Having a Bad Day?: Get 'yer Hugs here!!

[+Ark1002]

Today, I've felt like everything I do is wrong. That everyone else is loved, liked, appreciated, and nobody likes me. And I'm just so storming done.

It makes me hate the shard, discord, real life, basically everything but my cat. 

And I don't know why I'm sharing this, but I'm having trouble coping with it. I feel like everyone hates me.

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[+Slowswift]

Bro, I don't even know you, I don't even think we've really interacted on here much if at all. But I can tell you're a quality individual! I think the fact that you're venting here instead of bottling it up is a good sign. You've got an entire forum's worth of people to back you up, and I hope that helps.

[Lunamor she/her]

1 hour ago, Ark1002 said:

Today, I've felt like everything I do is wrong. That everyone else is loved, liked, appreciated, and nobody likes me. And I'm just so storming done.

It makes me hate the shard, discord, real life, basically everything but my cat. 

And I don't know why I'm sharing this, but I'm having trouble coping with it. I feel like everyone hates me.

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Ark, you’re an awesome person. I can say with certainty that I definitely don’t hate you- you are extremely clever, a great writer, hilarious, and can be incredibly kind. I love our kinda arch nemesis upvote thing we occasionally have, it always makes my day. Seriously dude, sometimes it’s ridiculous how many you can get in a week. I get a bit jealous sometimes  Just know that even when things seem really bad, they oftentimes are way better than they seem.

[Nathrangking he/him]

1 hour ago, Ark1002 said:

Today, I've felt like everything I do is wrong. That everyone else is loved, liked, appreciated, and nobody likes me. And I'm just so storming done.

It makes me hate the shard, discord, real life, basically everything but my cat. 

And I don't know why I'm sharing this, but I'm having trouble coping with it. I feel like everyone hates me.

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Firstly,*Hugs*. Ark I know that feeling very well. The truth is that it's a lie that people tell themselves. There is no truth to it. There are days when that feeling is quite strong. It forces me to stop and evaluate my life. What you do is right and don't let people (yourself included) tell you otherwise. @Slowswift and @Lunamor are tough acts to follow. However, trust me when I say that you are incredible and you are loved. The fact that you are talking about it here shows that you are coping with it in your own way. We are here for you!! 

[Darth Woodrack he/him]

This isn't just today, I mean it's 12:30 am for me so that would be strange, but just in life I don't feel happy. The Shard and Discord are the only things that really bring me happiness. I love you all, and think you're amazing, but I honestly don't know if I'll survive this year. If I make it to eighteen I'll be shocked. I don't feel like my friends care about me very much, except for like two or three exceptions, and my family clearly doesn't. Honestly the shard and discord are the closest thing I have to a loving family, and even here I don't seem to be very popular. Whenever I post anything it doesn't get as many upvotes, participants or replies than someone else who posts the exact same thing like five minutes later. It just makes me feel empty. I'm going to therapy... well today actually, but still. I seem to have serious depression, very bad self worth, and cannot make it through a school day without self harm, and nobody seems to notice. The stabbing of myself with a pencil is not a cry for help, but when the teacher leans over me to look at what I've done and it's being rammed into my arm you'd think they'd notice. Anyways, thanks for readying.

 

To those who don't recognize me, it's Darth Woodrack, I changed early.

[Sherlock Holmes he/him]

Hey... I don't really know what to say, other than that I think you're fun to roleplay with. This is serious, so I think that pouring your heart out to a therapist really is the best thing you can do.

[Truthless of Shinovar he/him]

6 hours ago, Ookla the Wine Shelf said:

This isn't just today, I mean it's 12:30 am for me so that would be strange, but just in life I don't feel happy. The Shard and Discord are the only things that really bring me happiness. I love you all, and think you're amazing, but I honestly don't know if I'll survive this year. If I make it to eighteen I'll be shocked. I don't feel like my friends care about me very much, except for like two or three exceptions, and my family clearly doesn't. Honestly the shard and discord are the closest thing I have to a loving family, and even here I don't seem to be very popular. Whenever I post anything it doesn't get as many upvotes, participants or replies than someone else who posts the exact same thing like five minutes later. It just makes me feel empty. I'm going to therapy... well today actually, but still. I seem to have serious depression, very bad self worth, and cannot make it through a school day without self harm, and nobody seems to notice. The stabbing of myself with a pencil is not a cry for help, but when the teacher leans over me to look at what I've done and it's being rammed into my arm you'd think they'd notice. Anyways, thanks for readying.

