Having a Bad Day?: Get 'yer Hugs here!!

[Truthless of Shinovar he/him]

54 minutes ago, revelryintheart said:

You know those days where everything just seems to go wrong? That was me today.

We sang in choir for the first time this school year. I basically haven't sang since March, since I don't like singing in front of my family and we can't sing in church. So today was my first time singing in a long time. I don't have very much confidence in my singing to begin with, and today I think it dropped to pretty much zero. I sounded awful. I couldn't get the correct breath ratio, my range had drastically decreased, and I couldn't project at all. What made it even worse was hearing the other people around me because I'm surrounded by AMAZING singers (in in the school's top choir but sometime I wonder how I even got in). So I'm hoping that I was just having an off day, but I'm kinda scared that if will take a while to get my voice back to normal. Also my choir teacher has started using Canvas, but I'm not used to having choir assignments on Canvas, so I forgot to check Canvas and ended up missing two assignments that she has since locked.

And you know those times when people but you for no good reason? Like you just get annoyed at someone for existing? That was me today I don't know why. And one of my biggest pet peeves is when people ask me "are you ok?" I don't like talking about my feelings so I absolutely despise that question.

Then after school I was scheduled to go to a job/hiring paperywork training thing for my new job, but the HR manager wasn't there. After forever of waiting and eventually talking to customer service, I got to sit there for 2 1/2 hours watching videos. Plus I was super hungry the entire time (I didn't eat lunch) so that made it really hard to focus. Also I have a ton of homework tonight.

*hugs* Revelry, I’m sorry to hear that your day went so awful. I know how you feel, and it’s the worst. Hang in there. Have hope for tomorrow. If you want to vent more, feel free to PM me. 

[AonEne he/him]

*hugs everyone* 

[Mat he/him]

I... just am feeling really down today. Like all the feelings from the past months decided to just show up. I'm swamped, but not the overworked kind.

The kind where I've been stuck inside my house since March.

The kind where I was looking forward to school starting. But it's online.

The kind where I just want to go back to church, to see any of my friends, which I haven't and who I haven't since March either.

The kind where I was going to get my first summer job, but no.

I'm swamped. With so much nothing that it's depressing.

But this community is just so... amazing, it probably has saved my day. And my year. The Forum Games that I've messed around in the last hour and the theories and stuff I've read and the RP's and the people here- it just is so uplifting, especially right now. So thank you.

And thank you, this thread, for existing. Because I really needed to put this into words.

[Channelknight Fadran]

59 minutes ago, Matrim's Dice said:

I... just am feeling really down today. Like all the feelings from the past months decided to just show up. I'm swamped, but not the overworked kind.

The kind where I've been stuck inside my house since March.

The kind where I was looking forward to school starting. But it's online.

The kind where I just want to go back to church, to see any of my friends, which I haven't and who I haven't since March either.

The kind where I was going to get my first summer job, but no.

I'm swamped. With so much nothing that it's depressing.

But this community is just so... amazing, it probably has saved my day. And my year. The Forum Games that I've messed around in the last hour and the theories and stuff I've read and the RP's and the people here- it just is so uplifting, especially right now. So thank you.

And thank you, this thread, for existing. Because I really needed to put this into words.

*Draws upon inner Kindness and hugs*

[Briar King]

I’m so rusting wound up today..ex wife was supposed to be getting the kids out of Laura’s path so I was much more chill for the past few hours till about 40 minutes ago. She telling me they are staying and reevaluating that plan for the AM. Only 16 miles north of me here in Lake Charles still well in the 115mph wind cone up there. I’m sweating this one big time unlike others I’ve been through. Phew. I’m a wreck.

[Mist she/her]

31 minutes ago, Briar King said:

I’m so rusting wound up today..ex wife was supposed to be getting the kids out of Laura’s path so I was much more chill for the past few hours till about 40 minutes ago. She telling me they are staying and reevaluating that plan for the AM. Only 16 miles north of me here in Lake Charles still well in the 115mph wind cone up there. I’m sweating this one big time unlike others I’ve been through. Phew. I’m a wreck.

