Having a Bad Day?: Get 'yer Hugs here!!

[Darkness Ascendant he/him]

3 hours ago, Silverblade5 said:

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If you get your other questions right, you'll go on with an 80%, that is if the one you were unsure about turns out to be wrong. I know you hate the fact u messed up on those others, but chin up and try harder next time.

[Jedal he/him]

Sometimes I want to stop existing. Not die, just stop living.

[Jedal he/him]

I think over and over agian about everything that I do and I see how much evil I cause and how I push everyoen away and how my constant failure is a source of strife and how I ripped my family apart and how my very existence is proof that I ruined to other people. Maybe my mom is right and I;m just a bad person hiding under the guise of being a coward

[A Budgie she/her]

3 hours ago, Jedal said:

Sometimes I want to stop existing. Not die, just stop living.

*hugs* 
Listen. It sounds like you're going through some serious crem right now. I'm sorry you feel that way, but I know from personal experience that it is most likely no-where near as bad as you think. 
Remember the shard's always here, okay? And even if you feel like that, we care about you. Yes, maybe you fail a lot, but that's okay.
Also here's some cute stuff that'll hopefully cheer you up for a little bit.

[Darkness Ascendant he/him]

And you call me edgy @Jedal 

I don't know about all that, but you're a hypocrite like me, which means you should PM me right now and we'll talk about your issues.

[Delightful]

Ahem 

*hugs*

 

On 05/09/2017 at 1:07 AM, Steeldancer said:

So my day just took a severe turn for the worse. I had my first big accident. Everybody was uninjured, but I'm still in shock, and the car is badly damaged on the front. Not to mention my work day was insane, by back feels funny, and I no longer have my own room. 

And worst of all, insurance is currently saying we, for some reason or another, don't have collision insurance for the car. Which makes no sense. And means I can kiss my savings good bye. Gosh I feel awful and really really stupid. 

The first time I drove by myself I didn't even get out the street. It was a narrow street, the car wasn't behaving normally, and I hit a glass truck. The driver didn't care cause it was his companies car but I felt awful for a while. My parents just kept telling me that they didn't blame me and it wasn't my fault. My point being....accidents happen. Such is life. Try not to beat yourself up about it too much. 

On 05/09/2017 at 9:05 AM, Mestiv said:

Go get an X-Ray or something just in case. Spine damage can go unnoticed for some time from what I've heard. 

^^^^^^^^^^

On 10/09/2017 at 4:31 AM, Overstorm said:

Please don't shift the responsibility for our doings to God.

Blaming God for something that is the effect of our actions is very... enraging.

Better than "G-D is angry because women are immodest so he sent the hurricane". Not much of a standard, but yeah. 

 

On 13/09/2017 at 7:38 AM, Mistrunner said:

Ever have one of those weeks where it feels like it's been forever but it's only Tuesday? Well, that's been this week so far. It's not shaping up to be a good school year.

Two of my teachers don't teach, one of whom is my trig teacher. This is very, very bad. The reason I'm awake right now is because I've been trying to figure out this homework she's given without any instruction whatsoever out of a precalc book. The other one who doesn't teach is my history teacher (also the football coach, which explains a lot) who keeps assigning essays without covering the material. My English teacher so far is shaping up to be fairly incompetent and can't spell my name, which isn't a huge surprise but she marked someone's paper down for misspelling hers, so I feel like I'm entitled to be petty here.

The homework piles keep stacking up and it's hard to find time to breathe. I haven't been able to practice my instruments nearly as much as I'd like. I want to start doing extra things for college applications but I just don't have the time or the energy.

I just need stuff to stop for a while. Long enough for me to catch up. A few months would be nice. Unfortunately, things aren't going to stop happening for a very long time.

help

Bad teachers are awful and I'm sorry.

Try find people who know the material to explain it to you. It's extra work and it shouldn't be your problem but unfortunately that's how it goes  unless you can switch class?

You can also separate things on a scale of important to unimportant, and another of urgent to not urgent. You do the urgent important things first and work your way down. 

And absolutely keep your hobbies. Theyll keep you sane, and you work better when you rest well. Remember to look after yourself, and I'd also say keep an eye on your mental health. 

Somehow or other, we all get through it. Believe me life after school is so much better. Hang in there ok? *hugs*

On 15/09/2017 at 4:25 PM, Silverblade5 said:

Yesterday, I had a chem test. I completely guessed on one question, and left 2 others unanswered. It's been a while since I've been this dissapointed with myself 

*hugs*. Well I still think you're smart and awesome. 

