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[Vielence She/Her]

23 hours ago, Kansas Stormcursed said:

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I hate the way my brain works, but more than anything I hate the split personality that society has given me. I hold a lot of this against my parents, which is why although I'll never say I hate them, because I was told you can't hate somebody you love, I'm still eager to get out of this house. I've heard adults say that they wish they had spent more time with their parents, and honestly they can shut the storm up. I've heard that my whole damn life, and I swear to God that alone has given me whatever ODD-like rust I have. Every single time I hear that I just want to punch somebody, because I stormING KNOW. I KNOW THE SAME OLD stormING STORY. BUT MAYBE, JUST MAYBE, I'M NOT YOU.

Is it my fault, or is it hormones, or is it just life, or is it somebody else's fault? Make up your storming mine, because it can't be all of those. Everybody keeps telling me it's not my fault, when really, it is. It all traces back to me. It was my choice to listen to all those voices, to pull them in, and it's my choice to listen to them now. Because they're right. Everything they said is right. My mom can't be wrong. If she's wrong, then I was stormed up for nothing, and she can't be wrong. She's never wrong. She knows me better than I know myself.

There's a part of me that truly does love myself, and accepts that maybe it's not all my fault.

There's a part of me that tries to blame it all on others.

I shut those parts down real quick. Tie them up, lock them away, hamstring them, cut their Achilles, take their tongues out, take away any of their ability to do anything. They're wrong.

I can't even really tell anybody about it. I love my friends, on here and irl, but I don't trust them. I do with small things, but I have never told a single person all that's going through my head. They matter more. I'm here to hold them up, keep them going, and I'll keep going for that purpose. I'm just a childish person who, if I let myself talk, would be the most whiny slontze ever heard. storm, it messes me up just to have a mild response from someone about something I'm excited about, or for the response to be delayed. That alone sends me spiraling deeper. So I just cut myself off. I get burned and shut myself in storming Fort Knox.

I'm not even good at helping people. I'm not good with words. People tell me I am, and I wonder what they want from me. I try to pick apart what they're saying, find what they really mean at the core of it.

I use others just to hurt myself. Why shouldn't others use me for what they want?

Honors Ghost was rather surprised the other day when I told her I did not, in fact, want to "pull." I joke about wanting a partner, somebody to love, just to hide what's inside. I hurt and use those close to me. I'm addicted to my own pain, and I will gain it at the expense of others—especially at the expense of others, to cause myself more pain at the sight of their pain. So I steer clear of love, relationships, because I know who I'd be, and I won't do that.

I'm just well and truly stormed up.

I don't even really know why I wrote this. Ignore it I guess. If you read this far...why? There's no reason to.

General rant: the shard should censor where it needs to. No offense really meant to anybody, this is just me being angry and pissed off

*hugs*

I here if you need me

 

Of COURSE I read that far. I care about how you're doing. And I can handle the hard things. 

23 hours ago, #1 Taln Fan said:

Advice/response, if you want it. (also spoilered for length)

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That's completely valid. Parents play a huge role in the psychology of their kids, either good or bad. Unfortunately a lot of the time it's bad. Not out of any malicious intent, but just some people are bad parents. Sure some people should spend more time with their parents, but some people should get out of their house and not interact with toxic family members more than necessary. It's completely case by case.

It's never as simple as one or the other, unforunately. It's always gonna be some form of mix. Yes some things are partly the fault of your parents, society, etc. But also you have your own agency in how you handle outside sources of distress. But that also means you have the ability to improve aspects of your situation, even if it's in small ways. Sometime situations just suck, but the one thing you always have control over is your mindset, which can go further than you think.

Imo, a one sided relationship isn't a relationship. It's not at all sustainable to just pour into others without anything in return. Please have at least one IRL person you can vent everything to. You don't have to dump everything on them at once, but work up to it, trust them with things important to you, and be vulnerable. Ofc it's fricking hard, but it's necessary. I would've gone insane long ago if I didn't have a best friend I could tell literally everything. 

There's not a person on this Earth who isn't in some way, at some point in time. Trust me. But just because you're struggling doesn't mean you're any less valuable as a person or a friend. And it won't last forever, you'll change, and your environment will change. And if life sucks horribly rn, that just means it's going to get better at some point.

Easy, cuz I care. Duh.

 

This is a great response.

