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[Delightful]

I don't even really believe there is such a thing as normal. People are just so different, we all have different lives, we all enjoy and cope with things differently. For us taking inspiration from stories is, let's say common and helpful, while other people release stress by dancing to punk rock while other people go mountain climbing. Whatever works for you (with the caveat that its not harmful), just embrace it man. 

Like, we try be normal to be socially accepted and all, but then we're really just watering ourselves down and......well there's a balance somewhere. But I think we're all far too caught up on this 'normal' thing.

[SmurfAquamarineBodies he/him]

Lol. That was a quick and somewhat strong reaction. I do not and never have particularly cared what others think of me. But thanks for the words of encouragement. Unexpectedly they make me feel good.

In response to the internet hugs, I shall pretend that they are real and ask you not to touch me. It makes me uncomfortable to touch people. Apparently even through the internet. I shall deal with that eventually, but that is future Kevin's problem.

[TwiLyghtSansSparkles she/her]

Lol. That was a quick and somewhat strong reaction. I do not and never have particularly cared what others think of me. But thanks for the words of encouragement. Unexpectedly they make me feel good.

In response to the internet hugs, I shall pretend that they are real and ask you not to touch me. It makes me uncomfortable to touch people. Apparently even through the internet. I shall deal with that eventually, but that is future Kevin's problem.

 

Sorry. Internet chocolate cookie, then? 

[SmurfAquamarineBodies he/him]

No need to appologise, you didn't know. 

 

What's wrong with the cookie? If there is no spike then sure I would love to have a internet cookie. ( small side note but why is cookie spelled 'cookie' and not cooky? The latter looks wrong but that is only because we spell it the other way. )

[TwiLyghtSansSparkles she/her]

Nothing, unless you don't like chocolate. And all of my cookies are spike-free. 

 

I…don't know. It's just the way we spell it here in the US. Not sure why; I guess it's just one of those weird American things, like dropping all the U's from words like "honor" and "favorite." 

[SmurfAquamarineBodies he/him]

Thank you. I love chocolate, it's against my religion to dislike chocolate.

 

It's spelt cookie in New Zealand too it just looks weird to me. But English is a confused language I guess.

[traceria she/her]

Nothing, unless you don't like chocolate. And all of my cookies are spike-free. 

 

I…don't know. It's just the way we spell it here in the US. Not sure why; I guess it's just one of those weird American things, like dropping all the U's from words like "honor" and "favorite." 

According to the Thursday Next book series (by Jasper Fforde), there was a shortage of u's in the fictional world (where books are built), so they dropped them from a variety of words in specific regions, just not in the UK.  It's either in Lost in a Good Book or The Well of Lost Plots.  I forget which.

 

It's good to see that this thread has been helpful to so many people and that everyone's rallied together here.  I hope that the coming New Year will be better for so many of you, and if not, this great place called 17th Shard will still be around if you need to do some ranting!

[gjustice99 she/her]

I hate "We Are Young" by Fun.

 

I hate it so much.

 

It just does not make any sense whatsoever.

 

I will now go through the song, analysing the lines one by one.

 

Give me a second I

I need to get my story straight

Okay, this line, at least, makes sense. He's drunk, and can't remember what's happening.

My friends are in the bathroom

Getting higher than the Empire State

And where are you?

My lover she's waiting for me

Just across the bar

Again, where the hell are you?

My seats been taken by some sunglasses

Asking 'bout a scar

Has Voldemort taken to wearing sunglasses and asking about Harry Potter?

 

And I know I gave it to you months ago

Who did you give what to? A scar to some sunglasses?

 

I know you're trying to forget

But between the drinks and subtle things

The holes in my apologies

You know I'm trying hard to take it back

TAKE WHAT BACK!?!?!?!?!!?!?!?! THE SCAR!?!?!?

So if by the time the bar closes

The if should be omitted, otherwise this sentence makes no sense.