Oh no! Hurricanes.

6 hours ago, Matrim's Dice said:

I... just am feeling really down today. Like all the feelings from the past months decided to just show up. I'm swamped, but not the overworked kind.

The kind where I've been stuck inside my house since March.

The kind where I was looking forward to school starting. But it's online.

The kind where I just want to go back to church, to see any of my friends, which I haven't and who I haven't since March either.

The kind where I was going to get my first summer job, but no.

I'm swamped. With so much nothing that it's depressing.

But this community is just so... amazing, it probably has saved my day. And my year. The Forum Games that I've messed around in the last hour and the theories and stuff I've read and the RP's and the people here- it just is so uplifting, especially right now. So thank you.

And thank you, this thread, for existing. Because I really needed to put this into words.

*hugs* I know. If only life would be normal.

Edited August 26, 2020 by Mist
Flame on!

[Briar King]

My house is messed the rust up. 150 mph wind will do that though. I’m just blah right now. Will likely require an entire rebuild I’m thinking.

[Mist she/her]

23 minutes ago, Briar King said:

My house is messed the rust up. 150 mph wind will do that though. I’m just blah right now. Will likely require an entire rebuild I’m thinking.

*hugs* That's really hard, especially when it turns so quickly between thinking water damage to a rebuild. We're here for you.

[Bearer of all agonies he/him]

*Hugs*
we are here for you. 

[RazeU]

Been a member here for years and never looked at this board. But this is exactly what I needed today. Started a new medicine and not liking how it makes me feel. Like the smallest little issue just hangs with me and drags me down and I can’t get past it. It does make my anxiety better though. So an evil catch 22. 

[Bearer of all agonies he/him]

Hope you feel better!

[Mist she/her]

4 hours ago, RazeU said:

Been a member here for years and never looked at this board. But this is exactly what I needed today. Started a new medicine and not liking how it makes me feel. Like the smallest little issue just hangs with me and drags me down and I can’t get past it. It does make my anxiety better though. So an evil catch 22. 

*hugs* That's no fun. I hope you figure it out. 

[Bearer of all agonies he/him]

Yes. *hug* hope you work it out!

[Draginon he/him]

Anyone else having bad health problems when they wear masks? I keep finding that when I wear a mask, doesn’t matter if it’s paper, cloth with filter, thick cloth or painter cup mask, I get a bad migraine if I’m wearing for longer than a trip to the store for groceries. It got pretty bad this past Labor Day weekend when my mother and me went out for a little trip to our favorite local restaurant, the mall we love visiting and to Nebraska Furniture Mart so that she could get new end tables with those chargers. Well about a couple hours into our mall trip my head started hurting pretty bad and I knew it was a migraine since I’ve suffered them enough to know them so while at Barnes & Noble I got an iced tea to help and take the mask off for a few minutes to breathe better but it wasn’t helping. We left the mall and despite how much my head hurting she still wanted to go to Nebraska Furniture Mart so I had to suffer the insane crowds there (it was so hard to stay 6 feet away since people liked crowding around the furniture and chatting with each other on if they like it and other stuff).

I think what might be the problem is that breathing out makes heat, the heat has nowhere to go and is just making my face warmer and going outside in the heat is making me warmer. Heat is something that really gets a migraine going for me and a more recent find is LED lights since a couple months back our maintenance man at work switched out our lights with LED and I’ve been getting one almost everyday since then. I keep some of the lights off and I’m still getting them by noon and if I left them all on I get one by 9 so I’m doing what I can to keep myself well.

[FriarFritz]

55 minutes ago, Draginon said:

Heat is something that really gets a migraine going for me and a more recent find is LED lights since a couple months back our maintenance man at work switched out our lights with LED and I’ve been getting one almost everyday since then. I keep some of the lights off and I’m still getting them by noon and if I left them all on I get one by 9 so I’m doing what I can to keep myself well.

