Having a Bad Day? Stop here for a Good Rant!

[TwiLyghtSansSparkles she/her]

It actually got sorted out about half an hour after I posted that. Turns out it was a clerical mistake, and they are gonna fix it next week. Not in any danger of losing my classes, like I thought I was going to. Thanks for hoping it works out soon, cause it did XD.

 

That's awesome! Glad it all worked out.  

 

I don't know if there are any other clusterheads on here but I get cluster headaches and I just started another cycle last night, pain meds don't do anything at all and the targetted medications are taking for ever to get right. So now I'm going to have a month or so of very little sleep, intense pain and crying. 

 

 

Upvoted as a sign of support.

 

I will do the same once I have an upvote to give. 

[Voidus]

Thanks guys, it really does mean a lot. Helps to get through knowing that people care.

[Tien'sPetLurg she/her]

On mothers: The hardest part of Life is dealing with other People. It gets so complicated. It's easy to repeat parenting missteps. You go by what you know. Either you model the opposite of what "they" did that bothered you or you go the same route. Seldom do we think of additional options because we don't know about them. Everyone flies by the seat of their pants in each generation. None of us have all the answers. If our kids knew that and we (parents) knew that about ourselves and stated as much up front, if we all gave each other some grace when that happened and gave each other permission to be individuals, things could go a bit smoother.

To make it worse, different kids respond differently. The thing that made you crazy as a child may be Exactly the thing your child needs. The thing you loved as a child may have zero affect on your kid. "When I grow up, I'll do it differently. I'll let my child...." You get there to that One Day and find out your kid could care less about what you worked so hard to make sure that they'd have. "But I would have LOVED it if my parents had only..." Life splashes water on your face and says "Surprise your kid isn't you!" It's a miracle we keep the population going. Ha! (A chemistry miracle: All of those chemicals that make us procreation crazy are what keeps us going.) Despite every effort, None of us are going to get it perfectly right.

Most people overlook their primal parental function: Train your offspring to survive in the wild. That's a bittersweet process for an emotional mother. This little being that feels like your heart walking around outside of your body is to learn to need you less, all the while, the scales are tipping and you feel like you need them more. The job description: Give up most of yourself and bust your backside to grow close to a small person (who gives pushback and demonstrates little to no appreciation) so that you can teach him/her not to need, or possibly, want you. What a sweet deal! Right?! hahaha As long as Baby can fly from the nest and can fend for itself, the parenting job has been successful. That's one dose of reality a lot of us can't handle.

(big hugs) to everyone because no role in relating to others is a "breeze." (Oh B.S.---how well you named that character!) 
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Financial aid fiasco- glad that is getting resolved. Clerical errors are so easy to make and can create so many problems. Glad this one is going to be a slight inconvenience.

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Cluster headaches - Those sound Terrible. I have a friend who had them. She had to have medication custom compounded. I will check and see what worked for her.

[Quiver he/him]

I had to bury my dog yesterday.

 

Maybe it's not "bad" on the same level of things you guys are talking about, and the fact it's been a day means I'm feeling a little better about it, but...

Yes. Not feeling so great.

[Kobold King he/him]

I had to bury my dog yesterday.

 

Maybe it's not "bad" on the same level of things you guys are talking about, and the fact it's been a day means I'm feeling a little better about it, but...

Yes. Not feeling so great.

 

Aww, I'm sorry. I don't know what to say by way of comfort or support other than I earnestly feel sympathy. I've lost a lot of animals, and it's always a hardship. 

[Voidus]

I had to bury my dog yesterday.

 

Maybe it's not "bad" on the same level of things you guys are talking about, and the fact it's been a day means I'm feeling a little better about it, but...

Yes. Not feeling so great.

Losing a pet is never easy, they're an awesome mix of close family, best friend and the best keeper of secrets ever. *hugs*

Edited September 1, 2014 by Voidus

[TwiLyghtSansSparkles she/her]

I had to bury my dog yesterday.

 

Maybe it's not "bad" on the same level of things you guys are talking about, and the fact it's been a day means I'm feeling a little better about it, but...

Yes. Not feeling so great.

 

Upvoted as a sign of support. 

