Having a Bad Day?: Get 'yer Hugs here!!

[Niteshado he/him]

On 6/22/2018 at 6:57 PM, Silverblade5 said:

Guess who tried to take an exit to fast and went off road. Guess who hit a sign with a mirror. 

Always sucks.. Least it was just a mirror, and not much else!

[Draginon he/him]

This is more griping/venting about my mom than having a bad day so bear with me here:

My mom has to make simple math so complicated. We have a bunch of books here that need to have labels she needs to print and it's a simple double multiplication problem. Pretty much there's 6 books in a bag and there's 20 sets of each bag and then triple the number. It's 360 labels but the way she does it she ends up in the 1000's! I mean I'm not a math genius by any account but that's simple elementary school multiplication!

She also tries to 'help' me without asking me first and she thinks it goes much faster. I know what her intent is but when she does it without asking if I need the extra help she's pretty much saying "I don't trust you enough to finish this on your own". It doesn't matter how simple the project is, she just has to butt in without asking first. Heck a year ago I did ask her for a little help on building a shelf and I just needed her to keep something steady while I got a brace on and instead of just doing that she has to take over the entire process so I just up and left until she was finished because I wasn't going to put up with her not listening to me on that one.

A couple weeks back we were at the store and this employee asked if I wanted to try something, you know the free sample people? Well it was something I had tried before so I told him 'no thanks, I've already tried them' and instead of that being the end of it my mom just has to stop and ask 'are you sure you've tried these?' and I told her yes but apparently that wasn't enough to convince her to move on and she acts like I should take a sample and repeats her question. Jeez, I didn't want a sample and she turned a two second no thanks into a minute of questioning if I've tried it. She does that to me all the time at the store, I'll see something that'll give a small audible 'ew' and somehow that translates to 'that sounds good, I want to try that' to her!

She can be such a hypocrite as well. When we go to conferences she wants to go to and she gets on my case if I don't attend something but when it's one I want to go to I don't give her hell because I understand it's not her thing and yet her stuff isn't my cup of tea and yet she thinks I should go attend stuff I find boring? Then there are times where she'll give a subtle hint for me to do something but when I give her a subtle hint she doesn't get it, like she'll say 'I think you might like doing this' and when I suggested a little port adventure for her to try and one for me for our cruise at Christmas she didn't get that I wanted some space. It's like I have to explain to her like she's 5. She also thinks my opinions don't matter if they clash with hers like if I think a flower is pretty but she thinks it's ugly she'll say I'm saying it's pretty just to contradict her and annoy her. It's like she doesn't understand what opinion means!

More or less her doing these things has broken me down to the point of 'I'm not even going to try anymore' since it gets ridiculous having to 'fight' her over this stuff. This is why I seriously need to do that sabbatical before I go insane!

[Caesura she/her]

Your mother sounds super frustrating @Draginon!! Good on you for putting up with her though.

 

So since my brother's decision things went downhill pretty quickly. He stayed a couple days extra in hospital, and came home on the Tuesday. On the Wednesday things started up again, but since he'd decided not to have more operations he didn't go back to hospital, just was on lots of drugs at home. Lots of visitors for a couple days. Things got really bad on the Friday night, and the hospice nurse put him into a drug-induced coma Saturday morning, then passed away Tuesday night.

He died peacefully, with all his family here, and he's not in pain any more. Gonna be a lot of adjusting for us all though.

[Ammanas]

Well my Germans are out of the World Cup, but I guess I shouldn't be surprised:

 

[Draginon he/him]

@Caesura She is. My sister has practically given up on trying to reason with her. It's not good because the way she treats me has given me suicidal thoughts in the past and gotten me close to depression. She's someone with control issues since everything has to be her way or the highway. She also says stuff that's racist and prejudice in nature, like if a black person cuts her off in traffic she automatically goes for a derogatory term. Heck when I told this stuff to my GF she knew exactly the term my mom is that I'd already come to: a female dog. She just doesn't seem to understand that she's pushing everyone away just like her father did after my grandma died.

[Briar King]

Ugh this heat... still have July and August and most of September to go through before the next break. It’s been brutal. Hopefully we get another fantastic winter like this past one was.

[BitBitio he/him]

Can i just have a hug?

[Nathrangking he/him]

@BitBitio the Mudkip *Hug*.

Edited July 4, 2018 by Nathrangking

[Sunbird she/her]

*hugs @BitBitio the Mudkip*

[BitBitio he/him]

Awwwwww thanks guys.

[Silverblade5 he/him]

A couple weeks ago, I found out that a friend and coworker had a brain tumor. Today, during his break, he passed out in a chair. Had to get rough with him to get him up. Company owner ended up driving him home. We suspect it might've been a result of his medication. 

[Silva]

11 minutes ago, Silverblade5 said:

A couple weeks ago, I found out that a friend and coworker had a brain tumor. Today, during his break, he passed out in a chair. Had to get rough with him to get him up. Company owner ended up driving him home. We suspect it might've been a result of his medication. 