Oof, that's tough. Have you considered getting blue light glasses? They're great for reducing stimulation from screens and whatnot. You can get the feature on prescription glasses, too.

Also, according to some very cursory research I just did, it can help to set screens at max brightness (weird, right?); because LEDs only have one brightness level, at lower settings they have to flicker on and off.

Hope that helps. *cold hug (so as not to cause migraine)*

[Draginon he/him]

19 hours ago, FriarFritz said:

Oof, that's tough. Have you considered getting blue light glasses? They're great for reducing stimulation from screens and whatnot. You can get the feature on prescription glasses, too.

Also, according to some very cursory research I just did, it can help to set screens at max brightness (weird, right?); because LEDs only have one brightness level, at lower settings they have to flicker on and off.

Hope that helps. *cold hug (so as not to cause migraine)*

That’s the thing, my job involves looking at a computer screen most of the day and before those lights were installed my migraines were very sporadic and could never figure out a trigger causing them but I knew what made them worse once I got one, those being light and heat.

A few years back I had a bad migraine happen to me. It was just enough to be closing your eyes for an hour or so and a coworker gave me an Advil and it went away... for an hour before it came back like a truck hitting a brick wall. I was out of commission almost the entire day after that.

It sucks when you have to work while being stuck with a migraine. A mild case is fine but when you’re at the point where you can’t keep your eyes open or your head up that should be used as a reason to go home early.

[Mist she/her]

*hugs* That's all really annoying. I hope you figure it out. 

[Briar King]

Will be dodging another rusting hurricane in less then 2 months time. Only just got our walls ripped out yesterday from this last one and there are still people with no power. I really hope this new equipment can stand up against Delta cause going another month without it will just suck after getting it back just a little over a week ago.

[Condensation she/her]

Here's a hug, and I'd like one back. I woke up at 5:30 this morning to do swim team after going to sleep past 11 last night, and I'm just tired.

[Mist she/her]

2 minutes ago, Briar King said:

Will be dodging another rusting hurricane in less then 2 months time. Only just got our walls ripped out yesterday from this last one and there are still people with no power. I really hope this new equipment can stand up against Delta cause going another month without it will just suck after getting it back just a little over a week ago.

Oof. Wishing you the best of luck! Here's some hugs. 

1 minute ago, Condensation said:

Here's a hug, and I'd like one back. I woke up at 5:30 this morning to do swim team after going to sleep past 11 last night, and I'm just tired.

Here's an Internet hug as well as the physical one I just gave you. 

[Condensation she/her]

Just now, Mist said:

Oof. Wishing you the best of luck! Here's some hugs. 

Here's an Internet hug as well as the physical one I just gave you. 

 Thanks!

[Draginon he/him]

Not particularly bad day but need to kind of vent about it.

My mother is currently figuring out stuff to do on vacation in November and the stuff she wants to do I’m not really looking forward to. We were going to do a western Caribbean cruise but it was canceled of course and she still wants to do stuff in Florida. The stuff she’s suggesting are:

1. Visit Give Kids the World for their Christmas light decorations. I’m not looking forward to this because it kind of makes me uncomfortable. I mean kids being seriously ill or disabled make me uncomfortable that I don’t like being around them. I don’t mean it in a bad way but there are things out there that we don’t like being around and this is one of my things.

2. Going on a gator swamp tour boat. I’m surprised she wants to do this since every time we’ve gone to Florida I jokingly suggest it and she gives a big no. It’s not really something I would choose to do on vacation but the one she’s suggesting to do is pretty off the beaten path.

