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[Mestiv he/him]

@Calderis that sounds super painful :/ I hope you got something for the pain from a doctor and that it'll heal quickly!

[Calderis he/him]

@Mestiv, @A Budgie

Eyes heal remarkably quickly thankfully. A single night's sleep and it looks much better than it did. 

Still burns and is sore... But it should be fixed pretty quickly 

[Oversleep]

6 hours ago, Calderis said:

@Mestiv, @A Budgie

Eyes heal remarkably quickly thankfully. A single night's sleep and it looks much better than it did. 

Still burns and is sore... But it should be fixed pretty quickly 

you taking some antiallergic meds, I hope?

[+Slowswift]

22 hours ago, Why_Do_You_Do_This_To_Me said:

Picture Motion Video. Like a comic but in video form.

Figured, but I must say there was a part of me hoping that you meant Pony Music Video.  

[Why_Do_You_Do_This_To_Me]

14 hours ago, Slowswift said:

Figured, but I must say there was a part of me hoping that you meant Pony Music Video.  

Nice, so it would be like a pony/Mistborn music vid. Lol, I would but I can't draw ponies

[Why_Do_You_Do_This_To_Me]

@Slowswift Btw if you want to know, the song I'm using is Nothing Left to Say / Rocks by Imagine Dragons.

[+Slowswift]

8 hours ago, Why_Do_You_Do_This_To_Me said:

Nice, so it would be like a pony/Mistborn music vid. Lol, I would but I can't draw ponies

Haha yeah, neither can I. Otherwise I'd totally give them a try myself.  

3 hours ago, Why_Do_You_Do_This_To_Me said:

@Slowswift Btw if you want to know, the song I'm using is Nothing Left to Say / Rocks by Imagine Dragons.

Ooh, I love that song! Can't wait to see the final product, if you're willing to share.

(Also, just FYI double-posting (that is, posting 2+ times in a row) is rather frowned upon here -- try to use the "edit" button instead. Keeps everything looking tidy.  )

Edited November 2, 2017 by Slowswift

[Draginon he/him]

The people I work for seriously want me to quit it seems. I'm busy with other stuff and they want me to share my spreadsheet on what novels we have and who they are checked out to. They wanted editing rights but I did not want them screwing my count up so I made a copy for them to mess up however they want. Now they want me to add the page count of every single book and want it done by the 17th. This wouldn't be so bad if I wasn't out at a workshop tomorrow, at a campus for two days next week and starting vacation the following week leaving me three days to get this done. Also we have multiple editions of most of the books so one edition might be 216 pages but another is 110 and some editions include other little stories added in so I don't know whether to count those in the count or not. At this rate they might as well have me figure out how many times each letter is used!

[Caesura she/her]

@Draginon that sucks  All the best for getting through it.

[PlanetReelo she/her]

My parents are going through the most drawn out, painful divorce at the moment. Long story short, they had an arranged marriage where my dad was 100% for it but my mother was pressured in to it by her father who wanted her to marry well (to a doctor). Since then, my mother has always felt that she could have done much better than my dad, who is a rather simple but kind fellow. I grew used to seeing her enjoy the extravagances of life (expensive perfumes, weekly theatre trips, luxurious meals out) whilst my dad worked seven days a week to maintain us. 

That arrangement suited her just fine, up until half a year ago. She not only called for divorce, but tried to fabricate lies that my dad was abusive in the relationship. She did this in part to hurt his reputation, but more importantly to have a clear shot at getting the house when splitting assets (which she would otherwise be unable to afford by herself). She has been spreading her false victim narrative to anyone who will listen, and has been using every dirty lie to make sure she takes everything from my dad. She even claimed for his car and she doesn't even drive!! She takes a taxi to work everyday like the pampered princess she is.

So fast forward to today, when I go to meet with my dad and his lawyer to discuss the case. I've had strong suspicions that my mother has been having an affair for the past two years. Lots of things have pointed to it really - disappearing for hours after work daily, secretive phonecalls and messages from a private number, an increase in the abundance of gifts year round to name just a few things. But today, we went through her financial statement (as both parties have to exchange it), and found that she had frequently visited hotels, on days when she claimed to be at work. My dad was completely devastated, because I think on some level he still hoped that it wasn't true. And his reaction broke my heart in to tiny pieces. So it's been a seriously rough day today, but it's also strengthened my resolve to help my dad avoid total ruin at the hands of this maniacal witch.

[Ammanas]

@PlanetReelo Sorry to hear that. Hopefully everything works out! This probably doesn't help, but I just read a section of a book that reminded me a little of your situation and I thought I would share:

[Draginon he/him]

5 hours ago, Caesura said:

@Draginon that sucks  All the best for getting through it.

