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[Queen Elsa Steelheart she/her]

Popping on here for some advice and for a rant and a hug.

Basically this is what happened. I've never been in this situation before with someone that isn't related to me.

I was walking through the school halls and I thought I saw one of the nice guys in my year. I smiled at him and then as he came into view I realised it was one of the biggest assholes in my year. My face falls and I'm like: "Oh, it's you. Never mind." He looks back at me and smiles and says, "Oh, that's nice. Someone's on their period!!" I was completely and utterly shocked. I turned around and slapped him on the shoulder, yelling and saying that he's an cremhole and how dare he say that. Then I text him and demand an apology. He harasses me and says that I need to apologise for slapping him, and because I'm now threatening him, he would be justified in hitting me.

I just don't know what to do.......if i go to the principal or that goddamn school councillor, they'll kick me out for slapping him.. He harassed me last year too. I hate his entire family.

 

Storms my storming life. 

Edited May 14, 2017 by Queen Elsa Steelheart

[+Slowswift]

10 hours ago, Darkness Ascendant said:

I am grateful for your concern :1 *hugs back

I just...I can't bring myself to post here anymore...just not bothered/motivated...I'll type something up, then delete it..I'll forget what I'm doing half the time.

Idk perhaps I don't see the point in talking to you all *shrugs

eh...

What Budgie and Headshot said. We still care .:) 

14 minutes ago, Queen Elsa Steelheart said:

Popping on here for some advice and for a rant and a hug.

Basically this is what happened. I've never been in this situation before with someone that isn't related to me.

I was walking through the school halls and I thought I saw one of the nice guys in my year. I smiled at him and then as he came into view I realised it was one of the biggest assholes in my year. My face falls and I'm like: "Oh, it's you. Never mind." He looks back at me and smiles and says, "Oh, that's nice. Someone's on their period!!" I was completely and utterly shocked. I turned around and slapped him on the shoulder, yelling and saying that he's an cremhole and how dare he say that. Then I text him and demand an apology. He harasses me and says that I need to apologise for slapping him, and because I'm now threatening him, he would be justified in hitting me.

I just don't know what to do.......if i go to the principal or that goddamn school councillor, they'll kick me out for slapping him.. He harassed me last year too. I hate his entire family.

 

Storms my storming life. 

I... that's horrible. Hugs?

[Mestiv he/him]

@Queen Elsa Steelheart*hugs for you*

He was a douchebag for saying you're on your period, but I don't think your reaction was appropriate. I'd say just drop the topic. He's not gonna apologise,you won't make him. Only trouble lays ahead if you keep talking with him. 

[A Budgie she/her]

@Queen Elsa Steelheart ugh, I hate it when people blame a girl for being annoyed at something for 'being on her period.' No, I genuinely am sad, there is genuine reason for me crying so don't just brush it off like that. So: *big hug*

[Darkness Ascendant he/him]

14 hours ago, Hemalurgic_Headshot said:

Well, I hope you find a purpose to occupy yourself. You don't have to get on the Shard, we won't make you, but know that we care about you here.

8 hours ago, A Budgie said:

*all of the hugs*
Just remember we care about you, right? Even if you don't post.

3 hours ago, Slowswift said:

What Budgie and Headshot said. We still care .:) 

Thanks guys. I guess my recent mood swing can be attributed due to two very close friends fighting and I'm just trying in vain to keep them together :/ Idk, kind of just feeling hopeless and crap.

3 hours ago, Queen Elsa Steelheart said:

Popping on here for some advice and for a rant and a hug.

Basically this is what happened. I've never been in this situation before with someone that isn't related to me.

I was walking through the school halls and I thought I saw one of the nice guys in my year. I smiled at him and then as he came into view I realised it was one of the biggest assholes in my year. My face falls and I'm like: "Oh, it's you. Never mind." He looks back at me and smiles and says, "Oh, that's nice. Someone's on their period!!" I was completely and utterly shocked. I turned around and slapped him on the shoulder, yelling and saying that he's an cremhole and how dare he say that. Then I text him and demand an apology. He harasses me and says that I need to apologise for slapping him, and because I'm now threatening him, he would be justified in hitting me.

I just don't know what to do.......if i go to the principal or that goddamn school councillor, they'll kick me out for slapping him.. He harassed me last year too. I hate his entire family.

 

Storms my storming life. 

Wait, your relatives have done this? 

