Having a Bad Day?: Get 'yer Hugs here!!

[Jaywalk he/him]

1 hour ago, SongStorm said:

That's funny,  coming from a character that hates himself 

Thanks to all of you, anyway, I will carry on.

Good luck with everything, SongStorm! While life may be crushing you down right now, it does get better. I can attest to this, having struggled with depression for a long time.

[Wyndlerunner he/him]

Godspeed, @SongStorm, Godspeed.

[Nathrangking he/him]

Not quite just a day really 6 years in the making. My last surviving grandparent my grandmother is dying. She suffered a stroke 6 years ago and she has not been well since. Before she was lively and active after she was a shadow of herself. She stopped being active and began to show signs of alzheimers. Her health has been declining ever since my father and aunt have been doing what they can to help, but it is never enough. Recently, her health has dropped off precipitously. Two weeks ago she suffered a fall and was rushed to the hospital. My father and aunt lost sleep, but everything seemed fine. This weekend she was rushed to the emergency room due to shallow breathing. When my father and aunt spoke to her doctor they discovered that she has a pneumonia and bronchial infection. Ever since things have gotten worse. My father got a serious cold from the hospital, he went back today because they were called by the doctors. She was intubated and he refuses to leave her side. He is getting no sleep and he is preparing for the very worst casting a macabre shadow over my mother and myself. I'm usually stoic and the strong one, but I'm having a difficult time. I just don't know if I'm coming or going. My grandmother is dying and things are spiraling. There is no light here everything just seems to get worse and I'm burning myself out trying not to break down. 

[AonEne he/him]

*hugs @Nathrangking* You’ll see her again in heaven.  I really hope that when she does pass, it’s fast and not painful, and that you and your family are with her. Good luck getting through this! 

[+Sorana she/her]

*hugs*

@Nathrangking It sounds awful. I send you so much strength to go through this and to help your family through it as well.

[The Forgetful Archivist he/him]

I have had a sucky week and sharing helps me prosses it so here goes. I used to have a problem with self-harm and I had a relapse a few days ago and had to go to the hospital, It was just a bunch of shallow cuts but I had to go in anyway. My current job is ok, but I want a better one. I really want to be a salesman but I can't drive that well so it has to be close to home and the only jobs close to home are baristas and food workers, which is what I am right now, I've had to start driving more out of my comfort zone and I often drive to slow and people keep honking at me for one reason or another. I'm only 18 and have no experience in sales but I really think I would be good at it. I love talking to people and getting to know them as well as convincing them to buy things to make them happy. Currently, its just people who don't know what to order but I want to do more and better my skills. I am also an amateur mathematician and I have been working on a particular problem for the past 2 years. All I have to show for it is a box of papers and scribbles. I'm not going to stop, I'm going to solve it, but it gets discouraging at times. I also had a friend go off to college recently and he has ignored every one of my texts and emails. I kinda figured it would happen but it's still a little insulting. And my fiance dad is also being a butt head, he is highly erratic and is obsessed with a video game. when he calls her he as a 50/50 chance of making her cry or just pissing her off. I guess thats the downside of living with your parents.

Edited October 3, 2019 by The Forgetful Archivist

[AonEne he/him]

6 minutes ago, The Forgetful Archivist said:

I have had a sucky week and sharing helps me prosses it so here goes.

I used to have a problem with self-harm and I had a relapse a few days ago and had to go to the hospital, It was just a bunch of shallow cuts but I had to go in anyway. 

I’m glad this thread exists for you to share it in. 

TFA, I don’t know what drove you to take that action, but I am deeply sorry that you had to go through and are going through it. You have so many people who love you, I do know that, and none of us want you to be hurt. I hope you can get past the relapse, and that your injuries will heal quickly. <3 

6 minutes ago, The Forgetful Archivist said:

My current job is ok, but I want a better one. I really want to be a salesman but I can't drive that well so it has to be close to home and the only jobs close to home are baristas and food workers, which is what I am right now, I've had to start driving more out of my comfort zone and I often drive to slow and people keep honking at me for one reason or another. I'm only 18 and have no experience in sales but I really think I would be good at it. I love talking to people and getting to know them as well as convincing them to buy things to make them happy. Currently, its just people who don't know what to order but I want to do more and better my skills. 