 

And you feel like falling down

I'll carry you home

 

Tonight

We are young

So let's set the world on fire

We can burn brighter

Than the sun

Tonight

We are young

So let's set the world on fire

We can burn brighter

Than the sun

Now, this chorus is what ticks me off the most. We are young. That implies two things, or one of them: that whoever is speaking, and his lover, I presume, are young, and have their lives ahead of them to enjoy and cherish. The other implication is that they are young and carefree, and willing to take risks. However, the next line completely contradicts both implications. He says that he wants to "set the world on fire", and that he can "...burn brighter than the sun." By setting the world on fire, they would destroy themselves, and making it "burn brighter than the sun" would, in fact, leave absolutely no trace of them or their bodies. So unless, when he says "we are young", he means that they are, in fact, drunk suicidal teenagers, he is completely contradicting himself.

 

In addition, the fact that he wants to destroy the world shows a psycopathy, of sorts, which does not bode well for this artist's reputation.

Now I know that I'm not

All that you got

At this point, it is unclear if he is talking to his lover, or some Mistwraith. In either case, unless the entity is poverty stricken and has no possessions whatsoever, then he/she is OBVIOUSLY not all that he/she has got.

I guess that I

I just thought maybe we could find new ways to fall apart

For this, a punctuation mark is my only response: ?

 

But our friends are back

So let's raise a cup

Wait... Where are you sitting? Also, I don't believe your friends, who are, as stated, "higher than the Empire State", are in any condition to be raising a cup.

Cause I found someone to carry me home

Whom, may I ask?

Tonight

We are young

So let's the set the world on fire

We can burn brighter

Than the sun

Tonight

We are young

So let's set the world on fire

We can burn brighter

Than the sun

Carry me home tonight

Just carry me home tonight

Carry me home tonight

Just carry me home tonight

Who are you talking to? Maybe you should clarify this.

The world is on my side

In which case, why do you wish to burn it?

I have no reason to run

Then don't! Nobody told you to.

So will someone come and carry me home tonight

I THOUGHT YOU WERE ALREADY BEGGING SOMEONE ELSE TO CARRY YOU HOME! Also, if you need someone to carry you, how do you think you're going to carry the person you promised to carry in the first verse?

The angels never arrived

Were they called?

But I can hear the choir

Perhaps that is simply your hallucinations. Don't forget, you're in a drunken stupor.

So will someone come and carry me home

By God man! We know you need someone to carry you home! Jesus!

Tonight

We are young

So let's set the world on fire

We can burn brighter

Than the sun

Tonight

We are young

So let's set the world on fire

We can burn brighter

Than the sun

So if by the time the bar closes

And you feel like falling down

I'll carry you home tonight

Contradictory statements galore!

 

And that concludes my rant for today.

You will be happy to know that  on the 10 Worst Songs of 2012 it was #4 (this was a video on YouTube by ADoseofBuckley). You should hear his interpretation of the song in the video.

Edited December 28, 2014 by gjustice99

[Voidus]

Christmas was a pretty sad affair for my family this year, my grandmother has pancreatic cancer and she's probably not going to see another, we flew over to see her and of course because of all the stress my anxiety attacks flare back up and I start getting Cluster Headaches again so I had to spend most of my time curled in bed crying or being too exhausted to move.
And of course flying both ways when you're well over 6 ft. is never fun, particularly when the person in front of you decides to recline back as far as possible thus causing my knees to fight my earlobes for space.

[RawToast225 he/him]

Christmas was a pretty sad affair for my family this year, my grandmother has pancreatic cancer and she's probably not going to see another, we flew over to see her and of course because of all the stress my anxiety attacks flare back up and I start getting Cluster Headaches again so I had to spend most of my time curled in bed crying or being too exhausted to move.

And of course flying both ways when you're well over 6 ft. is never fun, particularly when the person in front of you decides to recline back as far as possible thus causing my knees to fight my earlobes for space.