On 18/09/2017 at 4:35 AM, Jedal said:

I think over and over agian about everything that I do and I see how much evil I cause and how I push everyoen away and how my constant failure is a source of strife and how I ripped my family apart and how my very existence is proof that I ruined to other people. Maybe my mom is right and I;m just a bad person hiding under the guise of being a coward

No. 

Thats not how this works. 

I mean it's a matter of philosophy but I believe everyone is good. A person who does bad things is not intrinsically bad. Kinda like if I play three notes on a guitar that doesn't make me a musician. Doing bad things doesn't make you a bad person. 

It also sounds like the brain weasels are getting at you. I don't know you personally but there are somethings I can say. 

Firstly dwelling on feeling bad will just spiral downwards. What's done is done, focus on doing better next time. Think about how to actively do better. 

I also doubt that you're a failure. No one is terrible at everything, no one messes up 100% of the time. There have to be things you've done right, people you've made happy. Take a mental note and hold that as evidence that you're capable and you can do things. 

What happened with your family? Even if it was your fault and everything crashed and burned, doesn't mean you can't change for the better and do better in your other relationships. You're not stuck. You have choice and agency and you can actively seek good. 

I'm sorry if this turned preachy I just care a lot and I don't want you to feel bad about yourself.  You have worth. You are loved and needed and supported. You are good. Ok?

[Kaymyth she/her]

On 9/17/2017 at 8:35 PM, Jedal said:

I think over and over agian about everything that I do and I see how much evil I cause and how I push everyoen away and how my constant failure is a source of strife and how I ripped my family apart and how my very existence is proof that I ruined to other people. Maybe my mom is right and I;m just a bad person hiding under the guise of being a coward

You're how old? 15 or 16?

No.

1) You're still a kid. Your parents are adults. You are not responsible for whatever relationship failures they may or may not have had. And if they're blaming you for that, then they're terrible people and also possibly idiots.

2) Your mother deserves to have her mom card revoked for saying crem like that. As the long-ago elected Forum Mom, I can declare that. So mote it be.

[Silverblade5 he/him]

Yesterday, a folding chair closed on my hand. As a result, a finger is swelling and bleeding under the nail, and it hurts to grip things. 

[Oversleep]

4 hours ago, Silverblade5 said:

Yesterday, a folding chair closed on my hand. As a result, a finger is swelling and bleeding under the nail, and it hurts to grip things. 

Go get it checked.

After my hand has been jumped on (accident at judo training) my finger has been put in a... uh, splint, I guess?... it was immobilized for something like two weeks. It was not broken and yours is probably not broken either (you'd definitely know) but... yeah.

[Sunbird she/her]

@Silverblade5 Owwww! I got my finger shut in a car door once, and it sounds like you're experiencing the same pain I did.

[Draginon he/him]

The system we use for checking stuff out did a major glitch on us. It only registered half of the items for shipping and treated the rest as backorder. On one ticket it registered them in thirds so I had to print that out three times just to have everything on paper. We called the company and they don't know why it did that but it was a pain since it was 4 big tickets that were around 20 pages each so not something easy to redo.

[Silverblade5 he/him]

Today was just awful. We closed an hour later than usual, and I've still got a lot of homework. 

[Silverblade5 he/him]

Double posting because new day new problem 

I just failed a Physics test. I know I failed because I only got half way through. Why is this? Because, due to an entire row of buttons on my calculator not working, each individual calculation took twice as long. 

[Erandeni he/him]

8 minutes ago, Silverblade5 said:

I just failed a Physics test. I know I failed because I only got half way through. Why is this? Because, due to an entire row of buttons on my calculator not working, each individual calculation took twice as long. 

*hugs*

I feel you, today I saw the marks of my RCM test and I failed.I feel stupid and a failure right now.

[Silverblade5 he/him]

29 minutes ago, Idealistic said:

*hugs*

I feel you, today I saw the marks of my RCM test and I failed.I feel stupid and a failure right now.

Rcm?

[Erandeni he/him]

Just now, Silverblade5 said:

Rcm?

Relativistic Quantum Mechanics, I wrote c instead of q by mistake.

[Darkness Ascendant he/him]

Don't worry guys

I failed my math exam too  

[A Budgie she/her]

17 hours ago, Silverblade5 said:

Double posting because new day new problem 

I just failed a Physics test. I know I failed because I only got half way through. Why is this? Because, due to an entire row of buttons on my calculator not working, each individual calculation took twice as long. 