*shakes head

Wow he *is* a douchebag...so he's threatening to hit you?

ditto what mestiv said, best to drop it, nothing good will come out of continued communication. You reacted as was expected, he should not have made that comment...

*hugs*

 

[Delightful]

4 hours ago, Queen Elsa Steelheart said:

Popping on here for some advice and for a rant and a hug.

Basically this is what happened. I've never been in this situation before with someone that isn't related to me.

I was walking through the school halls and I thought I saw one of the nice guys in my year. I smiled at him and then as he came into view I realised it was one of the biggest assholes in my year. My face falls and I'm like: "Oh, it's you. Never mind." He looks back at me and smiles and says, "Oh, that's nice. Someone's on their period!!" I was completely and utterly shocked. I turned around and slapped him on the shoulder, yelling and saying that he's an cremhole and how dare he say that. Then I text him and demand an apology. He harasses me and says that I need to apologise for slapping him, and because I'm now threatening him, he would be justified in hitting me.

I just don't know what to do.......if i go to the principal or that goddamn school councillor, they'll kick me out for slapping him.. He harassed me last year too. I hate his entire family.

 

Storms my storming life. 

He's a cremhole. He insulted you, you slapped him, I'd say youre even at this point? 

Also that does NOT make him justified in hitting you and if he does I would report it. After giving him a black eye 

[TwiLyghtSansSparkles she/her]

10 hours ago, Queen Elsa Steelheart said:

Popping on here for some advice and for a rant and a hug.

Basically this is what happened. I've never been in this situation before with someone that isn't related to me.

I was walking through the school halls and I thought I saw one of the nice guys in my year. I smiled at him and then as he came into view I realised it was one of the biggest assholes in my year. My face falls and I'm like: "Oh, it's you. Never mind." He looks back at me and smiles and says, "Oh, that's nice. Someone's on their period!!" I was completely and utterly shocked. I turned around and slapped him on the shoulder, yelling and saying that he's an cremhole and how dare he say that. Then I text him and demand an apology. He harasses me and says that I need to apologise for slapping him, and because I'm now threatening him, he would be justified in hitting me.

I just don't know what to do.......if i go to the principal or that goddamn school councillor, they'll kick me out for slapping him.. He harassed me last year too. I hate his entire family.

 

Storms my storming life. 

Wow.  This guy is practically a poster child for why we need feminism.

I think the best thing you can do here is ignore him, and if he retaliates, make a really big deal out of it. Even if you don't go to the principal, make sure everyone sees you as the poor girl who was hit by one of the boys in her year. Let them see you slapping him as the hysterical reaction of a girl who thought she was in serious danger. If you can't get him into trouble officially, make sure the whole school sees him as a villain. 

Edited May 14, 2017 by TwiLyghtSansSparkles

[Ammanas]

11 hours ago, Queen Elsa Steelheart said:

Popping on here for some advice and for a rant and a hug.

Basically this is what happened. I've never been in this situation before with someone that isn't related to me.

I was walking through the school halls and I thought I saw one of the nice guys in my year. I smiled at him and then as he came into view I realised it was one of the biggest assholes in my year. My face falls and I'm like: "Oh, it's you. Never mind." He looks back at me and smiles and says, "Oh, that's nice. Someone's on their period!!" I was completely and utterly shocked. I turned around and slapped him on the shoulder, yelling and saying that he's an cremhole and how dare he say that. Then I text him and demand an apology. He harasses me and says that I need to apologise for slapping him, and because I'm now threatening him, he would be justified in hitting me.

I just don't know what to do.......if i go to the principal or that goddamn school councillor, they'll kick me out for slapping him.. He harassed me last year too. I hate his entire family.

 

Storms my storming life. 

Since you want advice. I will give you mine; which is a little different. I will probably be downvoted for it. You embarrassed him and he reacted poorly. You should of said, "I'm sorry I have mistaken you for someone else. My apoligies." Instead you made him feel worthless. He reacted poorly...most young people don't handle things well. Just drop it. He seems like he craves your attention and you are giving it to him. No need to demand a apology and blow everything up and make it a huge deal. That seems to be what he wants. Perhaps there is more to this situation that meets the eye, but thats my 2 cents.

