Having a Bad Day?: Get 'yer Hugs here!!

[Vyzkel He/Him]

13 hours ago, strmblsd said:

Ok this is gunna sound stupid... I overthink everything especially when I'm bored.. I'm always bored.. overthinking causes me to have stress and anxiety and those make me feel like I'm gonna throw up.. I feel absolutely horrible rn... I'm overthinking talking to a girl.. relationships with my friends.. everything 

So understandable *hugs*

[Nathrangking he/him]

On 7/7/2024 at 6:14 AM, strmblsd said:

Ok this is gunna sound stupid... I overthink everything especially when I'm bored.. I'm always bored.. overthinking causes me to have stress and anxiety and those make me feel like I'm gonna throw up.. I feel absolutely horrible rn... I'm overthinking talking to a girl.. relationships with my friends.. everything 

 Hugs. As someone who is a chronic over thinker I get it. Remember this though, things are rarely as complex as they first seem. You may see the mass confusion of life and try to get ahead of it, but sometimes the best thing is to live alongside events. Instead of the confusion controlling you. You control it by taking it in stride.

 

[Mags she/they]

I'm so terrified of being a bad person. It feels like if I don't make everyone perfectly happy then something is deeply wrong with me. Subconsciously I feel like I'm not allowed to be human if I don't perfectly become what people want me to be. 

And I know that's not true. I've heard all the inspirational quotes that are supposed to make me think better of myself, but that doesn't make me feel any different. That doesn't stop me from being terrified of peoples disapproval with every fiber of my being.

I wish I could be less sensitive, and I try really hard not to be, but at the end of the day I still feel awful.

[Nathrangking he/him]

4 hours ago, J. Magi said:

I'm so terrified of being a bad person. It feels like if I don't make everyone perfectly happy then something is deeply wrong with me. Subconsciously I feel like I'm not allowed to be human if I don't perfectly become what people want me to be. 

And I know that's not true. I've heard all the inspirational quotes that are supposed to make me think better of myself, but that doesn't make me feel any different. That doesn't stop me from being terrified of peoples disapproval with every fiber of my being.

I wish I could be less sensitive, and I try really hard not to be, but at the end of the day I still feel awful.

Hugs! I understand well the need to be perfect and be what others expect of you. I cannot pretend as if feeling this way can be hand waved away. It can't. That said you have the power to be what you want yourself to be. People might want things of you, but ultimately what matters is what you want from yourself. Sometimes what those close to us want us to be what we existentially speaking want to be. If you ever need to rant my Dm's are open.

[Vyzkel He/Him]

9 hours ago, J. Magi said:

I'm so terrified of being a bad person. It feels like if I don't make everyone perfectly happy then something is deeply wrong with me. Subconsciously I feel like I'm not allowed to be human if I don't perfectly become what people want me to be. 

And I know that's not true. I've heard all the inspirational quotes that are supposed to make me think better of myself, but that doesn't make me feel any different. That doesn't stop me from being terrified of peoples disapproval with every fiber of my being.

I wish I could be less sensitive, and I try really hard not to be, but at the end of the day I still feel awful.

*hugs of understanding*

[Through The Living Glass She/They]

10 hours ago, J. Magi said:

I'm so terrified of being a bad person. It feels like if I don't make everyone perfectly happy then something is deeply wrong with me. Subconsciously I feel like I'm not allowed to be human if I don't perfectly become what people want me to be. 

And I know that's not true. I've heard all the inspirational quotes that are supposed to make me think better of myself, but that doesn't make me feel any different. That doesn't stop me from being terrified of peoples disapproval with every fiber of my being.

I wish I could be less sensitive, and I try really hard not to be, but at the end of the day I still feel awful.

*hugshugshugshugshugshugshugshugshugshugs*

[Mags she/they]

6 hours ago, Nathrangking said:

Hugs! I understand well the need to be perfect and be what others expect of you. I cannot pretend as if feeling this way can be hand waved away. It can't. That said you have the power to be what you want yourself to be. People might want things of you, but ultimately what matters is what you want from yourself. Sometimes what those close to us want us to be what we existentially speaking want to be. If you ever need to rant my Dm's are open.

Thanks, hearing that helped a little I think.

