TwiLyghtSansSparkles she/her Posted June 5, 2015 Posted June 5, 2015 Sometimes, the only way in my experience to deal with these sorts of things is to sit down, and talk. Let her know how you feel, and what you would rather happen. That way, at least she knows, and there's at least a chance that things will improve I would love to do that. I've tried it several times. Here's how it'll go: Me: Mom, it hurt my feelings when you said X. Mom (frowning, as though in thought): When did I say that? Me: Last night, when you were lecturing me. You said X, and it hurt my feelings. Mom: I didn't say that. Me: You did, and I remember— Mom (angry): No, I never said that to you! Maybe I said it to someone else and you overheard, and if you were listening in on my private conversations, SHAME ON YOU! Shame on you! Me: Okay, I'm sorry, I must've misheard— Mom: You did, because I would never say that, if you think I'd say something that heartless….(ensuing lecture omitted for brevity) And I know that cutting me off to talk over me is different, but her reaction if I confronted her would be about the same. She'd have some "reason" for why she always does that, which would probably entail a list of my character flaws ("You can be flighty sometimes, and I feel like I have to come down on you like a hammer just to get you to remember what you'd planned to do next….") and wouldn't end until she'd covered the same points at least three times apiece. 1
Silverblade5 he/him Posted June 5, 2015 Posted June 5, 2015 I would love to do that. I've tried it several times. Here's how it'll go: Me: Mom, it hurt my feelings when you said X. Mom (frowning, as though in thought): When did I say that? Me: Last night, when you were lecturing me. You said X, and it hurt my feelings. Mom: I didn't say that. Me: You did, and I remember— Mom (angry): No, I never said that to you! Maybe I said it to someone else and you overheard, and if you were listening in on my private conversations, SHAME ON YOU! Shame on you! Me: Okay, I'm sorry, I must've misheard— Mom: You did, because I would never say that, if you think I'd say something that heartless….(ensuing lecture omitted for brevity) And I know that cutting me off to talk over me is different, but her reaction if I confronted her would be about the same. She'd have some "reason" for why she always does that, which would probably entail a list of my character flaws ("You can be flighty sometimes, and I feel like I have to come down on you like a hammer just to get you to remember what you'd planned to do next….") and wouldn't end until she'd covered the same points at least three times apiece. Is there anypony else you could go to, and ask them to do it, or to back you up if you decide to try again? Counseling would always be a good option if this is not the case, and you still plan to be there by this time next year.
TwiLyghtSansSparkles she/her Posted June 5, 2015 Posted June 5, 2015 Is there anypony else you could go to, and ask them to do it, or to back you up if you decide to try again? Counseling would always be a good option if this is not the case, and you still plan to be there by this time next year. Not really. My siblings are all just as powerless as I am, and my dad always takes my mom's side. I don't plan on living with my parents this time next year, though, so all I have to do is find a decent job in my field.
Silverblade5 he/him Posted June 5, 2015 Posted June 5, 2015 Not really. My siblings are all just as powerless as I am, and my dad always takes my mom's side. I don't plan on living with my parents this time next year, though, so all I have to do is find a decent job in my field. Well what are you good at? The sooner we can figure this out, the sooner we can get you out of there. 1
TwiLyghtSansSparkles she/her Posted June 5, 2015 Posted June 5, 2015 Well what are you good at? The sooner we can figure this out, the sooner we can get you out of there. Posting memes? Just kidding. I actually just graduated with a Master's degree in Library and Information Science, so now it's just a matter of finding a public library willing to hire me. 3
Silverblade5 he/him Posted June 5, 2015 Posted June 5, 2015 Posting memes? Just kidding. I actually just graduated with a Master's degree in Library and Information Science, so now it's just a matter of finding a public library willing to hire me. Maybe you could try dog fostering?
TwiLyghtSansSparkles she/her Posted June 5, 2015 Posted June 5, 2015 Now my glove compartment won't open. I have my glasses in there. Wonderful. Just wonderful.
Silverblade5 he/him Posted June 5, 2015 Posted June 5, 2015 Now my glove compartment won't open. I have my glasses in there. Wonderful. Just wonderful. Maybe it would open if you wore a glove... 3
TwiLyghtSansSparkles she/her Posted June 5, 2015 Posted June 5, 2015 Maybe it would open if you wore a glove... NO CAR OF MINE WILL BE AN ALETHI PRUDE But seriously, I've left that hand uncovered for years and it picks TODAY to make a stand? 3
Kobold King he/him Posted June 5, 2015 Posted June 5, 2015 NO CAR OF MINE WILL BE AN ALETHI PRUDE Does this same car refuse to brake at Stops if a man's driving and reading the signs? 3
Silverblade5 he/him Posted June 5, 2015 Posted June 5, 2015 NO CAR OF MINE WILL BE AN ALETHI PRUDE But seriously, I've left that hand uncovered for years and it picks TODAY to make a stand? Yes 1
Kaymyth she/her Posted June 5, 2015 Posted June 5, 2015 Wow. That's real rough. But sometimes, there's nothing we can do except grit our teeth and power through this kind of crap. Hope you find your jeans. Hope others can be more helpful. Hooray, a happy ending! I found jeans. Multiple pairs. And I didn't have to go to a zillion stores and I even found some shorts. And my jeans wearing the hole? The hole was low enough that I could cut them into shorts. Behold, my trousers have regenerated! 4
Silverblade5 he/him Posted June 5, 2015 Posted June 5, 2015 Hooray, a happy ending! I found jeans. Multiple pairs. And I didn't have to go to a zillion stores and I even found some shorts. And my jeans wearing the hole? The hole was low enough that I could cut them into shorts. Behold, my trousers have regenerated! :) :)
Briar King Posted June 6, 2015 Posted June 6, 2015 @Kay I miss the hell out of Jinco jeans from the 90's.
