+Slowswift he/him Posted October 24, 2020 Report Share Posted October 24, 2020 11 hours ago, Kasimir said: It's complicated but I sort of lost my job. They're offering me a different one, without a pay cut, but with a drastic increase in working hours and workload. That new job is Braize. I get that. They've lost six people in three months because everyone hated it so much they upped and quit. Some without even an alternative during the COVID job market. I don't want to make any decisions. I'm tired. Life is exhausting. Why does it have to be this way? Ooh, that's rough, man. Sorry to hear it. I know the feeling of decision paralysis all too well; it sucks. :/ 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
AonEne he/him in an enby way Posted October 31, 2020 Report Share Posted October 31, 2020 On 10/20/2020 at 1:22 AM, FriarFritz said: I'm really having trouble with college right now. I just haven't been able to do work. I know I've always had a pretty bad work ethic, which kinda weirdly combines with my perfectionism to keep me from doing anything. I can't stand not doing something well, but I can't spare the effort to do it up to my own standards, so I just give up and don't do it. I feel like I should try to get help, but "I can't do work," sounds really pathetic, like a dumb excuse, even though it might be an actual problem, and not just me. Please, if you have advice, feel free to give it to me. I think I know what I need to do, but someone else telling me to do it will hopefully help motivate me. Okay, so maybe this is me seeing what I look for, but this sounds like textbook perfectionism OCD, how that was explained to me anyway. (Though it could be a total coincidence.) I relate very hard to this, so first, *hugs* - I have been right there where you are, with the ADD and the low work ethic and the perfectionism. It’s not pathetic; it is an actual problem that tons of people have. You are not stupid or lazy or anything like that, you’re just stuck in one place. My advice is to try and talk to some other people you know with this issue, encourage each other, do some research into techniques like ‘quick and reckless’ that are supposed to help this kind of thing. Therapy costs money, but peer support doesn’t. I’m always here if you wanna chat about it or even just yell “AAAAAAH Ene I can’t focuuuuus and I don’t waaaaaant toooooo I hate everything, I can’t even think about school because of how Big and how Much it would take and ack” into a PM. *hugs* again. 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
The Awakened Salad they/them Posted November 2, 2020 Report Share Posted November 2, 2020 This is really inconsequential but I seemingly can’t change my profile picture back to the Radish Wizard without it being low-quality, which is a source of mild annoyance. 3 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
caranise she/her Posted November 3, 2020 Report Share Posted November 3, 2020 (edited) Frankly I am not the main hero of what I want to tell but I will do. 3 Day ago in Turkey was an earthquake of 7.0 intensity and after this there was a flood in the city(İzmir) The announced death toll is 100 now. People collecting donations for the homeless, they are trying to help them. 90 hours after the earthquake a 3 year old girl ws recqued alive. This such a miraculous event but then I found out that the girl's Mother was dead. The things that happened are very sad. But the brutal mindset of other people that hurt me More. I have read many Turkish and foreign comment stating that İzmir deserves this. I think every act and avery thought that makes human life cheap is disease and I realized that this disease has no religion and race. (I am sorry for my bad English) Edited November 3, 2020 by caranise 6 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
AonEne he/him in an enby way Posted November 3, 2020 Report Share Posted November 3, 2020 4 hours ago, caranise said: I have read many Turkish and foreign comment stating that İzmir deserves this. I think every act and avery thought that makes human life cheap is disease and I realized that this disease has no religion and race. (I am sorry for my bad English) Don’t worry about your English I didn’t know those natural disasters had happened, I’m so sorry. And I completely agree that people who cheapen the death of innocents are a disease. *hugs* I’m glad you’re alive at least! 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
