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[Kaymyth she/her]

Careful, insomnia is a real issue and it does not necessarily have to do with your circadian rhythms. It is an insane never ending spinning wheel which makes you afraid you won't perform if you are too tired due to the lack of sleep which alternatively makes you afraid you won't sleep as you didn't sleep the night before and because you haven't you end up believing it is a pattern which will make sure you are never to sleep ever again. Your life is thus doomed to sleepless nights, twitching eye lid and endless staring at the ceiling wondering why is it you just can't sleep?

 

Human beings should be able to put themselves to sleep.

 

It is a true disease and when it happens at a young age, it is even more terrible as you just don't have enough life experience to figure out nothing it forever. You feel as if you are doomed with a monster in your head. Or a vibe. I used to think it felt like a vibe that pulses through such as to make you know: "You just aren't going to sleep tonight.".

 

Today, I can tell the vibe to go screw itself: I want to sleep, but back when I was younger I couldn't. I didn't know how to.

 

Some people have bouts of insomnia which comes and goes, but for some people it just is more than that. It is anxiety related and for some individuals this anxiety express itself through sleep patterns. 

 

This is all true, but in the context of the particular complaints, it was, "If I stay up until I'm tired, then I can fall asleep easily, but by then it's stupid late." 

[Zathoth]

Kaymyth that makes so much sense, I have been going to sleep during the afternoon, awoken around midnight and then been up all night lately... the fact that my entire social life is on a completely different time zone doesnt help either...

As for dating advice, I never had any interest in doing so so it is way out of my area of expertise.

My usual advice is grab your guitar, summon a Rockband, channel your inner Ziggy Stardust, look him in the eye and sing Moonage Daydream.

Going by what I have observed though dating is the act of taking people to dinner, feed them enough good food so that you Pavlov them into associating you with good food which makes them love you.

Or you could burn pewter, throw him over your shoulder and tie him up until he loves you... Im not quite sure how that would happen, but you'll figure something out.

 

 

 

Don't be a teenager.  Unfortunately, they're insane.  They'll mean totally different things than they say, but you can't be sure what they really want because there's so much pressure at that high school level to not be found out as a real human being.

 

This advice may be completely out of date; social networking seems to have made for less cliquishness in the teens I've observed, but every school is different.

 

Disclaimer: I am not observing schools.

The FBI is looking sternly in your direction.

[Mashadar Mistborn he/him]

I'm going to have to agree with Aonar and Voidus here. Most of us are either awkward (*waves hand*), or boring, or jerks.

[Voidus]

I'm going to have to agree with Aonar and Voidus here. Most of us are either awkward (*waves hand*), or boring, or jerks.

Often all three.

Even genuinely nice guys often act like jerks when it comes to girls due to stupid things like social expectations and peer pressure. Find one who just sits in the library and reads if you must hang out with one, then you can just ignore each other and deal with what truly matters.

Obsessing over tiny details in a Fantasy Epic.

[The Honor Spren she/her]

Often all three.

Even genuinely nice guys often act like jerks when it comes to girls due to stupid things like social expectations and peer pressure. Find one who just sits in the library and reads if you must hang out with one, then you can just ignore each other and deal with what truly matters.

Obsessing over tiny details in a Fantasy Epic.

Yes, this probably the best way.

By the way, did you notice how in this particular scene, Kaladin turns his head 32 degrees to the right? 32 divided by two is 16, which obviously means he was from Scadrial all along!

[Delightful]

Kaymyth that makes so much sense, I have been going to sleep during the afternoon, awoken around midnight and then been up all night lately... the fact that my entire social life is on a completely different time zone doesnt help either...

As for dating advice, I never had any interest in doing so so it is way out of my area of expertise.

My usual advice is grab your guitar, summon a Rockband, channel your inner Ziggy Stardust, look him in the eye and sing Moonage Daydream.

Going by what I have observed though dating is the act of taking people to dinner, feed them enough good food so that you Pavlov them into associating you with good food which makes them love you.

Or you could burn pewter, throw him over your shoulder and tie him up until he loves you... Im not quite sure how that would happen, but you'll figure something out.

The FBI is looking sternly in your direction.

If we're using allomancy to make people like us, shouldn't we be using emotional allomancy?

[Mashadar Mistborn he/him]

I hear you. As a teenage boy who deliberately does things like learn lists of fallacies in order to improve my logical thinking and ability to weed out irrationality, I must say that having a crush is extremely annoying.

If that distracting feeling had a physical form, I'd nuke the planet it was on from orbit.

Seconded. I just want to be able to focus without distractions. How hard does it have to be?

[Briar King]

On guys if they are anything like I was as a teen in the 90's then stay away. I'm sure it's even worse with social media now. Thankfully my generation was spared that added temptation mixed with teen hormones.

Focus on school then college.

[Voidus]

On guys if they are anything like I was as a teen in the 90's then stay away. I'm sure it's even worse with social media now. Thankfully my generation was spared that added temptation mixed with teen hormones.