Thanks. I managed to get it done this afternoon by dropping everything and getting it done. There were a few books that had no numbers so I had to count them myself in order to give them what they needed. One thing that made this really dumb is I shared the original with them so many times because they're too lazy to check the Drive for themselves and I really doubt they'll give a hoot about how long these books are because they're that shallow with work.

[Silverblade5 he/him]

@PlanetReeloI know how you feel. I know what it's like to have a relationship wrecked after someone else entering into a parsnt's life. Feel free to PM me if you want to talk. 

[A Budgie she/her]

@Draginon sounds like a pain :/ Nice job you managed to do it, though.
@PlanetReelo that must be tough. I hope everything goes well.

[Darkness Ascendant he/him]

@PlanetReelo Omg I hate your mother so much right now, at some point I would have been sympathetic to the arranged marriage thing, but she seems to be the sort who always twists things to her own advantages and overall seems like a very selfish person (*hates selfish people).

Really sucks you have to go through that crap  

[PlanetReelo she/her]

3 hours ago, Darkness_ said:

@PlanetReelo Omg I hate your mother so much right now, at some point I would have been sympathetic to the arranged marriage thing, but she seems to be the sort who always twists things to her own advantages and overall seems like a very selfish person (*hates selfish people).

Really sucks you have to go through that crap  

That's exactly the way she is, you couldn't have put it better. She's surprisingly clever, and that combined with her ruthlessness and tendency to pathological lying makes her really formidable. It's taken a lot of energy trying to understand what she's plotting and how to out maneuver her. For example, my mother never used to spend a penny of her salary on the household, so my dad paid bills/mortgage/food costs/clothing costs etc. But since she called for divorce she's basically been throwing her money at my younger brothers, letting them buy whatever they want just to show that she does make a considerable contribution to the household and therefore will require more money from him as support. 

I really appreciate the support @Darkness_ @A Budgie @Ammanas @Ookla the Dragon...all of you are pretty awesome peeps! You have no idea the world of good it has done me just talking about it on here, I already feel some weight off my shoulders. Because i've been advised not to broadcast my mother's 'indiscretions' to our social circle so that I can appear neutral enough to give a statement in court if it ever comes to that, I've had to keep this more or less to myself until now. Feels good to just let it out.

Edited November 3, 2017 by PlanetReelo

[Darkness Ascendant he/him]

3 hours ago, PlanetReelo said:

That's exactly the way she is, you couldn't have put it better. She's surprisingly clever, and that combined with her ruthlessness and tendency to pathological lying makes her really formidable. It's taken a lot of energy trying to understand what she's plotting and how to out maneuver her. For example, my mother never used to spend a penny of her salary on the household, so my dad paid bills/mortgage/food costs/clothing costs etc. But since she called for divorce she's basically been throwing her money at my younger brothers, letting them buy whatever they want just to show that she does make a considerable contribution to the household and therefore will require more money from him as support. 

I really appreciate the support @Darkness_ @A Budgie @Ammanas @Ookla the Dragon...all of you are pretty awesome peeps! You have no idea the world of good it has done me just talking about it on here, I already feel some weight off my shoulders. Because i've been advised not to broadcast my mother's 'indiscretions' to our social circle so that I can appear neutral enough to give a statement in court if it ever comes to that, I've had to keep this more or less to myself until now. Feels good to just let it out.

Sounds like a sociopath.

No worries PR, good to know we helped ya.

[Silverblade5 he/him]

3 hours ago, PlanetReelo said:

That's exactly the way she is, you couldn't have put it better. She's surprisingly clever, and that combined with her ruthlessness and tendency to pathological lying makes her really formidable. It's taken a lot of energy trying to understand what she's plotting and how to out maneuver her. For example, my mother never used to spend a penny of her salary on the household, so my dad paid bills/mortgage/food costs/clothing costs etc. But since she called for divorce she's basically been throwing her money at my younger brothers, letting them buy whatever they want just to show that she does make a considerable contribution to the household and therefore will require more money from him as support. 

I really appreciate the support @Darkness_ @A Budgie @Ammanas @Ookla the Dragon...all of you are pretty awesome peeps! You have no idea the world of good it has done me just talking about it on here, I already feel some weight off my shoulders. Because i've been advised not to broadcast my mother's 'indiscretions' to our social circle so that I can appear neutral enough to give a statement in court if it ever comes to that, I've had to keep this more or less to myself until now. Feels good to just let it out.

Just remember that this isn't a one time thing, and feel free to use this for a stress dumping ground. Or, pm Darkness and I if you prefer. 

[Mulk he/him]

hugs for all who need it.  Particularly @Draginon and @PlanetReelo

I'm in IT work in a nonprofit.  We had layoffs yesterday.  I've been the person laid off twice in my life so even though I survived this cut (I'm as immune as someone can be from that as literally no one else can do my job and my job directly affects over 100 peoples' ability to do their jobs) I take it pretty hard.  We're down as low as we can go and still maintain any kind of real service to all our facilities.  The guy we lost from IT has a wife and two kids and was blindsided by this.   Then we had a major outage affected 14 sites.  Twas a rough day. I went to see Thor to try to blow off steam but I'm still kinda on edge.