Having seen your skill with words and persuasion as a Ghostblood, I have no doubt that you’d be an awesome salesman! Someone who could really help people and break through the annoying salesman stereotype, because you’re anything but annoying. Driving freaks me out too, though I haven’t had much experience with it, so I feel your pain there. Good luck getting the job you want. 

6 minutes ago, The Forgetful Archivist said:

I am also an amateur mathematician and I have been working on a particular problem for the past 2 years. All I have to show for it is a box of papers and scribbles. I'm not going to stop, I'm going to solve it, but it gets discouraging at times. 

I believe in you! You can take breaks if you need to, sometimes that helps clear your mind and you can come back to a problem with a new view. I suck at math, so I have no other advice, but I wish you good luck on this too. 

8 minutes ago, The Forgetful Archivist said:

I also had a friend go off to college recently and he has ignored every one of my texts and emails. I kinda figured it would happen but it's still a little insulting. 

That sucks. He could just be really busy, depending on how long it’s been. I hear college is hard, after all. But if he is cutting his ties with you, then it’s his loss. I’m sorry you’re losing a friend. 

8 minutes ago, The Forgetful Archivist said:

And my fiance dad is also being a butt head, he is highly erratic and is obsessed with a video game. when he calls her he as a 50/50 chance of making her cry or just pissing her off. I guess thats the downside of living with your parents.

Ugh, parents...It’s good that you two have ach other, at least! When you get married, she won’t have to live with him anymore. 

*hugs and gives cookies* I’m sorry all this is happening to you, TFA. You’re fantastic and don’t deserve it. 

[Silverblade5 he/him]

I get to start on a preliminary engineering report, one of the more intense pieces of writing I've been instructed to do, with a week to do it. Right as midterms are approaching. Yay. 

[Nathrangking he/him]

My grandmother passed at some point during the night. She was basically non responsive since she had a stroke a week and a half ago or so though she was stable and holding on. We got the news this morning that she is gone and this is truth the second death in as many days my cousin a young mother of nine children passed from cancer wednesday night. It is all so overwhelming and I don't know where to even begin processing.

[Silverblade5 he/him]

I've just been told that a major figure in my life has been put on hospice. Also, I had pretty much no reaction when receiving this news. I had a stronger one when discovering that an old forum had finally been retired.

[+Slowswift]

2 hours ago, Silverblade5 said:

I've just been told that a major figure in my life has been put on hospice. Also, I had pretty much no reaction when receiving this news. I had a stronger one when discovering that an old forum had finally been retired.

Man, I hate that feeling of, well... not feeling. It's really awful (at least the other emotions -- like shame or guilt or even sometimes anger -- that come as a result are). Hope things get better from here. 

Edited October 15, 2019 by Slowswift
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[Silverblade5 he/him]

Just now, Slowswift said:

Man, I hate that feeling of, well... not feeling. It's really awful. Hope things get better from here. 

That's the thing though. I used to joke about how glad I'd be to see her gone. And now that the news has dropped, nothing. I don't really even know this person anymore. Just my memory of the person.

[+Slowswift]

1 minute ago, Silverblade5 said:

That's the thing though. I used to joke about how glad I'd be to see her gone. And now that the news has dropped, nothing. I don't really even know this person anymore. Just my memory of the person.

Wow. Can't even say that I know what to say. I think I know what you're talking about, but... well, I don't know if that's for me to say, really.

[Silverblade5 he/him]

On 10/14/2019 at 7:19 PM, Silverblade5 said:

I've just been told that a major figure in my life has been put on hospice. Also, I had pretty much no reaction when receiving this news. I had a stronger one when discovering that an old forum had finally been retired.

