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[Steeldancer he/him]

15 minutes ago, Sunchicken said:

Ugh, it's been a rotten few days. I've been mildly sick for about a week, but yesterday and today it's definitely gotten worse.

Last night I grabbed some Panda Express for dinner, and I feel extremely lucky that I managed to drive home safely, given that I was struggling not to literally fall asleep on my feet both while I was standing in line and after I arrived home. Didn't even manage to eat the food, I was so sleepy.

And then once I actually got in bed, I spent what felt like a storming hour shivering violently under the blankets before actually getting to sleep.

Today I've been getting dizzy every time I stand up, and my internal thermometer is all stormed up--my body can't decide whether it's overheating or freezing. Add in a constant throbbing headache and that weird "I'm hungry but I don't wanna eat" feeling, and I feel like total crem. I'm 99% sure it's the flu.

I can relate on how terrifying it is to be shivering violently under a million blankets. Hope you feel better. 

[A Budgie she/her]

@Sunchicken that sounds really bad. Get better soon!

[Orlion Blight he/him]

1 hour ago, Sunchicken said:

Ugh, it's been a rotten few days. I've been mildly sick for about a week, but yesterday and today it's definitely gotten worse.

Last night I grabbed some Panda Express for dinner, and I feel extremely lucky that I managed to drive home safely, given that I was struggling not to literally fall asleep on my feet both while I was standing in line and after I arrived home. Didn't even manage to eat the food, I was so sleepy.

And then once I actually got in bed, I spent what felt like a storming hour shivering violently under the blankets before actually getting to sleep.

Today I've been getting dizzy every time I stand up, and my internal thermometer is all stormed up--my body can't decide whether it's overheating or freezing. Add in a constant throbbing headache and that weird "I'm hungry but I don't wanna eat" feeling, and I feel like total crem. I'm 99% sure it's the flu.

I just had that. I have never shivered violently until a few days ago. 

For me, it lasted a couple days with Alka Seltzer cold and cough and sleep helping me the most. 

[Kaymyth she/her]

On 11/17/2017 at 4:12 PM, Darkness_ said:

I'm curious what saucer stands for.

You will never know. (I've used it multiple times, and it doesn't always mean the same thing. They're just convenient stand-ins.)

Amusingly, even @ThirdGen doesn't know what the heck I'm talking about, and he works in the same office as me.

On 11/17/2017 at 8:01 PM, Sunchicken said:

Ugh, it's been a rotten few days. I've been mildly sick for about a week, but yesterday and today it's definitely gotten worse.

Last night I grabbed some Panda Express for dinner, and I feel extremely lucky that I managed to drive home safely, given that I was struggling not to literally fall asleep on my feet both while I was standing in line and after I arrived home. Didn't even manage to eat the food, I was so sleepy.

And then once I actually got in bed, I spent what felt like a storming hour shivering violently under the blankets before actually getting to sleep.

Today I've been getting dizzy every time I stand up, and my internal thermometer is all stormed up--my body can't decide whether it's overheating or freezing. Add in a constant throbbing headache and that weird "I'm hungry but I don't wanna eat" feeling, and I feel like total crem. I'm 99% sure it's the flu.

That is definitely the flu. Get thee to a doctor if you haven't already.

[Steeldancer he/him]

Currently working up the courage to talk to my Ex about OB. 

And I keep wimping out because I'm like "why should i even bother"

[Mestiv he/him]

On 20.11.2017 at 9:13 PM, Steeldancer said:

Currently working up the courage to talk to my Ex about OB. 

And I keep wimping out because I'm like "why should i even bother"

Don't waste your energy on that. It'll only bring you pain.

[Steeldancer he/him]

3 hours ago, Mestiv said:

Don't waste your energy on that. It'll only bring you pain.

Yeah I haven't bothered. 

It's much more fun to just hang on the shard 

[little wilson she/her]

Have you ever had times where the bad things just keep piling up to the point where you realize that it's almost comical, and you know in a few years, you'll probably chuckle about it? That's this past week for me.