I am so sorry that you have to deal with your grandmother's sickness and your own maladies. My grandpa has cancer right now as well and he has Alzheimer's. He doesn't remember himself and he is dying. I sympathise with your pain, but don't understand what it's like first hand. I hope with all of my heart that you don't have to deal with them much longer and that you will have the mental and emotional capacity to deal with it in the mean time.

[gjustice99 she/her]

Christmas was a pretty sad affair for my family this year, my grandmother has pancreatic cancer and she's probably not going to see another, we flew over to see her and of course because of all the stress my anxiety attacks flare back up and I start getting Cluster Headaches again so I had to spend most of my time curled in bed crying or being too exhausted to move.

And of course flying both ways when you're well over 6 ft. is never fun, particularly when the person in front of you decides to recline back as far as possible thus causing my knees to fight my earlobes for space.

I am so sorry. My grandmother died of pancreatic cancer last year and (even though I absolutely think this is a horrible thing to say) I know how awful it is being in that situation.

[SmurfAquamarineBodies he/him]

So this may be too dark for some so I shall spoiler it. This is a realisation I came to when talking to my mother today.

 

 

I wouldn't be terribly upset if my mother were to die. As in not even a little. This is for several reasons first being she doesn't love me because of issues she had with my Dad. She has never once shown any real affection towards me or any of her kids, any affection she does display generally serves a purpose, mostly to get us to do things for her or as a show for the general public. She also failed me in the most important way possible, she literally let me die not 4 meters from her. I was 8/9 and I was swimming with my sister and we went to a part of the lake that was about 2 meters of mud. We both got stuck and some stranger had to run 200 meters to come save us. Mother of the year award that was. I had to be resuscitated my sister did not. She has some bullchull excuse of not being able to deal with stressful situations but we wee her babies that should of overridden any of that. If she loved us. Whenever she wants to visit it must be on her terms and only her terms. If I do not comply then I get called arrogant and rude for not complying. ( I probably am arrogant ) Especially when I react with general indifference to her attempts to manipulate me into feeling guilty. I would continue with this I kinda hate my mother but I feel this is enough for now. 

 

 

If this upsets people don't downvote it because I will leave it here because I got a reaction which will amuse me and I won't remove it. But if you ask me to I will. 

Edited January 6, 2015 by SmurfAquamarineBodies

[Guest]

So this may be too dark for some so I shall spoiler it. This is a realisation I came to when talking to my mother today.

 

 

I wouldn't be terribly upset if my mother were to die. As in not even a little. This is for several reasons first being she doesn't love me because of issues she had with my Dad. She has never once shown any real affection towards me or any of her kids, any affection she does display generally serves a purpose, mostly to get us to do things for her or as a show for the general public. She also failed me in the most important way possible, she literally let me die not 4 meters from her. I was 8/9 and I was swimming with my sister and we went to a part of the lake that was about 2 meters of mud. We both got stuck and some stranger had to run 200 meters to come save us. Mother of the year award that was. I had to be resuscitated my sister did not. She has some bullchull excuse of not being able to deal with stressful situations but we wee her babies that should of overridden any of that. If she loved us. Whenever she wants to visit it must be on her terms and only her terms. If I do not comply then I get called arrogant and rude for not complying. ( I probably am arrogant ) Especially when I react with general indifference to her attempts to manipulate me into feeling guilty. I would continue with this I kinda hate my mother but I feel this is enough for now. 

 

 

If this upsets people don't downvote it because I will leave it here because I got a reaction which will amuse me and I won't remove it. But if you ask me to I will. 

 

I understand

 

Your feelings are completely warranted considering what you have lived through. Unfortunately, I do have any wise words for other than you are entitled to live the life you want on your terms. It does not make you arrogant, just human. You are allowed to set boundaries.

 

You also have to think of yourself and if a situation makes you uncomfortable, miserable or worst if it hurts you, then you have the right to take the means to change it.