caranise she/her Posted November 3, 2020 Report Share Posted November 3, 2020 (edited) 1 hour ago, AonEne said: Don’t worry about your English I didn’t know those natural disasters had happened, I’m so sorry. And I completely agree that people who cheapen the death of innocents are a disease. *hugs* I’m glad you’re alive at least! You are very nice, Thank you. There were so many eartquakes in 2020 that I stopped counting. There have been disasters like sandstorms and tsunami that have never happened before in Turkey. But it was the worst disaster. I hope it never happens to anyone again. Edited November 3, 2020 by caranise 3 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
+Slowswift he/him Posted November 5, 2020 Report Share Posted November 5, 2020 caranise, thank you for posting here -- you actually brought a tear to my eye. Like Ene, I was unaware of the situation in Turkey, but you and your country are in my prayers tonight. 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
caranise she/her Posted November 5, 2020 Report Share Posted November 5, 2020 2 hours ago, Slowswift said: caranise, thank you for posting here -- you actually brought a tear to my eye. Like Ene, I was unaware of the situation in Turkey, but you and your country are in my prayers tonight. Thank you very much. 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Draginon he/him Posted November 14, 2020 Report Share Posted November 14, 2020 I’m about to go on vacation on Tuesday and I’m frankly not really looking forward to it. It’s mostly stuff that doesn’t excite me that much (going to Orlando area) and the non theme park options are limited. My mother wants to do the following: Go to Give Kids the World: not my cup of tea at all. Kennedy Space Center: I’m on the wall here since it’s an hour from the hotel and I really don’t feel like driving on vacation. Busch Gardens and Sea World: been there so I don’t mind but Busch Gardens is an hour away and both parks require getting there early to get a parking spot. A couple different restaurants in the area including Disney Springs: I don’t mind this since I like the places involved. Going to the Disney outlet stores: I hate doing this. She does this on every trip to Florida and it’s so annoying to go. One of the two is hard to get a parking spot at and the other is awkward just to get to. The only thing I have planned is going to the nearby Barnes & Noble to pick up ROW and read that when I can. It’s usually hard for me to read on vacation but this one might be dull enough for me to justify reading. 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mist she/her Posted November 14, 2020 Report Share Posted November 14, 2020 43 minutes ago, Draginon said: I’m about to go on vacation on Tuesday and I’m frankly not really looking forward to it. It’s mostly stuff that doesn’t excite me that much (going to Orlando area) and the non theme park options are limited. My mother wants to do the following: [...] The only thing I have planned is going to the nearby Barnes & Noble to pick up ROW and read that when I can. It’s usually hard for me to read on vacation but this one might be dull enough for me to justify reading. That's really annoying. I'm sorry you're not looking forward to your vacation. 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Chanarach Posted November 15, 2020 Report Share Posted November 15, 2020 Haven't seen a shipping notification yet so trying to resign myself to not getting RoW on the 17th. Course it might not matter because I'm obsessing when I should be reading (only on chapter 69 of my OB rr). 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Draginon he/him Posted November 21, 2020 Report Share Posted November 21, 2020 My dad had talked to me earlier and he talked to me about something that really hurt me inside and broke some of the trust we had. Pretty much it was the discussion on me moving out because I’m to the point I can’t stay with my mother anymore and he talked about him and her moving to The Villages in Florida, it’s a retirement community north of Orlando, when they both retire and he wants me to move with them. His solution to getting me to live there is to use the “he can’t live on his own” excuse because he pretty much told me he believes I’m physically capable of living on my own but not mentally. You have no idea how much it hurt to hear him say that last bit to me. Now I wouldn’t mind living in Florida, Orlando itself is more my speed, but I’d prefer living back home in California than continuing living under their roof, which for him was more a master bedroom to myself when I would rather have my own place and not an attached living situation. 3 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Condensation she/her Posted November 22, 2020 Report Share Posted November 22, 2020 Can I... offer a hug? I don't especially need one right now(RoW!) but I could really use giving one. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Nathrangking he/him Posted November 22, 2020 Report Share Posted November 22, 2020 20 hours ago, Draginon said: My dad had talked to me earlier and he talked to me about something that really hurt me inside and broke some of the trust we had. Pretty much it was the discussion on me moving out because I’m to the point I can’t stay with my mother anymore and he talked about him and her moving to The Villages in Florida, it’s a retirement community north of Orlando, when they both retire and he wants me to move with them. His solution to getting me to live there is to use the “he can’t live on his own” excuse because he pretty much told me he believes I’m physically capable of living on my own but not mentally. You have no idea how much it hurt to hear him say that last bit to me. Now I wouldn’t mind living in Florida, Orlando itself is more my speed, but I’d prefer living back home in California than continuing living under their roof, which for him was more a master bedroom to myself when I would rather have my own place and not an attached living situation. *Hugs.* 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Erandeni he/him Posted November 22, 2020 Report Share Posted November 22, 2020 I am having a really bad week So I have been talking for some time with this girl and we really connected and were really supportive with each other, I felt we were building something special, until this week. We usually talked almost everyday, but she was having a rough time and didn't want to talk, so I just send her some messages wishing her good luck with her day and all that, just the typical stuff I do when someone I care about is not well. Well, then she answer me at the beginning of this week telling me that she had many people on her life and couldn't indulge all of us and she couldn't give all their relationships her all, then stopped talking to me for the whole week. Then today she talked to me again, I told her I was hurt by how she told me that and leave, because it made me feel expendable to her, like she don't care for me really, and told her that I was sorry if I was a pest and that I understood if she wanted to talk less often with me.She told me everyone has expendable really and that she didn't know but she preferred that I stopped talking to her, that she will talk to me when she feels like it and need me. The saddest thing is I was kinda expecting it, since she begun talking to a guy she likes she has been less entusiasthic with me, and now she does this while been all happy and fun and enthusiastic with him on social media makes me think that I simply wasn't worth enough to try and work to mantain this friendship, all her talk about how much she cherished our relationship and how important I was for her didn't matter at the end. This has happended to me time and time again, I connect with someone and everything is great until i am feeling more confident and then they just meet someone better and stop caring about me, suddenly I am just a burden for them. I am sorry for the rant, but I really needed to tell this and vent a little. 3 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bearer of all agonies he/him Posted November 22, 2020 Report Share Posted November 22, 2020 Spoiler 1 hour ago, Erandeni said: I am having a really bad week So I have been talking for some time with this girl and we really connected and were really supportive with each other, I felt we were building something special, until this week. We usually talked almost everyday, but she was having a rough time and didn't want to talk, so I just send her some messages wishing her good luck with her day and all that, just the typical stuff I do when someone I care about is not well. Well, then she answer me at the beginning of this week telling me that she had many people on her life and couldn't indulge all of us and she couldn't give all their relationships her all, then stopped talking to me for the whole week. Then today she talked to me again, I told her I was hurt by how she told me that and leave, because it made me feel expendable to her, like she don't care for me really, and told her that I was sorry if I was a pest and that I understood if she wanted to talk less often with me.She told me everyone has expendable really and that she didn't know but she preferred that I stopped talking to her, that she will talk to me when she feels like it and need me. The saddest thing is I was kinda expecting it, since she begun talking to a guy she