1 hour ago, Vyzkel Willbender said:

*hugs of understanding*

29 minutes ago, Through The Living Glass said:

*hugshugshugshugshugshugshugshugshugshugs*

Thank you

[Edema Rue she/her]

17 hours ago, J. Magi said:

I'm so terrified of being a bad person. It feels like if I don't make everyone perfectly happy then something is deeply wrong with me. Subconsciously I feel like I'm not allowed to be human if I don't perfectly become what people want me to be. 

And I know that's not true. I've heard all the inspirational quotes that are supposed to make me think better of myself, but that doesn't make me feel any different. That doesn't stop me from being terrified of peoples disapproval with every fiber of my being.

I wish I could be less sensitive, and I try really hard not to be, but at the end of the day I still feel awful.

Hi.

keep breathing, okay? One breath at a time. One way I’ve heard it described is that the purest fruit bruises most easily. It’s sweet, it’s juicy, it’s wonderful, but it’ll bruise at anything.

I hear you, my friend. It hurts so much to care. It hurts so scudding much, especially when no one else seems to. Another thing I’ve heard is that it’s like a spectrum. The lower your lows, the higher your highs. They might never hurt like you hurt. But they’ll also never laugh like you laugh. I’ve been on both sides of it. Caring hurts. But not caring leaves you with a fuzzy mind. Unable to think, unable to feel, unable to live.

It hurts, friend, and I’m sorry. Keep holding on, ok? I’m here if you ever want to talk, and I know so many people are too. Keep hoping. Keep loving. And love yourself, too. If the whole world is fighting you, don’t give yourself one more enemy, okay? We’re here for you.

[Mags she/they]

22 minutes ago, Edema Rue said:

Hi.

keep breathing, okay? One breath at a time. One way I’ve heard it described is that the purest fruit bruises most easily. It’s sweet, it’s juicy, it’s wonderful, but it’ll bruise at anything.

I hear you, my friend. It hurts so much to care. It hurts so scudding much, especially when no one else seems to. Another thing I’ve heard is that it’s like a spectrum. The lower your lows, the higher your highs. They might never hurt like you hurt. But they’ll also never laugh like you laugh. I’ve been on both sides of it. Caring hurts. But not caring leaves you with a fuzzy mind. Unable to think, unable to feel, unable to live.

It hurts, friend, and I’m sorry. Keep holding on, ok? I’m here if you ever want to talk, and I know so many people are too. Keep hoping. Keep loving. And love yourself, too. If the whole world is fighting you, don’t give yourself one more enemy, okay? We’re here for you.

Thank you, I think I really needed to hear that. I don't know what I'd do without the wonderful people here, you always help me feel like I'm not alone

[Nathrangking he/him]

I don't know why I feel like placing my petty concerns on the shoulders of others me selfish, but I do. I have often come to this thread to vent and I must do so again. My nerves are shot not that there is anything to be done about it. My work contract which has been updated at 6 month intervals is up for the second time. In less than 2 weeks it expires and I have heard nothing about renewal. Worrying may be a useless endeavor, but I can't shake it. Thanks for listening and I apologize for burdening you with my concerns.

[Vyzkel He/Him]

12 minutes ago, Nathrangking said:

I don't know why I feel like placing my petty concerns on the shoulders of others me selfish, but I do. I have often come to this thread to vent and I must do so again. My nerves are shot not that there is anything to be done about it. My work contract which has been updated at 6 month intervals is up for the second time. In less than 2 weeks it expires and I have heard nothing about renewal. Worrying may be a useless endeavor, but I can't shake it. Thanks for listening and I apologize for burdening you with my concerns.

No worries, that’s what this thread is for, *hugs*.

[Through The Living Glass She/They]

3 hours ago, Nathrangking said:

I don't know why I feel like placing my petty concerns on the shoulders of others me selfish, but I do. I have often come to this thread to vent and I must do so again. My nerves are shot not that there is anything to be done about it. My work contract which has been updated at 6 month intervals is up for the second time. In less than 2 weeks it expires and I have heard nothing about renewal. Worrying may be a useless endeavor, but I can't shake it. Thanks for listening and I apologize for burdening you with my concerns.