Guest Posted June 6, 2015 Posted June 6, 2015 @Kay I miss the hell out of Jinco jeans from the 90's. OMG, no. I do not miss it Some fashion items are better left alone
Kaymyth she/her Posted June 6, 2015 Posted June 6, 2015 OMG, no. I do not miss it Some fashion items are better left alone A Google Image search revealed to me many images which caused me to snicker mercilessly. I went to a rural high school, which was always about 4-6 years behind the trends. Girls were still tight-rolling jeans when I graduated.
Kobold King he/him Posted June 6, 2015 Posted June 6, 2015 We picked up a stray cat. We've done this several times since we've moved here, since there are a lot of stray cats in this part of texas. (There are a lot of slontzes who dump unwanted animals in the scrubland. ) This newest cat is a female whose litter of kittens drowned in the latest flood. As you can imagine, this is quite a traumatic event for a mother cat to go through. She's also thin enough for us to suspect she's been having a rough time in the outside world, and tame enough that we suspect she was only recently dumped. (Possibly because she got pregnant.) So we brought her into our cabin, feeding her expensive canned cat food and giving her all the attention a cat could ask for. If you'll pardon the pun--we've been treating her like a queen. Unfortunately, we did not factor in a crucial part of feline biology. A mother cat who's lost her kittens will immediately go back into heat to replace her lost litter, and we have a lot of tomcats at our place. Since we don't have the money to care for any more litters of kittens, our lives have turned into a constant battle to keep our newest pet from seeking out the attentions of every tomcat on the farm. She roams through the house mrowing, a siren's call that attracts every tom we have to wait on our doorstep. She greets them by the windows, touching noses with them through the glass. It comes close to being vaguely romantic at times. It's infuriating all the time. Now if you'll excuse me, I believe our cat is giving a feline rendition of the Balcony Speech from Romeo and Juliet on the windowsill. I'd better break this up... 7
Briar King Posted June 6, 2015 Posted June 6, 2015 OMG, no. I do not miss it Some fashion items are better left alone I was Jinco King in high school. It rocked esp in fall and winter. My fav pair had bottoms that were 36 inches each lol. 1
Guest Posted June 6, 2015 Posted June 6, 2015 A Google Image search revealed to me many images which caused me to snicker mercilessly. I went to a rural high school, which was always about 4-6 years behind the trends. Girls were still tight-rolling jeans when I graduated. I did a Google image search as well and I was suddenly remember my teenage years spent wondering as to whether I could wear Jingo jeans or not Tight-rolling as in 80s style??? I think I never knew those... I graduated in the middle of the Backstreet Boys era
Kaymyth she/her Posted June 6, 2015 Posted June 6, 2015 I did a Google image search as well and I was suddenly remember my teenage years spent wondering as to whether I could wear Jingo jeans or not Tight-rolling as in 80s style??? I think I never knew those... I graduated in the middle of the Backstreet Boys era I graduated in '95 myself. Like I said, rural schools fall waaaaay behind the times.
Guest Posted June 6, 2015 Posted June 6, 2015 I was Jinco King in high school. It rocked esp in fall and winter. My fav pair had bottoms that were 36 inches each lol. LOL. Didn't take you for a former Jinco ambassador 36 inches bottoms To think I used to think they were kinda cool
Guest Posted June 6, 2015 Posted June 6, 2015 I graduated in '95 myself. Like I said, rural schools fall waaaaay behind the times. I graduated in 97 By then, the whole grunge fashion had wore down. What was it again? Oh yeah bleached hair and slowly moving into early 2000 years fashion style: short tight tops
Kaymyth she/her Posted June 6, 2015 Posted June 6, 2015 I graduated in 97 By then, the whole grunge fashion had wore down. What was it again? Oh yeah bleached hair and slowly moving into early 2000 years fashion style: short tight tops Yeah, I'm not sure that grunge ever actually reached my high school at all. Most of the kids were too country; they had to have jeans that didn't completely hide their stylish cowboy boots, after all. I...did not fit in well at that school.
Guest Posted June 6, 2015 Posted June 6, 2015 Yeah, I'm not sure that grunge ever actually reached my high school at all. Most of the kids were too country; they had to have jeans that didn't completely hide their stylish cowboy boots, after all. I...did not fit in well at that school. OMG we lived in a different world... Over here it started with the Metal age where everyone wore Dock Martens and listened to either Metallica and Gun's and Roses to the Grunge Era right after Cobain killed himself. Then, it was jinco-like pants, over-sized checkered shirts, anything with stripes on it and the college girl look mix within the lot Thank you Aerosmith for putting that one forward with your video clips. It was a rather strange mix of style, but no cow-boy boots, gee no. Not here. Country is for old people here Montreal is a country free city
Glamdring804 Posted June 6, 2015 Posted June 6, 2015 (edited) My f*cking family just fell appart. Edited June 6, 2015 by Glamdring804
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