[TwiLyghtSansSparkles she/her]

21 minutes ago, Ammanas said:

Since you want advice. I will give you mine; which is a little different. I will probably be downvoted for it. You embarrassed him and he reacted poorly. You should of said, "I'm sorry I have mistaken you for someone else. My apoligies." Instead you made him feel worthless. He reacted poorly...most young people don't handle things well. Just drop it. He seems like he craves your attention and you are giving it to him. No need to demand a apology and blow everything up and make it a huge deal. That seems to be what he wants. Perhaps there is more to this situation that meets the eye, but thats my 2 cents.

There are a few factors your assessment doesn't take into account, though:

1) This guy is already known as a cremhole, meaning he may or may not have done something like this before. 

2) If she did "make him feel worthless," as you say, then his reaction was to lash out and insult her, when he could (and should) have left well enough alone. This does not make him out to be a good person. 

3) I agree that the slapping thing was wrong, and I wouldn't have demanded an apology; however, saying he would be justified in hitting her is completely wrong and not okay in any context. 

4) Saying he "craves your attention and you are giving it to him" implies that she asked for this treatment. Which she absolutely did not. 

5) Back to the "made him feel worthless" remark. Look, he began by reducing her lack of enthusiasm at seeing him to her menstrual cycle. That's a tactic commonly used to brush off a woman's emotions, to invalidate her anger or frustration by chalking it up to hormones. Not only that, but he did it as a means of insulting her in front of anyone who was listening. This would be like a woman insulting a man, then brushing it off with "You're a man, you only have like two emotions anyway." 

In conclusion, I can see the point you're trying to make, but this guy is not the sort of person who deserves sympathy or to be defended. 

Edited May 14, 2017 by TwiLyghtSansSparkles

[Ammanas]

33 minutes ago, TwiLyghtSansSparkles said:

There are a few factors your assessment doesn't take into account, though:

1) This guy is already known as a cremhole, meaning he may or may not have done something like this before. 

2) If she did "make him feel worthless," as you say, then his reaction was to lash out and insult her, when he could (and should) have left well enough alone. This does not make him out to be a good person. 

3) I agree that the slapping thing was wrong, and I wouldn't have demanded an apology; however, saying he would be justified in hitting her is completely wrong and not okay in any context. 

4) Saying he "craves your attention and you are giving it to him" implies that she asked for this treatment. Which she absolutely did not. 

5) Back to the "made him feel worthless" remark. Look, he began by reducing her lack of enthusiasm at seeing him to her menstrual cycle. That's a tactic commonly used to brush off a woman's emotions, to invalidate her anger or frustration by chalking it up to hormones. Not only that, but he did it as a means of insulting her in front of anyone who was listening. This would be like a woman insulting a man, then brushing it off with "You're a man, you only have like two emotions anyway." 

In conclusion, I can see the point you're trying to make, but this guy is not the sort of person who deserves sympathy or to be defended. 

Looks like we will agree to disagree. Its seems we have different world views and backgrounds. I respect your right to have and express your opinion.

[TwiLyghtSansSparkles she/her]

8 minutes ago, Ammanas said:

Looks like we will agree to disagree. Its seems we have different world views and backgrounds. I respect your right to have and express your opinion.

Please, please don't leave it at that. Please try to see it from Elsa's point of view. Look at this situation from the perspective of someone who has to be in a position of powerlessness, at the mercy of a guy who knows she can't fight back. Because right now, you're siding with the villain here. 

[Ammanas]

4 minutes ago, TwiLyghtSansSparkles said:

Please, please don't leave it at that. Please try to see it from Elsa's point of view. Look at this situation from the perspective of someone who has to be in a position of powerlessness, at the mercy of a guy who knows she can't fight back. Because right now, you're siding with the villain here. 

That is your opinion. 

[TwiLyghtSansSparkles she/her]

9 minutes ago, Ammanas said:

That is your opinion. 

So you're not even going to try to see Elsa's side in this? 

[Ammanas]

4 minutes ago, TwiLyghtSansSparkles said:

So you're not even going to try to see Elsa's side in this? 

I have. I said it appears both parties are at fault; although I have admitted there may be things I am not aware of. I find it sad you dismiss other peoples opinions. I am done with this conversation and will not be responding further. Thank you for your opinion. I promise you that I have read and considered your points.

[Delightful]

5 hours ago, TwiLyghtSansSparkles said:

Wow.  This guy is practically a poster child for why we need feminism.

I think the best thing you can do here is ignore him, and if he retaliates, make a really big deal out of it. Even if you don't go to the principal, make sure everyone sees you as the poor girl who was hit by one of the boys in her year. Let them see you slapping him as the hysterical reaction of a girl who thought she was in serious danger. If you can't get him into trouble officially, make sure the whole school sees him as a villain. 

