TwiLyghtSansSparkles she/her Posted September 15, 2014 Posted September 15, 2014 There is a positive to that though... If she learns how to use the tech, she might not need to bother you for that specific thing ever again. In the long run, it's better for you. Or at least, that's how it's worked with my mother. Instead of doing all the tech stuff for her, I've taught her how to do it for herself. It's like that old proverb about fishing. True. And she can post without trouble. But with the design things, and whenever she has a problem, she'll run to me for help. Even if I'm doing homework at the time.
Voidus Posted September 15, 2014 Posted September 15, 2014 As a digital native with good copy editing skills, I am helping my mom move her blog from Livejournal to Wordpress. Let me say up front that she is appreciative of my help. She's even getting me a gift card to my favorite shoe store. And she has thanked me several times. But honestly, I don't expect any of that. I can do without new shoes. All I really want is to be left alone while I work. I get why she doesn't do that. I'm an introvert, she's an extrovert. She isn't familiar with the ins and outs of website setup, so when she sets one up, she wants someone to sit with her and show her what to do as she does it. I don't. I would much rather have her make me a list of what she wants and how she wants it, then leave me alone for an hour while I figure it out. Having her sit beside me asking questions and adding things to my workload as she thinks of them not only drives me insane, but it keeps me from doing the fifteen other things she asked me to do first. And to make things worse, I feel like I can't tell her, "Mom, please leave me alone. Just write up a list of what you want and I'll do my best to get it for you," because when I've done that in the past, she has lost it. She lectured me until I cried and made me feel like a jerk for ever bringing it up. So all I can do is put up with doing things her way until it's the way she wants it, with her standing over my shoulder and asking a ton of questions. Welcome to the glorious world of being the family tech support. 1
Fatebreaker he/him Posted September 15, 2014 Posted September 15, 2014 (edited) "The pain of not having enough pain…it’s still pain, young man. That may sound like an easy resolution, but we’re not writers. We’re actors. Story doesn’t matter here. All that matters is our time…in the spotlight." "I do! I understand that reference..." Yay community. After going to a community college for 2 years my friend intro duced my to the show.(I now attend a state university, thankfully) It's uncannily accurate. As for my gripe, I had a meeting in a town 45 minutes away. I was rushing be cause I was late, so I forgot my cell phone at home. This means I did not get the call telling me that it was cancelled, so I waited at the meeting place for half an hour before gettig a clue. There went my evening... Edited September 15, 2014 by Fatebreaker
traceria she/her Posted September 25, 2014 Author Posted September 25, 2014 "This must be a Thursday.... I never could get the hang of Thursdays." So, the day I decide to take our hand-me-down car to get tested at the emissions station is also the day it won't start. The key fab wouldn't even unlock the car, that's how little juice was left in it. An inspection under the hood showed corrosion on the positive/negative terminals (I looked up the technical term instead of just calling them thingies), which I'm thinking was due in part to our recent trip to the beach with its salty air. Hopefully that's all that's wrong with it, but now it's got to go in the shop before we can get it inspected. That's a Thursday for you!
Guest Posted September 25, 2014 Posted September 25, 2014 "This must be a Thursday.... I never could get the hang of Thursdays." So, the day I decide to take our hand-me-down car to get tested at the emissions station is also the day it won't start. The key fab wouldn't even unlock the car, that's how little juice was left in it. An inspection under the hood showed corrosion on the positive/negative terminals (I looked up the technical term instead of just calling them thingies), which I'm thinking was due in part to our recent trip to the beach with its salty air. Hopefully that's all that's wrong with it, but now it's got to go in the shop before we can get it inspected. That's a Thursday for you! Yeah. Broken car sucks. I hope it won't be too expensive to fix Over here, I'd say it was more "Boring Thursday". Nothing happened. Nothing interesting happened at work, nothing interesting happened with my colleagues, nothing interesting happened with my kids, nothing interesting happened on the forum (so few posts lately), nothing interesting happened on my facebook, so yeah it's booooooring. Sucks when both your real and virtual life are just uneventful
traceria she/her Posted September 26, 2014 Author Posted September 26, 2014 Sucks when both your real and virtual life are just uneventful I've noticed it's been a little quieter, too, since getting back from vacation on the 15th. I think it's probably because school's started up, whether that means parents on the site are busy dealing with kids going back or users are high school or college aged themselves. Fortunately, it was just the battery, which has been replaced already. We just need to pick it up. I'll take an easy car fix any day!
