Rynturning_Light She/Her Posted February 5 Posted February 5 9 hours ago, Mistfallen Soldier said: Help, (Mentions suicide) Reveal hidden contents She’s been saying that we wouldn’t miss her if she was gone. And after I convinced her that we would, her only reason to not commit suicide right now is because “I guess I wouldn’t want to make you guys sad” Help please, idk what to do *hugss* first, breath lovely. You did well. Second, establish that this is a hard situation for anyone to be in. You’re doing what you can, and that’s great. Unfortunately, what you can do is limited. Based on what you’ve said, I’d check in daily, and if needed multiple times a day. Keep talking with her, ask how she’s feeling and if there’s anything she needs to talk about. The source of these thoughts needs to be identified so they can be combated. It’s impossible to push back against this without knowing the full extent of what she’s thinking. Now, at this point I think it’s time to consider telling others what’s happening. If you think it’s a good idea, start with only telling those you know she’s close too and trusts. You’d also need to explain that you told someone and why you told them. I am so sorry this is happening. I wish we could do more. 1
Honors Spectral Image She/her Posted February 5 Posted February 5 10 hours ago, Mistfallen Soldier said: Help, (Mentions suicide) Hide contents She’s been saying that we wouldn’t miss her if she was gone. And after I convinced her that we would, her only reason to not commit suicide right now is because “I guess I wouldn’t want to make you guys sad” Help please, idk what to do *massssive hugs* I’ve been here before i think what you did for now is the best you can I think just make sure to remind her there are other reasons to live for herself not just for others *hugsss again* also what ryn said is good 1
KnightSkye Reforged They/Them Posted February 5 Posted February 5 On 2/3/2026 at 2:48 AM, Mistfallen Soldier said: Okay, so follow up on my friend (spoilered for length) Reveal hidden contents So it seems everything went relatively well. It was an absolute train wreck last week, but so far she seems to be doing relatively good(still struggling with some stress and anxiety though, so I’m trying to help her figure that out) But the problem now is that none of my other friends seem to notice. Like, I mentioned how she twisted her wrist and all, our friends only seemed to notice a month and a half later. When she finally wore a brace for it(before refusing to wear one ever again) I don’t think anyone noticed what happened last week either. And I feel like I should tell them, but I also feel like I’d be breaking her trust. It’s taken 5 months to get her to open up and be honest, and she’s told me that I’m the only person she tells some of this too. And if I break that trust she won’t tell anyone. She generally doesn’t like people knowing about her problems because she doesn’t want them to be worried about her, and while I’m trying to get her to accept that it’s okay that for people to care about her and all, she still doesn’t like it.(I’m justifying telling you all this because you have no idea who I’m talking about, and I intend on keeping it that way) I want to tell others because I cannot notice everything, I only see her a few times a week, and most of what I know comes from just asking how’s she’s doing day-to-day. And they deserve to know, but I also don’t want to break her trust and make it so she doesn’t trust anyone else enough to share with them either. I don’t know what to do, and I’ve kinda just been keeping it to myself because I don’t want to hurt her or anything but like, at this point I feel like I need to but I don’t know for sure…. This is my first time dealing with this stuff so I have no idea what I’m doing. Edit: I’m going to go to bed now, hope I haven’t messed anything up and see if there’s anything here when I wake up You're not messing this stuff up. You're doing really good in fact. You're there for her. And you're helping. That's what you can do. You can't control other people. If you want your other friends to know, maybe ask her if you can tell them? Don't if you think it would be bad. 10 hours ago, Mistfallen Soldier said: Help, (Mentions suicide) Reveal hidden contents She’s been saying that we wouldn’t miss her if she was gone. And after I convinced her that we would, her only reason to not commit suicide right now is because “I guess I wouldn’t want to make you guys sad” Help please, idk what to do *hugs* I'm sorry. That is really, really hard. I've been on both sides of that. You are doing what you can. Just keep reminding her that she matters, that your there, that she's not alone, and that things will be better. That she will be warm again. Even if she seems she's not listening keep telling her. 1