18 hours ago, TwinStorm said:

guys

I don't know what to do

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my mother is rly struggling with depression and idk how to help her besides just not being a pain

thoughts? ideas? I love her and want to help her but idk how

 

*hugs*
Sorry the best I have is sunshine.

*more hugs*

[#1 Taln Fan he/him]

20 hours ago, TwinStorm said:

don't know what to do

Imo, the best approach is to just ask her if what you can do that would help her more. If she doesn’t say anything, then just try to find ways to make her life easier and reduce her background stress. Random acts of kindness can go a long way, even if just to show you care

[Keke They/he]

On 2/19/2026 at 11:02 PM, Kansas Stormcursed said:

Ok so here's kinda the reason I was gone plus some other ranting stuff, spoilered for length (I straight-up doubled the Discord length limit without Nitro )

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*sigh*

Alright

So I suppose outside my head it wasn't that bad

But there was more going on in my brain that made it worse

So I think I've mentioned before at least in passing that I have a tendency for self-sabotage

And that's entirely what this was

It dates back to my freshman year, when my dad had his affair and everything kinda went up in the air, and I figured out that missing the right amount of school assignments was the perfect way for me to get in trouble without losing the dojo. And I figured out that I liked it.

And then I kept doing it. I joke about having an addiction to dice, or to books, or to martial arts, but in all honesty my addiction is to my own pain. I love it and I hate it at the same time. As time goes on I recognize more and more how very Lightweaver I am. I have a few personalities, and in this issue there are two main ones. There's the Dylan who makes sure my actions never affect the dojo or my friends, and there's the Dylan who actively chomps at the bit, constantly wanting to test that line, to storm myself over and give myself a reason for hurting

I have no issue with using my parents to achieve this end, however. They're the only other ones that get stormed over by my skipping schoolwork, and the only part of me that feels guilty or bad at all is the part that knows I shouldn't do it

I don't feel bad for the action itself, or its consequences

I love the consequences

I am not a good person

I am not always a bad person, but there are times like this where I can not fit into the box of "decent person"

So I did it again. This time I got screen use restricted, really by my own effort—mom was ready to swap it for another punishment when she realized there was no real way to monitor and police that.

It's rather ironic, really. Taking my phone away was something I knew would happen, and part of the pain-infliction I was seeking. Not having contact just sent me deep down the spiral

And I liked it

It gave me something to attach a reason to

Something to hate

And love

At the same time.

Through that, I was stuck with my own thoughts, and I realized something. I'm tired. I'm so storming tired.

I'm tired of hiding from the people I love. I'm tired of not being able to trust them, of constantly fearing nothing real.

I'm tired of being a child playing dress-up. My closest friends are all mature and well-put-together, and I'm over here barely holding together the illusion of functionality. I'm just a little kid wearing a mask I've cleverly constructed, and I have been for years, and probably will be forever

I'm tired of being support without being able to make myself rely on others for support. I'm a lone brick holding up a whole goddamn building, and there's nothing but open air beneath me.

I'm tired of it all being the same old rust

I'm tired of getting told the same old rust

I'm tired of people saying "you're a teenager, it's hormones"

"That's not who you are"

"I know you"

"No"

I'm tired of the same old responses that aren't right and don't do jack rust but make me angrier and angrier

I'm tired of hiding that I'm angry

I'm tired of being the peacekeeper

I'm tired of not knowing how to not be the oeacekeeper

I'm tired of knowledge

I'm tired of this

Really hoping it autocensors all that and that I didn't obstruct that with misspelling

 

Danke sehr

*hugs*

Im gonna say everybody covered it all, ik im late but im offering *hugs*

On 2/23/2026 at 6:18 PM, TwinStorm said:

guys

I don't know what to do

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my mother is rly struggling with depression and idk how to help her besides just not being a pain

thoughts? ideas? I love her and want to help her but idk how

 

Tbh i dont know, other then what i do with my mom.

sometimes its dificult cause they are a lot older then us and normally are the ones comforting us, sometimes all i can do is hold her. When she’s crying i just hug her until she’s better. So… just let her know she’s loved and her work is noticed.

@Rynturning_Light

it deleted your post from my text box accidently so

*hugs* you are awesome.

—

my own thing here, im glad to see that this thread has continued in my absence.