I saw the text conversation. The guy claims to be an ardent feminist and therefore "if women can hit men then men can hit women". Which usually is a general sentiment I might agree with but he's using "feminism" to justify guilting Elsa into feeling like a physical attack would be her fault. Cremhole. Excuse me while I go vomit. 

[Mistrunner]

I'm... not really doing too well right now. Hugs would be appreciated.

[+Slowswift]

Just now, Mistrunner said:

I'm... not really doing too well right now. Hugs would be appreciated.

Hope you do better soon!

[TwiLyghtSansSparkles she/her]

4 minutes ago, Mistrunner said:

I'm... not really doing too well right now. Hugs would be appreciated.

Wait—that's probably not what you meant.  

Maybe something more like this? 

[Mistrunner]

1 hour ago, Slowswift said:

Hope you do better soon!

Thanks Slowswift! (Man, somebody needs to invent Baymax stat. I need him in my life.)

56 minutes ago, TwiLyghtSansSparkles said:

Wait—that's probably not what you meant.  

Maybe something more like this? 

I haven't laughed this hard since the Dark Lord came to power, thank you Twi

And pugs are always appreciated. .

Edit: I just realized it sounds like I'm taking about Trump when I say "dark lord." Rest assured I'm not making fun of political leaders, I'm just strange.

Edited May 15, 2017 by Mistrunner

[TwiLyghtSansSparkles she/her]

40 minutes ago, Mistrunner said:

Edit: I just realized it sounds like I'm taking about Trump when I say "dark lord." Rest assured I'm not making fun of political leaders, I'm just strange.

I understood you perfectly.  

(Seriously, I didn't think Trump at all. Not sure what that says about my own strangeness. ) 

[Briar King]

On the whole smile/slap issue. Hopefully this doesn't sound mean and it's not meant to be but sometimes txt can look that without personally hearing the tone of speech...

what is the likelihood this guy would have said something mean to the smile had nothing else in the chain of events took place after both parties smiled at each other? I'm considering the fact you say he is a scum when asking that.

ed: ah I see it was just one smile my apology but the question is still the same on if he would have said anything about the smile?

Edited May 15, 2017 by Briar King

[Jondesu he/him]

I know I shouldn't think through things like this, but I can't help it sometimes. 

I just realized that I'd had this head pain for 3.5 years, and I'm 32, so that's closing in on 10% of my life. An unpleasant thought on its own.

Then I realized that the other chronic pain I've had is my IBS that we now know is from corn, but which was debilitating at times and actually put me in the hospital on its own at one point. I've had that since I was 16.

So yeah, literally half of my life has been spent in constant or near-constant pain.

No wonder I'm depressed.

[StrikerEZ he/him]

1 hour ago, Jondesu said:

I know I shouldn't think through things like this, but I can't help it sometimes. 

I just realized that I'd had this head pain for 3.5 years, and I'm 32, so that's closing in on 10% of my life. An unpleasant thought on its own.

Then I realized that the other chronic pain I've had is my IBS that we now know is from corn, but which was debilitating at times and actually put me in the hospital on its own at one point. I've had that since I was 16.

So yeah, literally half of my life has been spent in constant or near-constant pain.

No wonder I'm depressed.

You need a hug. *hugs*

*hug intensifies*

Honestly though, I really hope you can get better, even if only marginally. 

[A Budgie she/her]

6 hours ago, Mistrunner said:

I'm... not really doing too well right now. Hugs would be appreciated.

*hug*

[Darkness Ascendant he/him]

10 hours ago, Mistrunner said:

I'm... not really doing too well right now. Hugs would be appreciated.

5 hours ago, Jondesu said:

I know I shouldn't think through things like this, but I can't help it sometimes. 

I just realized that I'd had this head pain for 3.5 years, and I'm 32, so that's closing in on 10% of my life. An unpleasant thought on its own.

Then I realized that the other chronic pain I've had is my IBS that we now know is from corn, but which was debilitating at times and actually put me in the hospital on its own at one point. I've had that since I was 16.

So yeah, literally half of my life has been spent in constant or near-constant pain.

No wonder I'm depressed.

I can relate to the head pain (although mine does seem to be on a lesser degree >>)

*lots and lots of concerned hugs*

If you need to rant/talk about it, I'm here my man.