I returned from New Zealand last Wednesday, and came home to find that one of my roommates had removed every last thing of mine from the living room (they already made me get rid of my books and bookshelves  from the living room because "books are unfriendly") and dumped it along with every other unwanted thing (that wasn't mine) in the middle of my room, taking up a ton of space and making it practically impossible to get around my room. I was pissed. And jet lagged. And emotional. I cried. Hard. For a while.

The next couple days went by without incident and then Monday rolled around, and I had a performance review at work, where they gave me a 'final' writeup, when they'd never given me any writeup previously, and there were lies on the document. Now, the issue going on is a problem, but it's a problem because they gave me literally no training or resources to do this part of the job, and I've been mentioning it in every weekly update for the past two months. And they've done nothing. I've tried to fix it myself, but my attempts have failed for a variety of reasons, and now they're saying I should've been more proactive. When they're the ones who didn't provide what I needed to do my job and I'd been mentioning it for months. And the weekly updates were meant to catch issues before they became major....like, to the point where, oh I don't know, when a writeup might be necessary? I now have the right training and, shockingly, I've figured out that part of the job spectacularly.

The next day (yesterday), my dad texted my siblings and I to tell us that my grandma's health has taken a turn and she's not eating or drinking and only has a few days left to live. And then today, a little over an hour ago, he told us she'd passed.

I'm still jet lagged. Why did everything have to hit at a time when I'm not emotionally capable to handle it?

[Ammanas]

@little wilson Sorry to hear of your trials; hopefully life will settle down soon and these trials will forge you into a better version of yourself. Have you tried partaking of some Nutella? That might make you feel better

[Mestiv he/him]

6 hours ago, little wilson said:

Now, the issue going on is a problem, but it's a problem because they gave me literally no training or resources to do this part of the job, and I've been mentioning it in every weekly update for the past two months. And they've done nothing. I've tried to fix it myself, but my attempts have failed for a variety of reasons, and now they're saying I should've been more proactive.

Do you maybe have some emails in which you tell them about your problems? You could throw them in their faces then... I hope your life will settle down as soon as possible <hugs>

[A Budgie she/her]

@little wilson *hug* I'm so sorry to hear that everything is going so badly at once. I hope that at least something will go better soon.

[Steeldancer he/him]

Gosh I am so stressed out right now. 

And I don't even know why. I shouldn't be stressed. I'm on break. I've been spending time with my cousins. I'm currently eating good food. Maybe it's work, but I like work. 

So, basically, I'm stressed out for no reason at all. 

*suddenly remembers something he forgot to do*

But besides that, i just don't get it. I'm rereading OB, and usually reading helps me release stress. Again, maybe it's that I have work in a few minutes. 

Idk. 

[Mestiv he/him]

@Steeldancer do you sleep well? Maybe you're tired and don't even know it

[Steeldancer he/him]

3 hours ago, Mestiv said:

@Steeldancer do you sleep well? Maybe you're tired and don't even know it

I've been sleeping better, because of break. 

Even if I stayed up late watching science videos.... ohhh. That's it. 

[A Budgie she/her]

@Steeldancer *hugs* Don't worry, I do pretty much the same thing. I just get really stressed for seemingly no reason, and I know it's not fun. It seems you've already figured out the problem, but still, I hope you feel better soon.

[Shqueeves]

I'm feeling like Mr. T on one of his less intelligent days. Or like I'm storing mental speed.

[Mestiv he/him]

6 hours ago, Ookla that Watches said:

I'm feeling like Mr. T

If that was the case, that wouldn't be that bad, eh?

[Silverblade5 he/him]

Some might see what follows as immature. Oh well. I need to vent, and I'm past caring, so I'm going to say it anyways.

