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[Kansas Stormcursed he/him]

2 minutes ago, CoderDrag0n8 said:

Uhhhh technically it is a combination of spectrums, because like, demiromantic and graysexual would only combine into aroace with some implied individual stuff

in order to understand the complexity you need each spectrum individually, ya know?

Then like a four-dimensional plane. Or 5th-dimensional

[Keke They/he]

7 minutes ago, CoderDrag0n8 said:

Erm actually it’s not aroace that’s a spectrum, it’s aromantic and asexual (i should know, i used to be aroace but the switched through a lot of confusion) individually

with a bunch of dif parts that people can identify with

 

3 minutes ago, CoderDrag0n8 said:

Uhhhh technically it is a combination of spectrums, because like, demiromantic and graysexual would only combine into aroace with some implied individual stuff

in order to understand the complexity you need each spectrum individually, ya know?

Wut? Cause aroace is when you’re aromantic and asexual. Hence the aro ace. So saying your aroace is saying your in some form aro AND ace. Not just one but both in some aspect?

so if i say im aroace that isn’t true?? Cause in the definition of aro and ace its feeling little to no attraction in both aspects so wouldn’t it be the same for aroace. 

1 minute ago, Kansas Stormcursed said:

Then like a four-dimensional plane. Or 5th-dimensional

ehh?? So its huh?

[Kansas Stormcursed he/him]

1 minute ago, Hawks said:

 

Wut? Cause aroace is when you’re aromantic and asexual. Hence the aro ace. So saying your aroace is saying your in some form aro AND ace. Not just one but both in some aspect?

so if i say im aroace that isn’t true?? Cause in the definition of aro and ace its feeling little to no attraction in both aspects so wouldn’t it be the same for aroace. 

ehh?? So its huh?

Idk I'm trying to figure out

[CoderDrag0n8 He/They]

2 minutes ago, Kansas Stormcursed said:

Then like a four-dimensional plane. Or 5th-dimensional

What?

No, what I am saying is each aromantic and asexual have their own individual spectrum

But combined it is aroace with each spectrum under it?

1 minute ago, Hawks said:

 

Wut? Cause aroace is when you’re aromantic and asexual. Hence the aro ace. So saying your aroace is saying your in some form aro AND ace. Not just one but both in some aspect?

so if i say im aroace that isn’t true?? Cause in the definition of aro and ace its feeling little to no attraction in both aspects so wouldn’t it be the same for aroace. 

ehh?? So its huh?

N-no. I am saying that aroace is a lot more complicated than just base aro and ace, and differs from person to person but doesn’t have the same way to show (with the prefixes) as individual aromantic and asexual

[SpartanBrigade He/Him]

Just now, CoderDrag0n8 said:

But combined it is aroace with each spectrum under it?

3 minutes ago, Hawks said:

What

This is like Dune levels of strange complication

[Kansas Stormcursed he/him]

Just now, CoderDrag0n8 said:

What?

No, what I am saying is each aromantic and asexual have their own individual spectrum

But combined it is aroace with each spectrum under it?

N-no. I am saying that aroace is a lot more complicated than just base aro and ace, and differs from person to person but doesn’t have the same way to show (with the prefixes) as individual aromantic and asexual

Huh

Why do you separate it? By your logic, aroace is like a factor tree, where it just separates out into the separate parts even combined, while Hawks is saying it scales together

Why the difference?

[Keke They/he]

2 minutes ago, CoderDrag0n8 said:

What?

No, what I am saying is each aromantic and asexual have their own individual spectrum

But combined it is aroace with each spectrum under it?

N-no. I am saying that aroace is a lot more complicated than just base aro and ace, and differs from person to person but doesn’t have the same way to show (with the prefixes) as individual aromantic and asexual

 

1 minute ago, Kansas Stormcursed said:

Huh

Why do you separate it? By your logic, aroace is like a factor tree, where it just separates out into the separate parts even combined, while Hawks is saying it scales together

Why the difference?

Ok ok ok 

so.

lemme visualize it 

[momadrac they/them]

39 minutes ago, Hawks said:

OK OK @SpartanBrigade

I agree with everything @Hmmm lies has said

just note as a Demigender and trans gender and nonbinary. These all have overlapping pronouns, im trans yet have a they pronoun. Im however not demigender (probably still wondering) and im only sorta nonbinary.

Dont geuss that if they have a they pronoun that they are Demi! Nonbinary can also use binary (binary?) pronouns to. 

