Having a Bad Day?: Get 'yer Hugs here!!

[Zelly]

Sometimes life gives you lemons, other times it hits you with the tree truck and then present you with a lemon meringue while you're disoriented. I had a roller coaster train wreck blessing of a day.

Began with a death.  Followed by a sudden unexpected career change. Whirlwind of tears and changed plans in the middle.  Ended with a birth, now I'm an aunt.  And I'm going to a much needed sleep.

[Silverblade5 he/him]

An extra long night at work followed by a power outage that can't be fixed via resetting circuit box. Exactly what I needed tonight. 

[Niteshado he/him]

13 hours ago, Zellyia said:

Sometimes life gives you lemons, other times it hits you with the tree truck and then present you with a lemon meringue while you're disoriented. I had a roller coaster train wreck blessing of a day.

Began with a death.  Followed by a sudden unexpected career change. Whirlwind of tears and changed plans in the middle.  Ended with a birth, now I'm an aunt.  And I'm going to a much needed sleep.

that...is a lot. I am sorry for your loss. but congratz in becoming an aunt!!

 

9 hours ago, Silverblade5 said:

An extra long night at work followed by a power outage that can't be fixed via resetting circuit box. Exactly what I needed tonight. 

Power outages are troublesome At least the day is -hopefully- over? 

Journey Before Destination. 

[Steeldancer he/him]

I am sad. I just found out my head manager is leaving. He’s the guy who hired me, is super nice, and really likes me. I have fantastic managers, but he was the best. He always asks me about how I’m doing, and makes sure I’m on a tall register so I don’t break my back. And now he’s going to another store. I mean, the rest of my managers and coordinators are friendly too, but he was the best. I’m going to miss him. 

[Ammanas]

Wow sorry to hear that, but on the bright side at least you got to have a positive experience with the manager. My experience with managers has been 1. They are just awful, but they are the boss and I do their bidding through I am miserable doing it. 

Or more frequently...

2. I am extremely polite to them and they are polite back, but their is no warmth to the relationship.

[+Slowswift]

5 hours ago, Steeldancer said:

I am sad. I just found out my head manager is leaving. He’s the guy who hired me, is super nice, and really likes me. I have fantastic managers, but he was the best. He always asks me about how I’m doing, and makes sure I’m on a tall register so I don’t break my back. And now he’s going to another store. I mean, the rest of my managers and coordinators are friendly too, but he was the best. I’m going to miss him. 

Know how that feels.  It stinks to have a cool boss leave. My first supervisor left a month after I started work, and now one of our awesome ASMs is transferring elsewhere.

(Although, I have to say, and let's call this my bad day: where I work, we don't have tall registers. The monitor itself is adjustable, which helps a lot, but the main counter is several inches too short, which means if I have to do any amount of wrapping or such, like today, I end up with a backache.)

Edited May 13, 2018 by Slowswift

[Voidus]

Woke up this morning feeling fine, got to work and then lost my voice within 10 minutes, started getting dizzy around lunch and then ended the day with another cluster.

[AngelEy3 he/him]

On 5/12/2018 at 5:34 PM, Steeldancer said:

I am sad. I just found out my head manager is leaving. He’s the guy who hired me, is super nice, and really likes me. I have fantastic managers, but he was the best. He always asks me about how I’m doing, and makes sure I’m on a tall register so I don’t break my back. And now he’s going to another store. I mean, the rest of my managers and coordinators are friendly too, but he was the best. I’m going to miss him. 

I feel you on the part about things not being tall enough. I work in a home that was designed to be handicap accessible. In translation, it means that if you aren't in a wheel chair or under 5'6" that you have to stoop over the sink and kitchen counters. And cooking meals is part of my job... 

I guess I don't understand why tall people are expected to stoop, but it's beyond the pale to suggest that short people use stools. One is being forced to malform their body, while the other requires use of a tool...

I use the same argument when it's too hot and someone else is complaining of being too cold. It's easier to fix cold than hot, so the person who is cold should just shut up and put on a sweater. Because the person that is too hot can only remove so much clothing in polite company... While the person who is too cold has almost limitless options to fix their discomfort. 

Edited May 18, 2018 by AngelEy3

[Just a Lifetime he/him]

I'm hesitant to post here, but curious to see whether venting somewhat publicly will be any more cathartic than silently raging to the uncaring sky.

Over the past few days I've been failing to deal well with the stress of a short-notice deadline (on top of all the usual slings and arrows), to the point of feeling physically ill at times.  When I try to focus on the task at hand (including attempting the usual tricks of breaking it down into a sequence of more manageable steps and setting a timer for work on the next step) I either freeze or let myself be distracted by less-important work that can wait.  Rationally I know that both of these actions are the opposite of helpful, but rationality seems to be out of the mental driver's seat at the moment, which I find the least-pleasant aspect of these sorts of episodes.

To add a dose of self-recrimination to the mix, I can't help but feel I should be better at handling this sort of stuff after all these years.  Unfortunately it has not yet been helpful to have my inner Vito Corleone slap me in the metaphorical face and tell me to "Act like a man!"

But I am feeling a bit better for having written this.  The question now is whether to press Submit or Delete...

[Steeldancer he/him]

I need to vent a little. 

