Mistrunner Posted December 7, 2015 Posted December 7, 2015 *hugs* Deep breaths. I know how that feels and it sucks. It does get better I promise. Do you have holidays soon? *hugs* *hugs back*Thanks. I needed that. They're in two weeks. Feels like forever sometimes, but hopefully they'll be here soon.
Delightful Posted December 7, 2015 Posted December 7, 2015 Ok. Two weeks. 14 days. 10 days of school. You can do this Crazy idea, set each day as an order of the Knights radiant, and try espouse their ideals that day. It'll make it more fun. Life before death. Strength before weakness. Journey before destination. Deep breaths before panic. Swimming before sinking. Hugs before tears. Mistrunner will rise again! 8
Mistrunner Posted December 7, 2015 Posted December 7, 2015 Ok. Two weeks. 14 days. 10 days of school. You can do this Crazy idea, set each day as an order of the Knights radiant, and try espouse their ideals that day. It'll make it more fun. Life before death. Strength before weakness. Journey before destination. Deep breaths before panic. Swimming before sinking. Hugs before tears. Mistrunner will rise again! I love it! 3
Young Bard he/him Posted December 7, 2015 Posted December 7, 2015 (edited) My mother gives me a lecture about how I should be independent, resilient, and self-sufficient. I shouldn't just let people push me around, and I should always be fair. The same afternoon, she makes up a something I've done wrong out of thin air (apparently, I'd failed to do some task or other, which she'd never mentioned that I'd had to do in the first place, nor was it my job to do... ever.) Then, she assigns a 'punishment', of more chores, co-incidentally hers. When I point out the flaws in that line of arguing (in a perfectly calm and reasonable matter), suddenly I'm being 'insubordinate'. Twi, I can completely sympathise. Ok. Two weeks. 14 days. 10 days of school. You can do thisCrazy idea, set each day as an order of the Knights radiant, and try espouse their ideals that day. It'll make it more fun.Life before death. Strength before weakness. Journey before destination. Deep breaths before panic. Swimming before sinking. Hugs before tears. Mistrunner will rise again! What year are you in? In Australia, they very suddenly ramp up the amount of pressure at the end of Year 10. The previous years, you could basically chill out after the report cards had been written. But, the entire point of Year 11 and 12 is just to give you a massive shock to get you to start taking things seriously. Apparently, they're starting that treatment early with us. Edited December 7, 2015 by The Young Bard 3
TwiLyghtSansSparkles she/her Posted December 7, 2015 Posted December 7, 2015 Can't multiquote on mobile, but.... @Mistrunner: Delightful's advice. This thing, she is good. Or imagine you're at Hogwarts, if you can't find a way to work the Knights Radiant into some part of your day. The point is to make it more fun and add a little daydreaming to your day. And if your parents start piling on the stress, may I recommend Skillet's "It's Not Me, It's You"? @The Young Bard: And here I was about to ask if you secretly had my mom. I eventually got to the point where I just stopped arguing with her. I don't disagree with anything she says, unless it's extremely trivial, and even then I'm careful. So of course, during our last argument, I said nothing in my own defense and just apologized for everything and promise to do better next time....so she complained that "this isn't a discussion; I'm having a monologue!" There's just no pleasing some parents. 1
Delightful Posted December 7, 2015 Posted December 7, 2015 My mother gives me a lecture about how I should be independent, resilient, and self-sufficient. I shouldn't just let people push me around, and I should always be fair. The same afternoon, she makes up a something I've done wrong out of thin air (apparently, I'd failed to do some task or other, which she'd never mentioned that I'd had to do in the first place, nor was it my job to do... ever.) Then, she assigns a 'punishment', of more chores, co-incidentally hers. When I point out the flaws in that line of arguing (in a perfectly calm and reasonable matter), suddenly I'm being 'insubordinate'. Twi, I can completely sympathise. What year are you in? In Australia, they very suddenly ramp up the amount of pressure at the end of Year 10. The previous years, you could basically chill out after the report cards had been written. But, the entire point of Year 11 and 12 is just to give you a massive shock to get you to start taking things seriously. Apparently, they're starting that treatment early with us. Uh oh. Listen, the Australian system isn't mentally healthy. School puts pressure on teachers, teachers put pressure on themselves and on their students, students get pressured from school, teachers, parents and themselves for two years solid. Somehow, you've gotta keep your head and keep calm as much as possible through that. You can make it through alright, most people do, Journey before Destination. Make a point of taking time to relax, to eat, sleep, look after your health, physical and emotional. Try not to let outside pressures get to you, which believe me I know is way easier said than done. And we're all here for venting whenever you need. PM me if you want. 1