Guest Posted September 26, 2014 Posted September 26, 2014 I've noticed it's been a little quieter, too, since getting back from vacation on the 15th. I think it's probably because school's started up, whether that means parents on the site are busy dealing with kids going back or users are high school or college aged themselves. Fortunately, it was just the battery, which has been replaced already. We just need to pick it up. I'll take an easy car fix any day! Yeah or maybe we have run out of topics to discuss...? It has been boring lately... There use to be so many new subjects every day and now days are spend with little happening. My own kids don't go to school yet, so summer, fall, winter, spring is pretty much all the same. Oh good. Battery is not a big deal. I had a car that kept breaking down... I recalled fixing this preston fueling pipe twice in the scope of a month.... Not to mention those dumb wipers that kept breaking even though I changed the motor twice on them.... Needless to say I go rid of that piece of junk and got something a little more "reliable"
TwiLyghtSansSparkles she/her Posted September 27, 2014 Posted September 27, 2014 I swear customers have a psychic connection with me, and all decide to walk in the second I'm about to do something else. Paperwork? The phone rings and the person cannot speak to a robot or a voicemail, they have to talk to an advisor right now. Straightening the lounge? Someone walks through the door. About to go to the bathroom? A car pulls up the drive. They know. I could swear they know. 1
Guest Posted September 27, 2014 Posted September 27, 2014 I swear customers have a psychic connection with me, and all decide to walk in the second I'm about to do something else. Paperwork? The phone rings and the person cannot speak to a robot or a voicemail, they have to talk to an advisor right now. Straightening the lounge? Someone walks through the door. About to go to the bathroom? A car pulls up the drive. They know. I could swear they know. Have you considered the possibility they might be psychics? Or that they have super powers, much like Professor X in the X-Men? It would explain a lot.....................
TwiLyghtSansSparkles she/her Posted September 28, 2014 Posted September 28, 2014 Have you considered the possibility they might be psychics? Or that they have super powers, much like Professor X in the X-Men? It would explain a lot..................... That would be kind of cool, actually.... Also, I hate it when my mom talks over me. I'll start to say something, comment on the news or a show we watched, and she'll raise her voice over mine so I have to hear her but she can't hear me. Even when we agree on something. Even when what we're discussing is kind of trivial. My brother says it's just her personality, he does the same thing, but when he does that, he'll stop when he's done and say "Sorry, what were you saying?" Mom doesn't even do that. She says her piece and doesn't even acknowledge that I was talking when she raised her voice to drown out what I was saying. Maybe it's all unintentional. But it doesn't feel that way. And she's effectively outlawed criticizing her (do it and she'll turn it all back on you and play the victim) so I can't even bring it up and ask if it's an accident or not.
Guest Posted September 28, 2014 Posted September 28, 2014 That would be kind of cool, actually.... Also, I hate it when my mom talks over me. I'll start to say something, comment on the news or a show we watched, and she'll raise her voice over mine so I have to hear her but she can't hear me. Even when we agree on something. Even when what we're discussing is kind of trivial. My brother says it's just her personality, he does the same thing, but when he does that, he'll stop when he's done and say "Sorry, what were you saying?" Mom doesn't even do that. She says her piece and doesn't even acknowledge that I was talking when she raised her voice to drown out what I was saying. Maybe it's all unintentional. But it doesn't feel that way. And she's effectively outlawed criticizing her (do it and she'll turn it all back on you and play the victim) so I can't even bring it up and ask if it's an accident or not. There are people in my family who are behaving this way and trust me, I do not think it is intentional. I think these people do not realize how annoying or disturbing there behavior is towards others. Your brother, however, learned his habit is bothersome and is therefore trying to improve himself. He must have realized, at some point, how unnerving it was. Listening to others is an art that needs to be taught from a young age. Some people are natural at it, but some need to work on this aspect, just like I have to tell my 4 years old not to speak over us, to wait until we are done before saying what she wants, to not interrupt people when they are speaking, to not raise her voice above that of others.... Listening is not something she does naturally and since it is the same for me, it is not hard to figure out where it comes from...... However, if I teach her it is not proper behavior, she will learn to control herself and it won't turn into a bad habit like it did for your mother. It is possible nobody ever bothered to explain these things to your mother when she was young to do something about it and now she has grown unresponsive. My mother and my mother-in-law are too unable to her criticism and have no desire to modify any bad behavior they may exhibit.
TwiLyghtSansSparkles she/her Posted September 30, 2014 Posted September 30, 2014 There are people in my family who are behaving this way and trust me, I do not think it is intentional. I think these people do not realize how annoying or disturbing there behavior is towards others. Your brother, however, learned his habit is bothersome and is therefore trying to improve himself. He must have realized, at some point, how unnerving it was. Listening to others is an art that needs to be taught from a young age. Some people are natural at it, but some need to work on this aspect, just like I have to tell my 4 years old not to speak over us, to wait until we are done before saying what she wants, to not interrupt people when they are speaking, to not raise her voice above that of others.... Listening is not something she does naturally and since it is the same for me, it is not hard to figure out where it comes from...... However, if I teach her it is not proper behavior, she will learn to control herself and it won't turn into a bad habit like it did for your mother. It is possible nobody ever bothered to explain these things to your mother when she was young to do something about it and now she has grown unresponsive. My mother and my mother-in-law are too unable to her criticism and have no desire to modify any bad behavior they may exhibit. Thanks. I know she probably doesn't do it on purpose, but it feels that way when I start to say something and she raises her voice to be heard over what I'm saying. I know I need to find a way to just live with it, but….it's just hard, I guess.