 

To those who don't recognize me, it's Darth Woodrack, I changed early.

Bro, I know we don’t interact on the Shard that much, but every time that we have, whether it’s been breadm*nks on TLT or something in the Alleyverse, I have sincerely and honestly enjoyed it so much. You are loved and wanted on the Shard, it would be nowhere near the same without you! Please PM me anytime, I’m here for you, and so is everyone else

Edited November 19, 2019 by Truthless of Shinovar

[Darth Woodrack he/him]

Thanks.

[Jaywalk he/him]

I ruined a relationship a while back, all because I spoke without thinking. I’m not quite sure what to do, aside from keeping it at bay in the back if my mind. All I really want now is to mend things with that person...

But I don’t know how.

[Darth Woodrack he/him]

Talk to them and apologize. Explain it. Hopefully they will work.

[+Slowswift]

*mails hugbots to various people*

[SongStorm]

When I registered in this forum I said I was suicidal like Kaladin.

But it doesnt even compare to how bad I feel today. I feel like Kaladin looking directly at the chasm at the beginning of TWoK.

Send hugs !!!!!!!

[Truthless of Shinovar he/him]

3 hours ago, SongStorm said:

When I registered in this forum I said I was suicidal like Kaladin.

But it doesnt even compare to how bad I feel today. I feel like Kaladin looking directly at the chasm at the beginning of TWoK.

Send hugs !!!!!!!

Hey fam, we got you. I responded to your first post about this, and everything I said there still holds up now. I haven’t had the chance to interact with you much, but from what I’ve seen, you are awesome. Period. I know that you are incredible, and if the world seems against you, please please please please please please PLEASE know that I want you. You are someone unique and wonderful, and the world without you would change for the worst if you were to disappear. I urge you, hold on, have hope in happiness, and know that one day it will come. PM me anytime, I want to help you through your struggles!

Edited December 18, 2019 by Ookla the Imperial

[AonEne he/him]

1 hour ago, Ookla the Imperial said:

Hey fam, we got you. I responded to your first post about this, and everything I said there still holds up now. I haven’t had the chance to interact with you much, but from what I’ve seen, you are awesome. Period. I know that you are incredible, and if the world seems against you, please please please please please please PLEASE know that I want you. You are someone unique and wonderful, and the world without you would change for the worst of you were to disappear. I urge you, hold on, have hope in happiness, and know that one day it will come. PM me anytime, I want to help you through your struggles!

ALL OF THIS ^^^ 

Kaladin found hope too! He’s living even though he’s depressed. It is possible and it is worth it! 

[Maxgy he/him]

I'm feeling kind of lonely right now, feeling like I don't matter. I could use a couple hugs.

[+Ed Venture]

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I'm feeling kind of lonely right now, feeling like I don't matter. I could use a couple hugs.

@Maxgy

Dude? Loneliness is the worst. I’m sorry that you’re feeling bad right now. But if you ever want to talk, I am always down for a conversation. *hugs* Have a good rest of the day. *thumbs up*

Edited December 18, 2019 by Ookla the Journey

[+ZincAboutIt she/her]

I'm totally at a loss of what I'm going to do with the remainder of my life. I have no goals or aspirations, there is nothing that I'm really looking forward to. I'm staring down the better part of (statistically) ~sixty more years of living and I have no idea what on earth I'm going to do with all that time. It seems like such a long while, and I already feel like I've done everything that I really want to do. I don't like travelling, I don't have a "bucket list," I don't enjoy projects or other such things. So much time feels impossibly daunting, and feels like such a terrible obligation. I'm just very overwhelmed with this prospect.

