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[Kansas Stormcursed he/him]

1 minute ago, Akimikoisthecutest said:

I've told a few friends and plan to tell my therapist next week? I haven't told anyone else because I might have to come out...

 

Friends are fine as long as they're somebody who can reach you, check on you, and knows who to get in contact with if they suspect an issue

[Keke They/he]

6 minutes ago, Akimikoisthecutest said:

I've told a few friends and plan to tell my therapist next week? I haven't told anyone else because I might have to come out...

 

Thats good. *hugs*

[Honors Spectral Image She/her]

1 hour ago, Akimikoisthecutest said:

I've told a few friends and plan to tell my therapist next week? I haven't told anyone else because I might have to come out...

 

*hugggs* that’s good

[Shatter He/Him]

7 hours ago, Akimikoisthecutest said:

I've told a few friends and plan to tell my therapist next week? I haven't told anyone else because I might have to come out...

 

If you ever feel like that again, call friends. What I would do is put something in with your meds that might shock you out of it. Like a note on top that you have to take off before you open them, or a little cardboard circle in the bottle. *hugs* It will be alright.

[Shatter He/Him]

I'm really depressed today. I'm having suicidal thoughts and the only things stopping me is my Windrunner Oath that I swore this morning (I will not destroy myself in the name of protection. I will endure by choosing to live, heal, and rise again) and my family and y'all. I don't really know what to say in this. I will be offline until 6pm EST tomorrow. I will make a post as soon as Shabbos (the sabbath) is over letting you guys know I'm still kicking. If it becomes life-threatening, I'll call 988. *hugs*

I feel like Kaladin in the start of The Way of Kings. That's the best comparison I have.

[Honors Spectral Image She/her]

40 minutes ago, Shatter said:

I'm really depressed today. I'm having suicidal thoughts and the only things stopping me is my Windrunner Oath that I swore this morning (I will not destroy myself in the name of protection. I will endure by choosing to live, heal, and rise again) and my family and y'all. I don't really know what to say in this. I will be offline until 6pm EST tomorrow. I will make a post as soon as Shabbos (the sabbath) is over letting you guys know I'm still kicking. If it becomes life-threatening, I'll call 988. *hugs*

I feel like Kaladin in the start of The Way of Kings. That's the best comparison I have.

*hugggs*

[CoderDrag0n8 He/They]

2 hours ago, Shatter said:

I'm really depressed today. I'm having suicidal thoughts and the only things stopping me is my Windrunner Oath that I swore this morning (I will not destroy myself in the name of protection. I will endure by choosing to live, heal, and rise again) and my family and y'all. I don't really know what to say in this. I will be offline until 6pm EST tomorrow. I will make a post as soon as Shabbos (the sabbath) is over letting you guys know I'm still kicking. If it becomes life-threatening, I'll call 988. *hugs*

I feel like Kaladin in the start of The Way of Kings. That's the best comparison I have.

*HUG TACKLE*

here take this tank :i to kill the bad things (The bad things of which do not include you) (because again, you are a not a bad things)

[Ink and Embers Any pronouns]

9 hours ago, Shatter said:

I'm really depressed today. I'm having suicidal thoughts and the only things stopping me is my Windrunner Oath that I swore this morning (I will not destroy myself in the name of protection. I will endure by choosing to live, heal, and rise again) and my family and y'all. I don't really know what to say in this. I will be offline until 6pm EST tomorrow. I will make a post as soon as Shabbos (the sabbath) is over letting you guys know I'm still kicking. If it becomes life-threatening, I'll call 988. *hugs*

I feel like Kaladin in the start of The Way of Kings. That's the best comparison I have.

*hugs*

Sending best wishes!!!

[Shatter He/Him]

I am still alive. Feeling a little bit better. Went to a friend's house for Shabbos.

