who was so little when I hold him the first time (even though he was a huge baby as far as baby standards go) Just like my own mother thinks I am a messy person, my house is dirty (it is not dirty, just messy) and that I should spend more time ordering it I guess she still sees me as a teenager needing to be put to work when it comes to domestic tasks Just to say, this growing up thing is not easy for anyone. It is hard at times to recall how you felt at the time and yet come to understand how your parents must have been feeling, because it turns out you are feeling just the same. Now. Gee. Life.
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