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[Mestiv he/him]

My MacBook Pro has been running slowly lately. I've uninstalled Steam and a few other apps that were probably slowing it down, but I'll still get the spinning wheel of death after switching between Safari and Word, or when making a new paragraph on Word. It's been installing the same update for Word for the past ten minutes. I don't have all that much memory in use, and it's only two or three years old....argh. It's probably a simple fix, but I have no idea what.

I'm no expert on MacBooks (actually I've never used one ), but have you tried reinstalling Word? Maybe that'll solve the update problem.

 

Sorry guys, I might sound rude now, especially in the light of recent terrorist attack discussion here and Mistrunner's loss. I really do apologise for that, and please try to forgive me, but I really want to know the answer. I would be grateful if you could all reply my 100% truthfully. If you don't want to do it in public, you can reply in PM, I don't mind.  And please bear in mind that I am really not trying to offend anyone, really. I am really sorry if I do.  

 

So I do know that people generally tend to get sad if something bad happens to someone they know and like (at least as far as I know). But what about strangers? 

 

I noticed that a lot of people (here nad generally) seems to be very angry about for example the terrorist attacks, sad that people's lives were lost and so on. A lot of people seems to have these rather "deep thoughts", saying how aweful the whole situation is, going even as far as quoting poems. Of course that is not only true for terrorist atacks, but also everytime we hear about people dying, starving, getting hurt, loosing their houses, getting bad marks on exam and so on. So basically I noticed that people empathise with strangers, people that they never met. I think this topic is a really good example of that. 

 

I know that I probably shouldn't ask that and that I have no right to ask that, especially that I've been complaining in this thread a lot lately. But I still want to ask:

 

Do you actually mean everything you write here? Are these good, empathising words what you actually think? Do you actually feel for other people? Does hearing about the strangers deaths actually make you sad and angry? Do you actually care, feel anything? If yes, then do you think that most of other people also empathise with strangers, and feel bad for them?

 

Or do people say all these good things just because society expects it? Or because it makes people look good, when they say that they're sorry?

 

I know this is a weird question. I apologise for that. But please, please, answer me truthfully. I am really trying to figure something out, and I'll be grateful if you can help me. 

 

I rarely feel emotional enough about the things you mentioned to write anything here. I'm not gonna write things I don't really feel. Of course, I feel bad that people are dying etc, however I'm aware that terrible things happen around the world all the time. People die by hundreds if not thousands every day in Africa and Middle East, so I'm not that much moved by, for example, deaths in Paris. Sure, that was shocking, because it was much closer to me, than the fights with ISIS and I've been to Paris three times, but still I couldn't say that it ruined my day.

 

If I write something in this thread I almost always try to help, not because I feel sorry for someone, but because helping others is simply good  

[kaellok he/him]

I don't process emotions quickly or well, so if i'm talking to a person, in-person, at the time something has happened, then chances are good that I'll just be saying what's expected.  If I'm typing it out, I mean every word.  And there's a really good chance that I spent a rather long time thinking about it all, and working hard to make it convey what I mean and how I mean it--while still appearing natural and trying to make it feel sincere, without being chock full of cursing and random thought strings.  Because it is very sincere.  

 

With my post to Mistrunner, about their Aunt--I mean every word.  I remember the day my grandpa died so clearly, and the years leading up to it.  The pain and the grief are just as strong now as they were then, but time has allowed them to loose their grip on me so that I can put them away again.  

 

Here, in these forums, I don't post unless I feel I have something of meaning and worth to add.  There is no obligation.  The only expectation that people have is to not be an arse to others having a bad go of it.  The easiest way to meet that would be to not post at all.  So, I only post on what I really do care about, and strongly enough to spend the time necessary to process the emotions and craft a message that I hope will be of some sort of help or assistance to someone.

[Claincy he/him]

Like others I mean everything I post here. I do empathise more than I post but I tend to only post when I have something I think is particularly helpful or useful to say (or feel the need to talk about my own problems but that's a different kind of post ). I don't need to know/have known someone personally to feel sorrow at their loss. That said, I certainly could empathise more than I do but I choose not to. There's (naturally) only so much negative stuff (in others lives and my own) that I can really think about at a time without it negatively impacting my own mental state and behaviour which would have a ripple effect to other people I interact with.

[Kobold King he/him]

Sorry guys, I might sound rude now, especially in the light of recent terrorist attack discussion here and Mistrunner's loss. I really do apologise for that, and please try to forgive me, but I really want to know the answer. I would be grateful if you could all reply my 100% truthfully. If you don't want to do it in public, you can reply in PM, I don't mind.  And please bear in mind that I am really not trying to offend anyone, really. I am really sorry if I do.  