[Hoid Slayer He/Him]

On 1/16/2026 at 4:58 PM, Shatter said:

I'm really depressed today. I'm having suicidal thoughts and the only things stopping me is my Windrunner Oath that I swore this morning (I will not destroy myself in the name of protection. I will endure by choosing to live, heal, and rise again) and my family and y'all. I don't really know what to say in this. I will be offline until 6pm EST tomorrow. I will make a post as soon as Shabbos (the sabbath) is over letting you guys know I'm still kicking. If it becomes life-threatening, I'll call 988. *hugs*

I feel like Kaladin in the start of The Way of Kings. That's the best comparison I have.

Damn, Shatter

*squeeze*

Well, I’m glad you’re still here

And I hope you’ll stay here

Hey, can I PM you?

[Shatter He/Him]

8 hours ago, Hoid Slayer said:

Damn, Shatter

*squeeze*

Well, I’m glad you’re still here

And I hope you’ll stay here

Hey, can I PM you?

sure. My PM's are always open.

[Tam Tucker]

I was just thinking about how anytime I went to anybody with the issues that I am having, whether it be depression or trying to build my relationship with my sister. They just tell me to "forget the past." Like I haven't thought about that. Last time I went to therapy to deal with the mess that is my life, that is what I got hit with, and it just did not help. So I stopped going to therapy and just dealt with it on my own, and after going through this recent event, it is normal to go through. Knowing how loved I am, I feel content and hope that the interview I had on Friday will land me a good job with a good company that trains well. Won't yell at me for not knowing something when I had a lot to do already. 

This is normal life with normal problems, and I am grateful for that. Something I can learn from and be better prepared to deal with in the future. I was also thinking about the past because for the first time in my life I feel like it doesn't matter much. that I am doing the best I can and have the family I always wanted. I also have my pastor, who is a good friend of mine. He encouraged me to forget the past but also guided me through all the problems that the past is bringing to the present. 

Which is more helpful. The last therapist I tried just cut me off, saying, "That is in the past; stop talking about that." Which I didn't like. i am paying you from the money I made from working to help with this and you tell me to stop talking about it. than i was thinking at that point, "This is pointless and I honestly was busy doing a lot of things and forgot i had an appointment that day and had no reminders (I should fix that habit and not depending on professionals to remind me of stuff.) So I just didn't go back. 

I do live in a rural area that does not have many autism resources. Well i was raised to try my best no matter what, so that is what I do, and I seem to be getting along fine. At my last interview, I blanked at the first question asking about myself, but after I stumbled through that, I was fine; the rest of the interview flowed, and I took a tour, and they are considering me for inspection, which is great with my experience as a safety guy for almost three years. I think that will be great. They also train, and honestly, it will be a relief to me after working terrible job places for most of my working life. 

[Myst He/Him]

So, I have a friend that I don’t know how to help, and I don’t if I should try, or what

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So, I have a friend, and she’s been having problems caring for herself for, as far as I know, the last three years. Last semester she kept injuring her shoulder and hand, and then not telling anyone about it and continuing to use it.(she crashed on her skis once with another friend, she did something to her wrist, the friend broke his collarbone, he’s completely healed, and she’s not) lately she’s been having trouble eating, and so she got some stuff tested(after ignoring it for who knows how long) and she apparently has anxiety, depression and at least two eating disorders. I’m texting her right now and she just told me she can’t remember the last time she felt happy without freaking out a bunch.

Edit: She just said that her needing meds makes her a failure… I don’t know what to do…

What can I do to be there for her? Any suggestions?

Edited January 28 by Mistfallen Soldier

[Kansas Stormcursed he/him]

14 minutes ago, Mistfallen Soldier said:

So, I have a friend that I don’t know how to help, and I don’t if I should try, or what

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So, I have a friend, and she’s been having problems caring for herself for, as far as I know, the last three years. Last semester she kept injuring her shoulder and hand, and then not telling anyone about it and continuing to use it.(she crashed on her skis once with another friend, she did something to her wrist, the friend broke his collarbone, he’s completely healed, and she’s not) lately she’s been having trouble eating, and so she got some stuff tested(after ignoring it for who knows how long) and she apparently has anxiety, depression and at least two eating disorders. I’m texting her right now and she just told me she can’t remember the last time she felt happy without freaking out a bunch.