3. Visit Key West. She keeps wanting to have this be a day trip but in order for it to be one we would have to leave the hotel in Orlando at 6AM, be down there around noon, spend a couple hours there and then drive back to the hotel sometime in the evening and that’s if there’s no traffic in Miami. I’m not going to make myself tired for that type of trip and I’d prefer doing this as a cruise port but she doesn’t want to do that option at all.

overall these three things just make it the opposite of a vacation for me. It’s not fun or relaxing at all. I don’t know what else she wants to do but honestly I’d prefer just staying at the house and read Rhythm of War instead since I don’t know if I’m even up for making that drive right now. It always seems like when it’s a ‘her’ vacation the majority of the time it’s stuff that either bores me, is the opposite of my interests that she thinks I like (she always wants to do stuff related to war and battlefields but I hate that stuff) or it’s an uncomfortable experience for me.

[Condensation she/her]

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17 hours ago, Draginon said:

Not particularly bad day but need to kind of vent about it.

My mother is currently figuring out stuff to do on vacation in November and the stuff she wants to do I’m not really looking forward to. We were going to do a western Caribbean cruise but it was canceled of course and she still wants to do stuff in Florida. The stuff she’s suggesting are:

1. Visit Give Kids the World for their Christmas light decorations. I’m not looking forward to this because it kind of makes me uncomfortable. I mean kids being seriously ill or disabled make me uncomfortable that I don’t like being around them. I don’t mean it in a bad way but there are things out there that we don’t like being around and this is one of my things.

2. Going on a gator swamp tour boat. I’m surprised she wants to do this since every time we’ve gone to Florida I jokingly suggest it and she gives a big no. It’s not really something I would choose to do on vacation but the one she’s suggesting to do is pretty off the beaten path.

3. Visit Key West. She keeps wanting to have this be a day trip but in order for it to be one we would have to leave the hotel in Orlando at 6AM, be down there around noon, spend a couple hours there and then drive back to the hotel sometime in the evening and that’s if there’s no traffic in Miami. I’m not going to make myself tired for that type of trip and I’d prefer doing this as a cruise port but she doesn’t want to do that option at all.

overall these three things just make it the opposite of a vacation for me. It’s not fun or relaxing at all. I don’t know what else she wants to do but honestly I’d prefer just staying at the house and read Rhythm of War instead since I don’t know if I’m even up for making that drive right now. It always seems like when it’s a ‘her’ vacation the majority of the time it’s stuff that either bores me, is the opposite of my interests that she thinks I like (she always wants to do stuff related to war and battlefields but I hate that stuff) or it’s an uncomfortable experience for me.

 

Oh, that's annoying. I hate when people don't listen to me.

[Ghanderflaffle she/her]

This isn’t really a bad thing, but it'll certainly make me feel bad.

Watch out, it's a little high school drama-y

There's this one freshman who's had a crush on me since I was like 7 and we were at the same daycare. He'd take my hand and such stuff. This wouldn’t really be a problem now, but it's homecoming this week and he asked to meet me after school. I think he's going to ask me to the dance and I really don’t want to turn him down. He's a good kid, but not really the kind of person I want to be around. This is the first time I’ve had to do this and I don’t want to make it mean or anything, but at the same time it's a solid no. I have never been interested in him, or really anyone, for that matter. I’m not sure what to do.

[Lunamor she/her]

4 minutes ago, Ghanderflaffle said:

This isn’t really a bad thing, but it'll certainly make me feel bad.

Watch out, it's a little high school drama-y

There's this one freshman who's had a crush on me since I was like 7 and we were at the same daycare. He'd take my hand and such stuff. This wouldn’t really be a problem now, but it's homecoming this week and he asked to meet me after school. I think he's going to ask me to the dance and I really don’t want to turn him down. He's a good kid, but not really the kind of person I want to be around. This is the first time I’ve had to do this and I don’t want to make it mean or anything, but at the same time it's a solid no. I have never been interested in him, or really anyone, for that matter. I’m not sure what to do.

In my experience, telling him that you aren’t interested in dating anyone at the moment works well. Based on what you’ve said, that wouldn’t be a lie and gives a “It’s not you it’s me” impression.