 

So I do know that people generally tend to get sad if something bad happens to someone they know and like (at least as far as I know). But what about strangers? 

 

I noticed that a lot of people (here nad generally) seems to be very angry about for example the terrorist attacks, sad that people's lives were lost and so on. A lot of people seems to have these rather "deep thoughts", saying how aweful the whole situation is, going even as far as quoting poems. Of course that is not only true for terrorist atacks, but also everytime we hear about people dying, starving, getting hurt, loosing their houses, getting bad marks on exam and so on. So basically I noticed that people empathise with strangers, people that they never met. I think this topic is a really good example of that. 

 

I know that I probably shouldn't ask that and that I have no right to ask that, especially that I've been complaining in this thread a lot lately. But I still want to ask:

 

Do you actually mean everything you write here? Are these good, empathising words what you actually think? Do you actually feel for other people? Does hearing about the strangers deaths actually make you sad and angry? Do you actually care, feel anything? If yes, then do you think that most of other people also empathise with strangers, and feel bad for them?

 

Or do people say all these good things just because society expects it? Or because it makes people look good, when they say that they're sorry?

 

I know this is a weird question. I apologise for that. But please, please, answer me truthfully. I am really trying to figure something out, and I'll be grateful if you can help me. 

 

 

Yes. Feeling sorry for people you've never met is an integral part of being a human being. Feeling angry at the people who destroy precious innocent lives is also an integral part of being a human being. Feeling scared that the same thing could happen to you or your loved ones is also an integral part of a human being.

 

To the best of my knowledge we are all humans, so I'd hazard to guess that we're all trying to express our genuine horrified emotions in the wake of these tragedies.

[Curious Anamaximder he/him]

Sorry guys, I might sound rude now, especially in the light of recent terrorist attack discussion here and Mistrunner's loss. I really do apologise for that, and please try to forgive me, but I really want to know the answer. I would be grateful if you could all reply my 100% truthfully. If you don't want to do it in public, you can reply in PM, I don't mind.  And please bear in mind that I am really not trying to offend anyone, really. I am really sorry if I do.  

 

So I do know that people generally tend to get sad if something bad happens to someone they know and like (at least as far as I know). But what about strangers? 

 

I noticed that a lot of people (here nad generally) seems to be very angry about for example the terrorist attacks, sad that people's lives were lost and so on. A lot of people seems to have these rather "deep thoughts", saying how aweful the whole situation is, going even as far as quoting poems. Of course that is not only true for terrorist atacks, but also everytime we hear about people dying, starving, getting hurt, loosing their houses, getting bad marks on exam and so on. So basically I noticed that people empathise with strangers, people that they never met. I think this topic is a really good example of that. 

 

I know that I probably shouldn't ask that and that I have no right to ask that, especially that I've been complaining in this thread a lot lately. But I still want to ask:

 

Do you actually mean everything you write here? Are these good, empathising words what you actually think? Do you actually feel for other people? Does hearing about the strangers deaths actually make you sad and angry? Do you actually care, feel anything? If yes, then do you think that most of other people also empathise with strangers, and feel bad for them?

 

Or do people say all these good things just because society expects it? Or because it makes people look good, when they say that they're sorry?

 

I know this is a weird question. I apologise for that. But please, please, answer me truthfully. I am really trying to figure something out, and I'll be grateful if you can help me.

I mean it. It is part of being a human, being human. Helping. Caring.

[Stormgate he/him]

The experiment evidently failed...

[Silverblade5 he/him]

Well this is just peachy. I lost my phone again, it's currently offline, and instead of in a field of grass this time it was in a field of grass. Someone get me a hardcover of Project Horizons. I need to do some book wacking.

[Mistrunner]

What would I give to see one of my friends again. Any of them. To be able to talk and laugh and song random songs with someone. To have someone to partner up with in class. To be a weirdo and be absolutely stupid and not care a fig.

Loneliness isn't fun.

[Zathoth]

I know how you feel, Im not sure what to do about it though, other than to figure out elsecalling.

 

 

 

Sooo... I got in a fight with my best friend at the start of this year and that was it, we do not talk anymore... and today is her birthday and... sigh...

 

I miss her...

[Delightful]

Mistrunner : try Skype?

Morzathoth: I'm sorry. Have you tried to contact her since?

*hugs all*

And some cremhole on Facebook decided to post mAjor Star Wars spoilers on a group I'm part of. Delightful is not a happy camper.

