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[KnightSkye Reforged They/Them]

26 minutes ago, Honors Ghost said:

Welll I’ve got the leatherbounds those are heavier that WaT I measured

. . .

Or just use a combat pan,which is designed for bonking.

[Kansas Stormcursed he/him]

1 minute ago, KnightSkye Reforged said:

. . .

Or just use a combat pan,which is designed for bonking.

I already offered a combat pan

[certifiedcranedriver she/her]

52 minutes ago, Kansas Stormcursed said:

I already offered a combat pan

but what about a normal pan? or even a human pan (pansexual)? there are many types of pans to pick from/offer to others.

[Kansas Stormcursed he/him]

24 minutes ago, certifiedcranedriver said:

but what about a normal pan? or even a human pan (pansexual)? there are many types of pans to pick from/offer to others.

This is true

I am known for offering combat pans, though

I leave other pans to others

[certifiedcranedriver she/her]

2 minutes ago, Kansas Stormcursed said:

This is true

I am known for offering combat pans, though

I leave other pans to others

how kind and empathetic of you. everyone should be able to have their own pan that they want. we need more pan distribution systems to ensure everyone has their own pan.

[Ink and Embers Any pronouns]

6 hours ago, momadrac said:

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yeah I just spent a week with my extremely homophobic transphobic acephobic extended family

It is just disgusting 

They brought it up and literally said 'people who are gay and ace have mental illnesses that make them act that way' WORD FOR WORD

Right in front of me I will never come out to these people 

Then they had a conversation about how they won't respect trans people and their pronouns because 'they were born one way and it's dumb that they'd want to change' ALSO WORD FOR WORD THIS IS BS

Gah

Sorry about the rant and thanks for reading this 

 

*hugs* That's absolutely awful, I'm so sorry. *passes a black hole* put them in this

10 hours ago, Honors Ghost said:

We went to lunch after my sleepover and She was like I read your texts and I was like Uhuh she was like so do you actually think your trans so I told the truth and said idk bc I don't know I have a good idea but I don't know and then she was just like ok and we talked abt it for a bit she still has pretty rigid ideas of what someone must be to be tran but it wasn't bad

*hugs* good luck, I hope it turns out okay *hugs*

5 hours ago, Hmmm lies said:

Alrighty, here we go. Please let me know if I should rewrite it in a different tone or format or something like that. Stuff in parenthesis is stuff directly from me, rather than from a neutral point of view.

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What is being trans?

Being trans is to identify as a gender that is not what one was assigned at birth. This can take many different forms, but will typically manifest itself to a person by them wanting to be a different gender than their assigned one.

Many transgender people feel gender dysphoria, a sense of distress about their assigned gender. For example, a trans woman might feel uncomfortable wearing masculine clothes, or feel uncomfortable with their body if it is not feminine.

There's also the inverse, which just about every trans person feels, gender euphoria, a feeling of happiness relating it one's gender identity. A trans woman wearing feminine clothes, or being seen as a woman by others could evoke gender euphoria.

Don't trans people always know that they're trans?

This is, in fact, rarely the case, for a variety of reasons.  Some of these reasons include:

• Not knowing about trans people
• Not understanding what their feelings mean.
  • For example, a trans woman might feel frustrated with being seen as male, but not realize that this could mean that they aren't a man. (Such as myself, for part of my life)
• Having an incorrect belief that all trans people know they're trans
  • Ironic, isn't it? A trans person often thinks they aren't trans because they assume they would already know if they were trans. (Again, me for a long time)
• Not having realized their own desire to have a different gender identity
  • Ever be somewhere really hot, and you don't really notice it until someone mentions it, and then it becomes unbearable? It's somewhat similar to this. Once someone realizes that they feel gender dysphoria, it typically gets a lot worse.

And there's plenty more.

Doesn't every trans person have crippling depression 24/7?

N-no? No they don't? (For example, I'm feeling perfectly fine right now). For another example, I'm pretty sure the Wachowski sisters, the creators of The Matrix are doing fine.

While trans people do have a higher rate of depression than cis people, it is certainly not universal. Gender euphoria and the minimization of gender dysphoria are great for the mental health of trans people. This can be done with transition efforts, which I'll go over down below

Transition efforts?

Transitioning is taking measures to feel closer to one's gender identity. This can take many forms.