Edit: She just said that her needing meds makes her a failure… I don’t know what to do…

What can I do to be there for her? Any suggestions?

*hugs*

That's rough, I'm sorry

Honestly, the best thing you can do is just affirm the things she doesn't believe. Like, that needing meds doesn't make her a failure, and stuff like that. Also checking up on her, seeing how she's doing and listening to her, letting her know she can talk to you (if you're comfortable taking that on)

[Myst He/Him]

1 minute ago, Kansas Stormcursed said:

*hugs*

That's rough, I'm sorry

Honestly, the best thing you can do is just affirm the things she doesn't believe. Like, that needing meds doesn't make her a failure, and stuff like that. Also checking up on her, seeing how she's doing and listening to her, letting her know she can talk to you (if you're comfortable taking that on)

I’m mean, this has been going on for a while, so I kinda already am. But thanks

[Kansas Stormcursed he/him]

7 minutes ago, Mistfallen Soldier said:

I’m mean, this has been going on for a while, so I kinda already am. But thanks

Yeah

That's just kinda all the advice I can offer. I'm sorry I don't have more

[Rynturning_Light She/Her]

10 hours ago, Mistfallen Soldier said:

So, I have a friend that I don’t know how to help, and I don’t if I should try, or what

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So, I have a friend, and she’s been having problems caring for herself for, as far as I know, the last three years. Last semester she kept injuring her shoulder and hand, and then not telling anyone about it and continuing to use it.(she crashed on her skis once with another friend, she did something to her wrist, the friend broke his collarbone, he’s completely healed, and she’s not) lately she’s been having trouble eating, and so she got some stuff tested(after ignoring it for who knows how long) and she apparently has anxiety, depression and at least two eating disorders. I’m texting her right now and she just told me she can’t remember the last time she felt happy without freaking out a bunch.

Edit: She just said that her needing meds makes her a failure… I don’t know what to do…

What can I do to be there for her? Any suggestions?

*hugss* I’m so sorry. It’s always hard when someone you care about is struggling

Kansas covered most of it, but what I will say is don’t stop checking in. Sometimes, the best thing you can do is keep reminding them that the door is open when/if they want to talk. Make sure she knows that you’re here and you care about her and how she’s doing.

Sometimes they’ll want your help, sometimes they won’t. Just keep putting effort into that connection. Reminding them that you’re there is one of the best things you can do

[Myst He/Him]

8 hours ago, Rynturning_Light said:

*hugss* I’m so sorry. It’s always hard when someone you care about is struggling

Kansas covered most of it, but what I will say is don’t stop checking in. Sometimes, the best thing you can do is keep reminding them that the door is open when/if they want to talk. Make sure she knows that you’re here and you care about her and how she’s doing.

Sometimes they’ll want your help, sometimes they won’t. Just keep putting effort into that connection. Reminding them that you’re there is one of the best things you can do

 

18 hours ago, Kansas Stormcursed said:

Yeah

That's just kinda all the advice I can offer. I'm sorry I don't have more

Thanks, both of you. I’ll keep at it 

[Keke They/he]

On 1/16/2026 at 2:58 PM, Shatter said:

I'm really depressed today. I'm having suicidal thoughts and the only things stopping me is my Windrunner Oath that I swore this morning (I will not destroy myself in the name of protection. I will endure by choosing to live, heal, and rise again) and my family and y'all. I don't really know what to say in this. I will be offline until 6pm EST tomorrow. I will make a post as soon as Shabbos (the sabbath) is over letting you guys know I'm still kicking. If it becomes life-threatening, I'll call 988. *hugs*

I feel like Kaladin in the start of The Way of Kings. That's the best comparison I have.