Spoiler

To be honest, my life kinda exploded again, between school home and friends i finally broke. And i had been doing so well with myself just to have all that progress go down. And then the past few days ive seen something very important. A reminder that i have friends and family who love me, and remind me that i deserve said love. And the past two days specifically i noticed i was smiling without any weight, no attempt to force it, no pain behind it. I was laughing freely, it’s been a while since i could do that. And god it feels so good. Theres a light i promise everyone. Alright? If you hold out it will get better. And to paraphrase hoid. It will get worse, then better and worse again. I cant tell you that everyday will be shunshine, but it’ll shine again. At some point, whether it’s tomorrow or in a few months. The. Sun. Will. Shin. Again. 

If theres 1000 people in the world that love you, im one of them

if theres 50 people in the world that love you im one of them

if theres 20 people in the world who love you IM one of them

if theres 10 people in the world who love you im one of them

if theres 5 people in the world who love you im one of them

if there’s ONE person in the world who loves you, i am that person. 

Never give up. 

 

[SpartanBrigade He/Him]

3 minutes ago, Keke said:

*hugs*

Im gonna say everybody covered it all, ik im late but im offering *hugs*

Tbh i dont know, other then what i do with my mom.

sometimes its dificult cause they are a lot older then us and normally are the ones comforting us, sometimes all i can do is hold her. When she’s crying i just hug her until she’s better. So… just let her know she’s loved and her work is noticed.

@Rynturning_Light

it deleted your post from my text box accidently so

*hugs* you are awesome.

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my own thing here, im glad to see that this thread has continued in my absence.

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To be honest, my life kinda exploded again, between school home and friends i finally broke. And i had been doing so well with myself just to have all that progress go down. And then the past few days ive seen something very important. A reminder that i have friends and family who love me, and remind me that i deserve said love. And the past two days specifically i noticed i was smiling without any weight, no attempt to force it, no pain behind it. I was laughing freely, it’s been a while since i could do that. And god it feels so good. Theres a light i promise everyone. Alright? If you hold out it will get better. And to paraphrase hoid. It will get worse, then better and worse again. I cant tell you that everyday will be shunshine, but it’ll shine again. At some point, whether it’s tomorrow or in a few months. The. Sun. Will. Shin. Again. 

If theres 1000 people in the world that love you, im one of them

if theres 50 people in the world that love you im one of them

if theres 20 people in the world who love you IM one of them

if theres 10 people in the world who love you im one of them

if theres 5 people in the world who love you im one of them

if there’s ONE person in the world who loves you, i am that person. 

Never give up. 

 

*hugs*

Love you man

[Ink and Embers Any pronouns]

1 hour ago, Keke said:

*hugs*

Im gonna say everybody covered it all, ik im late but im offering *hugs*

Tbh i dont know, other then what i do with my mom.

sometimes its dificult cause they are a lot older then us and normally are the ones comforting us, sometimes all i can do is hold her. When she’s crying i just hug her until she’s better. So… just let her know she’s loved and her work is noticed.

@Rynturning_Light

it deleted your post from my text box accidently so

*hugs* you are awesome.

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my own thing here, im glad to see that this thread has continued in my absence.

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To be honest, my life kinda exploded again, between school home and friends i finally broke. And i had been doing so well with myself just to have all that progress go down. And then the past few days ive seen something very important. A reminder that i have friends and family who love me, and remind me that i deserve said love. And the past two days specifically i noticed i was smiling without any weight, no attempt to force it, no pain behind it. I was laughing freely, it’s been a while since i could do that. And god it feels so good. Theres a light i promise everyone. Alright? If you hold out it will get better. And to paraphrase hoid. It will get worse, then better and worse again. I cant tell you that everyday will be shunshine, but it’ll shine again. At some point, whether it’s tomorrow or in a few months. The. Sun. Will. Shin. Again. 

If theres 1000 people in the world that love you, im one of them

if theres 50 people in the world that love you im one of them

if theres 20 people in the world who love you IM one of them

if theres 10 people in the world who love you im one of them

if theres 5 people in the world who love you im one of them

if there’s ONE person in the world who loves you, i am that person. 

Never give up. 

 

*hugs* 

We love you too!!!

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[happytrainthoughts she/her]

Hey, I know I’m new here, but I needed a place to rant if that’s okay?