Guest Posted October 1, 2014 Posted October 1, 2014 Thanks. I know she probably doesn't do it on purpose, but it feels that way when I start to say something and she raises her voice to be heard over what I'm saying. I know I need to find a way to just live with it, but….it's just hard, I guess. Yeah, I understand the feeling... When I talk to my mother, I sometimes feel my words are entering by one ear and exiting by the other.... I sometimes try to say sometime I feel is important, but she'll talk over me describing how she performed he latest recipe or how annoying her in-laws are With years, I just gave up. When she does this, I slowly to to steer the conversation to the important topic even if I have to repeat myself about 10 times :ph34r: I still love her, she is great for other things and she is a wonderful grand-mother.
Kasimir he/him Posted October 2, 2014 Posted October 2, 2014 *rage* Why the blazes does every storming thing have to be due exactly in the same storming week? This is the time when I really, really would like to strangle cleaning-obsessed people. There are no major issues with ants, it's not going to explode, it's not a big deal. We can worry about it *after* the gates of hell have closed, by which I mean after the week of exams and all sorts of crem has come to an end. Major fires first, then the minor ones. What about that is so rusting hard to understand?!
Guest Posted October 2, 2014 Posted October 2, 2014 *rage* Why the blazes does every storming thing have to be due exactly in the same storming week? This is the time when I really, really would like to strangle cleaning-obsessed people. There are no major issues with ants, it's not going to explode, it's not a big deal. We can worry about it *after* the gates of hell have closed, by which I mean after the week of exams and all sorts of crem has come to an end. Major fires first, then the minor ones. What about that is so rusting hard to understand?! Makes me recall the time my parents thought it appropriate to have the floors redone in the house during my last week of exam at University..... The noise.... The people... It was a complete mayhem in the house and I couldn't study for the life of me. Hell :angry: Those storming floors could have waited for another week.... Really. And I thought my parents chose an ugly kind of wood... Didn't help.
Kasimir he/him Posted October 3, 2014 Posted October 3, 2014 Makes me recall the time my parents thought it appropriate to have the floors redone in the house during my last week of exam at University..... The noise.... The people... It was a complete mayhem in the house and I couldn't study for the life of me. Hell :angry: Those storming floors could have waited for another week.... Really. And I thought my parents chose an ugly kind of wood... Didn't help. I feel your pain. And a friend of mine had that happen right smack in the middle of their GCE A levels. Friend was not a happy camper for those few weeks.
Guest Posted October 3, 2014 Posted October 3, 2014 I feel your pain. And a friend of mine had that happen right smack in the middle of their GCE A levels. Friend was not a happy camper for those few weeks. The compressor used to nailed hard wood floor is just painful noisy... Even with ear plugs, I just couldn't concentrate on reading my stuff. I nearly had to camp of my friends house in hope to get a bit a work done. I got my revenge as I still think that floor is ugly... 10 years later. Muahahahahahahaha
TwiLyghtSansSparkles she/her Posted October 3, 2014 Posted October 3, 2014 I'm taking online classes, and every week we have to read several articles and discuss them. This week's topic is on organizational change in the library setting. I have nothing to say about this. Nothing at all. I have no opinion. How am I supposed to discuss this when I have nothing to say?
Guest Posted October 4, 2014 Posted October 4, 2014 I'm taking online classes, and every week we have to read several articles and discuss them. This week's topic is on organizational change in the library setting. I have nothing to say about this. Nothing at all. I have no opinion. How am I supposed to discuss this when I have nothing to say? Makes me think of my English class when I was a teenager... To practice conversation, the teacher had us "pick a topic" in a box and chat amongst ourselves in small group. The topics were all so very enlightening such as: "Do you like Heavy Metal music" or "Are you afraid of lightening" or "Do you play with dolls" I recall that, for the oral conversation exam, I unfortunately picked "When do you frown". Go. Now talk about this for 5 minutes Talk about having nothing to say
Voidus Posted October 4, 2014 Posted October 4, 2014 I finally get over my most recent bout of CH only to move straight into panic attack season. Why can't I have a normal brain?
TwiLyghtSansSparkles she/her Posted October 4, 2014 Posted October 4, 2014 I finally get over my most recent bout of CH only to move straight into panic attack season. Why can't I have a normal brain? Oh, I'm sorry. I know what panic attacks are like. 1
Guest Posted October 4, 2014 Posted October 4, 2014 I finally get over my most recent bout of CH only to move straight into panic attack season. Why can't I have a normal brain? Normal is overrated. How many of us can claim to be "normal" if one can managed to aptly describe "normal". If it can make you feel better, know that we all have our own personal issues
traceria she/her Posted October 5, 2014 Author Posted October 5, 2014 I finally get over my most recent bout of CH only to move straight into panic attack season. Why can't I have a normal brain? I'm so sorry you're dealing with this on top of the CHs. I had a good friend in high school that had debilitating attacks. They're so tough. Remember, we're here for you! 1
TwiLyghtSansSparkles she/her Posted October 9, 2014 Posted October 9, 2014 Dear Person in Traffic, While it's very noble to stop in the middle of a busy street at rush hour to let three cars pull out ahead of you, please keep in mind that some of the people behind you have jobs. Perhaps the person behind you was honking because your politeness was making her late for work. Sincerely, Someone who wants to maintain a good attendance record 1
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