Certified Gay Disasters

[Honors Spectral Image She/her]

I just had a therapy session (for the first time in like forever) and I have literally been planning to talk to her abt being trans but I didn’t idk why I rly regret it she would be super supportive shes gay and her gf is trans so idk why I didn’t ughhhh I’ll tell her next time ig

[Akimikoisthecutest]

19 minutes ago, Honors ghost said:

I just had a therapy session (for the first time in like forever) and I have literally been planning to talk to her abt being trans but I didn’t idk why I rly regret it she would be super supportive shes gay and her gf is trans so idk why I didn’t ughhhh I’ll tell her next time ig

I get that. I've been trying to do that too. I hope you do and it feels better to be out to someone. (Idk if you're already out to friends or something.)

[Honors Spectral Image She/her]

3 hours ago, Akimikoisthecutest said:

I get that. I've been trying to do that too. I hope you do and it feels better to be out to someone. (Idk if you're already out to friends or something.)

I’m fully out to 2 of them and sorta out to the rest.

[Akimikoisthecutest]

48 minutes ago, Honors ghost said:

I’m fully out to 2 of them and sorta out to the rest.

That's really nice. Its super helpful to have supportive friends.

[Honors Spectral Image She/her]

33 minutes ago, Akimikoisthecutest said:

That's really nice. Its super helpful to have supportive friends.

Yah totally they help fight off the bigots at school that make fun of me bc before I was a bi trans person I was a gay guy and so they bully me for thay

[Kansas Stormcursed he/him]

3 hours ago, Honors ghost said:

Yah totally they help fight off the bigots at school that make fun of me bc before I was a bi trans person I was a gay guy and so they bully me for thay

*hiss*

*really wishing self defense laws applied to words*

[Honors Spectral Image She/her]

10 hours ago, Kansas Stormcursed said:

*hiss*

*really wishing self defense laws applied to words*

Agreed its fine tho lol it’s mostly just one kid and I only have one class w him so it’s fine

[momadrac they/them]

On 10/23/2025 at 10:12 PM, CoderDrag0n8 said:

guys im aromantic (for context)

and someone has a crush one me helppppppppppppppp

I CAN HELP

(sorta)

[lets just say that my school peeps are weird]

{I don't understand}

If you don't want to come out to them, say "I'm not looking for a relationship right now" or "no I am not attracted to you" plus insert phrases like "but.... can we stay friends??" if you want to unsabotage your relationship (But here I am, demiromantic, and assuming that everyone in the world is friends with someone before you like them but I know now that this is not the case so use this sparingly) 

If you do, "I'm aro, I don't feel attraction towards you" works for me (except insert ace in my case)

After typing all this out, I feel like you probably have resolved it and actually know how to talk to people, unlike me, so please completely disregard this, but I also just spent 5 minutes typing it out and am gonna post it anyway =P 

11 hours ago, Honors ghost said:

Agreed its fine tho lol it’s mostly just one kid and I only have one class w him so it’s fine

I'm sorry some people are just idiots

Edited October 26, 2025 by momadrac

[Honors Spectral Image She/her]

14 hours ago, momadrac said:

I CAN HELP

(sorta)

[lets just say that my school peeps are weird]

{I don't understand}

If you don't want to come out to them, say "I'm not looking for a relationship right now" or "no I am not attracted to you" plus insert phrases like "but.... can we stay friends??" if you want to unsabotage your relationship (But here I am, demiromantic, and assuming that everyone in the world is friends with someone before you like them but I know now that this is not the case so use this sparingly) 

If you do, "I'm aro, I don't feel attraction towards you" works for me (except insert ace in my case)

After typing all this out, I feel like you probably have resolved it and actually know how to talk to people, unlike me, so please completely disregard this, but I also just spent 5 minutes typing it out and am gonna post it anyway =P 

I'm sorry some people are just idiots

Amen I once had this girl (also a former friend) tell me ,knowing full well that I often wanted to be a girl, that if I was trans she would still call me Izzy (I go by that anyways lol) and still use her/him pronouns. Safe to say we weren’t friends much longer

[SpartanBrigade He/Him]

Uuuuhhhgggdhihufa
Straight guys

One of my friends is talking about the thing where they meet a woman and immediately wanna date after just becoming friends
And I was like "...no"
And he's being like 
"bro it’s fine"
"its normal."
(That's a direct quote he doesn't know when to use apostrophes apparently)
And I was like yeah it's normal for sucky guys it doesn't mean it's fine
And he went 
"Its natural"
I don't even

[Hmmm lies she/her]

1 hour ago, SpartanBrigade said:

Uuuuhhhgggdhihufa
Straight guys

One of my friends is talking about the thing where they meet a woman and immediately wanna date after just becoming friends
And I was like "...no"
And he's being like 
"bro it’s fine"
"its normal."
(That's a direct quote he doesn't know when to use apostrophes apparently)
And I was like yeah it's normal for sucky guys it doesn't mean it's fine
And he went 
"Its natural"
I don't even

Not even close to some of the insanity I see on r/arethestraightsok

[SpartanBrigade He/Him]

2 minutes ago, Hmmm lies said:

Not even close to some of the insanity I see on r/arethestraightsok

Real

[Honors Spectral Image She/her]

7 minutes ago, Hmmm lies said:

Not even close to some of the insanity I see on r/arethestraightsok

Hehheheheh I love that subreddit

[CoderDrag0n8 He/They]

21 hours ago, momadrac said:

I CAN HELP

(sorta)

[lets just say that my school peeps are weird]

{I don't understand}

If you don't want to come out to them, say "I'm not looking for a relationship right now" or "no I am not attracted to you" plus insert phrases like "but.... can we stay friends??" if you want to unsabotage your relationship (But here I am, demiromantic, and assuming that everyone in the world is friends with someone before you like them but I know now that this is not the case so use this sparingly) 

If you do, "I'm aro, I don't feel attraction towards you" works for me (except insert ace in my case)

After typing all this out, I feel like you probably have resolved it and actually know how to talk to people, unlike me, so please completely disregard this, but I also just spent 5 minutes typing it out and am gonna post it anyway =P 

I'm sorry some people are just idiots

uhhhh

i dont know them...