• Social transition
  • Social transition can take forms such as telling people to call one by a new name and pronouns, as well as wearing more gender-affirming clothing.
• Legal transition
  • This is simply changing one's legal name and gender (simple in most Democratic states),
• Physical transition
  • Physical transition is changing ones body. This can be done in two main ways, hormone therapy and surgery. Based on the context of this essay, I'll explain the way feminizing gender care works.
    • Hormonal treatment of estrogen will cause one to grow breasts, and have a more feminine body shape. With the exception of breasts and possible infertility, all effects from estrogen therapy can be reversed by ceasing the taking of the hormones. Meanwhile, surgery is typically used to change genitals, and is done more rarely. This surgery is only legal for adults in the US.

Non-binary people?

(I'm not nonbinary myself, so I don't have all of the knowledge, but I'll do my best)

Non-binary people are people who don't identify as male or female. They instead identify with no gender, both, or something else entirely. They might use they/them pronouns, or a mix between they/them pronouns and gendered pronouns. To understand them, one must understand that gender is more complex than a simple binary. A non-binary person might feel uncomfortable being seen as any gender, or might like being seen as either gender. Some non-binary people, genderfluid people, have shifting gender identities, identifying as different genders on different days or times. 

 

THANK YOU SO SO SO MUCH

REALLY

THIS IS SUPER USEFUL

I will show it to my family next time trans stuff comes up

THANK YOU

@certifiedcranedriver welcome to the Shard!

[CoderDrag0n8 He/They]

18 hours ago, momadrac said:

Peak band

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yeah I just spent a week with my extremely homophobic transphobic acephobic extended family

It is just disgusting 

They brought it up and literally said 'people who are gay and ace have mental illnesses that make them act that way' WORD FOR WORD

Right in front of me I will never come out to these people 

Then they had a conversation about how they won't respect trans people and their pronouns because 'they were born one way and it's dumb that they'd want to change' ALSO WORD FOR WORD THIS IS BS

Gah

Sorry about the rant and thanks for reading this 

 

*summons nuke*

*gives button*

You know what to do.

[momadrac they/them]

15 hours ago, Ink and Embers said:

*hugs* That's absolutely awful, I'm so sorry. *passes a black hole* put them in this

Thanks  *hugs back*

*takes all pans offered, black hole, and people and goes hits the house*

[SpartanBrigade He/Him]

21 hours ago, momadrac said:

Peak band

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yeah I just spent a week with my extremely homophobic transphobic acephobic extended family

It is just disgusting 

They brought it up and literally said 'people who are gay and ace have mental illnesses that make them act that way' WORD FOR WORD

Right in front of me I will never come out to these people 

Then they had a conversation about how they won't respect trans people and their pronouns because 'they were born one way and it's dumb that they'd want to change' ALSO WORD FOR WORD THIS IS BS

Gah

Sorry about the rant and thanks for reading this 

 

 

[momadrac they/them]

6 minutes ago, SpartanBrigade said:

 

thank you 

y'all are the best

[SpartanBrigade He/Him]

22 hours ago, Hmmm lies said:

Alrighty, here we go. Please let me know if I should rewrite it in a different tone or format or something like that. Stuff in parenthesis is stuff directly from me, rather than from a neutral point of view.

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What is being trans?

Being trans is to identify as a gender that is not what one was assigned at birth. This can take many different forms, but will typically manifest itself to a person by them wanting to be a different gender than their assigned one.

Many transgender people feel gender dysphoria, a sense of distress about their assigned gender. For example, a trans woman might feel uncomfortable wearing masculine clothes, or feel uncomfortable with their body if it is not feminine.

There's also the inverse, which just about every trans person feels, gender euphoria, a feeling of happiness relating it one's gender identity. A trans woman wearing feminine clothes, or being seen as a woman by others could evoke gender euphoria.

Don't trans people always know that they're trans?

This is, in fact, rarely the case, for a variety of reasons.  Some of these reasons include:

• Not knowing about trans people
• Not understanding what their feelings mean.
  • For example, a trans woman might feel frustrated with being seen as male, but not realize that this could mean that they aren't a man. (Such as myself, for part of my life)
• Having an incorrect belief that all trans people know they're trans
  • Ironic, isn't it? A trans person often thinks they aren't trans because they assume they would already know if they were trans. (Again, me for a long time)
• Not having realized their own desire to have a different gender identity
  • Ever be somewhere really hot, and you don't really notice it until someone mentions it, and then it becomes unbearable? It's somewhat similar to this. Once someone realizes that they feel gender dysphoria, it typically gets a lot worse.

And there's plenty more.

Doesn't every trans person have crippling depression 24/7?

