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[Delightful]

I have gone the therapy route before for something else prior to this, but it didn't help a whole ton. It is something I have been considering going to because I had a breakdown in the middle of work yesterday...

Thank you for the kind words. They have made my heart a little bit lighter today. It's good to know that there are more out there who care.

I've found the individual therapist has a *lot* to do with the helpfulness of the therapy. If you didn't get much out of it last time, maybe try see someone else?

[RawToast225 he/him]

I've found the individual therapist has a *lot* to do with the helpfulness of the therapy. If you didn't get much out of it last time, maybe try see someone else?

That could very well be the case. I might try someone else, I just don't know. Thanks for the suggestion!

 

Today is the day. The dreaded one year marker. I have visited various places we used to hang out, had a couple decent cries, yelled at the air, and talked to a few old mentors. I hate today. Today is stupid.

[Delightful]

That could very well be the case. I might try someone else, I just don't know. Thanks for the suggestion!

Today is the day. The dreaded one year marker. I have visited various places we used to hang out, had a couple decent cries, yelled at the air, and talked to a few old mentors. I hate today. Today is stupid.

You're welcome. Anything to help.

*hugs*

[Briar King]

Omg. Just turned on the news and so far 145 deaths at a school in Pakistan...

Assholes man...truly horrible.

[Delightful]

Omg. Just turned on the news and so far 145 deaths at a school in Pakistan...

Assholes man...truly horrible.

And to pick on a school of all places? To attack CHILDREN??????? I honestly don't undestand how thinking feeling human beings can do that. What's wrong with them???

*sigh*

Hugs all around guys. Hugs all around.

[Curiosity he/him]

I'll be 35 in a few months :( :( I have kids now, no way escaping it: I am a grown up. This is scary sometimes I recalled to original X-Men series, that one got translated Snorkels! I had forgotten about that one

 

You use snorkels as an exclamation too!?!?!?!?

[gjustice99 she/her]

I hate the song "Break Free" by Ariana Grande. It is so unoriginal! The lyrics are the most uncreative I've ever heard. Also the line "become who I really are". It should be become who I really AM. It would still sound the same. Even if it was grammatically correct the song would still suck.

Edited December 22, 2014 by gjustice99

[Guest]

You use snorkels as an exclamation too!?!?!?!?

 

Seems like it... Can't remember what I wrote initially though.

[TwiLyghtSansSparkles she/her]

Do you know the one Christmas song I can't stand? The one I consider even worse than "Last Christmas"?

"The Christmas Shoes."

The entire song is nothing more than four minutes of "Look at these children. Isn't it sad? Their mother is dying on Christmas. Did your mother die on Christmas? No? Weep for them. I SAID WEEP FOR THEM! WEEP FOR THESE POOR CHILDREN OR YOU WILL BE BANISHED TO THE REALM OF THE HEARTLESS ONES! MERRY FRIGGIN CHRISTMAS!"

Look, I get it. Tragedies happen, and they don't care what holiday it is. But when I'm out doing my Christmas shopping, I'd rather think about the hope Jesus brought the world and how I can share it with people, not wondering who heard that song and thought "Heeeyyyyy, this would be an awesome one to play at the happiest time of the year!"

Edited December 22, 2014 by TwiLyghtSansSparkles

[Delightful]

Do you know the one Christmas song I can't stand? The one I consider even worse than "Last Christmas"?

"The Christmas Shoes."

The entire song is nothing more than four minutes of "Look at these children. Isn't it sad? Their mother is dying on Christmas. Did your mother die on Christmas? No? Weep for them. I SAID WEEP FOR THEM! WEEP FOR THESE POOR CHILDREN OR YOU WILL BE BANISHED TO THE REALM OF THE HEARTLESS ONES! MERRY FRIGGIN CHRISTMAS!"

Look, I get it. Tragedies happen, and they don't care what holiday it is. But when I'm out doing my Christmas shopping, I'd rather think about the hope Jesus brought the world and how I can share it with people, not wondering who heard that song and thought "Heeeyyyyy, this would be an awesome one to play at the happiest time of the year!"

Um. Wow. Why is that even considered a holiday song??

[RawToast225 he/him]

Because it has the word "Christmas" in the title. Duh

 

What's the deal with stupid managers? They have the most unreasitic expectations out of associates (I work at WalMart). The thing about it is that most of them know what it's like to be an associate. They know what it's like to have crappy managers, and they still do it. Morons.

[TwiLyghtSansSparkles she/her]

Um. Wow. Why is that even considered a holiday song??

 

Your guess is as good as mine.

 

Because it has the word "Christmas" in the title. Duh

 

What's the deal with stupid managers? They have the most unreasitic expectations out of associates (I work at WalMart). The thing about it is that most of them know what it's like to be an associate. They know what it's like to have crappy managers, and they still do it. Morons.

 

When you said "I work at Walmart," my first inclination was to say "I'm sorry."  