likes she has been less entusiasthic with me, and now she does this while been all happy and fun and enthusiastic with him on social media makes me think that I simply wasn't worth enough to try and work to mantain this friendship, all her talk about how much she cherished our relationship and how important I was for her didn't matter at the end. This has happended to me time and time again, I connect with someone and everything is great until i am feeling more confident and then they just meet someone better and stop caring about me, suddenly I am just a burden for them. I am sorry for the rant, but I really needed to tell this and vent a little. I’m so sorry that happened. Can I offer a hug? I’m here if you need me. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Erandeni he/him Posted November 22, 2020 Report Share Posted November 22, 2020 3 hours ago, Bearer of all agonies said: Reveal hidden contents I’m so sorry that happened. Can I offer a hug? I’m here if you need me. Thank you, I really need one that's very nice of you 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bearer of all agonies he/him Posted November 22, 2020 Report Share Posted November 22, 2020 3 hours ago, Erandeni said: Thank you, I really need one that's very nice of you *hugs* 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
The Windrunner Supreme he/him Posted November 25, 2020 Report Share Posted November 25, 2020 On 11/20/2020 at 9:10 PM, Draginon said: My dad had talked to me earlier and he talked to me about something that really hurt me inside and broke some of the trust we had. Pretty much it was the discussion on me moving out because I’m to the point I can’t stay with my mother anymore and he talked about him and her moving to The Villages in Florida, it’s a retirement community north of Orlando, when they both retire and he wants me to move with them. His solution to getting me to live there is to use the “he can’t live on his own” excuse because he pretty much told me he believes I’m physically capable of living on my own but not mentally. You have no idea how much it hurt to hear him say that last bit to me. Now I wouldn’t mind living in Florida, Orlando itself is more my speed, but I’d prefer living back home in California than continuing living under their roof, which for him was more a master bedroom to myself when I would rather have my own place and not an attached living situation. On 11/22/2020 at 3:00 AM, Erandeni said: I am having a really bad week So I have been talking for some time with this girl and we really connected and were really supportive with each other, I felt we were building something special, until this week. We usually talked almost everyday, but she was having a rough time and didn't want to talk, so I just send her some messages wishing her good luck with her day and all that, just the typical stuff I do when someone I care about is not well. Well, then she answer me at the beginning of this week telling me that she had many people on her life and couldn't indulge all of us and she couldn't give all their relationships her all, then stopped talking to me for the whole week. Then today she talked to me again, I told her I was hurt by how she told me that and leave, because it made me feel expendable to her, like she don't care for me really, and told her that I was sorry if I was a pest and that I understood if she wanted to talk less often with me.She told me everyone has expendable really and that she didn't know but she preferred that I stopped talking to her, that she will talk to me when she feels like it and need me. The saddest thing is I was kinda expecting it, since she begun talking to a guy she likes she has been less entusiasthic with me, and now she does this while been all happy and fun and enthusiastic with him on social media makes me think that I simply wasn't worth enough to try and work to mantain this friendship, all her talk about how much she cherished our relationship and how important I was for her didn't matter at the end. This has happended to me time and time again, I connect with someone and everything is great until i am feeling more confident and then they just meet someone better and stop caring about me, suddenly I am just a burden for them. I am sorry for the rant, but I really needed to tell this and vent a little. Im sorry to hear that *hugs* 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Emi she/her Posted November 25, 2020 Report Share Posted November 25, 2020 I... I don’t know what to say. I have really REALLY rough moments in my life now, mostly because the quarantine and stuff. Like I couldn’t cry at all and now crying is something so basic... literally every day. Even now, I’m crying. I just feel like a total trash without almost any purpose to life, except the Shard and having hope that future will be better. I... just have no idea what to do and there is no one to make me happy now, when my cat is gone. 3 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