N-no? No they don't? (For example, I'm feeling perfectly fine right now). For another example, I'm pretty sure the Wachowski sisters, the creators of The Matrix are doing fine.

While trans people do have a higher rate of depression than cis people, it is certainly not universal. Gender euphoria and the minimization of gender dysphoria are great for the mental health of trans people. This can be done with transition efforts, which I'll go over down below

Transition efforts?

Transitioning is taking measures to feel closer to one's gender identity. This can take many forms.

• Social transition
  • Social transition can take forms such as telling people to call one by a new name and pronouns, as well as wearing more gender-affirming clothing.
• Legal transition
  • This is simply changing one's legal name and gender (simple in most Democratic states),
• Physical transition
  • Physical transition is changing ones body. This can be done in two main ways, hormone therapy and surgery. Based on the context of this essay, I'll explain the way feminizing gender care works.
    • Hormonal treatment of estrogen will cause one to grow breasts, and have a more feminine body shape. With the exception of breasts and possible infertility, all effects from estrogen therapy can be reversed by ceasing the taking of the hormones. Meanwhile, surgery is typically used to change genitals, and is done more rarely. This surgery is only legal for adults in the US.

Non-binary people?

(I'm not nonbinary myself, so I don't have all of the knowledge, but I'll do my best)

Non-binary people are people who don't identify as male or female. They instead identify with no gender, both, or something else entirely. They might use they/them pronouns, or a mix between they/them pronouns and gendered pronouns. To understand them, one must understand that gender is more complex than a simple binary. A non-binary person might feel uncomfortable being seen as any gender, or might like being seen as either gender. Some non-binary people, genderfluid people, have shifting gender identities, identifying as different genders on different days or times. 

 

Why is it that trans folks have higher rates of depression than cis folks?

Is it mostly cause of gender dysphoria and the stress of tryna survive living in transphobic environments?
That was kinda what I always assumed 

[Honors Spectral Image She/her]

5 minutes ago, SpartanBrigade said:

Why is it that trans folks have higher rates of depression than cis folks?

Is it mostly cause of gender dysphoria and the stress of tryna survive living in transphobic environments?
That was kinda what I always assumed 

It’s gender dysphoria and knowing that there are people out there that A don’t think you exist/are faking it for attention sports advantages etc. B hate you without even having met you

At least that’s what it is for me, I however am not that depressed I struggle quite a bit with gender dysphoria but not enough to like be crippling

[SpartanBrigade He/Him]

10 minutes ago, Honors Ghost said:

It’s gender dysphoria and knowing that there are people out there that A don’t think you exist/are faking it for attention sports advantages etc. B hate you without even having met you

At least that’s what it is for me, I however am not that depressed I struggle quite a bit with gender dysphoria but not enough to like be crippling

Ahh alright

*hugs*

[Honors Spectral Image She/her]

1 minute ago, SpartanBrigade said:

Ahh alright

*hugs*

*hugs back* sure thing I’m mostly fine lol you don’t need to worry abt me more than anyone else on this god forsaken planet I can’t wait til I can go back to mi- I meant want some pizza fellow human

[Hmmm lies she/her]

Oh look my rep title is "Soulcaster"

Something something Surge of Transformation something something Transgender

[Honors Spectral Image She/her]

32 minutes ago, Hmmm lies said:

Oh look my rep title is "Soulcaster"

Something something Surge of Transformation something something Transgender

YIPPEEE THAT WAS A GREAT JOKE MY LIEGE

[KnightSkye Reforged They/Them]

42 minutes ago, Hmmm lies said:

Oh look my rep title is "Soulcaster"

Something something Surge of Transformation something something Transgender

Noice.

[CoderDrag0n8 He/They]

wait guys

im an idiot but do not know what gender dysphoria is

please educate my unknowledged brain

[KnightSkye Reforged They/Them]

Skittles: taste the rainbow

Knights Radiant: feel the rainbow (of emotions and trauma)

Gays: become the rainbow.

 

 

*bows* you're welcome

[Hmmm lies she/her]

2 hours ago, Honors Ghost said:

YIPPEEE THAT WAS A GREAT JOKE MY LIEGE

...don't make this weird

32 minutes ago, CoderDrag0n8 said:

wait guys

im an idiot but do not know what gender dysphoria is

please educate my unknowledged brain

*eyes light up as my purpose on this thread becomes necessary*

So gender dysphoria is just a feeling of distress or uncomfortableness with trans people when they feel a mismatch between their gender identity and what they currently feel. It's the way someone feels when they're misgendered or when they're feeling frustrated with their body or appearance, in a way relating to their identity.