 

I know how that is, though. I've had some pretty terrible managers, and the funny thing is, most of them have horror stories about terrible managers they've worked for. My guess is that they work so hard to avoid the things that made their managers terrible, that they do the opposite of what those managers did, and they wind up taking it so far that they become terrible in a completely different way. I think it was C.S. Lewis who said that evils are sent into the world in opposites—the hope is that you'll react out of one and into the other. The same applies to managers. 

 

(Oddly enough, the one manager I had at JC Penney who wasn't terrible hated his job. Hated it. Complained about JCP every chance he got. When most managers closed the store, they would make us stay for nearly an hour after the store closed, nitpick stupid things in departments they didn't like, or let the women's department slack off while the rest of us had to go down and finish their work for them. Not this one. When he closed the store, all associates rejoiced, for they knew he wanted to get out of there as quickly as possible and would let us out as soon as the store looked decent. Funny, that the fact he hated his job made him a much better manager than all the rest.) 

[RawToast225 he/him]

Orson Scott Card in Ender's Game said "Is it some rule of nature that you eventually become what your first commander was?" I have entertained that possibility before and I don't find it to be true. No matter who teaches you, be it enemy, teacher, or manager, it is still up to you to find moderation. Yin Yang, Good Evil, Indifference Passion, all extremes that must be avoided. Extremes are odd things.

[Delightful]

Orson Scott Card in Ender's Game said "Is it some rule of nature that you eventually become what your first commander was?" I have entertained that possibility before and I don't find it to be true. No matter who teaches you, be it enemy, teacher, or manager, it is still up to you to find moderation. Yin Yang, Good Evil, Indifference Passion, all extremes that must be avoided. Extremes are odd things.

Are you saying that good is an extreme that should be avoided? Because I'd have to disagree with you there.

Id also say there's a rare time and place for absolute extremes, but generally a mix is needed.

Edited December 23, 2014 by Delightful

[traceria she/her]

Because it has the word "Christmas" in the title. Duh

 

What's the deal with stupid managers? They have the most unreasitic expectations out of associates (I work at WalMart). The thing about it is that most of them know what it's like to be an associate. They know what it's like to have crappy managers, and they still do it. Morons.

The worst managers or bosses are the ones that think they're doing you a favor by being a jerk, like it's for your own good.  Haven't these people every heard of honey getting more flies than vinegar?

 

 

On an unrelated note... To all those experiencing bad days and also those note: Happy Christmas Eve Eve!

[SmurfAquamarineBodies he/him]

So apparently hearing voices telling you to commit suicide is bad. So now I get to not go uni next year but I'm going to be dealing with the suppressed memories of the rape I endured when I was 16. Yay!!! It's going to be soooo fun.

[RawToast225 he/him]

Are you saying that good is an extreme that should be avoided? Because I'd have to disagree with you there.

Id also say there's a rare time and place for absolute extremes, but generally a mix is needed.

What it means is to not strive for extremes, but instead find the natural path which is naturally good. Don't try to be good, try to be selfless and humble.

 

Edit: I know this is extremely Taoist, I just really like Taoism. I can't help it.

 

So apparently hearing voices telling you to commit suicide is bad. So now I get to not go uni next year but I'm going to be dealing with the suppressed memories of the rape I endured when I was 16. Yay!!! It's going to be soooo fun.

I am so sorry. I don't know what it is like to hear voices, but I have been on the brink of killing myself. It is no fun. As for the rape thing, I have no advice for you. I just think that it will suck and suck and suck until it just doesn't one day. Again, I am sorry you have to deal with these things.

Edited December 24, 2014 by Arthur Dent

[TwiLyghtSansSparkles she/her]

So apparently hearing voices telling you to commit suicide is bad. So now I get to not go uni next year but I'm going to be dealing with the suppressed memories of the rape I endured when I was 16. Yay!!! It's going to be soooo fun.

 

…I don't know what to say except that, wow. I'm so sorry. I haven't been through that, but I do know what it's like to be suicidal. I know you can pull through, though. You've made it this far; you're strong enough to make it a little further. 

 

*hugs* 

[Delightful]

What it means is to not strive for extremes, but instead find the natural path which is naturally good. Don't try to be good, try to be selfless and humble.

 

Edit: I know this is extremely Taoist, I just really like Taoism. I can't help it.

See, I would put it the other way around. I would say, yes be selfless and humble, but on the flip side there's a time to be selfish and more arrogant (ie when someone's walking all over you/those you love, you need to put yourself first and stand up for yourself). And I would classify that balance as 'good', and therefore something to be striving towards.

 

I don't really know anything about Taoism, but sure

 

 

So apparently hearing voices telling you to commit suicide is bad. So now I get to not go uni next year but I'm going to be dealing with the suppressed memories of the rape I endured when I was 16. Yay!!! It's going to be soooo fun.

 

I honestly do not know what to say to that, except I'm really sorry and sometimes the world just sucks. It might not be fun, but it sounds like it'll be good in the long run for you to take time off and sort everything out. I really really hope everything works out for you.