[Kidpen he/him]

6 hours ago, ZincAboutIt said:

I'm totally at a loss of what I'm going to do with the remainder of my life. I have no goals or aspirations, there is nothing that I'm really looking forward to. I'm staring down the better part of (statistically) ~sixty more years of living and I have no idea what on earth I'm going to do with all that time. It seems like such a long while, and I already feel like I've done everything that I really want to do. I don't like travelling, I don't have a "bucket list," I don't enjoy projects or other such things. So much time feels impossibly daunting, and feels like such a terrible obligation. I'm just very overwhelmed with this prospect.

Can you think of something to do with tomorrow? What about the next day? The next week? The next month? I think when it comes down to it these questions are most important. A lifetime is made up of years, a year is made up of months, months are made up of weeks and weeks are made up of days. The most important step is the next one.

On the other hand, I'm a small child who doesn't really know much about life, so idk how valid this advice is. So *hugs*!!!!

[Showman he/him]

14 hours ago, ZincAboutIt said:

I'm totally at a loss of what I'm going to do with the remainder of my life. I have no goals or aspirations, there is nothing that I'm really looking forward to. I'm staring down the better part of (statistically) ~sixty more years of living and I have no idea what on earth I'm going to do with all that time. It seems like such a long while, and I already feel like I've done everything that I really want to do. I don't like travelling, I don't have a "bucket list," I don't enjoy projects or other such things. So much time feels impossibly daunting, and feels like such a terrible obligation. I'm just very overwhelmed with this prospect.

Hey, you know what, sometimes that's ok. Two years into high school, I have less of an idea of what career I want than before high school. I have no clue about my future, only a couple specific goals.

I recently moved, and for a while, my family didn't have a house, a car, and I had to start life completely over, never knowing what to expect from the next day. I had to just take it one day at a time. As for things to do, I believe it's always possible to find something to do. Music, athletics, clubs, writing, geeking out about Sanderson (you're on this forum already!), or even just trying make the day better for everyone you interact with (this works and will keep you plenty busy). Make a goal, short term or long term, and you might find yourself with a new hobby. *hugs*

[Nathrangking he/him]

15 hours ago, ZincAboutIt said:

I'm totally at a loss of what I'm going to do with the remainder of my life. I have no goals or aspirations, there is nothing that I'm really looking forward to. I'm staring down the better part of (statistically) ~sixty more years of living and I have no idea what on earth I'm going to do with all that time. It seems like such a long while, and I already feel like I've done everything that I really want to do. I don't like travelling, I don't have a "bucket list," I don't enjoy projects or other such things. So much time feels impossibly daunting, and feels like such a terrible obligation. I'm just very overwhelmed with this prospect.

*Hugs* To add to what others said I can speak to not knowing what to do tomorrow. I thought that I had an aspiration for the rest of my life and it fell apart. Living day by day can open many doors. Designate a task for yourself each day try new things it is possible that you will discover new love or interest as @Ookla the Showman said. It is terrifying to think that there is nothing for you. However, life is constantly evolving in ways that we least expect. Don't lose hope for the future!!  Instead of racing into the future only worry about tomorrow!! Let that occupy you and guide your way through this! Journey before destination!!

[Zelly]

Hey there folks. I'm not having a bad day myself, but I thought I'd share something with you if you're going through some dark times.

https://www.futureme.org/   Write an email to yourself.....but you won't receive it for years.

I've been using this for awhile now  (usually when I'm in a sad place and have a lot of questions about who I am and what I'm doing).  It's nice now because journaling and dumping my thoughts in writing helps me vent and focus.  It's nice in the future because, wow, things.......things change.  Not everything. And maybe not what you want.  But....it blows my mind the things that were different just a year or two ago, let alone 5-10.  Wants, needs, priorities, people.....life is weird.

Anyway, try it out.

Also I recommend reading the public letters that people let be posted anonymously.  They are a beautiful mess of us all being beautiful messes. 