Normally, I work well with my coworkers. We communicate clearly, joke around and laugh, and everything is fine. There is this one coworker however, where this is not the case. For sake of identification, we shall refer to her as Lily. When I work with Lily, I tend to be relegated to the most basic of tasks. When I try to do anything else, she'll either act like I'm not there, or go "it's OK, I've got this" even when she clearly doesn't, and shoo me back to where I was previously. It's disrespectful, and it's patronizing. She treats me as if I'm a new hire, even though I've worked there four months longer than she has. I suspect this is because she sees herself as a good responsible adult, and me as a teenager with no clue what's going on. I can't talk to the manager about her because she's a long time friend of hers. I can't talk to her about it because I'll be called out for fighting with coworkers instead of getting work done.

TL;DR: Patronizing coworker makes me feel intimidated and powerless.

[Darkness Ascendant he/him]

1 hour ago, Ookla the Dragon said:

TL;DR: Patronizing coworker makes me feel intimidated and powerless.

You should perhaps engage them in discussion generally, get to know them etc, might be difficult at the start, but they will respond.

I also recommend high doses of sarcasm and snark in response to patronisation should the above not work.

[Silverblade5 he/him]

10 minutes ago, Darkness_ said:

You should perhaps engage them in discussion generally, get to know them etc, might be difficult at the start, but they will respond.

I also recommend high doses of sarcasm and snark in response to patronisation should the above not work.

The problem is, high doses of snark and sarcasm are the norm here.

[Darkness Ascendant he/him]

Just now, Ookla the Dragon said:

The problem is, high doses of snark and sarcasm are the norm here.

Then get to know her, if she isn't communicating clearly as the others, try and reach out first.

[Caesura she/her]

So I jumped through a lot of hoops to get special permission to take my university's second and third year physical chemistry papers together. I was just told today that the second year paper clashes with another of my core papers. So I have to rethink my entire course for next year to make sure I have enough papers for my major. There's a few people wanting to take those two papers together, and we can't. It's so dumb.

Just after I found out about that, the pants I wanted to wear today ripped in an unfortunate place. 

[Briar King]

Sick for the 1st time in years. Had to set an appointment for tomorrow. This sick breath is horrible to!! Ugh I can’t get the taste out of my mouth at all..

[Silverblade5 he/him]

I have a problem. For the past month, I've been in a state where I've only been half awake. This has made it easier to slip into certain tendencies. Normally, things come easily to me. However, when I hit a stumbling block, I fall hard. I back away, go do something easy, and familiar. My grades are slipping, but I'm finding it hard to care. My physics teacher is threatenting to throw me out of the class next semester.  I'm relying on finals to carry me thorough on Chem. And I've completely given up on Stats. I'm currently living one of my greatest fears, which is being a failure, and knowing it's entirely my fault. These work habits have been with me for years now. This is a repeat of problems that have happened again and again and again with no change. I have no idea what to do. I've been accepted by a college, one I've been actively considering. They'll likely change their minds when they see my post-senior transcript. I have absolutely no clue to fix myself, and that terrifies me.

Edited November 30, 2017 by Ookla the Dragon

[Steeldancer he/him]

7 hours ago, Ookla the Dragon said:

I have a problem. For the past month, I've been in a state where I've only been half awake. This has made it easier to slip into certain tendencies. Normally, things come easily to me. However, when I hit a stumbling block, I fall hard. I back away, go do something easy, and familiar. My grades are slipping, but I'm finding it hard to care. My physics teacher is threatenting to throw me out of the class next semester.  I'm relying on finals to carry me thorough on Chem. And I've completely given up on Stats. I'm currently living one of my greatest fears, which is being a failure, and knowing it's entirely my fault. These work habits have been with me for years now. This is a repeat of problems that have happened again and again and again with no change. I have no idea what to do. I've been accepted by a college, one I've been actively considering. They'll likely change their minds when they see my post-senior transcript. I have absolutely no clue to fix myself, and that terrifies me.

Take it one thing at a time. I struggle with similar motivation issues, and that's the only thing that works.