Isn't that the kinda point of this thread though? If we didn't want to help, we wouldn't have come here  *hugs*

[BlueWildRye he/him]

On 7/13/2024 at 12:05 PM, Nathrangking said:

I don't know why I feel like placing my petty concerns on the shoulders of others me selfish, but I do. I have often come to this thread to vent and I must do so again. My nerves are shot not that there is anything to be done about it. My work contract which has been updated at 6 month intervals is up for the second time. In less than 2 weeks it expires and I have heard nothing about renewal. Worrying may be a useless endeavor, but I can't shake it. Thanks for listening and I apologize for burdening you with my concerns.

Your concerns matter as much as all of ours. 

*hugs*

[Through The Living Glass She/They]

Hey y'all.

Things are kinda tough at home rn...

Actually, things have been tough at home for the past four years or more...

But it's worse than usual right now...

Could use some hugs...

[BlueWildRye he/him]

3 minutes ago, Through The Living Glass said:

Hey y'all.

Things are kinda tough at home rn...

Actually, things have been tough at home for the past four years or more...

But it's worse than usual right now...

Could use some hugs...

*hugs*

[Vyzkel He/Him]

6 minutes ago, Through The Living Glass said:

Hey y'all.

Things are kinda tough at home rn...

Actually, things have been tough at home for the past four years or more...

But it's worse than usual right now...

Could use some hugs...

*late night hugs*

[+Slowswift]

36 minutes ago, Through The Living Glass said:

Hey y'all.

Things are kinda tough at home rn...

Actually, things have been tough at home for the past four years or more...

But it's worse than usual right now...

Could use some hugs...

*hugs*

[Edema Rue she/her]

36 minutes ago, Through The Living Glass said:

Hey y'all.

Things are kinda tough at home rn...

Actually, things have been tough at home for the past four years or more...

But it's worse than usual right now...

Could use some hugs...

*lots of hugs*

We’re here if you ever want to talk or rant. My PM’s are always open. Hold on, ok?

[Mags she/they]

1 hour ago, Through The Living Glass said:

Hey y'all.

Things are kinda tough at home rn...

Actually, things have been tough at home for the past four years or more...

But it's worse than usual right now...

Could use some hugs...

*Huuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuugs*

[Edema Rue she/her]

Hey

can I maybe

have a hug

[Scars of Hathsin he/him]

*Hug*

What are you doing up?, is it not like 3:30 in the morning?

[Throw TheLiving Silverware he/him/il/lui]

On 7/15/2024 at 6:24 AM, Through The Living Glass said:

Hey y'all.

Things are kinda tough at home rn...

Actually, things have been tough at home for the past four years or more...

But it's worse than usual right now...

Could use some hugs...

 

2 hours ago, Edema Rue said:

Hey

can I maybe

have a hug

*big hugs to everyone*

Hey. It's hard, I know. But you are both strong, and I know you can go through what is happening to you. And in the meantime, we're here.

*hugs everyone in the thread*

*more hugs for good measure*

 

 

[Through the Living Hope]

4 hours ago, Edema Rue said:

Hey

can I maybe

have a hug

2 hours ago, Scars of Hathsin said:

*Hug*

What are you doing up?, is it not like 3:30 in the morning?

2 hours ago, Just a Silvereye said:

 

*big hugs to everyone*

Hey. It's hard, I know. But you are both strong, and I know you can go through what is happening to you. And in the meantime, we're here.

*hugs everyone in the thread*

*more hugs for good measure*

 

 

*also hugs*

Everything ok, Eddie?

[+Slowswift]

7 hours ago, Edema Rue said:

Hey

can I maybe

have a hug

*hugs*

[Edema Rue she/her]

8 hours ago, Scars of Hathsin said:

*Hug*

What are you doing up?, is it not like 3:30 in the morning?

Thanks…I was at work.

7 hours ago, Just a Silvereye said:

 

*big hugs to everyone*

Hey. It's hard, I know. But you are both strong, and I know you can go through what is happening to you. And in the meantime, we're here.

*hugs everyone in the thread*

*more hugs for good measure*

 

 

Thank you so much <33

5 hours ago, Spark of Hope said:

*also hugs*

Everything ok, Eddie?

Thank you. Not really, but we’re doing it anyway. 

2 hours ago, Slowswift said:

*hugs*

Thank you <33