*hugs*

On 1/17/2026 at 4:59 PM, Shatter said:

I am still alive. Feeling a little bit better. Went to a friend's house for Shabbos.

*hugsss*

On 1/25/2026 at 1:44 PM, Tam Tucker said:

I was just thinking about how anytime I went to anybody with the issues that I am having, whether it be depression or trying to build my relationship with my sister. They just tell me to "forget the past." Like I haven't thought about that. Last time I went to therapy to deal with the mess that is my life, that is what I got hit with, and it just did not help. So I stopped going to therapy and just dealt with it on my own, and after going through this recent event, it is normal to go through. Knowing how loved I am, I feel content and hope that the interview I had on Friday will land me a good job with a good company that trains well. Won't yell at me for not knowing something when I had a lot to do already. 

This is normal life with normal problems, and I am grateful for that. Something I can learn from and be better prepared to deal with in the future. I was also thinking about the past because for the first time in my life I feel like it doesn't matter much. that I am doing the best I can and have the family I always wanted. I also have my pastor, who is a good friend of mine. He encouraged me to forget the past but also guided me through all the problems that the past is bringing to the present. 

Which is more helpful. The last therapist I tried just cut me off, saying, "That is in the past; stop talking about that." Which I didn't like. i am paying you from the money I made from working to help with this and you tell me to stop talking about it. than i was thinking at that point, "This is pointless and I honestly was busy doing a lot of things and forgot i had an appointment that day and had no reminders (I should fix that habit and not depending on professionals to remind me of stuff.) So I just didn't go back. 

I do live in a rural area that does not have many autism resources. Well i was raised to try my best no matter what, so that is what I do, and I seem to be getting along fine. At my last interview, I blanked at the first question asking about myself, but after I stumbled through that, I was fine; the rest of the interview flowed, and I took a tour, and they are considering me for inspection, which is great with my experience as a safety guy for almost three years. I think that will be great. They also train, and honestly, it will be a relief to me after working terrible job places for most of my working life. 

*hugs hugs*

On 1/27/2026 at 9:30 PM, Mistfallen Soldier said:

So, I have a friend that I don’t know how to help, and I don’t if I should try, or what

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So, I have a friend, and she’s been having problems caring for herself for, as far as I know, the last three years. Last semester she kept injuring her shoulder and hand, and then not telling anyone about it and continuing to use it.(she crashed on her skis once with another friend, she did something to her wrist, the friend broke his collarbone, he’s completely healed, and she’s not) lately she’s been having trouble eating, and so she got some stuff tested(after ignoring it for who knows how long) and she apparently has anxiety, depression and at least two eating disorders. I’m texting her right now and she just told me she can’t remember the last time she felt happy without freaking out a bunch.

Edit: She just said that her needing meds makes her a failure… I don’t know what to do…

What can I do to be there for her? Any suggestions?

It’s mostly just what Kansas said. All oyu can do is reassure her that meds dont make her a failure, and that let her talk about anything. 

And with the ed, suggest she eats, make sure she has something a day. 

But dont force it, politely tell her she has to eat and if she says she would genuinely throw up if she eats drop it but if its just she doesnt want to then try to get her really anything. 

But disclaimer this isnt professional advice, thats just what i do with my friend who has an e.d. But it varies person to person. It’s also what my friends do with me. Is just tell me to eat until i give up and get food.\\

[Myst He/Him]

Okay, so follow up on my friend

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Spoiler

So it seems everything went relatively well. It was an absolute train wreck last week, but so far she seems to be doing relatively good(still struggling with some stress and anxiety though, so I’m trying to help her figure that out)

But the problem now is that none of my other friends seem to notice. Like, I mentioned how she twisted her wrist and all, our friends only seemed to notice a month and a half later. When she finally wore a brace for it(before refusing to wear one ever again) I don’t think anyone noticed what happened last week either.

And I feel like I should tell them, but I also feel like I’d be breaking her trust. It’s taken 5 months to get her to open up and be honest, and she’s told me that I’m the only person she tells some of this too. And if I break that trust she won’t tell anyone.