[Draginon he/him]

@PlanetReelo Your mudder, that is not a misspelling, is bonkers! Some parts sounded like mine (the lying for instance) but yours is outright psychotic! At least you didn't end up like her.

@A Budgie Thanks. I'm still contemplating leaving after this year and going to work at Barnes & Noble or something next year.

@Mulk Thanks for the hug! These people I work for are insane. Half the time I think they have meetings just to plan meetings!

[Steeldancer he/him]

I think.... I think I'm starting to heal. Things are finally starting to go right again, sort of. 

Unfortunately I'm going to have to face my demons here in a week or so. She still wanted to be friends and I said I need space for a month. I really don't want to be cut off from that friend group, my last relationship went so sour that that happened and I don't want that. So. I will have to face the girl I loved and who broke my heart, and act like she's my friend.

The hardest moments are when I feel empty inside. I used to be able to turn to her and get respite. But now, I've had to buck up and start turning to God in those moments. That... might be the upside out of all of this. 

More than anything, i had a profound self realization. I care. That, I think, is a fundamental aspect of my personality. And that is something I'm going to need to find in my future wife. I guess she didn't care enough. So... yeah. 

[Darkness Ascendant he/him]

6 hours ago, Steeldancer said:

I think.... I think I'm starting to heal. Things are finally starting to go right again, sort of. 

Unfortunately I'm going to have to face my demons here in a week or so. She still wanted to be friends and I said I need space for a month. I really don't want to be cut off from that friend group, my last relationship went so sour that that happened and I don't want that. So. I will have to face the girl I loved and who broke my heart, and act like she's my friend.

The hardest moments are when I feel empty inside. I used to be able to turn to her and get respite. But now, I've had to buck up and start turning to God in those moments. That... might be the upside out of all of this. 

More than anything, i had a profound self realization. I care. That, I think, is a fundamental aspect of my personality. And that is something I'm going to need to find in my future wife. I guess she didn't care enough. So... yeah. 

*has nothing to say so*

 

[A Budgie she/her]

@Steeldancer *hug* Sure sounds like you've been going through a whole lotta crem. I really hope everything goes okay.

[Mestiv he/him]

I don't know if I ever had worse situation than right now...

1. There are 17 cats under our care. More than we can afford right now.

2. 10 of the cats are in our flat, 7 are in my fiancee's grandmother flat. The grandmother is too old and stick to help take care of them, so we have to visit her place 2 times a day to feed them, clean, give meds etc.

3. Grandmother's flat is 1,5h by bus or 30 minutes by car. I used to go by car every evening, but...

4. I had a car accident two days ago. I wasn't injured, it wasn't my fault, but the car will probably go to scrapheap, because it was old and the insurance company will say it's too expensive to fix.

5. My grandmother twisted her ankle yesterday.

6. My finance is so sick, I have to take care of all the 17 cats and her.

7. My father doesn't remember I had a car accident. We're at the hospital right now with him, waiting for diagnosis...

 

Life is not pulling punches right now...

[Steeldancer he/him]

4 hours ago, Mestiv said:

I don't know if I ever had worse situation than right now...

1. There are 17 cats under our care. More than we can afford right now.

2. 10 of the cats are in our flat, 7 are in my fiancee's grandmother flat. The grandmother is too old and stick to help take care of them, so we have to visit her place 2 times a day to feed them, clean, give meds etc.

3. Grandmother's flat is 1,5h by bus or 30 minutes by car. I used to go by car every evening, but...

4. I had a car accident two days ago. I wasn't injured, it wasn't my fault, but the car will probably go to scrapheap, because it was old and the insurance company will say it's too expensive to fix.

5. My grandmother twisted her ankle yesterday.

6. My finance is so sick, I have to take care of all the 17 cats and her.

7. My father doesn't remember I had a car accident. We're at the hospital right now with him, waiting for diagnosis...

 

Life is not pulling punches right now...

That's... a lot of cats. 

I hope things work out Mestiv. 

Eh I might as well complain a bit more. So last year I went to Conference AllState, the choir composed of the best singers in the state. It was amazing. I made a goal to get an 100 on my solo and get in. 

Unfortunately, i was an idiot and I decided to change voice parts, to Bass 1, from Tenor 2. I got an 100 on my solo, and I felt great. 

Then I got a letter saying I was an alternate.

And now I know I'm not getting in, because there were too many 100s. And I so desperately wanted to be in that choir again, and I'm really depressed about it. I worked my butt off to get that 100, and now... I don't get in because I changed voice parts. If I had stuck with Tenor 2, i probably would have gotten in. 

Nothing I can do now, but just be kind of upset. 

Edited November 5, 2017 by Steeldancer