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I’m not doing so great. My group of friends has problems, and normally I’m the therapist friend who just listens because I have no diagnosed issues. But I also suck at social interactions, and I overreact to everything. I keep thinking a slight frown in my direction means I’ve just said something that offended them, or I talk too much when responding to them, or I say something stupid that they take the wrong way and then they don’t believe me when I said I don’t mean it like that. I also have been having really bad intrusive thoughts recently, which I’ve been avoiding by keeping myself busy, which is ruining my schedule. Now, I’m overwhelmed and tired all the time and drowning in schoolwork and social matters that I messed up somehow and I don’t know how to fix it and I don’t have anyone to talk to. I’m so so sorry if I interrupted anyone else’s rants or thoughts. I know it’s kinda stupid and minor but I wanted to say something.

I think I did that right? Sorry I’m new here and I’m still figuring out how to work the controls.

[Kansas Stormcursed he/him]

Just now, happytrainthoughts said:

Hey, I know I’m new here, but I needed a place to rant if that’s okay?

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I’m not doing so great. My group of friends has problems, and normally I’m the therapist friend who just listens because I have no diagnosed issues. But I also suck at social interactions, and I overreact to everything. I keep thinking a slight frown in my direction means I’ve just said something that offended them, or I talk too much when responding to them, or I say something stupid that they take the wrong way and then they don’t believe me when I said I don’t mean it like that. I also have been having really bad intrusive thoughts recently, which I’ve been avoiding by keeping myself busy, which is ruining my schedule. Now, I’m overwhelmed and tired all the time and drowning in schoolwork and social matters that I messed up somehow and I don’t know how to fix it and I don’t have anyone to talk to. I’m so so sorry if I interrupted anyone else’s rants or thoughts. I know it’s kinda stupid and minor but I wanted to say something.

I think I did that right? Sorry I’m new here and I’m still figuring out how to work the controls.

Hey

It's okay

Rule 1: be kind

Rule 2: nothing is small or minor. You need to get it out of your head. And there's no priority here, anybody posts whenever

[Ink and Embers Any pronouns]

12 hours ago, happytrainthoughts said:

Hey, I know I’m new here, but I needed a place to rant if that’s okay?

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I’m not doing so great. My group of friends has problems, and normally I’m the therapist friend who just listens because I have no diagnosed issues. But I also suck at social interactions, and I overreact to everything. I keep thinking a slight frown in my direction means I’ve just said something that offended them, or I talk too much when responding to them, or I say something stupid that they take the wrong way and then they don’t believe me when I said I don’t mean it like that. I also have been having really bad intrusive thoughts recently, which I’ve been avoiding by keeping myself busy, which is ruining my schedule. Now, I’m overwhelmed and tired all the time and drowning in schoolwork and social matters that I messed up somehow and I don’t know how to fix it and I don’t have anyone to talk to. I’m so so sorry if I interrupted anyone else’s rants or thoughts. I know it’s kinda stupid and minor but I wanted to say something.

I think I did that right? Sorry I’m new here and I’m still figuring out how to work the controls.

*hugs*

Thank you for ranting!!!! It's much better than bottling it up

[Shatter He/Him]

13 hours ago, happytrainthoughts said:

Hey, I know I’m new here, but I needed a place to rant if that’s okay?

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I’m not doing so great. My group of friends has problems, and normally I’m the therapist friend who just listens because I have no diagnosed issues. But I also suck at social interactions, and I overreact to everything. I keep thinking a slight frown in my direction means I’ve just said something that offended them, or I talk too much when responding to them, or I say something stupid that they take the wrong way and then they don’t believe me when I said I don’t mean it like that. I also have been having really bad intrusive thoughts recently, which I’ve been avoiding by keeping myself busy, which is ruining my schedule. Now, I’m overwhelmed and tired all the time and drowning in schoolwork and social matters that I messed up somehow and I don’t know how to fix it and I don’t have anyone to talk to. I’m so so sorry if I interrupted anyone else’s rants or thoughts. I know it’s kinda stupid and minor but I wanted to say something.

I think I did that right? Sorry I’m new here and I’m still figuring out how to work the controls.

I get ya, friend. You aren't alone in this. I have the exact problem. If you ever need to talk about ANYTHING mental health-related, talk about it here.

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13 hours ago, happytrainthoughts said:

Hey, I know I’m new here, but I needed a place to rant if that’s okay?