 

I lost one of my dogs last December, and it wasn't easy. She was old, so we were expecting it, but I still burst into tears at work that day. I know how hard it is. It's almost like losing a friend. But I can tell you loved your dog, which means you gave it a good life, and that's all that matters. 

 

It'll get easier, I promise. 

[Edgedancer he/him]

I had to bury my dog yesterday.

 

Maybe it's not "bad" on the same level of things you guys are talking about, and the fact it's been a day means I'm feeling a little better about it, but...

Yes. Not feeling so great.

I don´t really know what to say but I´m sorry for you. My stomach still turns every time I think about the fact that my cat will die sooner rather than later, even if I hopefully still going to have some years with her.

 

I don't know if there are any other clusterheads on here but I get cluster headaches and I just started another cycle last night, pain meds don't do anything at all and the targetted medications are taking for ever to get right. So now I'm going to have a month or so of very little sleep, intense pain and crying. 

My condolence to you. Pain is never a good thing.

[Tien'sPetLurg she/her]

I am so sorry about your dog, Quiver. Loss is awful. I'm glad you have a little bit better feeling today. I hope you have lots of good memories to reflect on. I only had 1 dog because I didn't think I could stand that feeling of loss again. Wouldn't life be easier if we had some sort of emotional attachment switch we could turn on and off when we want? Ok maybe it wouldn't. (thinking of how that might work against us...) 
*sigh* I guess you just have to go through it to get to the other side. Hoping happier times are just around the proverbial corner for you.

[traceria she/her]

That is terrible, what your mom would do. My mom does the same thing, although she's a little more belligerent about it. I can't say which is worse—the yelling or the quiet aggression. I think they're both awful. 

 

I've got another year or thereabouts. In the meantime, I'm looking at apartments in cities where I'd like to live, and I'm checking out hotels that I can run to in the near future if need be. 

 

Thanks for saying that it gets better. I believe you, and I'm hoping things will get better soon. I'm not looking forward to the fights that will happen when I finally do stand my ground, but if it worked for you, then I think it'll work for me too.

 

It's good you're planning for things now, too.

 

 

I don't know if there are any other clusterheads on here but I get cluster headaches and I just started another cycle last night, pain meds don't do anything at all and the targetted medications are taking for ever to get right. So now I'm going to have a month or so of very little sleep, intense pain and crying. 

So sorry you have to suffer with these!  A friend of mine gets them and has tried so many different medications.  It's very frustrating.  I hope these have a shorter duration than in the past!

 

 

I had to bury my dog yesterday.

 

Maybe it's not "bad" on the same level of things you guys are talking about, and the fact it's been a day means I'm feeling a little better about it, but...

Yes. Not feeling so great.

 

That definitely qualifies as bad!     You have my sympathies as well!  I hope you can focus on the good memories and come out the other side of mourning with those in mind.

[TwiLyghtSansSparkles she/her]

Hidden for pettiness.

 

I hate it when one of the guys where I work tries to make himself look more important in front of customers by making me look dumb ("Usually I have her do this, but I've got it this time;" coming around to my side of the desk to check that I'm making the copies right when he has to ask for my help with the machine half the time; flat-out ignoring my questions when answering them will benefit him because they have to do with data entry for his customers, etc.). Minor problem, and super first-world, but it just bugs me.

 

An even more petty problem: 

 

And why can people not enjoy hard candy with their lips closed? Must every peppermint cause you to smack your lips in delight constantly? *whimper* Just make it stop….

Edited September 6, 2014 by TwiLyghtSansSparkles

[Guest]

I had a good real life day. Today was my first time ever organizing a kid's birthday party and it was a blast. The kids had a lot of fun and everyone behaved admirably. My daughter was so happy to have her daycare friends, here at home, to play with her, it was worth the effort I received praise from the other kids parents on how well organized my birthday was: I was the first one in my daughter's group to try such a thing and parents were a little anxious over it. I told them they could stay or leave depending on how comfortable they were. Turned out they all stayed for a while and when they saw we had it under control, they all left. I had planned a few activities such as candy hunting, pin the balloons on Pinky Pie and decorate your cupcake. Kids were really enthusiastic about all of it.

 

So yeah, it was a great real life day.

 

My virtual day however did not go so well.