Annnd, she's gone

 

[+Slowswift]

1 minute ago, Silverblade5 said:

Annnd, she's gone

 

 

*mails hugbot to your location*

[Silverblade5 he/him]

1 minute ago, Slowswift said:

 

*mails hugbot to your location*

Learned by text. Had a stronger reaction to a test grade. Unsure how I feel about this. Does having this reaction to someone I know dying make me a bad person?

Edited October 23, 2019 by Silverblade5

[+Slowswift]

7 minutes ago, Silverblade5 said:

Does having this reaction to someone I know dying make me a bad person?

I wouldn't say so at all.

There have been plenty of times when bad things have happened or I've gotten bad news and not really... reacted at all. Honestly, a couple of times I have legitimately wondered if I was a sociopath because I felt absolutely nothing. Our brains our funky things, and I don't know if there's an easy explanation. All I can say is to just keep on keeping on, and do your best to honor their memory (if that is something you feel like you should do). I don't believe that's something you have to drown in your own tears to do.

Edited October 23, 2019 by Slowswift

[AonEne he/him]

People grieve in different ways, and that’s 100% fine. 

Meanwhile, this isn’t really a bad day, but I’m annoyed at my own stupidity for not seeing how this would go. 

[Jaywalk he/him]

You know those days when you can barely function, barely eat, barely talk, let alone sleep because your anxiety is so bad? Today’s just one of those days. I had an anxiety attack right after school, and I’ve just been depressed the rest of the day.

But I guess it’s just how life goes sometimes.

[AonEne he/him]

40 minutes ago, Jaywalk said:

You know those days when you can barely function, barely eat, barely talk, let alone sleep because your anxiety is so bad? Today’s just one of those days. I had an anxiety attack right after school, and I’ve just been depressed the rest of the day.

But I guess it’s just how life goes sometimes.

Those days do suck. *hugs Jay and offers a fresh-baked cookie* 

[Zephrun’s Imperium they/he]

44 minutes ago, Jaywalk said:

You know those days when you can barely function, barely eat, barely talk, let alone sleep because your anxiety is so bad? Today’s just one of those days. I had an anxiety attack right after school, and I’ve just been depressed the rest of the day.

But I guess it’s just how life goes sometimes.

Awww, Jay. I'm so sorry. I get feeling like that sometimes. It's really not fun. I hope you can have something to focus on so you can go back to being yourself. The nice thing is, stuff like this doesn't last forever. You'll get through it.  We're always here for ya. 

[Jaywalk he/him]

7 minutes ago, AonEne said:

Those days do suck. *hugs Jay and offers a fresh-baked cookie* 

Just now, Shard of Thought said:

Awww, Jay. I'm so sorry. I get feeling like that sometimes. It's really not fun. I hope you can have something to focus on so you can go back to being yourself. The nice thing is, stuff like this doesn't last forever. You'll get through it.  We're always here for ya. 

Thanks you guys!

[Mestiv he/him]

I'm fighting sinusitis for third week in a row :/ it's far from the worst things in the world, but still, I just want to complain

[Wyndlerunner he/him]

On 11/7/2019 at 10:03 AM, Mestiv said:

I'm fighting sinusitis for third week in a row :/ it's far from the worst things in the world, but still, I just want to complain

It's far from the worst thing in the world, but it's still storming annoying and inconvenient. Hope you get better Mestiv! *Sends Mestiv some virtual Chicken Soup*

[Wander89 he/him]

So I had a bit of a bad month, I'm not going to get into specifics but my mother found out I was struggling mentally and was more open than I thought she was going to be. The support she's given over the past 2 days (it's been short so far) has been more than I've noticed before. Now, we aren't an outspoken family but we always know we are there and that's true so far. Talking about things does make it better and, hopefully, this continues and I can get out of the mental rut I'm currently in. I'm trying to stay positive and distracted though, I'm sure everyone will help in this circumstance.