It depends on the person. I know a nonbinary person who uses she/they. 

And 

a lot of people who are aroace can be oriented aroace. Which is aroace but also aligns with one of the other ones! Aroace is a spectrum. You feel little to no. 

Yes aroace people can date! I am dating someone, (HA I CAN SAY TAHAT NNOW RIUAHCTM), that doesnt mean im not aroace. No im not sexually or romantically attracted to them. Theres more forms of attraction one can feellll!

ok thanks for coming to my ted talk

 

now! 

For the news i came to share.

YA BOY HAS A BOYFRIEN!!!!

so details. We went on a date which was actually just a trunk or treat that i invited them to before i asked him out. Anyways we went and then he came to a festival for my church (this part was unplanned) and we hung out way longer than oriningally intended. We talked a lot and omg AHHHHHH i spent the past two nights thinking about it!! Hahahahah. Gosh even talking about it makes me smile like a freaking dummy. Im going to their homecoming dance on Friday night! Omg ive never felt so understood by someone. Hes trans like meee. Hes a furry like meee. He has similar parental views on this whole thing. Chat im so happy. But scared af cause no one warns you how scary relationships are and i dont wanna mess anything up!! 

YES YOU GOT THIS

my update on relationships is cuddles

but idk

[CoderDrag0n8 He/They]

6 minutes ago, SpartanBrigade said:

What

This is like Dune levels of strange complication

 

6 minutes ago, Kansas Stormcursed said:

Huh

Why do you separate it? By your logic, aroace is like a factor tree, where it just separates out into the separate parts even combined, while Hawks is saying it scales together

Why the difference?

No? It’s because you can’t express demiromantic and graysexual in aroace?

maybe I’m an idiot yall

4 minutes ago, Hawks said:

 

Ok ok ok 

so.

lemme visualize it 

What

[Keke They/he]

Ok so aroace spectrum. On it is the Demi spectrum. Grey spectrum, aro spectrum and ace spectrum. You can fall differently on each of the sub categories in the aroace spectrum. 

At least this is how i see it?

[SpartanBrigade He/Him]

Just now, CoderDrag0n8 said:

No? It’s because you can’t express demiromantic and graysexual in aroace?

 

what

Just now, Hawks said:

Ok so aroace spectrum. On it is the Demi spectrum. Grey spectrum, aro spectrum and ace spectrum. You can fall differently on each of the sub categories in the aroace spectrum. 

At least this is how i see it?

what

[Kansas Stormcursed he/him]

Just now, CoderDrag0n8 said:

 

No? It’s because you can’t express demiromantic and graysexual in aroace?

maybe I’m an idiot yall

What

I'm just not understanding what you're trying to say ig

1 minute ago, Hawks said:

Ok so aroace spectrum. On it is the Demi spectrum. Grey spectrum, aro spectrum and ace spectrum. You can fall differently on each of the sub categories in the aroace spectrum. 

At least this is how i see it?

Yeah ok that was what I was thinking kinda

[CoderDrag0n8 He/They]

3 minutes ago, Hawks said:

Ok so aroace spectrum. On it is the Demi spectrum. Grey spectrum, aro spectrum and ace spectrum. You can fall differently on each of the sub categories in the aroace spectrum. 

At least this is how i see it?

No?

At least that not how i see it

its more

here is aromantic spectrum; includes demiromantic, grayromantic, and many others.

Here is asexual spectrum; includes graysexual, demisexual, and many others.

then here is aroace; it is a combination of the 2 spectrums but is always expressed as aroace regardless of combinations.

2 minutes ago, Kansas Stormcursed said:

I'm just not understanding what you're trying to say ig

Neither am i

honestly

im just rephrasing stuff i said at this point

[Keke They/he]

1 minute ago, SpartanBrigade said:

what

what

Ok ok lemme try again

so above it all is aroace

 

.            Aroace

aro.     Ace.    Grey.   Demi

 

you can fall differently on every single one of those and still be aroace.

 

like so

 

 

         Aroace 

Demi.  Aro.  Ace. Grey

|.               |.       |.  |

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1 minute ago, Kansas Stormcursed said:

I'm just not understanding what you're trying to say ig

Yeah ok that was what I was thinking kinda

Yeah

Just now, CoderDrag0n8 said:

then here is aroace; it is a combination of the 2 spectrums but is always expressed as aroace regardless of combinations.

Which in turn would lead to its own spectrum would it not?