 

I think there is something wrong with me    I find I just cannot fit in any community, no matter the subject. It keeps happening and I never really know how it got this bad. It usually starts with me saying a comment I believe is inconsequential or sometimes it is just an unpopular opinion, but I feel I should be able to speak out my thoughts even if they go against the popular belief. Then, someone picks it up and I, stupid I who just does not know how to drop an argument, will argument against it. In fact, I'll just put more oil on the fire, but each time I naively think that if I can manage to phrase my toughs properly, people will understand. Except it never happens. It always turns into a bonfire and then I just do not know what to do anymore.

 

That's usually the point where I start to feel it is getting personal. And it saddens me as it is happening, yet *again*.

 

It had happened here a few times. It has happened elsewhere. I just do not fit I feel there is no place for someone like me. If I try to argument logically, I am being told my logic is not sound enough or my arguments are not valid or my interpretations are not acceptable or my readings are wrong and each time I feel the tone used is aggressive and/or arrogant or something in it rubs me of. Perhaps it is me, perhaps I am too susceptible. If I try to speak out how I feel about something particular, I am being told I have no proof, I have no evidence or I do not know what I am talking about. If I express my dislike of certain things, I manage to do it in a way that angers people who like such things.

 

I never know what I did wrong, but it just keeps happening. I must therefore conclude the problem must be myself. What else other conclusion could I possibly make?

 

I have tried and I keep trying but to what end? If I give up and quit, then I am a victim, but if I keep trying what am I? The unliked annoyance everyone just wish would leave?

 

So yeah, despite my good real life day, I am bummed. I feel like I don't belong, not just here, but everywhere and there is nothing worst than feeling rejected out of virtual community

[TwiLyghtSansSparkles she/her]

"I'd like to speak to one of your advisors."

"All of our advisors are with customers at the moment. Would you like to leave one of them a voicemail?"

"No, I need to speak to someone. I'll just hold."

"All right. I'm not sure how long your wait will be, though."

*flatly, as though speaking to a moron* "Well, there is t really an option."

Great. So when you hang up in ten minutes and call back furious that I couldn't connect you, I won't really have any option but to listen to you yell at me for spending those ten minutes trying to connect you, will I?

[Guest]

"I'd like to speak to one of your advisors."

"All of our advisors are with customers at the moment. Would you like to leave one of them a voicemail?"

"No, I need to speak to someone. I'll just hold."

"All right. I'm not sure how long your wait will be, though."

*flatly, as though speaking to a moron* "Well, there is t really an option."

Great. So when you hang up in ten minutes and call back furious that I couldn't connect you, I won't really have any option but to listen to you yell at me for spending those ten minutes trying to connect you, will I?

 

Gee, your job does not sound easy

[TwiLyghtSansSparkles she/her]

Gee, your job does not sound easy

 

It's not that bad, most of the time. Most of our customers are great, or at least decent. But those few who aren't…well, they really stand out. 

[Matrim Bloody Cauthon he/him]

I have tried and I keep trying but to what end? If I give up and quit, then I am a victim, but if I keep trying what am I? The unliked annoyance everyone just wish would leave?

So yeah, despite my good real life day, I am bummed. I feel like I don't belong, not just here, but everywhere and there is nothing worst than feeling rejected out of virtual community

Try feeling rejected and like you dont belong in your own home. Please dont feel like i belittled your feelings. Truly i did not. I feel your pain amd am just ranting about my own problems. So please dont feel like i just belittled you.

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[Voidus]

Hidden for pettiness.

 

I hate it when one of the guys where I work tries to make himself look more important in front of customers by making me look dumb ("Usually I have her do this, but I've got it this time;" coming around to my side of the desk to check that I'm making the copies right when he has to ask for my help with the machine half the time; flat-out ignoring my questions when answering them will benefit him because they have to do with data entry for his customers, etc.). Minor problem, and super first-world, but it just bugs me.

 

An even more petty problem: 

 

And why can people not enjoy hard candy with their lips closed? Must every peppermint cause you to smack your lips in delight constantly? *whimper* Just make it stop….

That's petty of him, not you. Also completely agree with the second one

Irritating when I'm in a good mood, during a cluster I feel the completely unreasonable urge to just yell at them for an hour.