 

Hang tight. If you do get downvoted for this, it certainly won't come from me. Have an upvote for support instead. Sometimes, it helps to you say it out load, even if whoever is listening may not be listening.

[traceria she/her]

Seconding maxal that you're totally allowed to set boundaries and that your feelings are valid!  Though I don't have those particular feelings toward my own mother, I remember when my one grandfather died. I was actually more relieved and not really upset...like at all.  He was a grumpy old man who had made life for several members of our family difficult, especially toward the end, and I had to battle with feelings of guilt as a result of not feeling sad about his death.  With time, I felt more regret than anything else, that his relationships with others couldn't have been better in life, and less guilty about not feeling sad at his departure.  On a slight tangent, this is why love is a verb.  You can't make yourself have feelings of love toward others, but you can still act in a loving manner, basically a manner that shows you value life, no matter how horrible the person in possession of that life treats or has treated you.

[RawToast225 he/him]

My grandpa is dying. I hate losing people so much. A year ago, my best friend. Soon, my grandpa. How do people deal with this?? I am so damnation sick of losses. Maybe I should get help.

[TwiLyghtSansSparkles she/her]

I had another fight with my mom.

 

Apparently, saying anything in my own defense is "attacking her." Brining up anything she said that hurt me is "looking for ways to make the fight go on."

 

I know you said that thing you said, mom. I clearly heard "Stay in your room or come downstairs with us. Either way, it'll be good to breathe." The fact that you got angry and clenched your teeth and launched into a second lecture about how I handle conflict wrong is a sign that I did not mishear what you said, as you claim. 

 

Also, saying that how I fight with you makes you "worried about how I handle conflict in other relationships"? Not cool. You're not going to hear about any friends I make in the future, and if I find a guy I want to marry (ha! like anyone would want to marry me!) you're not hearing about our relationship until it's serious. It's just too dangerous to let you in on that.

 

And the night before my birthday, too. If the rest of us so much as leave our shoes out the night before your birthday, you sulk for a week. I'm supposed to just take this in stride because you're right and I'm wrong and that's always the way it is.

 

Happy twenty-fifth. You may be an adult, but I can still treat you like a child. Happy friggin' birthday.

Edited January 10, 2015 by TwiLyghtSansSparkles

[Edgedancer he/him]

I had another fight with my mom.

 

Apparently, saying anything in my own defense is "attacking her." Brining up anything she said that hurt me is "looking for ways to make the fight go on."

 

I know you said that thing you said, mom. I clearly heard "Stay in your room or come downstairs with us. Either way, it'll be good to breathe." The fact that you got angry and clenched your teeth and launched into a second lecture about how I handle conflict wrong is a sign that I did not mishear what you said, as you claim. 

 

Also, saying that how I fight with you makes you "worried about how I handle conflict in other relationships"? Not cool. You're not going to hear about any friends I make in the future, and if I find a guy I want to marry (ha! like anyone would want to marry me!) you're not hearing about our relationship until it's serious. It's just too dangerous to let you in on that.

 

And the night before my birthday, too. If the rest of us so much as leave our shoes out the night before your birthday, you sulk for a week. I'm supposed to just take this in stride because you're right and I'm wrong and that's always the way it is.

 

Happy twenty-fifth. You may be an adult, but I can still treat you like a child. Happy friggin' birthday.

That really sucks. As far as I can tell your a pretty awesome person, so don´t let it get to your head. I hope you can still enjoy your birthday, though.

Edited January 10, 2015 by Edgedancer

[Voidus]

My Grandma passed away today. Cancer sucks.

[Edgedancer he/him]

My Grandma passed away today. Cancer sucks.

It really really does. My grandpa die to it a couple of years ago, so I really want to give you a hug right now.

[gjustice99 she/her]

My Grandma passed away today. Cancer sucks.

Virtual hug for you. I'm so sorry.

[Guest]

I had another fight with my mom.