 

Edit: I just also want to say, as a general comment on this whole thread - for a (thank G-D) only very short amount of time, I've been suicidal too. That makes, what, five people lately, if not more, have admitted to that here, in this small sample size of humanity? Is something wrong with us today, with society as a whole that's messing everyone up? I mean, if you go back a few hundred or thousand years, did people have just as many mental health issues as we all do but it wasn't diagnosed???  Cause I just really don't think that mental health problems should be so prevalent. Something's messed up. That's my rant of the day.

Edited December 24, 2014 by Delightful

[RawToast225 he/him]

See, I would put it the other way around. I would say, yes be selfless and humble, but on the flip side there's a time to be selfish and more arrogant (ie when someone's walking all over you/those you love, you need to put yourself first and stand up for yourself). And I would classify that balance as 'good', and therefore something to be striving towards.

 

I don't really know anything about Taoism, but sure

I don't think that's selfishness. Selfishness is doing things for yourself. When you stand for someone else, it's not selfishness.

 

That was a bit of pretension on my part. Sorry.

 

Edit: I don't think there is ever a time for selfishness. Ever. Ever. No religion except the Satanists preach selfishness. Maybe whatever churches Ayn Rand spawned do, but the most respected ones never do.

Edited December 24, 2014 by Arthur Dent

[Iredomi]

I just also want to say, as a general comment on this whole thread - for a (thank G-D) only very short amount of time, I've been suicidal too. That makes, what, five people lately, if not more, have admitted to that here, in this small sample size of humanity? Is something wrong with us today, with society as a whole that's messing everyone up? I mean, if you go back a few hundred or thousand years, did people have just as many mental health issues as we all do but it wasn't diagnosed???  Cause I just really don't think that mental health problems should be so prevalent. Something's messed up. That's my rant of the day.

 

In New Zealand where I live, one of the highest causes of death, which has nothing to do with disease or road accidents (though depression as a mental illness surely comes into it) is suicide. Still it's hardly ever talked about which is insane. 

 

EDIT: I think there is something missing in our modern societies a sense of community perhaps.

Edited December 24, 2014 by Iredomi

[SmurfAquamarineBodies he/him]

Thank you for the words of support. Of course I will make it further, there are Cosmere books that need to be read. If anyone else is suicidal I found repeating the first ideal of the Knights Radiant to be helpful. ( My god that sounds weird. Does this make me obsessed with the Cosmere? It can't be normal to use a fictional phrase to get through suicidal tendencies. Meh, I have never been accused of being normal. )

[TwiLyghtSansSparkles she/her]

Thank you for the words of support. Of course I will make it further, there are Cosmere books that need to be read. If anyone else is suicidal I found repeating the first ideal of the Knights Radiant to be helpful. ( My god that sounds weird. Does this make me obsessed with the Cosmere? It can't be normal to use a fictional phrase to get through suicidal tendencies. Meh, I have never been accused of being normal. )

If it's not normal, then I'm definitely not normal. For me, it was Pixar movies. Feeling hopeless, like you can't go on? "Just keep swimming, just keep swimming, just keep swimming, swimming, swimming..." Feeling as though the world is a horrible place and life will never change, no matter what you do? WALL-E lived in a garbage dump for seven hundred years, and his faithful work made Earth habitable again. Feeling as though your best days are behind you and that there's nothing good left to see? So did Carl Fredrickson, and he ended the story not alone in a nursing home, but with a boy he loved like a son and a pack of talking dogs. Feeling like your monsters are too big to face and you should just surrender? Princess Atta felt that way too, but Flick showed her that anyone is clever enough to face their monsters. Wondering if you're too broken to love? Woody felt that way too, and he ended that movie with new friends and the loving family he had at the beginning.

Stories are powerful. Maybe more powerful than any advice you'll hear.

Edited December 24, 2014 by TwiLyghtSansSparkles

[Delightful]

If it's not normal, then I'm definitely not normal. For me, it was Pixar movies. Feeling hopeless, like you can't go on? "Just keep swimming, just keep swimming, just keep swimming, swimming, swimming..." Feeling as though the world is a horrible place and life will never change, no matter what you do? WALL-E lived in a garbage dump for seven hundred years, and his faithful work made Earth habitable again. Feeling as though your best days are behind you and that there's nothing good left to see? So did Carl Fredrickson, and he ended the story not alone in a nursing home, but with a boy he loved like a son and a pack of talking dogs. Feeling like your monsters are too big to face and you should just surrender? Princess Atta felt that way too, but Flick showed her that anyone is clever enough to face their monsters. Wondering if you're too broken to love? Woody felt that way too, and he ended that movie with new friends and the loving family he had at the beginning.

Stories are powerful. Maybe more powerful than any advice you'll hear.

And isn't that really the point of stories? They let us see beyond ourselves, that's the real beauty of them. I've often reread Kaladins near suicide scene in WoK when I'm feeling like everything is hopeless. 'One more try can't hurt if there already lost'

[Iredomi]

You are beautiful people. I don't think I can add very much to what they've said but yes stories are so so powerful. And if the Cosmere is what keeps you going at this point then that is something so incredible and by no means weird.