[TwiLyghtSansSparkles she/her]

That's petty of him, not you. Also completely agree with the second one

Irritating when I'm in a good mood, during a cluster I feel the completely unreasonable urge to just yell at them for an hour.

 

AGH! See, naysayers? Other people find it annoying, too!  

 

I'm sorry. I hope they start leaving you alone before too long. 

[Kobold King he/him]

 

My sympathies to people here who actually have problems and annoyances that plague them.

 

This isn't so much a problem as a concern. I have a porch covered in young kittens that are roaming increasingly far from the house. I live in a fairly rural part of Texas, however, and a roaming coyote is passing through the area right now. The dominant pack of coyotes in the area is remarkably well-mannered and doesn't come up close to human habitations, but young males with a nomadic lifestyle occasionally roam through. These individuals seldom have a fear of humans instilled in them, and every time one has passed by before, I have lost a cat to it. 

 

So yeah. Carry on, ye who have actual problems and aren't just incurable worrywarts.

[TwiLyghtSansSparkles she/her]

Just...stuff.

Edited September 11, 2014 by TwiLyghtSansSparkles

[Voidus]

 

My sympathies to people here who actually have problems and annoyances that plague them.

 

This isn't so much a problem as a concern. I have a porch covered in young kittens that are roaming increasingly far from the house. I live in a fairly rural part of Texas, however, and a roaming coyote is passing through the area right now. The dominant pack of coyotes in the area is remarkably well-mannered and doesn't come up close to human habitations, but young males with a nomadic lifestyle occasionally roam through. These individuals seldom have a fear of humans instilled in them, and every time one has passed by before, I have lost a cat to it. 

 

So yeah. Carry on, ye who have actual problems and aren't just incurable worrywarts.

"The pain of not having enough pain…it’s still pain, young man. That may sound like an easy resolution, but we’re not writers. We’re actors. Story doesn’t matter here. All that matters is our time…in the spotlight."

[TwiLyghtSansSparkles she/her]

Advice to all customers with questions of any sort: Being condescending and short with the receptionist is not the best way to have your concerns addressed in a speedy manner. 

 

Also, adding "Have a nice day" to the end of your call does not change my perception of you. 

 

And must I explain to you that walking away to talk to someone else while I'm printing your receipt is rude? At least wait until I can give you your credit card so I don't have to carry it around with me until you're done talking! 

Edited September 13, 2014 by TwiLyghtSansSparkles

[BreathTaker he/him]

Working in customer service in general sucks. I don't have any real complaints about my job except for the occasional flight that comes in where we have to stand around listening to the condescending pilot or customer who knows absolutely nothing while we stand in the sun and it's 115 outside, those people are few and far between and I generally like talking to the really cool people who have hangars at my work. Some people are just ridiculous though.  

[TwiLyghtSansSparkles she/her]

As a digital native with good copy editing skills, I am helping my mom move her blog from Livejournal to Wordpress. 

 

Let me say up front that she is appreciative of my help. She's even getting me a gift card to my favorite shoe store. And she has thanked me several times. But honestly, I don't expect any of that. I can do without new shoes. All I really want is to be left alone while I work.

 

I get why she doesn't do that. I'm an introvert, she's an extrovert. She isn't familiar with the ins and outs of website setup, so when she sets one up, she wants someone to sit with her and show her what to do as she does it. I don't. I would much rather have her make me a list of what she wants and how she wants it, then leave me alone for an hour while I figure it out. Having her sit beside me asking questions and adding things to my workload as she thinks of them not only drives me insane, but it keeps me from doing the fifteen other things she asked me to do first. 

 

And to make things worse, I feel like I can't tell her, "Mom, please leave me alone. Just write up a list of what you want and I'll do my best to get it for you," because when I've done that in the past, she has lost it. She lectured me until I cried and made me feel like a jerk for ever bringing it up. So all I can do is put up with doing things her way until it's the way she wants it, with her standing over my shoulder and asking a ton of questions.

[Ashiok]

There is a positive to that though... If she learns how to use the tech, she might not need to bother you for that specific thing ever again. In the long run, it's better for you. Or at least, that's how it's worked with my mother. Instead of doing all the tech stuff for her, I've taught her how to do it for herself.

It's like that old proverb about fishing.