Orlion Blight he/him Posted December 7, 2015 Posted December 7, 2015 Delightful speaks sooth. Remember to also reward yourself after a particularly difficult exam or project. Me, I treated myself to ice cream and soda but you might want chocolate. 1
Kaymyth she/her Posted December 7, 2015 Posted December 7, 2015 Stupid backup 'puter and its lack of Firefox. IE won't quote properly. Mistrunner - Why do I get the feeling that you are an introvert child of extravert parents? Young Bard - bleh. Inconsistency is a huge parenting fail. 2
Zathoth Posted December 7, 2015 Posted December 7, 2015 I feel like nobody cares what I think. And even on here, I keep typing up long posts, overthinking them, editing them down to nothing, and giving up altogether. I'm drowning in schoolwork I can't finish. I used to be really good at school, but I've lost motivation. I keep getting exasperation from my parents about how I don't do things and how I need to but nothing is interesting, and when it is, it's horribly awkward because I hardly know anyone and it's not fun at all. Parents keep telling me to talk to people, put myself out there. I try, and I keep trying, but it never works. I just need some time away from the world and its breakneck pace that somehow makes a week pass by at the pace of a snail and a jet plane at the same time, but I can't have any, and life keeps rushing onward, dragging me behind it. I dont even type long posts, I just type something, decide it doesnt add anything to the conversation and delete it. Well thats the story of my entire life, but with understanding parents and most of the bad stuff in school and I turned out fine... right? Im not sure how to actually solve it, still, but I have some ways of surviving and things I wish I could tell 13 year old myself that may or may not apply to you Following my advice may have unexpected consequences, I take no responsibility. 1. It gets better. 2. Im serious, it does. 3. Chemistry is pointless, learn to play an instrument instead. (Or drawing or something) 4. If not that spend the time you waste on not understanding chemistry to do better in the subjects you do understand. 5. If you dont want to outright ditch chemistry find the minimum requirements to pass and do that, then spend time on something you can actually pass with decent grades. (Your chemistry may be another subject, for me it was chemistry and no I did not pass chemistry) 6. Everything is funny, somehow, you just need to find the right angle (Follow with caution, side effects may include finding things funny when you shouldnt, telling inappropriate jokes about death and decay, making Delightful uncomfortable and wondering where it all went wrong after you laugh at an especially distasteful joke) 7. Being mysterious is great and all, but when you are lonely it may be better to wear your personality. I once took a walk wearing a Black Sabbath t-shirt and found another person wearing the same t-shirt, we talked for about 30 minutes about everything but Black Sabbath. A guy was playing Zelda music in the hallway, we now talk whenever we see each other. 8. It gets better. 9. Making friends gets easier if you know one person. How you find that person is something I will update you on as soon as I figure it out myself. That may or may not have been horrible advice, hopefully it was at least entertaining. 3
Delightful Posted December 7, 2015 Posted December 7, 2015 ^^at the very least, im flattered that I got a mention and that you care about not making me feel uncomfortable. 1
Blaze1616 he/him Posted December 7, 2015 Posted December 7, 2015 3. Chemistry is pointless, learn to play an instrument instead. (Or drawing or something) As a chemical engineer: 8
Orlion Blight he/him Posted December 7, 2015 Posted December 7, 2015 As a chemical engineer: I studied chemistry in college, and I approve of this message. 2
Mistrunner Posted December 7, 2015 Posted December 7, 2015 Delightful speaks sooth. Remember to also reward yourself after a particularly difficult exam or project. Me, I treated myself to ice cream and soda but you might want chocolate. Mm. Good advice. Thanks. Stupid backup 'puter and its lack of Firefox. IE won't quote properly. Mistrunner - Why do I get the feeling that you are an introvert child of extravert parents? Yeah. My dad especially will talk to anyone anywhere. And he can speak multiple languages, too, so I've seen him small talk in Spanish, Russian, and Arabic in addition to English. He can talk to anyone.@Morzathoth, nice list! I will try my hardest not to make Delightful uncomfortable. Thanks, everyone. *hugs* 2