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I’m not doing so great. My group of friends has problems, and normally I’m the therapist friend who just listens because I have no diagnosed issues. But I also suck at social interactions, and I overreact to everything. I keep thinking a slight frown in my direction means I’ve just said something that offended them, or I talk too much when responding to them, or I say something stupid that they take the wrong way and then they don’t believe me when I said I don’t mean it like that. I also have been having really bad intrusive thoughts recently, which I’ve been avoiding by keeping myself busy, which is ruining my schedule. Now, I’m overwhelmed and tired all the time and drowning in schoolwork and social matters that I messed up somehow and I don’t know how to fix it and I don’t have anyone to talk to. I’m so so sorry if I interrupted anyone else’s rants or thoughts. I know it’s kinda stupid and minor but I wanted to say something.

I think I did that right? Sorry I’m new here and I’m still figuring out how to work the controls.

I'm also the therapist friend who listened to everything but I have lots of diagnosed issues. I also get the intrusive thoughts, bc I get suicidal ideation and drown in schoolwork sometime too.

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[Aeoryi she/her]

It's difficult to be that friend who's always willing to listen to others. It takes a toll on you, after a while, and it's important to recognize when it's too much for you

[Rynturning_Light She/Her]

I am still not doing great. New batch of issues flaring up, but still

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I’m a very platonically lovey person. I don’t feel romantic feelings, so my desire for closeness is expressed in my platonic relationships (friendships and family)

With that being said, I’m scared. I feel like I’m gonna be left behind. Abandoned, without being too dramatic. Most of my friends are not aromantic, and desire relationships beyond friendships.

It might sound selfish, but this scares me. What place will there be for the close friendships that I love so much when they eventually find partners. What place will there be for me.

I know this is irrational. With what I want to do with my future — college, then med school, then residency — I probably won’t have time to be as close to my friends as I’d like. But, I don’t want to be left alone.

At the same time, I feel myself pulling away from my friends. It might be stress, or it may be my fear, but interacting with my friends has felt difficult recently. Tiring, in a way it doesn’t usually.

Idk. There’s no easy fix for this. Hell, there might not be a fix at all. I might just have to cope. I just wanted to rant

Talking about your feelings is supposed to help, right?

 

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[Honors Spectral Image She/her]

2 hours ago, Rynturning_Light said:

I am still not doing great. New batch of issues flaring up, but still

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I’m a very platonically lovey person. I don’t feel romantic feelings, so my desire for closeness is expressed in my platonic relationships (friendships and family)

With that being said, I’m scared. I feel like I’m gonna be left behind. Abandoned, without being too dramatic. Most of my friends are not aromantic, and desire relationships beyond friendships.

It might sound selfish, but this scares me. What place will there be for the close friendships that I love so much when they eventually find partners. What place will there be for me.

I know this is irrational. With what I want to do with my future — college, then med school, then residency — I probably won’t have time to be as close to my friends as I’d like. But, I don’t want to be left alone.

At the same time, I feel myself pulling away from my friends. It might be stress, or it may be my fear, but interacting with my friends has felt difficult recently. Tiring, in a way it doesn’t usually.

Idk. There’s no easy fix for this. Hell, there might not be a fix at all. I might just have to cope. I just wanted to rant

Talking about your feelings is supposed to help, right?

 

*huggggs* as a non aromantic person that is a completely rational fear, like even I feel it sometimes, I think on a dif level than you but still, and honestly, I don’t know. The only solution I can think of is once you become an adult try to get rly close friends with another aromantic person and yall can be roommates (partly bc rents sooo expensive) but also bc like life long sleepover, and try to like go visit your friends all the time, like my parents in their older age have been trying to navigate this so they set up dinner once a month with their closest friends, you could try something like that. Idk im like prolly the least qualified person to talk abt this but *huggggggggggggsssss* and im rly sorry your going through this

[Ink and Embers Any pronouns]

3 hours ago, Rynturning_Light said:

I am still not doing great. New batch of issues flaring up, but still

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I’m a very platonically lovey person. I don’t feel romantic feelings, so my desire for closeness is expressed in my platonic relationships (friendships and family)

With that being said, I’m scared. I feel like I’m gonna be left behind. Abandoned, without being too dramatic. Most of my friends are not aromantic, and desire relationships beyond friendships.