 

Apparently, saying anything in my own defense is "attacking her." Brining up anything she said that hurt me is "looking for ways to make the fight go on."

 

I know you said that thing you said, mom. I clearly heard "Stay in your room or come downstairs with us. Either way, it'll be good to breathe." The fact that you got angry and clenched your teeth and launched into a second lecture about how I handle conflict wrong is a sign that I did not mishear what you said, as you claim. 

 

Also, saying that how I fight with you makes you "worried about how I handle conflict in other relationships"? Not cool. You're not going to hear about any friends I make in the future, and if I find a guy I want to marry (ha! like anyone would want to marry me!) you're not hearing about our relationship until it's serious. It's just too dangerous to let you in on that.

 

And the night before my birthday, too. If the rest of us so much as leave our shoes out the night before your birthday, you sulk for a week. I'm supposed to just take this in stride because you're right and I'm wrong and that's always the way it is.

 

Happy twenty-fifth. You may be an adult, but I can still treat you like a child. Happy friggin' birthday.

 

Hey....

 

I don't like the part about "like anyone would want to marry me"... Why wouldn't anyone not want to marry you? It really saddens me to hear younger people thinking nobody would ever love them, as if they did not deserve love or were unlovable.

 

Life has taught me the worst possible cliche of "there is someone for everyone" actually is the greatest truth ever.

 

Happy 25th birthday

[RawToast225 he/him]

Dude. It's so statistically impossible to find that someone who is for me. At the risk of sounding ridiculous, I don't feel like I'll ever find anyone.

[Ashiok]

If you want there to be a person who is for you, there will be somebody. If you don't want it, it won't happen. You may not find the "perfect match", but if you look for someone and want to find them, you will. If you don't want to, that's up to you, I guess...

 

Happy 25th, Twi!

 

Wait, am I supposed to rant about something here, or can I just console others? 

[Guest]

Dude. It's so statistically impossible to find that someone who is for me. At the risk of sounding ridiculous, I don't feel like I'll ever find anyone.

 

I have seen the impossible happen. I have seen the most desperate of people actually finding someone utterly perfect for them, in every way. It may be naive, but I truly believe in love and yes, it can happen, even if it looks improbable.

 

Many young people make the mistake of thinking they are old. I don't blame them as I once made the same mistake. Life is not linear: there is the good, the bad and the ugly, but there is good. It may not seem like it will ever come, but it will. It does: things do get better, even if sometimes, you've got to help life a little.

 

You have the right to be the person you want to be. Just because you don't think it's possible, does not mean it isn't. You've got to keep on trying. You just can't give up, not on something you wish for.

[Chaos he/him]

I had another fight with my mom.

 

Apparently, saying anything in my own defense is "attacking her." Brining up anything she said that hurt me is "looking for ways to make the fight go on."

 

I know you said that thing you said, mom. I clearly heard "Stay in your room or come downstairs with us. Either way, it'll be good to breathe." The fact that you got angry and clenched your teeth and launched into a second lecture about how I handle conflict wrong is a sign that I did not mishear what you said, as you claim. 

 

Also, saying that how I fight with you makes you "worried about how I handle conflict in other relationships"? Not cool. You're not going to hear about any friends I make in the future, and if I find a guy I want to marry (ha! like anyone would want to marry me!) you're not hearing about our relationship until it's serious. It's just too dangerous to let you in on that.

 

And the night before my birthday, too. If the rest of us so much as leave our shoes out the night before your birthday, you sulk for a week. I'm supposed to just take this in stride because you're right and I'm wrong and that's always the way it is.

 

Happy twenty-fifth. You may be an adult, but I can still treat you like a child. Happy friggin' birthday.

That's the worst. *hugs* My dad was a total jerk, and honestly I'm much happier without him in my life. When people just cause stupid conflict, I genuinely believe that you should do the thing that makes you happier, and that generally means not tolerating their crap anymore. But you may not be in a place to do that. Maybe eventually.