She generally doesn’t like people knowing about her problems because she doesn’t want them to be worried about her, and while I’m trying to get her to accept that it’s okay that for people to care about her and all, she still doesn’t like it.(I’m justifying telling you all this because you have no idea who I’m talking about, and I intend on keeping it that way) 

I want to tell others because I cannot notice everything, I only see her a few times a week, and most of what I know comes from just asking how’s she’s doing day-to-day. And they deserve to know, but I also don’t want to break her trust and make it so she doesn’t trust anyone else enough to share with them either.

I don’t know what to do, and I’ve kinda just been keeping it to myself because I don’t want to hurt her or anything but like, at this point I feel like I need to but I don’t know for sure….

This is my first time dealing with this stuff so I have no idea what I’m doing.

Edit: I’m going to go to bed now, hope I haven’t messed anything up and see if there’s anything here when I wake up 

Edited February 3 by Mistfallen Soldier

[Hoid Slayer He/Him]

4 hours ago, Mistfallen Soldier said:

Okay, so follow up on my friend

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So it seems everything went relatively well. It was an absolute train wreck last week, but so far she seems to be doing relatively good(still struggling with some stress and anxiety though, so I’m trying to help her figure that out)

But the problem now is that none of my other friends seem to notice. Like, I mentioned how she twisted her wrist and all, our friends only seemed to notice a month and a half later. When she finally wore a brace for it(before refusing to wear one ever again) I don’t think anyone noticed what happened last week either.

And I feel like I should tell them, but I also feel like I’d be breaking her trust. It’s taken 5 months to get her to open up and be honest, and she’s told me that I’m the only person she tells some of this too. And if I break that trust she won’t tell anyone.

She generally doesn’t like people knowing about her problems because she doesn’t want them to be worried about her, and while I’m trying to get her to accept that it’s okay that for people to care about her and all, she still doesn’t like it.(I’m justifying telling you all this because you have no idea who I’m talking about, and I intend on keeping it that way) 

I want to tell others because I cannot notice everything, I only see her a few times a week, and most of what I know comes from just asking how’s she’s doing day-to-day. And they deserve to know, but I also don’t want to break her trust and make it so she doesn’t trust anyone else enough to share with them either.

I don’t know what to do, and I’ve kinda just been keeping it to myself because I don’t want to hurt her or anything but like, at this point I feel like I need to but I don’t know for sure….

This is my first time dealing with this stuff so I have no idea what I’m doing.

Edit: I’m going to go to bed now, hope I haven’t messed anything up and see if there’s anything here when I wake up 

Hey hey hey

You haven’t messed anything up

In fact, you’re doing really well

You’re there for her, and that’s the most important thing. You’re watching. That’s all you can do.

Anything else isn’t your fault

Sorry guys for not being on here for a while, and I’m pretty sure I said there was someone I’d PM but I didn’t

But I’m always here. And this thread is made up of some of the strongest people I know

[Kansas Stormcursed he/him]

6 hours ago, Mistfallen Soldier said:

Okay, so follow up on my friend

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So it seems everything went relatively well. It was an absolute train wreck last week, but so far she seems to be doing relatively good(still struggling with some stress and anxiety though, so I’m trying to help her figure that out)

But the problem now is that none of my other friends seem to notice. Like, I mentioned how she twisted her wrist and all, our friends only seemed to notice a month and a half later. When she finally wore a brace for it(before refusing to wear one ever again) I don’t think anyone noticed what happened last week either.

And I feel like I should tell them, but I also feel like I’d be breaking her trust. It’s taken 5 months to get her to open up and be honest, and she’s told me that I’m the only person she tells some of this too. And if I break that trust she won’t tell anyone.

