Usseewa Posted March 14 Posted March 14 3 minutes ago, #1 Taln Fan said: As others have said, going outside is great for both physical and mental. Spend as much time off screens as possible, time with IRL friends whenever you can. Engaging in creative activities (especially if non-digital) is also very good for you. Doing a daily "3 good things" at the end of each day is also shown to help increase positive emotions. (Writing down 3 things throughout your day that made you happy, or smile, or were even mildly enjoyable, no matter how small). Gratitude journaling is also great. Specific activities are up to you, but in general, outdoor and creative activities are best, and things with friends are good. Also, there may be certain momentary situations when dwelling on emotions/problems isn't the best, but generally you do want to think on them and process them at least some. Like for as short as 5 seconds, maybe longer, but keep it to a finite amount of time. Then go do something that aligns with your goals of who you want to be in the long term. (Though ruminating for a long while without doing anything isn't good) Yes, please do. Saying that you're fine while not being fine is a practically universal experience, so most people can relate. If my friends opened up about mental struggles that they'd be hiding, I'd in no way judge them for hiding it, I'd just want to help them. If your friends are actual friends, they'll feel the same. Thank you I definitely should spend less time online, especially when I know it's one cause of my anxiety and stuff. The journaling idea actually sounds kinda cool. Might be hard to keep it up but I'll try. I like writing, but I also do a lot of it on my phone/computer. And also some of it's just plain depressing and probably not good for me. I guess I will talk to someone. It has helped in the past, including recently, but I keep needing to do it. Maybe that's the point. But my problems keep resurfacing and I often don't express the truest/deepest form of them. Like I'm vague or downplay or don't elaborate where I should and sometimes even I don't know what my problems are, or don't want to confront or express them because then maybe they become real. Luckily my phone's about to die so then I'll be unable to use it to get back on the Shard until I have access to a charger. I need more friends... but also what about when they're just online? Not just online friends like on the Shard, but friends I know/meet in-person but only like once a week (clubs) and then sometimes text and idk I just don't have many/any friends in the ways some people here do. I hopefully will (Will, haha) in the future... (meaning I'm confident I will, or at least have a higher chance/opportunity for it). For what you said about the 5 seconds and rumination thing.. it can be hard sometimes for me to ruminate, maybe just because I don't want to (like I said before about confronting/saying/real).
#1 Taln Fan he/him Posted March 14 Posted March 14 1 minute ago, Through The Living Girl said: Maybe that's the point. But my problems keep resurfacing and I often don't express the truest/deepest form of them. Like I'm vague or downplay or don't elaborate where I should and sometimes even I don't know what my problems are, or don't want to confront or express them because then maybe they become real. When it comes to opening up to your friends, you get what you put in. If you don't tell the full extent of your troubles, they can only help so much. For me, my two closest friends know literally every secret and struggle I've had, and because of that they're able to fully support me with anything. And it also means they can trust me with anything in return. Imo, true deep friendships come from mutual vulnerability. 4 minutes ago, Through The Living Girl said: I need more friends... but also what about when they're just online? Not just online friends like on the Shard, but friends I know/meet in-person but only like once a week (clubs) and then sometimes text and idk I just don't have many/any friends in the ways some people here do Ofc being able to hang out in person with friends is better, but friends you know IRL and mostly text with are fine too. Whatever's feasible for you individually. I'll also say, you don't necessarily need a bunch of friends. Some people want to, and that's fully up to individual preference. Different people have different social needs. But even if you just have one close friend you can open up with, that's good. 1
Honors Spectral Image She/her Posted March 14 Posted March 14 1 minute ago, #1 Taln Fan said: When it comes to opening up to your friends, you get what you put in. If you don't tell the full extent of your troubles, they can only help so much. For me, my two closest friends know literally every secret and struggle I've had, and because of that they're able to fully support me with anything. And it also means they can trust me with anything in return. Imo, true deep friendships come from mutual vulnerability. Ofc being able to hang out in person with friends is better, but friends you know IRL and mostly text with are fine too. Whatever's feasible for you individually. I'll also say, you don't necessarily need a bunch of friends. Some people want to, and that's fully up to individual preference. Different people have different social needs. But even if you just have one close friend you can open up with, that's good. I agree with both of these I have a few people I could trust with anything and I tell them everything even if u only have one they are still invaluable
#1 Taln Fan he/him Posted March 14 Posted March 14 I'll once again stress to everyone here: A book forum full of teenagers is not the ideal place to get mental health advice (even if it can be helpful) Find IRL friends you can open up to and share with, and see a therapist, who's actually trained and can provide professional help. Even if you've had a bad experience with a therapist in the past, there's lots of different ones, so try someone else until you find one that works for you. And remember to take care of your sleep 4
Honors Spectral Image She/her Posted March 14 Posted March 14 3 minutes ago, #1 Taln Fan said: I'll once again stress to everyone here: A book forum full of teenagers is not the ideal place to get mental health advice (even if it can be helpful) Find IRL friends you can open up to and share with, and see a therapist, who's actually trained and can provide professional help. Even if you've had a bad experience with a therapist in the past, there's lots of different ones, so try someone else until you find one that works for you. And remember to take care of your sleep Yes yes, sleep is important *nods knowing I’m not sleeping tn BUT U GUYS SHOULD*
Verdance he/him Posted March 14 Posted March 14 Mmm. I should sleep better. NGL, some of my friends online who also struggle with depression have been immeasurably better for my mental health than my therapist has been in the past - but that’s my situation, and going to therapy is definitely better than not. There are some things that they are better at than friends, and my situation won’t match up with other peoples. 1