Usseewa Posted February 7 Posted February 7 (edited) Sorry to intrude but what do you do when the Mental Health Club itself is bad for your mental health? Actually it's self-explanatory: don't frequent it. Also, I'm a big fan of CWs (content warnings). Very useful. Even if I sometimes ignore or underestimate the content that has been warned and end up wishing I'd heeded the CW. Also I'm mentally fine rn but was curious with the above posed question. Edited February 7 by Usseewa 1
Kansas Stormcursed he/him Posted February 7 Posted February 7 16 minutes ago, Usseewa said: Sorry to intrude but what do you do when the Mental Health Club itself is bad for your mental health? Actually it's self-explanatory: don't frequent it. Also, I'm a big fan of CWs (content warnings). Very useful. Even if I sometimes ignore or underestimate the content that has been warned and end up wishing I'd heeded the CW. Also I'm mentally fine rn but was curious with the above posed question. There's a reason I'm sometimes absent from here Don't go into it Put the oxygen mask on yourself before your child
Honors Spectral Image She/her Posted February 7 Posted February 7 How you know the depressions bad rn 3
Ink and Embers Any pronouns Posted February 7 Posted February 7 2 hours ago, Honors Ghost said: How you know the depressions bad rn *hugs* We're here if you ever want to talk! 1
Honors Spectral Image She/her Posted February 7 Posted February 7 6 hours ago, Ink and Embers said: *hugs* We're here if you ever want to talk! *hugs* Ik, idr wanna talk about it rn but maybe some day *hugggsss*
Usseewa Posted February 7 Posted February 7 10 hours ago, Honors Ghost said: Ah, nice headphone/earbud name. That's Tchaik Six, right? Also I hope u feel better and talk to someone abt it. 1
Honors Spectral Image She/her Posted February 7 Posted February 7 15 minutes ago, Usseewa said: Ah, nice headphone/earbud name. That's Tchaik Six, right? Also I hope u feel better and talk to someone abt it. It’s a speaker, and ye it is
ANHlittleinsane girl but gendern't mostly Posted February 8 Posted February 8 hi hugs for all love yall sorry i like vanished i think i just didnt have the motivation to talk about anything? i was getting better, so i figured just keep everything behind me i am. um. no longer getting better?? idk i just lack motivation for anything. last night i could barely even wash my face and turn the lights off, which sucks because i had a fantastic day…i mean on the bright side, at least i don’t really think i hate myself anymore. i think i just hate the positions i’m in. and i no longer have any sh related thoughts, instead it’s just “cut your hair cut your hair CUT YOUR HAIRRR” which is great because i’m fantastic at this one haircut and i’ve been told it looks amazing so win-win yeah idk i guess i just feel like if i was doing so good, why am i suddenly displaying depression symptoms out of nowhere?? 1
Tam Tucker Posted February 8 Posted February 8 I still haven't gotten a job, and my caseworker, whom I started talking to last week, praises my soft skills and writing ability. The other lady I talked to from an office told me that I was getting interviews, which isn't common. It's been 2 months, and I think I have had 7 interviews at this point, but none hired me. My caseworker said something that just inherently offends me, but it is probably true. I have a very high-pitched voice for a man. I can deepen the tone of my voice, but it's rough on my vocal cords, and it feels like lying, which I feel like I would forget to do or have to keep up and deal with the inevitable voice cracks. This isn't the first time I have been told this; I did great in trade school, and I got told that I won't get anywhere because of my voice. Which is true; it's unfair and cruel. Honestly, I am really insecure about this and wonder if I did become a full-time writer if my high-pitched voice would annoy people and if I just wouldn't make it because of that. Right now my caseworker worked with me to get a custodian job at a local school, which is an excellent job with great benefits, and it will be the night shift, which means I will be by myself. Gaining experience that I can use. Also, my caseworker told me the truth: interviews are to judge you, and with me coming into an interview sounding like a mouse, well, it sucks, and it's something that I can't change, though I have tried. I am trying to learn sign and wonder if I would make friends with people that wouldn't care about my voice. It feels like I am doing everything right and being judged for something that I cannot control. 2