It might sound selfish, but this scares me. What place will there be for the close friendships that I love so much when they eventually find partners. What place will there be for me.

I know this is irrational. With what I want to do with my future — college, then med school, then residency — I probably won’t have time to be as close to my friends as I’d like. But, I don’t want to be left alone.

At the same time, I feel myself pulling away from my friends. It might be stress, or it may be my fear, but interacting with my friends has felt difficult recently. Tiring, in a way it doesn’t usually.

Idk. There’s no easy fix for this. Hell, there might not be a fix at all. I might just have to cope. I just wanted to rant

Talking about your feelings is supposed to help, right?

 

*hugs*

[Through The Living Glass She/They]

4 hours ago, Rynturning_Light said:

I am still not doing great. New batch of issues flaring up, but still

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I’m a very platonically lovey person. I don’t feel romantic feelings, so my desire for closeness is expressed in my platonic relationships (friendships and family)

With that being said, I’m scared. I feel like I’m gonna be left behind. Abandoned, without being too dramatic. Most of my friends are not aromantic, and desire relationships beyond friendships.

It might sound selfish, but this scares me. What place will there be for the close friendships that I love so much when they eventually find partners. What place will there be for me.

I know this is irrational. With what I want to do with my future — college, then med school, then residency — I probably won’t have time to be as close to my friends as I’d like. But, I don’t want to be left alone.

At the same time, I feel myself pulling away from my friends. It might be stress, or it may be my fear, but interacting with my friends has felt difficult recently. Tiring, in a way it doesn’t usually.

Idk. There’s no easy fix for this. Hell, there might not be a fix at all. I might just have to cope. I just wanted to rant

Talking about your feelings is supposed to help, right?

 

I was literally just talking about this with another friend

*hugs so tightly*

It'll be okay

Find some other aro/ace/aroace people  trust me, there are plenty out there.

You can do this, okay? It'll be alright

And we're always here if you want to talk  and we'll help you with whatever you need

[Rynturning_Light She/Her]

4 hours ago, Honors Ghost said:

*huggggs* as a non aromantic person that is a completely rational fear, like even I feel it sometimes, I think on a dif level than you but still, and honestly, I don’t know. The only solution I can think of is once you become an adult try to get rly close friends with another aromantic person and yall can be roommates (partly bc rents sooo expensive) but also bc like life long sleepover, and try to like go visit your friends all the time, like my parents in their older age have been trying to navigate this so they set up dinner once a month with their closest friends, you could try something like that. Idk im like prolly the least qualified person to talk abt this but *huggggggggggggsssss* and im rly sorry your going through this

 

3 hours ago, Ink and Embers said:

*hugs*

 

2 hours ago, Through The Living Glass said:

I was literally just talking about this with another friend

*hugs so tightly*

It'll be okay

Find some other aro/ace/aroace people  trust me, there are plenty out there.

You can do this, okay? It'll be alright

And we're always here if you want to talk  and we'll help you with whatever you need

Thanks y’all *hugs*

Just a little more, cause I’ve had basically nothing to do all day but think

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I feel like for the past while I’ve been watching my mental health slip, and have been doing nothing about it

Kinda like I’m on that edge of a cliff, and slipping. I have enough footing to pull myself back, but I’m not

I like to think I’m pretty well versed in mental stuff and how to deal with in. And, I’ve identified in myself what’s happening, but I haven’t been doing anything to resist it

If anything, I’ve been feeding into it. Unintentionally, but giving into that instinct to pull away from my friends and not talking to my family isn’t exactly helpful. And I know it’s wrong

I can handle this for everyone else around me, so why can’t I snap myself out of my bad habits

I have a first therapy appointment set up, but that isn’t for another 3 weeks. I just don’t know what to do in that time. I’m afraid of if and how this is going to escalate

 

[Aeoryi she/her]

7 hours ago, Rynturning_Light said:

I am still not doing great. New batch of issues flaring up, but still

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I’m a very platonically lovey person. I don’t feel romantic feelings, so my desire for closeness is expressed in my platonic relationships (friendships and family)

With that being said, I’m scared. I feel like I’m gonna be left behind. Abandoned, without being too dramatic. Most of my friends are not aromantic, and desire relationships beyond friendships.

It might sound selfish, but this scares me. What place will there be for the close friendships that I love so much when they eventually find partners. What place will there be for me.