[Pestis the Spider she/her]

Guys, all of you who answered me before: thank you, thank you so much! I really appreciate that. Have each an upvote.

[The Honor Spren she/her]

What would I give to see one of my friends again. Any of them. To be able to talk and laugh and song random songs with someone. To have someone to partner up with in class. To be a weirdo and be absolutely stupid and not care a fig.

Loneliness isn't fun.

I understand. I've been there. First two years of homeschool group, I talked to no one. But I can promise that it does get better. Eventually, you find someone sort of cool that can laugh with you. Just keep looking.

Are there any other young women at church? You could try and start there.

Edit: and I would also try Morzathoth's idea. Skype is great.

Edited December 18, 2015 by The Honor Spren

[ChickenPlague he/him]

Edit: and I would also try Morzathoth's idea.

Figuring out Elsecalling?

[The Honor Spren she/her]

Figuring out Elsecalling?

Yes.

But I guess I got his post confused with Delightful's

[DreamEternal]

Feeling angry at the people who destroy precious innocent lives is also an integral part of being a human being.

Well... this is awkward. I have a personal rule to never feel hatred and generaly my compassion for the victim does not turn into anger towards the agressor.

So I guess I am a very elaborated biological android?

EDIT: Not that I care about not experiencing what Kobold calls an integral part of being human. Certain elements of the human condition are negative, and I don't agree with that part of Kobold's post anyway.

Edited December 18, 2015 by CognitivePulsePattern

[TwiLyghtSansSparkles she/her]

Oh, yay. Another sales guy who doesn't think I know how to do my job. Guess who just lost his make-the-receptionist-do-menial-tasks privilege.

[Oversleep]

And some cremhole on Facebook decided to post mAjor Star Wars spoilers on a group I'm part of.

It happened to me, too. I could shrug it off, to some level, as in "they're just trolling", but some storming voidbringer of a friend posted exactly the same thing. Do these people really can not ruin somebody else's experience?

 

Of course, even "fake-spoilers" are annoying as hell. I like to call it Spoiler's Wager. If the spoiler is true, then you have your movie ruined. If it's not true, you also know what wouldn't happen and it still ruins the thing.

[Kobold King he/him]

It happened to me, too. I could shrug it off, to some level, as in "they're just trolling", but some storming voidbringer of a friend posted exactly the same thing. Do these people really can not ruin somebody else's experience?

 

Of course, even "fake-spoilers" are annoying as hell. I like to call it Spoiler's Wager. If the spoiler is true, then you have your movie ruined. If it's not true, you also know what wouldn't happen and it still ruins the thing.

 

 

EXACTLY. I joke with my brother with fake spoilers, but I always make sure they're completely absurd and couldn't possibly be mistaken for the real deal. "The Doctor lending Ant-Man his sonic screwdriver was an amazing cameo." "I really loved Twilight Sparkle showing up at the end of The Avengers. Wanna bet that they use the Elements of Harmony on Thanos?" That sort of thing.

 

I can't stand it when people post plausible or even halfway plausible "joke" spoilers.

[Pestis the Spider she/her]

Oh, no, I think I just saw a spoiler! I was watching youtube video, and there was comment which I barely noticed. So I was like "Oh, wait, what was that?"  So I actually came back to this comment, and read it, and now my SW watching experience is ruined. That is terrible. You can't do anything in the internet, because there are spoilers in so many random places. 

Edited December 19, 2015 by Pestis the Spider

[Kaymyth she/her]

At least our staff here are making sure the Shard remains as spoiler-free as possible.  This corner of the internet is (relatively) safe!

[TwiLyghtSansSparkles she/her]

Yay, Dad's home!  

 

"Bruce loves his life here. He's going to be heartbroken when you move." Translation: "Move to Spokane, idiot." 

 

"Boy, Bruce sure loves his family." Translation: "Move to Spokane, idiot." 

 

"Bruce loves his house, he loves his family, and he loves his friends." Translation: "Move to Spokane, idiot." 

 

Yay, Dad's home.  

[Briar King]

I knew that would happen that's why I stayed away from FB since the 14th. My notifications were piling up. Luckily I got to see movie last night and don't have to be dark online now

[Delightful]

Also even if I decide that I'm going to treat the spoilers as false, I spend the movie subconsciously waiting for x to happen. :/.

[ThirdGen]

I spend the movie subconsciously waiting for x to happen. :/.

 

Movies get way more fun if you stop anticipating.

[Delightful]

Yes but spoilers. I hate spoilers.