*hug* I'm sorry. Can you resit it because of this?

17 hours ago, Idealistic said:

I feel you, today I saw the marks of my RCM test and I failed.I feel stupid and a failure right now.

*bigger hug* I'm sorry. But listen, if you're taking an exam on quantum mechanics, you are not stupid.

[Delightful]

On 21/09/2017 at 4:12 AM, Overstorm said:

Go get it checked.

After my hand has been jumped on (accident at judo training) my finger has been put in a... uh, splint, I guess?... it was immobilized for something like two weeks. It was not broken and yours is probably not broken either (you'd definitely know) but... yeah.

I broke an ankle once, assumed it was a sprain, went to a dr cause I was worried about concussion (fell downstairs) and turned out there was a break. You don't *always* know. 

On 22/09/2017 at 7:36 PM, Idealistic said:

*hugs*

I feel you, today I saw the marks of my RCM test and I failed.I feel stupid and a failure right now.

Everyone fails, it's part of the human condition. Doesn't mean you're any worse or any better than the rest of us. You'll be fine. 

7 hours ago, A Budgie said:

*hug* I'm sorry. Can you resit it because of this?

*bigger hug* I'm sorry. But listen, if you're taking an exam on quantum mechanics, you are not stupid.

^listen to budgie. She is a smart budgie. 

[Oversleep]

1 hour ago, Mrs. Delightful Ferring said:

I broke an ankle once, assumed it was a sprain, went to a dr cause I was worried about concussion (fell downstairs) and turned out there was a break. You don't *always* know. 

I stand corrected then

all the more reason for @Silverblade5 to get it checked.

[Sunbird she/her]

I'm kinda angry at everything right now.

My last few hours at Salt Lake Comic Con today were really rough. I spent over an hour standing in line for a book signing with Jim Butcher, and then immediately stood another half hour in line for Brandon's solo panel. So by this point my feet were VERY sore. During the panel, I stood in line some MORE to ask a question about Shallan but didn't get a chance because it took too long for people in front of me to get their answers. (Brandon is incapable of giving a short answer to any question.) And they weren't even good questions, mostly the stuff that gets asked at every signing: Which of your characters is your favorite; what advice do you have for young writers; where do you get your ideas, and so on. Way to waste all the Q&A time, guys.

In the last panel I went to (spotlight on Jim Butcher), I ended up sitting next to a guy who was chomping on popcorn. I think I could've dealt with that until he finished it off if he hadn't then begun sucking on his teeth and making the most revolting kissing noises. I relocated myself to the back of the room but had a bit of a breakdown despite that. Had a hard time actually enjoying the panel. (If this seems like a really weird/stupid thing to get bothered about, please read the Wikipedia page on misophonia. I have it and it sucks.)

One other thing that sucks is driving in the rain on the freeway. Half the time I can't see the storming lane lines, and the other half of the time the other cars are driving like grannies when I just really want to get home as soon as possible. *sigh*

[Ammanas]

@Sunchicken sorry you had a bad day. Sounds frustrating! Just out of curiosity did you get to see Brian Lee Durfee? I know he attended as a author and probably didn't have much of a line because he is new. He is definitely a author to keep a eye on! I loved his first novel of a planned five called The Forgetting Moon.

[Sunbird she/her]

@Ammanas I don't remember seeing him, but it's possible I passed him during one of my stops by the various author booths. Thanks for the recommendation; I'll look up his books.

[Delightful]

Need hugs please. 

@Pinnacle-Ferring is away for days and days and I am a sad mopey trying not be one. I got dressed and put on some laundry and that's my achievement for the day so far. Started out eating chocolate and Pringles and watching TV sadly so I've improved. 

Ive been keeping myself busy but didn't have any plans for today so *fwomp*. 

Edited September 28, 2017 by Mrs. Delightful Ferring

[Mestiv he/him]

18 minutes ago, Mrs. Delightful Ferring said:

Need hugs please. 

@Pinnacle-Ferring is away for days and days and I am a sad mopey trying not be one. I got dressed and put on some laundry and that's my achievement for the day so far. Started out eating chocolate and Pringles and watching TV sadly so I've improved. 

Ive been keeping myself busy but didn't have any plans for today so *fwomp*. 

*hugs*

Go for a walk maybe? Paint a painting? Work on your writing? Try something new?

Do some Delightful things, after all, happiness is something you should find within yourself, not expect it to be given by someone else. This way, even when alone, you won't be down.