Not all, but most trans people do feel this, and it comes and goes for a lot of them. I used to switch between feeling great about my appearance to feeling terrible when no changes actually happened. (I rarely feel dysphoria now, mostly because of HRT)

In fact, I should mention that I've found that HRT has made me less dysphoric independent of physical changes. In other words, it made me feel better about the body I already have even without changes.

[Honors Spectral Image She/her]

20 minutes ago, Hmmm lies said:

...don't make this weird

*eyes light up as my purpose on this thread becomes necessary*

So gender dysphoria is just a feeling of distress or uncomfortableness with trans people when they feel a mismatch between their gender identity and what they currently feel. It's the way someone feels when they're misgendered or when they're feeling frustrated with their body or appearance, in a way relating to their identity.

Not all, but most trans people do feel this, and it comes and goes for a lot of them. I used to switch between feeling great about my appearance to feeling terrible when no changes actually happened. (I rarely feel dysphoria now, mostly because of HRT)

In fact, I should mention that I've found that HRT has made me less dysphoric independent of physical changes. In other words, it made me feel better about the body I already have even without changes.

Sorrry lol but that’s a great description of dysphoria

[CoderDrag0n8 He/They]

26 minutes ago, Hmmm lies said:

...don't make this weird

*eyes light up as my purpose on this thread becomes necessary*

So gender dysphoria is just a feeling of distress or uncomfortableness with trans people when they feel a mismatch between their gender identity and what they currently feel. It's the way someone feels when they're misgendered or when they're feeling frustrated with their body or appearance, in a way relating to their identity.

Not all, but most trans people do feel this, and it comes and goes for a lot of them. I used to switch between feeling great about my appearance to feeling terrible when no changes actually happened. (I rarely feel dysphoria now, mostly because of HRT)

In fact, I should mention that I've found that HRT has made me less dysphoric independent of physical changes. In other words, it made me feel better about the body I already have even without changes.

I... understand now!

[Keke They/he]

On 1/2/2026 at 6:46 PM, momadrac said:

Peak band

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yeah I just spent a week with my extremely homophobic transphobic acephobic extended family

It is just disgusting 

They brought it up and literally said 'people who are gay and ace have mental illnesses that make them act that way' WORD FOR WORD

Right in front of me I will never come out to these people 

Then they had a conversation about how they won't respect trans people and their pronouns because 'they were born one way and it's dumb that they'd want to change' ALSO WORD FOR WORD THIS IS BS

Gah

Sorry about the rant and thanks for reading this 

 

IM LATE SORRY IVE BEEN INACTIVE!

*spawns in the corner of their house.*

*room goes dark.*

*insert screams as I run around in the dark biting everyone*

On 1/2/2026 at 6:57 PM, Hmmm lies said:

Alrighty, here we go. Please let me know if I should rewrite it in a different tone or format or something like that. Stuff in parenthesis is stuff directly from me, rather than from a neutral point of view.

  Hide contents

What is being trans?

Spoiler

Being trans is to identify as a gender that is not what one was assigned at birth. This can take many different forms, but will typically manifest itself to a person by them wanting to be a different gender than their assigned one.

Many transgender people feel gender dysphoria, a sense of distress about their assigned gender. For example, a trans woman might feel uncomfortable wearing masculine clothes, or feel uncomfortable with their body if it is not feminine.

There's also the inverse, which just about every trans person feels, gender euphoria, a feeling of happiness relating it one's gender identity. A trans woman wearing feminine clothes, or being seen as a woman by others could evoke gender euphoria.

Don't trans people always know that they're trans?

This is, in fact, rarely the case, for a variety of reasons.  Some of these reasons include:

• Not knowing about trans people
• Not understanding what their feelings mean.
  • For example, a trans woman might feel frustrated with being seen as male, but not realize that this could mean that they aren't a man. (Such as myself, for part of my life)
• Having an incorrect belief that all trans people know they're trans
  • Ironic, isn't it? A trans person often thinks they aren't trans because they assume they would already know if they were trans. (Again, me for a long time)
• Not having realized their own desire to have a different gender identity
  • Ever be somewhere really hot, and you don't really notice it until someone mentions it, and then it becomes unbearable? It's somewhat similar to this. Once someone realizes that they feel gender dysphoria, it typically gets a lot worse.

And there's plenty more.

Doesn't every trans person have crippling depression 24/7?