+Slowswift Posted December 7, 2015 Posted December 7, 2015 Mm. Good advice. Thanks. Yeah. My dad especially will talk to anyone anywhere. And he can speak multiple languages, too, so I've seen him small talk in Spanish, Russian, and Arabic in addition to English. He can talk to anyone. @Morzathoth, nice list! I will try my hardest not to make Delightful uncomfortable. Thanks, everyone. *hugs* Late hugs still accepted? 1
TwiLyghtSansSparkles she/her Posted December 7, 2015 Posted December 7, 2015 Mistrunner, have you seen this comic, by the way? If your parents are the understanding type, this might help them understand you better. If they're not….well, I have a couple of songs I listen to when I'm mad at my parents and I'd be happy to share. 3
Delightful Posted December 7, 2015 Posted December 7, 2015 Mm. Good advice. Thanks. Yeah. My dad especially will talk to anyone anywhere. And he can speak multiple languages, too, so I've seen him small talk in Spanish, Russian, and Arabic in addition to English. He can talk to anyone. @Morzathoth, nice list! I will try my hardest not to make Delightful uncomfortable. Thanks, everyone. *hugs* Why thank you dear Mistrunner 1
Mistrunner Posted December 7, 2015 Posted December 7, 2015 Late hugs still accepted?Of course! *hugs* Mistrunner, have you seen this comic, by the way? If your parents are the understanding type, this might help them understand you better. If they're not….well, I have a couple of songs I listen to when I'm mad at my parents and I'd be happy to share. That is perfect. My parents aren't likely to respond, though. Well, who knows, maybe they will.And I'm always open to song suggestions.
Briar King Posted December 8, 2015 Posted December 8, 2015 Ugh I have no clue what Santa is supposed to be getting my kids this yr. Some Star Wars stuff for sure for my boy but I'm just lost for my girl this yr.
Kaymyth she/her Posted December 8, 2015 Posted December 8, 2015 Ugh I have no clue what Santa is supposed to be getting my kids this yr. Some Star Wars stuff for sure for my boy but I'm just lost for my girl this yr. Wait, why can't the girl get Star Wars stuff, too? (I got my niece the book "Vader's Little Princess" last year. It quickly became her favorite.) 3
+Slowswift Posted December 8, 2015 Posted December 8, 2015 Of course! *hugs* And I'm always open to song suggestions. Yay! *hugs* Um, Collective Soul? JK, JK, I'll back off now. 1
TwiLyghtSansSparkles she/her Posted December 8, 2015 Posted December 8, 2015 Wait, why can't the girl get Star Wars stuff, too? (I got my niece the book "Vader's Little Princess" last year. It quickly became her favorite.) :-D I love that book so much. And when I was a kid, I would've been delighted to get more nerdy stuff.
Briar King Posted December 8, 2015 Posted December 8, 2015 I think she ll get the SW make up sets from Cover Girl. She's really not that into it even though thanks to my ex wife her name is Jaina. She's hard to shop for.
Young Bard he/him Posted December 8, 2015 Posted December 8, 2015 (edited) "You do favors because it's a nice thing to do, not because you should expect anything in return." - My mother, when she's asked me to do her a favor. "Why should I do this? What's in it for me?" - My mother, after I ask her to do a favor. Also, spellcheck telling me spelling favor with a u is a mistake, because of American spelling. I like my u's. Americans can leave them alone. Ugh I have no clue what Santa is supposed to be getting my kids this yr. Some Star Wars stuff for sure for my boy but I'm just lost for my girl this yr. Christmas presents are a pain. I actually made a deal with a friend, that neither of us have to get each other a Christmas present, which saves both of us a lot of stress and worrying. We both agree it's a better solution. (Although I think my friend and I are in the minority with this one. There are other people I know that would be aghast if I even suggested the idea.) And I'm always open to song suggestions. Cool music. Edited December 8, 2015 by The Young Bard 3
Left he/him Posted December 8, 2015 Posted December 8, 2015 I got three hours of sleep Sunday night. It was bad. Just couldn't fall asleep. The time did go pretty quickly though, I wasn't counting the minutes in a painful laborious way, I was still awake though. Also, yesterday was leg day. Pain! 1
Guest Posted December 8, 2015 Posted December 8, 2015 Ugh I have no clue what Santa is supposed to be getting my kids this yr. Some Star Wars stuff for sure for my boy but I'm just lost for my girl this yr. How old is your daughter Briar? Perhaps I can provide help in finding a good gift she'll like. I have a daughter too and a son.
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