Aeoryi she/her Posted March 14 Posted March 14 1 hour ago, Through The Living Grass said: Mmm. I should sleep better. NGL, some of my friends online who also struggle with depression have been immeasurably better for my mental health than my therapist has been in the past - but that’s my situation, and going to therapy is definitely better than not. There are some things that they are better at than friends, and my situation won’t match up with other peoples. Sleeping won't cure your problems but it'll definitely help
Usseewa Posted March 15 Posted March 15 what's even the problem, I just feel tired and depressed, the thoughts from earlier aren't bothering me as much but I feel the lump in my throat feeling and can't identify what's the matter so how do I fix it if I don't know what "it" is? Also I have a great idea for a story but it's kinda depressing or somber or something so maybe I shouldn't write it but I want to. 5 hours ago, #1 Taln Fan said: When it comes to opening up to your friends, you get what you put in. If you don't tell the full extent of your troubles, they can only help so much. For me, my two closest friends know literally every secret and struggle I've had, and because of that they're able to fully support me with anything. And it also means they can trust me with anything in return. Imo, true deep friendships come from mutual vulnerability. also... it's actually a family member; I have no close friends. so I'll probably tell them I'm feeling kinda depressed but then they'll ask what's causing the depression and say "but I thought you were feeling better" and yeah... how do I know what's real and what's fabricated? or is it all real? and why am I tired after getting like 10 hours of sleep..
Verdance he/him Posted March 15 Posted March 15 1 minute ago, Through The Living Girl said: what's even the problem, I just feel tired and depressed, the thoughts from earlier aren't bothering me as much but I feel the lump in my throat feeling and can't identify what's the matter so how do I fix it if I don't know what "it" is? Also I have a great idea for a story but it's kinda depressing or somber or something so maybe I shouldn't write it but I want to. also... it's actually a family member; I have no close friends. so I'll probably tell them I'm feeling kinda depressed but then they'll ask what's causing the depression and say "but I thought you were feeling better" and yeah... how do I know what's real and what's fabricated? or is it all real? and why am I tired after getting like 10 hours of sleep.. You feel depressed, but you don’t know why? Am I understanding correctly?
Honors Spectral Image She/her Posted March 15 Posted March 15 1 minute ago, Through The Living Girl said: what's even the problem, I just feel tired and depressed, the thoughts from earlier aren't bothering me as much but I feel the lump in my throat feeling and can't identify what's the matter so how do I fix it if I don't know what "it" is? Also I have a great idea for a story but it's kinda depressing or somber or something so maybe I shouldn't write it but I want to. also... it's actually a family member; I have no close friends. so I'll probably tell them I'm feeling kinda depressed but then they'll ask what's causing the depression and say "but I thought you were feeling better" and yeah... how do I know what's real and what's fabricated? or is it all real? and why am I tired after getting like 10 hours of sleep.. It’s all real
Usseewa Posted March 15 Posted March 15 maybe I should change my wallpapers and pfp and banner.. because currently they're depressing and i love that but shouldn't Just now, Through The Living Grass said: You feel depressed, but you don’t know why? Am I understanding correctly? in this moment sometimes i just feel the general thing but my brain can't think 2
Verdance he/him Posted March 15 Posted March 15 (edited) 4 minutes ago, Through The Living Girl said: maybe I should change my wallpapers and pfp and banner.. because currently they're depressing and i love that but shouldn't in this moment sometimes i just feel the general thing but my brain can't think I would recommend changing those, yeah. Try not to just be depressed because that’s who you are. What you put as your profile definitely affects how you perceive yourself. well, i’m under the assumption you’re a teenager? High school to college age, is that correct? Cause it’s likely hormonal mood swings if you don’t know why. Edited March 15 by Through The Living Grass
Usseewa Posted March 15 Posted March 15 (LOTS of screenshots) Spoiler .... .... not sure if pfp was influencing me or not ... cuz i basically .. yeh anyway new pfp ! 7 minutes ago, Through The Living Grass said: I would recommend changing those, yeah. Try not to just be depressed because that’s who you are. What you put as your profile definitely affects how you perceive yourself. well, i’m under the assumption you’re a teenager? High school to college age, is that correct? "Try not to just be depressed because that's who you are." wdym? try not to make depression my only defining aspect of my identity? oop "well, i’m under the assumption you’re a teenager? High school to college age, is that correct?" what's that gotta do with it. 1
Verdance he/him Posted March 15 Posted March 15 Just now, Through The Living Girl said: (LOTS of screenshots) Reveal hidden contents .... .... not sure if pfp was influencing me or not ... cuz i basically .. yeh anyway new pfp ! "Try not to just be depressed because that's who you are." wdym? try not to make depression my only defining aspect of my identity? oop "well, i’m under the assumption you’re a teenager? High school to college age, is that correct?" what's that gotta do with it. I made a tentative guess at hormonal mood swings storm puberty, only I didn’t say storm it the shard did 1
Usseewa Posted March 15 Posted March 15 2 minutes ago, Through The Living Grass said: I made a tentative guess at hormonal mood swings storm puberty, only I didn’t say storm it the shard did idk never thought about it much I NEED HAPPY MUSIC PLSSSS
Verdance he/him Posted March 15 Posted March 15 Just now, Through The Living Girl said: idk never thought about it much Oh you know what I totally forgot- i do know that medication can also make you feel depressed or disinterested in life, depending on what type, i take a methylphenidate derivative
Usseewa Posted March 15 Posted March 15 Just now, Through The Living Grass said: Oh you know what I totally forgot- i do know that medication can also make you feel depressed or disinterested in life, depending on what type, i take a methylphenidate derivative hehe that could be it shrug hehheh i take meds and idk if they help at all but ive taken them for a long time so no idea i love this new pfp tho i no longer feel the urge to change my username to "Through The Dead Girl" because then it wouldn't match!