You're not alone.

[+Wax he/him]

 

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Edited December 23, 2019 by Wax
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[Nathrangking he/him]

I rarely get sick so I suppose that I was due. 4 or so days ago I started coughing but I had no other symptoms. 2 days ago I got an annoying headache on top of the coughing. I took my temperature that 'night and discovered a fever. I went to the doctor yesterday with a slightly sore throat, fever, and cough. He did a quick examination did not tell me what was wrong and prescribed antibiotics. My research has revealed that this is potent stuff used when lesser antibiotics won't work. It is sometimes used to cure anthrax and plague which makes me wonder what did my doctor know that he did not bother to mention. Meanwhile my sickness goes on and I just have to ride it out. End rant...

[Draginon he/him]

Had a small bit of badness while in Florida for Christmas.

On Christmas Eve there was this kid that was so badly behaved I was thinking ‘why is he going on the same boat as me?’ since my mom and I were taking the boat/water taxi from Hollywood Studios to Epcot. This kid was supposedly 8 but he was kicking and hollering, to the point that one wishes someone would shut the brat up, was in a stroller and the mother claims he acts that way because he doesn’t take too well being out at night. It was already 2-3 hours past sunset at that point so if that’s the case why were they only going back at that time? The father apparently had gone back earlier with the other children so why didn’t he take this brat with him if he only acts like that after dark? The mom also claimed the motion of the boat would soothe him but I could still hear him making a fuss from the other end of the boat. I don’t know what that kids deal is but the parents need to put him on something.

Then on Christmas Day I woke up just fine but when I went to eat breakfast I just couldn’t manage more than a few bites. As soon as I had stood up my stomach started going like I needed to puke so I rushed to the nearest toilet where it turned out I had bad diarrhea. My mom and I had planned to go to Hollywood Studios that day to do the Star Wars stuff but with me needing to go to the bathroom every so often I didn’t want to chance getting on a ride and needing the toilet halfway in. This lasted for a couple more days before it started getting normal. My mom thinks it was bad oil from the fish and chips we ate the night before.

[Lunamor she/her]

(Spoiler because this ended up being pretty long)

Spoiler

So recently things haven’t been great for me. A little while ago I found out that a muscular disorder I have that was supposed to be stable and not get any worse has actually started to get worse. This was not supposed to happen and is terrifying to me. Before things got worse I could manage with some physical therapy, but at this point nothing can help. All I can do is hope that things don’t get worse. On top of that it was found out that I now have a serious vitamin deficiency. I have almost zero of it in my bloodstream. I tried taking supplements to fix it, but my body can’t absorb any of it and I just have to deal with the symptoms. The deficiency has caused me to become constantly tired and weak, and the chances of it going away seem slim. Both of these things combined have made simple tasks like walking up the stairs cause my muscles to burn. I can’t stand up for more than half an hour without my joints hurting a ton. Even a five minute walk is enough to make my muscles spasm. I avoid walking whenever possible because it’s humiliating how many strange looks I get for breathing hard. People are usually sympathetic once I explain why I have so much trouble, but I can’t explain that to everyone and am thought to just be incredibly lazy or a wimp. This has resulted in greatly increased anxiety and depression. I’ve been able to keep those mental problems at bay by convincing myself that I have no reason for them, but I can’t use that excuse anymore. I have lost almost all of my motivation to do stuff. Sometimes it’s so bad that all I can do is sit and stare at the wall. I have started to randomly have breakdowns over things, and it is extremely humiliating when I burst into tears in public for seemingly no reason. I’ve stopped doing things that used to make me happy because I just get so anxious about them. I’ve tried going to therapists in the past for this stuff, but they didn’t help at all. I have had so many traumatizing experiences with doctors that I don’t think I can make myself go again. If I try and talk about my problems to people they just say that if I work hard they will go away. Or that I’m somehow “lucky” for having a muscular disorder because I never had to go to PE. Sorry this ended up being so long, I just needed somewhere to rant.