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[Delightful]

3 hours ago, TwiLyghtSansSparkles said:

Just…trying to climb out of one of those "nothing I do matters, meaningless meaningless all is meaningless" pits in regards to my own writing. You know how that is? Feeling like you should just throw in the towel before the whole world sees you're a fraud with no talent and nothing to say? 

As someone recently said to me, channel the confidence of an average straight white man whose tale of self-discovery through sex and alcohol will be a bestseller despite being incredibly mediocre and derivative. If I remember anything correctly about your writing, it's engaging, exciting, and thoughtful, and the world would be better to have it published far and wide. Its disappointed but ok if your family doesnt get you. Not everyone will. But one day you'll look at all your fans and readers and people clamouring for your next book and you'll know that your writing is awesome.

And also, every single writer goes through stages where they think their writing is terrible. I think Neil Gaiman wrote about it in a  Nanowrimo pep talk one year.

3 hours ago, TwiLyghtSansSparkles said:

My family doesn't really care about my writing. I think that's part of the problem—I've shown my writing to them, and at best I'll get a "Very nice sweetie!" before they go back to whatever they were doing. At worst, they'll read it, give me some criticism that doesn't really help ("You shouldn't have done X, you should have done Y so that I like the story better even though that's not the story you want to tell") and then never mention it again. They don't ask about what I'm writing or how it's going, and if I mention it on my own, I'll get another "Very cool" and no further interest, so I've stopped mentioning it. 

And there's a writers' critique group here, but I'm a little scared of joining. The last time I actually read my work out loud in a critique group, the leader interrupted me before my time was up and then spent the rest of the session complimenting other writers in a way that made it clear she was dissing my work. 

EDIT: Thanks, @Kidpen. It actually means a lot.

Ok that is a seriously sucky leader. Like wow. I'm so sorry. 

That was just one leader of one group though. If you can muster up the courage, try the local group. I mean, you're not going anyway so if its horrible you haven't lost much. But theres a lot to gain there. 

Also, are you still writing about cowboy wizards?

[TwiLyghtSansSparkles she/her]

16 hours ago, Silva said:

The very fact that you write shows that you're better at it than average. A lot of people have no respect for writing - they take everything they read for granted, and while that might hurt, you've got to keep going. The odds of getting professionally published or famous are next to nil, but so long as you enjoy it, nothing anyone says should ever drag you down. Also, always remember your audience. If they're a cremmy lot who only appreciate one specific style or genre that isn't your own, don't take what they say to heart. They don't know anything and are so storming biased that if a decent book that didn't fit their qualifications hit them on the head they wouldn't notice. I've never read your rp posts, but I'll take Kidpen's word for it that they're pretty good. You know you can write. We know you can write. So write, even if it's only for yourself. Don't worry about why, just do it. And if your parents don't really care, just give them a reason to care. 

And, worst case, if your stuff really does suck and everything you've done is worthless (sorry to be so negative here, but there is a purpose), don't stress. There is no way writing could have hurt you. Writing only helps. So no matter what you at least helped yourself.

I'm…not sure what to say. 

Thank you.  

14 hours ago, Delightful said:

As someone recently said to me, channel the confidence of an average straight white man whose tale of self-discovery through sex and alcohol will be a bestseller despite being incredibly mediocre and derivative. If I remember anything correctly about your writing, it's engaging, exciting, and thoughtful, and the world would be better to have it published far and wide. Its disappointed but ok if your family doesnt get you. Not everyone will. But one day you'll look at all your fans and readers and people clamouring for your next book and you'll know that your writing is awesome.

And also, every single writer goes through stages where they think their writing is terrible. I think Neil Gaiman wrote about it in a  Nanowrimo pep talk one year.

Ok that is a seriously sucky leader. Like wow. I'm so sorry. 

That was just one leader of one group though. If you can muster up the courage, try the local group. I mean, you're not going anyway so if its horrible you haven't lost much. But theres a lot to gain there. 

Also, are you still writing about cowboy wizards?

Yeah, I heard that George R.R. Martin suffers from crises of confidence too. Still hard to get through one, though. 

I'll give them a call soonish. They don't meet for another two weeks, so that'll give me a little while to get mentally prepared. 

And yes, still writing about cowboy wizards. 

[+Sorana she/her]

19 hours ago, Oversleep said:

There is a writing group here?

There is also a writing guild pm, where you can ask people to give feedback on what you've written, or where you can offer to read through stuff others wrote. And I promise we are all nice (and we are all amateurs of course)
I can add you, if you want to.