I know this is irrational. With what I want to do with my future — college, then med school, then residency — I probably won’t have time to be as close to my friends as I’d like. But, I don’t want to be left alone.

At the same time, I feel myself pulling away from my friends. It might be stress, or it may be my fear, but interacting with my friends has felt difficult recently. Tiring, in a way it doesn’t usually.

Idk. There’s no easy fix for this. Hell, there might not be a fix at all. I might just have to cope. I just wanted to rant

Talking about your feelings is supposed to help, right?

 

I think there's some things that can help here:

Spoiler

1. You will make new friends. You will leave behind some friends, or they will leave behind you, at some point, because everyone takes different paths. 

2. People can have partners and also have friends. Yes, while you can't be the closest person anymore, that doesn't mean you can't be good friends. A good portion of my friends have relationships but I can still be close with them. 

3. Relationships do not innately supercede friendships. It depends greatly on the individual. Some people will end up valuing one or the other, but most people value both.

 

[Honors Spectral Image She/her]

26 minutes ago, Rynturning_Light said:

 

 

Thanks y’all *hugs*

Just a little more, cause I’ve had basically nothing to do all day but think

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I feel like for the past while I’ve been watching my mental health slip, and have been doing nothing about it

Kinda like I’m on that edge of a cliff, and slipping. I have enough footing to pull myself back, but I’m not

I like to think I’m pretty well versed in mental stuff and how to deal with in. And, I’ve identified in myself what’s happening, but I haven’t been doing anything to resist it

If anything, I’ve been feeding into it. Unintentionally, but giving into that instinct to pull away from my friends and not talking to my family isn’t exactly helpful. And I know it’s wrong

I can handle this for everyone else around me, so why can’t I snap myself out of my bad habits

I have a first therapy appointment set up, but that isn’t for another 3 weeks. I just don’t know what to do in that time. I’m afraid of if and how this is going to escalate

 

I think my only recommendation is try to let your friends know let them know that you aren trying to get more distant and that your working on it 

[Honors Spectral Image She/her]

This isn’t a rant at all it’s actually pretty much all

good news but it’s kinda like a big status update on my mental health

 

in the past few months my mental health has SIGNIFICANTLY improved as I grew more comfortable with being a girl and who I am, I’ve started trying to have a more positive outlook on things like when I wake up wanting to slice open my body and try to crawl out I think “well at least I’m not doing it” I’ve tried being nice to people no matter what they do. Ive organized a protest, and failed to organize dnd (but were trying so it’s ok) I’ve had a birthday, I’ve dyed my hair I’ve been to a concert. I watched an artist talk, I practiced my horn a lot, and I have gotten involved in zero serious drama. So yah I’m doing rly well I just wanted to let yall know since I haven’t posted much on here relating to myself in a few months 

[Aeoryi she/her]

18 minutes ago, Honors Ghost said:

This isn’t a rant at all it’s actually pretty much all

good news but it’s kinda like a big status update on my mental health

 

in the past few months my mental health has SIGNIFICANTLY improved as I grew more comfortable with being a girl and who I am, I’ve started trying to have a more positive outlook on things like when I wake up wanting to slice open my body and try to crawl out I think “well at least I’m not doing it” I’ve tried being nice to people no matter what they do. Ive organized a protest, and failed to organize dnd (but were trying so it’s ok) I’ve had a birthday, I’ve dyed my hair I’ve been to a concert. I watched an artist talk, I practiced my horn a lot, and I have gotten involved in zero serious drama. So yah I’m doing rly well I just wanted to let yall know since I haven’t posted much on here relating to myself in a few months 

that's super awesome girl

[Honors Spectral Image She/her]

Just now, Aeoryi said:

that's super awesome girl

Thx twin

[Kansas Stormcursed he/him]

15 hours ago, Rynturning_Light said:

I am still not doing great. New batch of issues flaring up, but still

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I’m a very platonically lovey person. I don’t feel romantic feelings, so my desire for closeness is expressed in my platonic relationships (friendships and family)

With that being said, I’m scared. I feel like I’m gonna be left behind. Abandoned, without being too dramatic. Most of my friends are not aromantic, and desire relationships beyond friendships.

It might sound selfish, but this scares me. What place will there be for the close friendships that I love so much when they eventually find partners. What place will there be for me.