*gives sympathetic hug - no words needed*

[Silverblade5 he/him]

Motor greese spills are the worst. 

[Casta she/her]

*Here are hugs for everyone who need it, even if they don't feel like saying it loud*

[Toaster Retribution he/him]

I think I have some kind of OCD-thingy and I worry about tons of stuff and have these recurring intrusive thoughts that I can’t get rid of. I hate it, but it won’t go away. And the worst thing is, most of my worries and thoughts have managed to get tied to my religion, which makes it confusing and scary. 

[Silverblade5 he/him]

On July 19, 2018 at 6:17 PM, Silverblade5 said:

A couple weeks ago, I found out that a friend and coworker had a brain tumor. Today, during his break, he passed out in a chair. Had to get rough with him to get him up. Company owner ended up driving him home. We suspect it might've been a result of his medication. 

Update: because of the fact that he could have a seizure at any moment, and the fact that lots of heavy equipment is constantly being operated, and we've constantly got trucks coming in and out, it has been determined that he presents a hazard, and has therefore been let go. 

[Niteshado he/him]

On 7/24/2018 at 5:12 PM, Toaster Retribution said:

I think I have some kind of OCD-thingy and I worry about tons of stuff and have these recurring intrusive thoughts that I can’t get rid of. I hate it, but it won’t go away. And the worst thing is, most of my worries and thoughts have managed to get tied to my religion, which makes it confusing and scary. 

I know some people are against it, but medicine is a beautiful thing. I have anxiety/depression issues and meds make everything calmer. 

Maybe talk to your doctor about it? the symptoms can be controlled. Its not a one and done thing though, you might need to try diff meds. 

I had to try a few before i found one that doesnt make me feel weirder or simply..off. but its worth it. 

[Toaster Retribution he/him]

1 hour ago, Niteshado said:

I know some people are against it, but medicine is a beautiful thing. I have anxiety/depression issues and meds make everything calmer. 

Maybe talk to your doctor about it? the symptoms can be controlled. Its not a one and done thing though, you might need to try diff meds. 

I had to try a few before i found one that doesnt make me feel weirder or simply..off. but its worth it. 

Huh. Thanks! I will be seeing a doctor about the problems next month, so I’ll see what they will recommend to me.

[Voidus]

1 hour ago, Niteshado said:

I know some people are against it, but medicine is a beautiful thing. I have anxiety/depression issues and meds make everything calmer. 

Maybe talk to your doctor about it? the symptoms can be controlled. Its not a one and done thing though, you might need to try diff meds. 

I had to try a few before i found one that doesnt make me feel weirder or simply..off. but its worth it. 

Yeah discussing the possibility of medication is always a good idea, if that's not something you're comfortable with then definitely see if you can find a trained mental health professional to speak to. Many anonymous services exist depending on what country you're in, and having someone who actually understands and listens can be a real life saver.

[Niteshado he/him]

3 minutes ago, Toaster Retribution said:

Huh. Thanks! I will be seeing a doctor about the problems next month, so I’ll see what they will recommend to me.

go with what they say, but do NOT be afraid to tell them if it makes you worse or just simply feel "weird"

Dont be afraid as well to stop taking it till you see the doctor again if it makes you worse or you dont like it. 

The first 2 weeks are gonna be weird in general. Starting meds cause set off side effects. usually for me the first 2 weeks i feel better but have odd extra feelings or things happening. talk to your doctor if it continues, but give it 2 weeks at least, a lot of times the effects go away.

If you do have any questions or need to talk to someone, feel free to message me too

[Toaster Retribution he/him]

Thank you @Niteshado!

[Zelly]

It's a two-directional hug sorta day.  Sometimes when you need one, giving one ends up working wonders as well.

So have a hug, and thanks for being hugged.

[+Sorana she/her]

You're definitly right! Have a hug, too!

[The Forgetful Archivist he/him]

Someone I used to know died today. I never knew more than their name and I hadn't seen her in several years, but strangely it still stings. They say she rolled her car coming down the canyon, they say she wasn't wearing a seatbelt and was ejected from the car. I can't help but think how I am not dissimilar to her, we were in the same school took the same classes, I have driven down the same canyon. I don't know why I remember her, most faces are but blurs their names meaningless but for some reason her’s is sharply in focus. She was in my English class several years ago, she would answer questions and make insightful and often amusing comments. Aside from the occasional hello I never spoke to her. But I did see her, she was always smiling, always happy and full of life. Now she is not. Now she is dead. Death comes for us all, It looms just out of sight but sometimes I see it. Someday it will take people I know, this scares me. They say there is no light without darkness, they say it is contrast that gives life meaning, perhaps without death's shadow life would not have its allure. When we do see death let us reflect on it and contrast its bleak gaze to the intrinsic beauty that breaths all around us. Rejoice in the sunny splendor of life because we never know who it will take next.

Edited August 12, 2018 by The Forgetful Archivist

[+Sorana she/her]

@The Forgetful Archivist

*hugs*

Sadly I know that feeling too well.