2 hours ago, SpartanBrigade said:

Uuuuhhhgggdhihufa
Straight guys

One of my friends is talking about the thing where they meet a woman and immediately wanna date after just becoming friends
And I was like "...no"
And he's being like 
"bro it’s fine"
"its normal."
(That's a direct quote he doesn't know when to use apostrophes apparently)
And I was like yeah it's normal for sucky guys it doesn't mean it's fine
And he went 
"Its natural"
I don't even

yeah straight guys are stupid

[Kansas Stormcursed he/him]

5 hours ago, SpartanBrigade said:

Uuuuhhhgggdhihufa
Straight guys

One of my friends is talking about the thing where they meet a woman and immediately wanna date after just becoming friends
And I was like "...no"
And he's being like 
"bro it’s fine"
"its normal."
(That's a direct quote he doesn't know when to use apostrophes apparently)
And I was like yeah it's normal for sucky guys it doesn't mean it's fine
And he went 
"Its natural"
I don't even

OH MY GOD

Sometimes I wanna shake some sense into them

There's a 28 year old guy at the dojo who is truly a complete idiot in relationships and it's always like come on man

[SpartanBrigade He/Him]

3 minutes ago, Kansas Stormcursed said:

OH MY GOD

Sometimes I wanna shake some sense into them

There's a 28 year old guy at the dojo who is truly a complete idiot in relationships and it's always like come on man

Oui
Moi aussi 

[Kansas Stormcursed he/him]

1 minute ago, SpartanBrigade said:

Oui
Moi aussi 

..was? Ich spreche kein Franzözisch

[SpartanBrigade He/Him]

1 minute ago, Kansas Stormcursed said:

..was? Ich spreche kein Franzözisch

Yeah neither do I 
But I can use the 12 words I do know sparingly and cast the illusion that I do

I said “Yeah me too”

[Kansas Stormcursed he/him]

3 minutes ago, SpartanBrigade said:

Yeah neither do I 
But I can use the 12 words I do know sparingly and cast the illusion that I do

I said “Yeah me too”

Ach verstehe

[CoderDrag0n8 He/They]

NIEN

VARGEN FIEGLE

FAGGLE FIEN

FORBALL

[momadrac they/them]

7 hours ago, SpartanBrigade said:

Uuuuhhhgggdhihufa
Straight guys

One of my friends is talking about the thing where they meet a woman and immediately wanna date after just becoming friends
And I was like "...no"
And he's being like 
"bro it’s fine"
"its normal."
(That's a direct quote he doesn't know when to use apostrophes apparently)
And I was like yeah it's normal for sucky guys it doesn't mean it's fine
And he went 
"Its natural"
I don't even

I just can't

No offence everyone but I don't understand the media saying things like "We met at a bar, known each other for two minutes and I'm in LOVE", its like why would you want to date someone you only just met you need time (I'm also demiromantic so......... yeah. Probably also missed the point) 

 

[Kansas Stormcursed he/him]

Just now, momadrac said:

I just can't

No offence everyone but I don't understand the media saying things like "We met at a bar, known each other for two minutes and I'm in LOVE", its like why would you want to date someone you only just met you need time (I'm also demiromantic so......... yeah. Probably also missed the point) 

 

I'm not demi, but there's also just this element of unhealthiness to it. First of all, you know next to nothing about this person. Secondly, how messed up are you that you need love that badly? Like I get thinking somebody's hot or attractive, but like...the math is just so bad

[momadrac they/them]

1 minute ago, Kansas Stormcursed said:

I'm not demi, but there's also just this element of unhealthiness to it. First of all, you know next to nothing about this person. Secondly, how messed up are you that you need love that badly? Like I get thinking somebody's hot or attractive, but like...the math is just so bad

Yeah also true

 

By the way, off topic, but @Honors ghost, I love your new profile picture!

[SpartanBrigade He/Him]

8 minutes ago, Kansas Stormcursed said:

I'm not demi, but there's also just this element of unhealthiness to it. First of all, you know next to nothing about this person. Secondly, how messed up are you that you need love that badly? Like I get thinking somebody's hot or attractive, but like...the math is just so bad

Quite messed up

I think most straight guys are trained to repress emotions and kinda cut themselves off
Even with their friends they don’t open up very much and so they’re really lonely
Aaaand that causes issues cause it leads to them not being very well balanced 

11 minutes ago, momadrac said:

I just can't

No offence everyone but I don't understand the media saying things like "We met at a bar, known each other for two minutes and I'm in LOVE", its like why would you want to date someone you only just met you need time (I'm also demiromantic so......... yeah. Probably also missed the point) 

 

EXACTLY

I’ve never understood how people lock eyes for two seconds, go “awooga”, and bang they’re together 

Like cavemen

Huh????

[Kansas Stormcursed he/him]

1 minute ago, SpartanBrigade said:

Quite messed up

I think most straight guys are trained to repress emotions and kinda cut themselves off
Even with their friends they don’t open up very much and so they’re really lonely
Aaaand that causes issues cause it leads to them not being very well balanced 

They are

It's also heavy in the South

I should know, I was raised the same way

Yay, trauma! Yay, trust issues!