Kansas Stormcursed he/him Posted February 8 Posted February 8 6 hours ago, ANHlittleinsane said: hi hugs for all love yall sorry i like vanished i think i just didnt have the motivation to talk about anything? i was getting better, so i figured just keep everything behind me i am. um. no longer getting better?? idk i just lack motivation for anything. last night i could barely even wash my face and turn the lights off, which sucks because i had a fantastic day…i mean on the bright side, at least i don’t really think i hate myself anymore. i think i just hate the positions i’m in. and i no longer have any sh related thoughts, instead it’s just “cut your hair cut your hair CUT YOUR HAIRRR” which is great because i’m fantastic at this one haircut and i’ve been told it looks amazing so win-win yeah idk i guess i just feel like if i was doing so good, why am i suddenly displaying depression symptoms out of nowhere?? *hugs* Not uncommon Depression doesn't have to be tied to causes. It can sometimes just hit. Unfortunately, I don't really know how to deal with it other than wait it out... *hugs* 5 hours ago, Tam Tucker said: I still haven't gotten a job, and my caseworker, whom I started talking to last week, praises my soft skills and writing ability. The other lady I talked to from an office told me that I was getting interviews, which isn't common. It's been 2 months, and I think I have had 7 interviews at this point, but none hired me. My caseworker said something that just inherently offends me, but it is probably true. I have a very high-pitched voice for a man. I can deepen the tone of my voice, but it's rough on my vocal cords, and it feels like lying, which I feel like I would forget to do or have to keep up and deal with the inevitable voice cracks. This isn't the first time I have been told this; I did great in trade school, and I got told that I won't get anywhere because of my voice. Which is true; it's unfair and cruel. Honestly, I am really insecure about this and wonder if I did become a full-time writer if my high-pitched voice would annoy people and if I just wouldn't make it because of that. Right now my caseworker worked with me to get a custodian job at a local school, which is an excellent job with great benefits, and it will be the night shift, which means I will be by myself. Gaining experience that I can use. Also, my caseworker told me the truth: interviews are to judge you, and with me coming into an interview sounding like a mouse, well, it sucks, and it's something that I can't change, though I have tried. I am trying to learn sign and wonder if I would make friends with people that wouldn't care about my voice. It feels like I am doing everything right and being judged for something that I cannot control. Oof *hugs* That's rather odd. I know several guys who have quite high-pitched voices and they've never had issue with it. I'm not sure why that has such a big impact 2
Tam Tucker Posted February 8 Posted February 8 29 minutes ago, Kansas Stormcursed said: *hugs* Oof *hugs* That's rather odd. I know several guys who have quite high-pitched voices and they've never had issue with it. I'm not sure why that has such a big impact My caseworker said something along the lines that it sends the wrong message. A interview is about selling yourself. I also do remember reading outloud in English class when we had a sub n after I got done she told me to read it again in my normal voice. Maybe its something like that. I was shocked that I couldn't speak n my friend just screamed at the sub n left. My resume is great its getting me interviews. Just not being hired even by Wal mart of all places didn't hire me. 2