[Briar King]

Man I’m so upset with Stan Lee’s passing today. He had such a rough year. 

[Silva]

7 minutes ago, Briar King said:

Man I’m so upset with Stan Lee’s passing today. He had such a rough year. 

Yeah...

*hugs*

Edited November 13, 2018 by Silva

[Delightful]

7 minutes ago, Briar King said:

Man I’m so upset with Stan Lee’s passing today. He had such a rough year. 

Baruch Dayan Haemet

[Briar King]

Rusting dealership... I realize they need to make $ but this is pretty dumb. I went in today to see what kind of bow tie emblems(Chevy) they had or could order for me. I wanted either a pure silver or a two tone black and silver for my new silver truck. They informed me that they don’t carry them in either but they’d be happy to paint it for me for $60 each emblem(2) plus the $60 installation with the purchase of the emblems at $150. I asked “well if y’all have to paint will you just paint the 2 that umm came with my truck for $180?” I got told no I’d have to buy new ones cause the more they are taken off and put back on the more likely they will break. This makes sense sure but should that not be my rusting choice to do? They just want the extra $150 for all new emblems...

Edited November 13, 2018 by Briar King

[+Sorana she/her]

@Briar King

*hugs*

Can't you go to another store and ask there? Or do you need a specialist for that? If they really only want your money...

Edited November 13, 2018 by Sorana

[Delightful]

I just bought $4 hair dye and I'm really not sure if that was a good decision......

[+Sorana she/her]

2 hours ago, Delightful said:

I just bought $4 hair dye and I'm really not sure if that was a good decision......

That's something I can't offer the least advice on...

But I could offer a hug?

Edited November 13, 2018 by Sorana

[Delightful]

It did not work. At all.

Oh well.

Sure I'll take a hug  *hug*

[Borio Singaldi he/him]

Okay, I like hugs and I need to vent about a myriad of things.

Starting with a little first world problem, but I lost $2 to a vending machine yesterday and got nothing out of it, not even a refund. I also didn't do so well on another one of my exams that same day, and I had school starting early that morning and worked very late, so I was gone from home all day long and only saw my parents for a few minutes before going to bed and didn't see my siblings at all. And I also didn't get the chance to play the piano at all yesterday or so far today, and I practically live for that. Plus, I have a big important essay due by this Friday that I haven't started yet because I'm a storming fricking darn procrastinator and now it's eating away at me and stressing me out like heck, along with another assignment due that same day that I can only start working on the day before. And I have work at my job throughout the week in addition to that, as well as a looming tuition deadline come Saturday that I can't pay all the remainder of on my own, so I'll be even more in debt to my parents as they pay for the rest of what I can't.

Oh, and I almost forgot to mention the car accident I was in. Probably because it was a little over two weeks ago, but still. I may be completely physically fine and it was a miraculous experience in that there was no damage done to anyone or anything other than my own car despite the fact that the accident was on a crowded road, but it's made getting around a lot harder for me and my family ever since then. The worst part is, the accident was completely and totally my fault. Don't look at your phone while driving, kids. And adults. And pretty much everyone. Not even "pretty much". Just -- everyone set your phones aside while driving.

On the bright side, I've recently taken to wearing a really neat leather jacket I found in a closet at home, so I got that going for me, which is good. Whatever the case, hugs and encouragement would be appreciated as I slog through this perilous travail that will last until Saturday is over.

...

Well, I have more problems in life going on as well that are more broad and long-lasting background things, but I've rambled long enough, and they're more personal issues, so I probably shouldn't talk about them anyway. Basically, I feel like Shallan. My life falling apart inwardly, and me just pretending everything's fine and dandy on the outside as I keep smiling, even when it feels fake, hiding the truth of how messed up things are from other people I know. I'm losing at the game of life, and I need to get better at the game*.

*If you read that, you lost the game.

In case y'all haven't noticed, I'm trying to use humor to make up for feeling like crap and keep my spirits up. Guess I'm like Sans that way. Um...

I'll shut up and open up to hugs now, hehe.

Edited November 13, 2018 by Firerust

[Kidpen he/him]

*hugs @Firerust*

[Ink he/him]

That sucks buddy. Hope everything starts clearing up and getting better. Dunno what else to say.

yeah, that’s like sans. Except he’s completely apathetic. At least you care.

*big fluffy hugs*

Edited November 13, 2018 by Inklingspren

[TwiLyghtSansSparkles she/her]

*huuuuuuugs*

Seriously, that sounds like a lot of crem all at once.