Verdance he/him Posted March 15 Posted March 15 1 minute ago, Through The Living Girl said: hehe that could be it shrug hehheh i take meds and idk if they help at all but ive taken them for a long time so no idea i love this new pfp tho i no longer feel the urge to change my username to "Through The Dead Girl" because then it wouldn't match! Ask your psychiatrist about your meds and depression. Do not listen to me for medication advice. However, I have found it helpful to take a short break from being medicated for a day or two every once in a while. The banner is even cooler :3 uh, music? You’ve already tried acloudyskye, but Good Kid has some fun stuff, not quite as high energy as your J-pop but really fun and clean. I recommend their fourth EP
Usseewa Posted March 15 Posted March 15 Just now, Through The Living Grass said: Ask your psychiatrist about your meds and depression. Do not listen to me for medication advice. However, I have found it helpful to take a short break from being medicated for a day or two every once in a while. The banner is even cooler :3 uh, music? You’ve already tried acloudyskye, but Good Kid has some fun stuff, not quite as high energy as your J-pop but really fun and clean. I recommend their fourth EP "The banner is even cooler :3" thx you thx you :3 i just looked up my med and uhoh
Verdance he/him Posted March 15 Posted March 15 Just now, Through The Living Girl said: "The banner is even cooler :3" thx you thx you :3 i just looked up my med and uhoh You’re thinking of methamphetamine. I love to tell my friends i take meth for my adhd. It’s just a general stimulant, meaning it helps you focus and calm down and sort of tamps down your emotions a bit, but- well just talk to your doctor about it
Honors Spectral Image She/her Posted March 15 Posted March 15 18 minutes ago, Through The Living Girl said: idk never thought about it much I NEED HAPPY MUSIC PLSSSS CHAPPEL ROAN MY KINK IS KARMA AND NAKED IN MANHATTAN
Usseewa Posted March 15 Posted March 15 (edited) 25 minutes ago, Through The Living Grass said: You’re thinking of methamphetamine. I love to tell my friends i take meth for my adhd. It’s just a general stimulant, meaning it helps you focus and calm down and sort of tamps down your emotions a bit, but- well just talk to your doctor about it no i wasn't thinking of meth, I was saying uh-oh cuz it matched urs and i guess i thought u said it was making depress but idk if u did ok sure ig is it depressing? the med? methylphenidate Edited March 15 by Through The Living Girl
Verdance he/him Posted March 15 Posted March 15 3 minutes ago, Through The Living Girl said: no i wasn't thinking of meth, I was saying uh-oh cuz it matched urs and i guess i thought u said it was making depress but idk if u did ok sure ig is it depressing? the med? methylphenidate It makes what is already there slightly worse, and sometimes i get just a blanket feeling of apathy and lethargy that is very similar to actual depression, but its so strong i just write it off and force myself to smile and listen to fun music or something
Usseewa Posted March 15 Posted March 15 Just now, Through The Living Grass said: It makes what is already there slightly worse, and sometimes i get just a blanket feeling of apathy and lethargy that is very similar to actual depression, but its so strong i just write it off and force myself to smile and listen to fun music or something i mightve got apathy-esque before how do i know if med is bad if ive used it so so so long like migh as well be my whole life cuz i didnt have a life before it that i remmebr Sorry for bad spelling...
Verdance he/him Posted March 15 Posted March 15 Just now, Through The Living Girl said: i mightve got apathy-esque before how do i know if med is bad if ive used it so so so long like migh as well be my whole life cuz i didnt have a life before it that i remmebr Sorry for bad spelling... Again, i can make judgements based on my own experiences and try to extrapolate a few possibilities, but you’re best off talking to a professional. Something to note, the most depressed i ever was was a month ago and i haven’t consistently been on meds for like at least six months because i am poor
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