I know this is irrational. With what I want to do with my future — college, then med school, then residency — I probably won’t have time to be as close to my friends as I’d like. But, I don’t want to be left alone.

At the same time, I feel myself pulling away from my friends. It might be stress, or it may be my fear, but interacting with my friends has felt difficult recently. Tiring, in a way it doesn’t usually.

Idk. There’s no easy fix for this. Hell, there might not be a fix at all. I might just have to cope. I just wanted to rant

Talking about your feelings is supposed to help, right?

 

8 hours ago, Rynturning_Light said:

 

 

Thanks y’all *hugs*

Just a little more, cause I’ve had basically nothing to do all day but think

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I feel like for the past while I’ve been watching my mental health slip, and have been doing nothing about it

Kinda like I’m on that edge of a cliff, and slipping. I have enough footing to pull myself back, but I’m not

I like to think I’m pretty well versed in mental stuff and how to deal with in. And, I’ve identified in myself what’s happening, but I haven’t been doing anything to resist it

If anything, I’ve been feeding into it. Unintentionally, but giving into that instinct to pull away from my friends and not talking to my family isn’t exactly helpful. And I know it’s wrong

I can handle this for everyone else around me, so why can’t I snap myself out of my bad habits

I have a first therapy appointment set up, but that isn’t for another 3 weeks. I just don’t know what to do in that time. I’m afraid of if and how this is going to escalate

 

*Hugs*

If you ever

EVER

Need to talk

I can always respond at least within a few hours max, typically most quickly

I could also give you my actual number if you wanted to reach me faster

[Keke They/he]

On 2/25/2026 at 10:34 PM, happytrainthoughts said:

Hey, I know I’m new here, but I needed a place to rant if that’s okay?

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I’m not doing so great. My group of friends has problems, and normally I’m the therapist friend who just listens because I have no diagnosed issues. But I also suck at social interactions, and I overreact to everything. I keep thinking a slight frown in my direction means I’ve just said something that offended them, or I talk too much when responding to them, or I say something stupid that they take the wrong way and then they don’t believe me when I said I don’t mean it like that. I also have been having really bad intrusive thoughts recently, which I’ve been avoiding by keeping myself busy, which is ruining my schedule. Now, I’m overwhelmed and tired all the time and drowning in schoolwork and social matters that I messed up somehow and I don’t know how to fix it and I don’t have anyone to talk to. I’m so so sorry if I interrupted anyone else’s rants or thoughts. I know it’s kinda stupid and minor but I wanted to say something.

I think I did that right? Sorry I’m new here and I’m still figuring out how to work the controls.

*hugs* even if its small its not stupid

i get that, actually, i went tyhrough a hole thing last week about it. *hugs* 

just know we all love you here!!

On 3/1/2026 at 3:39 AM, Rynturning_Light said:

I am still not doing great. New batch of issues flaring up, but still

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I’m a very platonically lovey person. I don’t feel romantic feelings, so my desire for closeness is expressed in my platonic relationships (friendships and family)

With that being said, I’m scared. I feel like I’m gonna be left behind. Abandoned, without being too dramatic. Most of my friends are not aromantic, and desire relationships beyond friendships.

It might sound selfish, but this scares me. What place will there be for the close friendships that I love so much when they eventually find partners. What place will there be for me.

I know this is irrational. With what I want to do with my future — college, then med school, then residency — I probably won’t have time to be as close to my friends as I’d like. But, I don’t want to be left alone.

At the same time, I feel myself pulling away from my friends. It might be stress, or it may be my fear, but interacting with my friends has felt difficult recently. Tiring, in a way it doesn’t usually.

Idk. There’s no easy fix for this. Hell, there might not be a fix at all. I might just have to cope. I just wanted to rant

Talking about your feelings is supposed to help, right?

 

*Hugs*

yes *Hugs*

i dont have any advice but i can empathize with your situation.

[Just-A-Stick she/her]

*waves*

does anyone know how i can tell if i have an actual serious problem or if i'm faking/being dramatic/imagining it?

specifically w/ eating disorders

[Kansas Stormcursed he/him]

1 minute ago, Just-A-Stick said:

*waves*

does anyone know how i can tell if i have an actual serious problem or if i'm faking/being dramatic/imagining it?

specifically w/ eating disorders

If you're questioning it, it's usually an actual problem

General rule of thumb

Otherwise, like, go to a doctor