[Oversleep]

On 12.11.2018 at 8:40 PM, Sorana said:

There is also a writing guild pm, where you can ask people to give feedback on what you've written, or where you can offer to read through stuff others wrote. And I promise we are all nice (and we are all amateurs of course)
I can add you, if you want to.

Well, I write in a different language, so I don't think the reading my work would work out :| And I'm not the best on reviewing others' work, either.

[Silva]

13 hours ago, Delightful said:

It did not work. At all.

Oh well.

Sure I'll take a hug  *hug*

*hugs*

2 hours ago, Firerust said:

Okay, I like hugs and I need to vent about a myriad of things.

Starting with a little first world problem, but I lost $2 to a vending machine yesterday and got nothing out of it, not even a refund. I also didn't do so well on another one of my exams that same day, and I had school starting early that morning and worked very late, so I was gone from home all day long and only saw my parents for a few minutes before going to bed and didn't see my siblings at all. And I also didn't get the chance to play the piano at all yesterday or so far today, and I practically live for that. Plus, I have a big important essay due by this Friday that I haven't started yet because I'm a storming fricking darn procrastinator and now it's eating away at me and stressing me out like heck, along with another assignment due that same day that I can only start working on the day before. And I have work at my job throughout the week in addition to that, as well as a looming tuition deadline come Saturday that I can't pay all the remainder of on my own, so I'll be even more in debt to my parents as they pay for the rest of what I can't.

Oh, and I almost forgot to mention the car accident I was in. Probably because it was a little over two weeks ago, but still. I may be completely physically fine and it was a miraculous experience in that there was no damage done to anyone or anything other than my own car despite the fact that the accident was on a crowded road, but it's made getting around a lot harder for me and my family ever since then. The worst part is, the accident was completely and totally my fault. Don't look at your phone while driving, kids. And adults. And pretty much everyone. Not even "pretty much". Just -- everyone set your phones aside while driving.

On the bright side, I've recently taken to wearing a really neat leather jacket I found in a closet at home, so I got that going for me, which is good. Whatever the case, hugs and encouragement would be appreciated as I slog through this perilous travail that will last until Saturday is over.

...

Well, I have more problems in life going on as well that are more broad and long-lasting background things, but I've rambled long enough, and they're more personal issues, so I probably shouldn't talk about them anyway. Basically, I feel like Shallan. My life falling apart inwardly, and me just pretending everything's fine and dandy on the outside as I keep smiling, even when it feels fake, hiding the truth of how messed up things are from other people I know. I'm losing at the game of life, and I need to get better at the game*.

*If you read that, you lost the game.

In case y'all haven't noticed, I'm trying to use humor to make up for feeling like crap and keep my spirits up. Guess I'm like Sans that way. Um...

I'll shut up and open up to hugs now, hehe.

*hugs*

I literally just lost the game. Do I double post or am I exempt...?

[Briar King]

Oh I see Twi is back. Did you wind up staying in that city or go back? 

[TwiLyghtSansSparkles she/her]

3 hours ago, Briar King said:

Oh I see Twi is back. Did you wind up staying in that city or go back? 

I stayed in Wyoming, if that's what you mean. Still there and still loving it.

[Delightful]

7 minutes ago, TwiLyghtSansSparkles said:

I stayed in Wyoming, if that's what you mean. Still there and still loving it.

Funtimes is back too!

 

I had a stupid argument with my mum about the hair dye and I want to go play DnD tonight but have no money (small fee that goes to the shop), and I'm sad. 

Edited November 14, 2018 by Delightful

[Briar King]

43 minutes ago, TwiLyghtSansSparkles said:

I stayed in Wyoming, if that's what you mean. Still there and still loving it.

I meant NOLA. Been a good while since I last heard anything. Your just a traveler. Lol

[+Sorana she/her]

8 hours ago, Firerust said:

Okay, I like hugs and I need to vent about a myriad of things.

*hugs*

That sounds hard... But I'm sure you will find a way! Just don't give up!

[BitBitio he/him]

16 hours ago, TwiLyghtSansSparkles said:

I stayed in Wyoming, if that's what you mean. Still there and still loving it.

Would you by chance be near Cody and/or Burlington?

[TwiLyghtSansSparkles she/her]

3 hours ago, BitBitio said:

Would you by chance be near Cody and/or Burlington?

Nope. Actually a lot closer to the Colorado line. 

[Nathrangking he/him]

Frustrated sitting in the snow on the same city bus for more than three hours for a trip which should take less than one!!!