N-no? No they don't? (For example, I'm feeling perfectly fine right now). For another example, I'm pretty sure the Wachowski sisters, the creators of The Matrix are doing fine.

While trans people do have a higher rate of depression than cis people, it is certainly not universal. Gender euphoria and the minimization of gender dysphoria are great for the mental health of trans people. This can be done with transition efforts, which I'll go over down below

Transition efforts?

Transitioning is taking measures to feel closer to one's gender identity. This can take many forms.

• Social transition
  • Social transition can take forms such as telling people to call one by a new name and pronouns, as well as wearing more gender-affirming clothing.
• Legal transition
  • This is simply changing one's legal name and gender (simple in most Democratic states),
• Physical transition
  • Physical transition is changing ones body. This can be done in two main ways, hormone therapy and surgery. Based on the context of this essay, I'll explain the way feminizing gender care works.
    • Hormonal treatment of estrogen will cause one to grow breasts, and have a more feminine body shape. With the exception of breasts and possible infertility, all effects from estrogen therapy can be reversed by ceasing the taking of the hormones. Meanwhile, surgery is typically used to change genitals, and is done more rarely. This surgery is only legal for adults in the US.

Non-binary people?

(I'm not nonbinary myself, so I don't have all of the knowledge, but I'll do my best)

Non-binary people are people who don't identify as male or female. They instead identify with no gender, both, or something else entirely. They might use they/them pronouns, or a mix between they/them pronouns and gendered pronouns. To understand them, one must understand that gender is more complex than a simple binary. A non-binary person might feel uncomfortable being seen as any gender, or might like being seen as either gender. Some non-binary people, genderfluid people, have shifting gender identities, identifying as different genders on different days or times. 

 

 

What lies said. 

1 hour ago, CoderDrag0n8 said:

wait guys

im an idiot but do not know what gender dysphoria is

please educate my unknowledged brain

ALSO WHAT SHE SAID. 

55 minutes ago, Hmmm lies said:

...don't make this weird

*eyes light up as my purpose on this thread becomes necessary*

So gender dysphoria is just a feeling of distress or uncomfortableness with trans people when they feel a mismatch between their gender identity and what they currently feel. It's the way someone feels when they're misgendered or when they're feeling frustrated with their body or appearance, in a way relating to their identity.

Not all, but most trans people do feel this, and it comes and goes for a lot of them. I used to switch between feeling great about my appearance to feeling terrible when no changes actually happened. (I rarely feel dysphoria now, mostly because of HRT)

In fact, I should mention that I've found that HRT has made me less dysphoric independent of physical changes. In other words, it made me feel better about the body I already have even without changes.

HOW I FEEL WHEN I AM TRYIN TO LOOK LIKE A STRONG MASC BIG BOY AND PPLE SAY AW WHAT A SMALL LITTLE CUTE FEMBOY

IM NOT FEM. LEAVE ME ALONE. IM A BIG STRONG MANLY MAN OKAY!? GOT IT!???

anyways. 

How r u guys. 

[CoderDrag0n8 He/They]

1 hour ago, Sarcasm spren said:

IM LATE SORRY IVE BEEN INACTIVE!

*spawns in the corner of their house.*

*room goes dark.*

*insert screams as I run around in the dark biting everyone*

What lies said. 

ALSO WHAT SHE SAID. 

HOW I FEEL WHEN I AM TRYIN TO LOOK LIKE A STRONG MASC BIG BOY AND PPLE SAY AW WHAT A SMALL LITTLE CUTE FEMBOY

IM NOT FEM. LEAVE ME ALONE. IM A BIG STRONG MANLY MAN OKAY!? GOT IT!???

anyways. 

How r u guys. 

positively blue.

and red.

but not purple

no their seperate

ya i make sense why do ya ask?

[Honors Spectral Image She/her]

10 hours ago, Sarcasm spren said:

IM LATE SORRY IVE BEEN INACTIVE!

*spawns in the corner of their house.*

*room goes dark.*

*insert screams as I run around in the dark biting everyone*

What lies said. 

ALSO WHAT SHE SAID. 

HOW I FEEL WHEN I AM TRYIN TO LOOK LIKE A STRONG MASC BIG BOY AND PPLE SAY AW WHAT A SMALL LITTLE CUTE FEMBOY

IM NOT FEM. LEAVE ME ALONE. IM A BIG STRONG MANLY MAN OKAY!? GOT IT!???

anyways. 

How r u guys. 

In my head I invision you looking like Arnold shwarzanager but minus the drugs