The Windrunner Supreme he/him Posted November 25, 2020 Report Share Posted November 25, 2020 13 minutes ago, EmiTheNinja said: I... I don’t know what to say. I have really REALLY rough moments in my life now, mostly because the quarantine and stuff. Like I couldn’t cry at all and now crying is something so basic... literally every day. Even now, I’m crying. I just feel like a total trash without almost any purpose to life, except the Shard and having hope that future will be better. I... just have no idea what to do and there is no one to make me happy now, when my cat is gone. *hugs* *hugs* *hugs* *hugs* *hugs* *hugs* *hugs* *hugs* *hugs* *hugs* *hugs* *hugs* *hugs* *hugs* *hugs* *hugs* *hugs* *hugs* *hugs* *hugs* *hugs* *hugs* *hugs* *hugs* *hugs* *hugs* *hugs* *hugs* *hugs* *hugs* *hugs* *hugs* *hugs* *hugs* *hugs* *hugs* *hugs* *hugs* *hugs* *hugs* *hugs* *hugs* *hugs* *hugs* *hugs* *hugs* *hugs* *hugs* *hugs* *hugs* *hugs* *hugs* *hugs* *hugs* *hugs* *hugs* *hugs* *hugs* *hugs* *hugs* *hugs* *hugs* *hugs* *hugs* *hugs* *hugs* *hugs* *hugs* *hugs* *hugs* *hugs* *hugs* *hugs* *hugs* *hugs* *hugs* *hugs* *hugs* *hugs* *hugs* *hugs* *hugs* *hugs* *hugs* *hugs* *hugs* *hugs* *hugs* *hugs* *hugs* *hugs* *hugs* *hugs* *hugs* *hugs* *hugs* *hugs* *hugs* *hugs* *hugs* *hugs* *hugs* *hugs* *hugs* Im so sorry to hear this. Hope you feel better 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Zephrun’s Imperium Posted November 25, 2020 Report Share Posted November 25, 2020 13 minutes ago, EmiTheNinja said: I... I don’t know what to say. I have really REALLY rough moments in my life now, mostly because the quarantine and stuff. Like I couldn’t cry at all and now crying is something so basic... literally every day. Even now, I’m crying. I just feel like a total trash without almost any purpose to life, except the Shard and having hope that future will be better. I... just have no idea what to do and there is no one to make me happy now, when my cat is gone. Aww, honey, I've felt that. Honestly, I think everyone has felt that, quarantine sucks big time. All the *hugs* Emi, all of them. I'm glad the Shard has been a good place for you, this really is a gem of a website and I'm so glad this thread exists. You'll get through this, my girl, we're all here for you. 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
The Windrunner Supreme he/him Posted November 25, 2020 Report Share Posted November 25, 2020 3 minutes ago, Shard of Thought said: Aww, honey, I've felt that. Honestly, I think everyone has felt that, quarantine sucks big time. All the *hugs* Emi, all of them. I'm glad the Shard has been a good place for you, this really is a gem of a website and I'm so glad this thread exists. You'll get through this, my girl, we're all here for you. Yep! You got this 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Emi she/her Posted November 25, 2020 Report Share Posted November 25, 2020 6 minutes ago, The Windrunner Supreme said: *hugs* *hugs* *hugs* *hugs* *hugs* *hugs* *hugs* *hugs* *hugs* *hugs* *hugs* *hugs* *hugs* *hugs* *hugs* *hugs* *hugs* *hugs* *hugs* *hugs* *hugs* *hugs* *hugs* *hugs* *hugs* *hugs* *hugs* *hugs* *hugs* *hugs* *hugs* *hugs* *hugs* *hugs* *hugs* *hugs* *hugs* *hugs* *hugs* *hugs* *hugs* *hugs* *hugs* *hugs* *hugs* *hugs* *hugs* *hugs* *hugs* *hugs* *hugs* *hugs* *hugs* *hugs* *hugs* *hugs* *hugs* *hugs* *hugs* *hugs* *hugs* *hugs* *hugs* *hugs* *hugs* *hugs* *hugs* *hugs* *hugs* *hugs* *hugs* *hugs* *hugs* *hugs* *hugs* *hugs* *hugs* *hugs* *hugs* *hugs* *hugs* *hugs* *hugs* *hugs* *hugs* *hugs* *hugs* *hugs* *hugs* *hugs* *hugs* *hugs* *hugs* *hugs* *hugs* *hugs* *hugs* *hugs* *hugs* *hugs* *hugs* *hugs* *hugs* *hugs* Im so sorry to hear this. Hope you feel better Thank you! 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Orlion Blight he/him Posted November 25, 2020 Report Share Posted November 25, 2020 Here's a relevant graphic for folks feeling under the weather: it helps to identify what your problem is (mine is that these graphics always load sideways for me on the Shared, codsarnit!) This was made in reference to Covid- created isolation, but I think can be adapted for broader scenarios. 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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