KnightSkye Reforged They/Them Posted February 10 Posted February 10 On 2/6/2026 at 11:03 PM, Honors Ghost said: How you know the depressions bad rn *hugs* On 2/8/2026 at 8:50 AM, ANHlittleinsane said: hi hugs for all love yall sorry i like vanished i think i just didnt have the motivation to talk about anything? i was getting better, so i figured just keep everything behind me i am. um. no longer getting better?? idk i just lack motivation for anything. last night i could barely even wash my face and turn the lights off, which sucks because i had a fantastic day…i mean on the bright side, at least i don’t really think i hate myself anymore. i think i just hate the positions i’m in. and i no longer have any sh related thoughts, instead it’s just “cut your hair cut your hair CUT YOUR HAIRRR” which is great because i’m fantastic at this one haircut and i’ve been told it looks amazing so win-win yeah idk i guess i just feel like if i was doing so good, why am i suddenly displaying depression symptoms out of nowhere?? Oof. *hugs* Yeah that happens a lot. I'm sorry. I hate when things feel like they're going fine and then *boom!* depression stuff. I'm sorry. On 2/8/2026 at 10:28 AM, Tam Tucker said: I still haven't gotten a job, and my caseworker, whom I started talking to last week, praises my soft skills and writing ability. The other lady I talked to from an office told me that I was getting interviews, which isn't common. It's been 2 months, and I think I have had 7 interviews at this point, but none hired me. My caseworker said something that just inherently offends me, but it is probably true. I have a very high-pitched voice for a man. I can deepen the tone of my voice, but it's rough on my vocal cords, and it feels like lying, which I feel like I would forget to do or have to keep up and deal with the inevitable voice cracks. This isn't the first time I have been told this; I did great in trade school, and I got told that I won't get anywhere because of my voice. Which is true; it's unfair and cruel. Honestly, I am really insecure about this and wonder if I did become a full-time writer if my high-pitched voice would annoy people and if I just wouldn't make it because of that. Right now my caseworker worked with me to get a custodian job at a local school, which is an excellent job with great benefits, and it will be the night shift, which means I will be by myself. Gaining experience that I can use. Also, my caseworker told me the truth: interviews are to judge you, and with me coming into an interview sounding like a mouse, well, it sucks, and it's something that I can't change, though I have tried. I am trying to learn sign and wonder if I would make friends with people that wouldn't care about my voice. It feels like I am doing everything right and being judged for something that I cannot control. *hug* I'm glad you're getting interviews. About your voice, what the heck!? I'm so so sorry that keeps happening to you and being brought up. I don't see why a high pitched voice should be a problem at all, though I can kinda understand what your caseworker might have been getting at. I don't agree with it, but maybe i get it? How do you carry yourself physically? Maybe you could adjust that to compensate if you come across as shy or timid? 2
NerdSandwich she/her Posted February 13 Posted February 13 ok its been a while *hugs randomly* uhh don't kill me
Ink and Embers Any pronouns Posted February 13 Posted February 13 2 hours ago, NerdSandwich said: ok its been a while *hugs randomly* uhh don't kill me *hugs back* How are you?
NerdSandwich she/her Posted February 13 Posted February 13 decent I mean my gpa's 4.29 which I am mad about but I'm stepping it up this quarter
Ink and Embers Any pronouns Posted February 13 Posted February 13 Just now, NerdSandwich said: decent I mean my gpa's 4.29 which I am mad about but I'm stepping it up this quarter I vaguely understand that. Good for you, but please don't overwork yourself!!! *hugs*
NerdSandwich she/her Posted February 13 Posted February 13 Thx don't worry I have <30 min of homework daily. I just don't apply myself enough 1
Rynturning_Light She/Her Posted February 13 Posted February 13 12 minutes ago, NerdSandwich said: Thx don't worry I have <30 min of homework daily. I just don't apply myself enough Would thou accept advice from a procrastinator who struggles with the same?
Rynturning_Light She/Her Posted February 13 Posted February 13 1 minute ago, NerdSandwich said: Okay sure Alright so Study timers i know crazy I struggle to apply myself with homework and tend to procrastinate until like the last possible minute to get them done, so study timers. I typically do like 15-20 minutes of work at a time, then break for like 10 Also dividing up your assignments into parts works for me so I can tell myself "okay, finish this section of the page and then we can take a break" 1
NerdSandwich she/her Posted February 13 Posted February 13 I don't study But I'll use it for homework thx
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