She generally doesn’t like people knowing about her problems because she doesn’t want them to be worried about her, and while I’m trying to get her to accept that it’s okay that for people to care about her and all, she still doesn’t like it.(I’m justifying telling you all this because you have no idea who I’m talking about, and I intend on keeping it that way) 

I want to tell others because I cannot notice everything, I only see her a few times a week, and most of what I know comes from just asking how’s she’s doing day-to-day. And they deserve to know, but I also don’t want to break her trust and make it so she doesn’t trust anyone else enough to share with them either.

I don’t know what to do, and I’ve kinda just been keeping it to myself because I don’t want to hurt her or anything but like, at this point I feel like I need to but I don’t know for sure….

This is my first time dealing with this stuff so I have no idea what I’m doing.

Edit: I’m going to go to bed now, hope I haven’t messed anything up and see if there’s anything here when I wake up 

You're doing a pretty damn good job

*hugs*

Trying to help friends with trust issues is really difficult. The main bit, which you're already doing, is to just keep checking on them. Keep kinda poking away at the walls. The only thing I might suggest in addition to that is to start gently and carefully pushing them to trust a few others as well

[Rynturning_Light She/Her]

8 hours ago, Mistfallen Soldier said:

Okay, so follow up on my friend

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So it seems everything went relatively well. It was an absolute train wreck last week, but so far she seems to be doing relatively good(still struggling with some stress and anxiety though, so I’m trying to help her figure that out)

But the problem now is that none of my other friends seem to notice. Like, I mentioned how she twisted her wrist and all, our friends only seemed to notice a month and a half later. When she finally wore a brace for it(before refusing to wear one ever again) I don’t think anyone noticed what happened last week either.

And I feel like I should tell them, but I also feel like I’d be breaking her trust. It’s taken 5 months to get her to open up and be honest, and she’s told me that I’m the only person she tells some of this too. And if I break that trust she won’t tell anyone.

She generally doesn’t like people knowing about her problems because she doesn’t want them to be worried about her, and while I’m trying to get her to accept that it’s okay that for people to care about her and all, she still doesn’t like it.(I’m justifying telling you all this because you have no idea who I’m talking about, and I intend on keeping it that way) 

I want to tell others because I cannot notice everything, I only see her a few times a week, and most of what I know comes from just asking how’s she’s doing day-to-day. And they deserve to know, but I also don’t want to break her trust and make it so she doesn’t trust anyone else enough to share with them either.

I don’t know what to do, and I’ve kinda just been keeping it to myself because I don’t want to hurt her or anything but like, at this point I feel like I need to but I don’t know for sure….

This is my first time dealing with this stuff so I have no idea what I’m doing.

Edit: I’m going to go to bed now, hope I haven’t messed anything up and see if there’s anything here when I wake up 

*hugss* you’re doing great. This would be a difficult situation for anyone, so don’t beat yourself up.

Keep supporting her. That is the best thing you can do. Building up trust takes time and needs to start small. Hopefully, it’ll get to the point where she accepts your advice and reaches out to others or even reaches out to others on her own.

And, don’t judge others too hard for not noticing what’s going on. Some people either choose not to see when someone’s struggling or genuinely don’t know how to spot the signs. It’s frustrating, but try and keep that in mind.

[Myst He/Him]

Help, 

(Mentions suicide)

Spoiler

She’s been saying that we wouldn’t miss her if she was gone. And after I convinced her that we would, her only reason to not commit suicide right now is because “I guess I wouldn’t want to make you guys sad”

Help please, idk what to do

 

[Kansas Stormcursed he/him]

6 hours ago, Mistfallen Soldier said:

Help, 

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She’s been saying that we wouldn’t miss her if she was gone. And after I convinced her that we would, her only reason to not commit suicide right now is because “I guess I wouldn’t want to make you guys sad”

Help please, idk what to do

 

*lots of hugs*

That's tough, but it is at least a start. That gives you time to work on it. Try to figure out why she wants to do that, and then keep trying to convince her and show her that that's not the case or that there's more than just that.

Other people probably have better advice, but that's the gist of what I try to do