I have a project in every single class. Every. Single. One. Has to have a final "hurrah". They're all due in the same few days, besides one I am currently finishing up. To add to the joy, I also have a plentitude of concerts coming up, while our choir teacher verbally abuses us in an effort to make us better? I also have work, and a million other things. I feel so tired because I tried to relax the past few days by listening to Oathbringer, but my mom ended up taking my phone because I was using my phone at night to listen to that. I just want school to be over. I have so much to look forward to as soon as this is over. But the stress is killing me.
Now, I know what to do. I need to take things one thing at a time. That doesn't change my current stress. Or my extreme distaste with my choir teacher. I will not miss her when I leave this school, good riddance. But, I know how good it will feel once I finally finish this damnation senior year, so I'll hang on for the next 3 weeks. 

[Silverblade5 he/him]

You got this @Steeldancer!

[Steeldancer he/him]

9 hours ago, Silverblade5 said:

You got this @Steeldancer!

Heh funny you bring that up, given the absolute crem my choir teacher has been giving m in the last few days. Thankfully, I’m now taking administrative action, coordinating with some others who are also pushing against her. No more bullying. 3 days left. 

[Nathrangking he/him]

@Steeldancer speak truth to power and do not let the tyrants get you down. Keep your eye on the prize and before you know it you will be freed!

[mattig89ch he/him]

I think I got 2 hours of sleep last night.  Now I need to work a normal 12 hour shift, on that.

[Stormblessed Dolphin he/him]

What is this place? The Shard. 

What are these books that we read? The cosmere, the others.

Who is this man? Brandon

Who are we? 

we are the broken. The radiants in training. We are the beaten down. We are the stressed, the heavy laden, and the faint. We are the dregs, and yet the cream of society. We are the future, and we are hope. We read; to escape, to leave behind everything within mortal bounds. To escape the realities, to escape the stress. We read, and we read. Our hearts are enraptured by that great unknown. The infinite possibilities, all flowing onto the page. Forming into epic stories, wondrous tales. Tales of other worlds. Yes, this is where we escape to. The fantastic unfolding of plots, secrets, plans. The heroes who fought, bled, strained, triumphed, died, and survived. The clashes of Gods, the stories spanning ages. We drink it all in. In through the cracks in our souls, filling us, making us feel while for a time. This is our sweet escape. And from these examples, these heroes and warriors we reverence, we see into ourselves. We see who we are. We build ourselves up, we learn from them, and from ourselves. And we grow. 

And here we make friends, others who are broken. Friendships forged through fires. The fires that break us, the heat that cracks our souls. But where we are broken, we can expand. To fix a piece of fabric, you must add more thread, or more cloth. When the heat comes for us, yes we are hurts but when we heal, we grow, and not only that, but we can grow together. Meld with the souls of others. Find connection with our peers. And our souls will rise together, learning, growing, reading.

[StrikerEZ he/him]

Sometimes, life sucks.

I've been slowly getting worse, but I was trying to avoid it. I don't know if I actually have depression (I haven't been clinically diagnosed), but it sure feels that way sometimes. I've had so many good things happen in the past few weeks (got a one at the UIL state solo contest, got a scholarship for the Baylor summer band camp, school is now over as of 12 hours ago), but I don't feel happy. I hate it when I get like this. It feels like no matter what I do, I can never be happy. Then, section leader results came out today. And I didn't make it. I really needed to make it, for my sanity. I know it isn't a huge deal. I know this isn't something to get super depressed over. So why am I?

[A Budgie she/her]

@StrikerEZ I'm sorry you feel like that- though I tend to do similar. I know how you feel, and I hope you can find something to help you when you feel like this. There are a large number of helpful sites out there to help people deal with anxiety and depression, and I would advise you to try and find something that helps (I personally find sound washes very helpful).
*hug*

[Queen Elsa Steelheart she/her]

My date night got crashed at the last minute. Storming third wheel 

[Caesura she/her]

That sucks, Elsa!

 

This isn't so much a bad day as an ongoing situation that's getting progressively worse. So my older brother has quite severe cerebral palsy. That in itself isn't a degenerate condition but due to the way his body is twisted his insides twist awkwardly as well. Over the last 3 years there's been a few instances of him ending up in the ED in incredible pain and having to have his bowels surgically untwisted. At first it was only happening every few months, but he's spent most of the past 6 weeks in hospital (only one operation in that time though). Yesterday the medical team was discussing the future, because they don't think they can keep operating indefinitely, it'll build up too much scar tissue. They suggested that next time they don't operate, just drug him up on pain killers (which don't actually do much for him). That's basically assisted suicide. Which is illegal. And it'd be a horrible, slow, painful way to go.

My brother and mum protested that, obviously. He's back in ED again tonight. I'll be home tomorrow for the holidays, and be able to see them both, which will be nice. But every time I leave, I know it might be the last time I see him. I don't know what to do. There probably isn't anything to do, I just need to get this out somewhere

[The Forgetful Archivist he/him]

That's awful, I have no clue how that must feel, and no clue what to say. Sometimes life is unfair and other times its downright mean, I don't know how or what a good outcome would be but I hope for it. My heart goes out to you and your family, hugs. 

[Caesura she/her]

@The Forgetful Archivist thank you

[Nathrangking he/him]

@Caesura This is indeed an awful awful situation. I can't even truly pretend to understand how you and your family must feel right now. I know that there are few words which can remove the pain. I hope that that your brother quickly bounces back from this and the whole unfairness can come to an end. *Hugs*.

[Caesura she/her]

@Nathrangking thanks He's okay for the time being and coming home tomorrow.

He's decided not to have surgery next time. I respect that decision completely, this has been going on for years, but it'll take a while to come to terms with that.

[The Forgetful Archivist he/him]

That is a incredibly brave choice, a sad choice true, but a brave choice nonetheless.

[Silverblade5 he/him]

Guess who tried to take an exit to fast and went off road. Guess who hit a sign with a mirror.