Focus on school then college. Books.

Fixed.

[Mistrunner]

So I finally finish my homework. I go to turn it in on Google Classroom, and BOOM. Google is out again. It's been going out randomly lately and saying my "connection is not private."

 

This is also the reason I couldn't finish this yesterday.

 

It's due before class tomorrow.

 

We aren't allowed to turn it in in class tomorrow.

 

I'll have to get up early and pray it works.

 

This is really, really annoying.

Edited December 14, 2015 by Mistrunner

[Silverblade5 he/him]

On the subject of boys.... I've got nothing As a guy who makes a point of being brutally honest, no matter who I'm dealing with, and making a policy of never sugar coating anything, I am probably not the best source of advice in this particular area

[Oversleep]

Try it anyway. Dating, I mean. First few relationships are probably going down in flames, but better now than in few years when people get more serious.

[Zathoth]

Jokes aside at least talk to him, it wont hurt, hopefully. 

 

Just... most people lose intelligence when there is a promise of skin involved, so to speak. Romance in general seems to impair on peoples abilities to reason. Lessons you shouldnt have to learn the hard way, just keep that in mind, I dont know, it sounded more important in my head.

[SmurfAquamarineBodies he/him]

On the guys I can offer no advice as my dating involved 2 random girls running up to me when I was in primary school and telling me we were in a relationship. They lasted about 10 minutes and when they came over to tell me it was over I had forgotten all about it, as I was reading at the time and they rudely interrupted me not once but twice. 

 

As for when I was in highschool, all of the females I interracted with thought I was a psychopath. 

 

In college I kinda didn't care enough about people to put any effort towards getting in to any kind of relationship.

[Left he/him]

Boy advice?... Ehhh, my general advice is if you start to crush on somebody then just try to become their friend. If they're nice then you can become good friends and get used to each other and then maybe move on to more than friends. If they aren't actually the type of person you like, then it should be easier to back away un awkwardly. There's no rushing into anything and maybe putting them off this way.

How to become their friend? Depends. My ways are styled to me, and don't necessarily translate to you. Basically, do whatever feels comfortable and nice and don't overthink. Overthinking leads to awkwardness, which is teenager ness, but should be avoided.

[Curious Anamaximder he/him]

Boy advice?... Ehhh, my general advice is if you start to crush on somebody then just try to become their friend. If they're nice then you can become good friends and get used to each other and then maybe move on to more than friends. If they aren't actually the type of person you like, then it should be easier to back away un awkwardly. There's no rushing into anything and maybe putting them off this way.

How to become their friend? Depends. My ways are styled to me, and don't necessarily translate to you. Basically, do whatever feels comfortable and nice and don't overthink. Overthinking leads to awkwardness, which is teenager ness, but should be avoided.

Good advice. Unfortunately, I have zero friends (except on this site) so getting a girlfriend is very out there.

[Silverblade5 he/him]

On the guys I can offer no advice as my dating involved 2 random girls running up to me when I was in primary school and telling me we were in a relationship. They lasted about 10 minutes and when they came over to tell me it was over I had forgotten all about it, as I was reading at the time and they rudely interrupted me not once but twice.

As for when I was in highschool, all of the females I interracted with thought I was a psychopath.

In college I kinda didn't care enough about people to put any effort towards getting in to any kind of relationship.

Accidental downvote someone fix pls

[Mestiv he/him]

Accidental downvote someone fix pls

Done.

[TwiLyghtSansSparkles she/her]

So far as boys go, I was the high schooler who desperately wanted a boyfriend, but always came on too strong of not strong enough. As a result, I was single until college.

And that's okay.

I didn't really know myself in high school, and those boys I crushed on didn't either. We were still trying to navigate our own opinions; any sort of relationship we'd have would have been murky. I thought the other girls at my school had it all figured out, but they were just as clueless as I was. And you know, that's okay too.

I say take things as they come. If you wind up with a boyfriend soon, great! Spend time with him, joke with him, learn about his favorite TV shows and least favorite bands. If things don't work out with him, then it doesn't have to last. Your first breakup will be hard, but it'll teach your brain how to cope with future breakups. And if you stay single in high school, that's great too! You have more time to figure yourself out and think about what you want in a future boyfriend.

Don't stress the dating thing too much. If it happens, enjoy it; if not, enjoy that too.

[Orlion Blight he/him]

The one thing to understand about dating, relationships, and so forth is that it starts out awkward. Having awkward pauses, awkward searching for topics, etc. are natural developments in learning about the other person.

 

As far as actually seeking a date, I prefer the "trick 'em" method. That means you do something like, "oh, hey! I need help studying for Calculus and we're in the same class, so let's study for that test this Blergsday at flem o'clock!" It's a trick, because you have ulterior motives, but it makes for a more relaxed atmosphere... sometimes. 