[CoderDrag0n8 He/They]

1 minute ago, Hawks said:

Ok ok lemme try again

so above it all is aroace

 

.            Aroace

aro.     Ace.    Grey.   Demi

 

you can fall differently on every single one of those and still be aroace.

 

like so

 

 

         Aroace 

Demi.  Aro.  Ace. Grey

|.               |.       |.  |

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Yeah

Which in turn would lead to its own spectrum would it not?

No, Demi and gray aren’t their own spectrums, they are a part of aromantic and asexual spectrums

and no, because aroace has the inability to show the complexity, and because people sometimes only identify with one of the spectrums, while saying that aroace is a spectrum undercuts the ability of aromantic and asexual to be their own spectrums

[Kansas Stormcursed he/him]

3 minutes ago, CoderDrag0n8 said:

No, Demi and gray aren’t their own spectrums, they are a part of aromantic and asexual spectrums

and no, because aroace has the inability to show the complexity, and because people sometimes only identify with one of the spectrums, while saying that aroace is a spectrum undercuts the ability of aromantic and asexual to be their own spectrums

I don't think Hawks is saying they aren't their own spectrum. From what I can understand, it falls as aroace if you fall somewhere on all of those spectrums. And I think using aroace is exactly to avoid complexity.

Just what I can understand

[Keke They/he]

8 minutes ago, CoderDrag0n8 said:

No, Demi and gray aren’t their own spectrums, they are a part of aromantic and asexual spectrums

and no, because aroace has the inability to show the complexity, and because people sometimes only identify with one of the spectrums, while saying that aroace is a spectrum undercuts the ability of aromantic and asexual to be their own spectrums

No? Cant a spectrum have spectrums in a spectrum?

wait now im more confused? 

Ok bro im to tired fro this. 

NO NO I GOT IT FROM MY TEACHER ONE SEC

 

OK OK 

@CoderDrag0n8

@Kansas Stormcursed

Curved means spectrum. Straight means not spectrum

Edited October 20, 2025 by Hawks

[Kansas Stormcursed he/him]

4 minutes ago, Hawks said:

No? Cant a spectrum have spectrums in a spectrum?

wait now im more confused? 

Ok bro im to tired fro this. 

NO NO I GOT IT FROM MY TEACHER ONE SEC

 

OK OK 

@CoderDrag0n8

@Kansas Stormcursed

Curved means spectrum. Straight means not spectrum

Verstehe

[CoderDrag0n8 He/They]

11 minutes ago, Hawks said:

No? Cant a spectrum have spectrums in a spectrum?

wait now im more confused? 

Ok bro im to tired fro this. 

NO NO I GOT IT FROM MY TEACHER ONE SEC

 

OK OK 

@CoderDrag0n8

@Kansas Stormcursed

Curved means spectrum. Straight means not spectrum

That is correct, but grey and semi aren’t spectrums!! They are parts of other spectrums!!

[Kansas Stormcursed he/him]

Just now, CoderDrag0n8 said:

That is correct, but grey and semi aren’t spectrums!! They are parts of other spectrums!!

*confusion*

Earlier didn't you say they were their own spectrums??

[Keke They/he]

1 minute ago, CoderDrag0n8 said:

That is correct, but grey and semi aren’t spectrums!! They are parts of other spectrums!!

 

Just now, Kansas Stormcursed said:

*confusion*

Earlier didn't you say they were their own spectrums??

Yeah what Kansas said

[CoderDrag0n8 He/They]

Just now, Kansas Stormcursed said:

*confusion*

Earlier didn't you say they were their own spectrums??

No, I said that aromantic was a spectrum and asexual was a spectrum, and that demiromantic and grey sexual were examples of what could be on those spectrums

[Kansas Stormcursed he/him]

1 minute ago, CoderDrag0n8 said:

No, I said that aromantic was a spectrum and asexual was a spectrum, and that demiromantic and grey sexual were examples of what could be on those spectrums

Ah

But are those not also spectrums?

[Keke They/he]

1 minute ago, CoderDrag0n8 said:

No, I said that aromantic was a spectrum and asexual was a spectrum, and that demiromantic and grey sexual were examples of what could be on those spectrums

Wait but wouldn’t that lead to the issue of there cant be spectrums on a spectrum
 

[Kansas Stormcursed he/him]

1 minute ago, Hawks said:

Wait but wouldn’t that lead to the issue of there cant be spectrums on a spectrum
 

You can have spectrums on a spectrum. Think of it like the entire number line, versus just the positive numbers

Both are spectrums