 

You could also get a cat

[Pestis the Spider she/her]

Boy advice?... Ehhh, my general advice is if you start to crush on somebody then just try to become their friend. If they're nice then you can become good friends and get used to each other and then maybe move on to more than friends. If they aren't actually the type of person you like, then it should be easier to back away un awkwardly. There's no rushing into anything and maybe putting them off this way.

 

That sounds really resonable, but how do you do that? I need some sort of manual to relationships for dummies, or something, because I can't figure it out. Every time I try this method the guy either wants to date me immediately (And I'm not ready! Absolutely not! That freaks me out a lot.), without this time to get to know each other, or after some time of being good friends he suddenly a.) refuses to speak with me anymore and plainly ignores me or b.) tells me he hates me without any explanation or understandable reason. I don't get it. Maybe it's because I'm already at uni without almost any dating experience, so maybe I just make mistake somewhere, and don't realise it? But to be honest it was like this my whole life. It's soooooo complicated. 

 

EDIT: Spelling.

Edited December 14, 2015 by Pestis the Spider

[Blaze1616 he/him]

Embrace the crush. Dating is like everything else; it takes practice. Also, your taste in potential life partners will be like your taste in food; you have to try to learn what you like and don't like. Yes dating can often end in pain, but it's the experience that truly matters. Most of us aren't lucky enough to meet our very special somepony on the first try. Plus, the experience also helps make you a better potential life partner.

[TwiLyghtSansSparkles she/her]

That sounds really resonable, but how do you do that? I need some sort of manual to relationships for dummies, or something, because I can't figure it out. Every time I try this method the guy either wants to date me immediately (And I'm not ready! Absolutely not! That freaks me out a lot.), without this time to get to know each other, or after some time of being good friends he suddenly a.) refuses to speak with me anymore and plainly ignores me or b.) tells me he hates me without any explanation or understandable reason. I don't get it. Maybe it's because I'm already at uni without almost any dating experience, so maybe I just make mistake somewhere, and don't realise it? But to be honest it was like this my whole life. It's soooooo complicated. 

 

EDIT: Spelling.

 

…..I dunno. I had this problem all through high school and college. Sometimes dating websites help, since when you meet up with a user IRL you both know you're on a date so there's no awkward nebulous phase, but you might not meet anyone you click with, and you might end up going out with someone you really dislike. It's kind of a crapshoot. 

 

For the time being, I've decided dating is stupid and have devoted that time to writing and pugs.  

[Mestiv he/him]

That sounds really resonable, but how do you do that? I need some sort of manual to relationships for dummies, or something, because I can't figure it out. Every time I try this method the guy either wants to date me immediately (And I'm not ready! Absolutely not! That freaks me out a lot.), without this time to get to know each other, or after some time of being good friends he suddenly a.) refuses to speak with me anymore and plainly ignores me or b.) tells me he hates me without any explanation or understandable reason. I don't get it. Maybe it's because I'm already at uni without almost any dating experience, so maybe I just make mistake somewhere, and don't realise it? But to be honest it was like this my whole life. It's soooooo complicated. 

 

EDIT: Spelling.

 

The problem is in the concept of friendzone. A guy you meet wants to start a relationship relatively fast, because he's convinced, that if he won't make it in a month or something like that, he'll just be your friend for ever. We live in times when relationships hardly ever start slowly, it's much more common to start fast and break up if things go wrong. No time to be careful.

 

The friendzone is also a problem for you, males can put a girl in a friendzone too, and you may not even know that you don't have any chances with someone you like for some time, before you'll find out and your friendship will be probably over.

 

I have no idea however where this "i hate you" part may come from... Maybe they think you put them in the friendzone?

 

From my experience, it's actually convenient to get to know someone pretty well online, before you go on a date. That's because:

0. You can verify if you even want to meet with this person.

1. After hours of talking online, you won't have problems with conversation topics when you meet.

2. If you don't like someone, you just stop writing, that's easier than escaping from an awkward date.

3. It's much easier to flirt when you don't see the other person in front of you

4. In case of teenagers I think that everyone, both boys and girls, are more themselves online than in school or anywhere public. You can have more honest conversations and get to know each other.

 

Actually, every date I've ever been on, was a result of extended online chats/text messaging, I've never built up the courage to approach a girl in person and ask her if she'd like to go see a movie with me or something. I'd probably be able to do it now, when I'm 26, but such a bold move was unthinkable for me when I was <20  

[Delightful]

Something someone told a friend when they were working together -

She's asked him out and he said no. He then pointed out that he wasn't friend zoning her, she'd ready boyfriend-zoned him.

Point being, it doesn't have to be a romantic relationship, it doesn't have to be a friendship. It can be either or none, but maybe it'll be better to go about is as "this person seems pretty great and I would like some kind of relationship with them, I don't mind what, let's just see how it goes".

I'm not quite sure how you'd communicate that to the other person though.

To change the topic.....another terror attack today. 8 people run over including a baby girl who's now in hospital; an armed civilian managed to shoot the terrorist before he could get out the car and continue attacking with an axe he had with him.